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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Alex

::offers internet hugs::

NIght ngiht.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Well, we can live in hope. Night, all.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Whoa, that’s cool about female hyenas. Yay for hyena misandry!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Wouldn’t countering Roosh’s bullshit in the way you think would be most effective be a better use of your time than hanging out here screaming abuse at us, dude? Hop to it.

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

@Kittehs

The Furrinati know how to do misandry right. 🙂

kittehserf
10 years ago

So where’s your proof that his stories are made up, troll? Got any evidence at all?

katz
10 years ago

I will happily identify with a hyena, like genius painter Leonora Carrinton.

katz
10 years ago

*Carrington

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I’m sorry that you had to go through that, Alex, but that doesn’t mean I was excusing anyone for shitty behavior.

mildlymagnificent
10 years ago

Gooly, gee whiz. I’m so surprised that “Erin” commented while I was writing my own.

Fuck off, Alex. I didn’t NAMALT at all. How come no one talked that lady down for thinking her daughter lives in a world where there are Roosh’s lurking about? Do you not see that you’re behaving exactly like the assholes on that blog who talk crap about feminists?

For crissake! There are Roosh’s lurking about. And women have far more need to be aware of them than men do.

There. is. no. correlation. between the numbers of women injured, killed or raped and the number of men who are violent and/or rapists. It’s not a quarter or a third of men who rape or injure women. But it is a quarter to a third of women who are victims of such attacks. Because men who are violent are violent to more than one woman, usually about 6 but some much more.

We have good reason to be much more wary, much more aware of the potential for danger in our dealings with men.

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

Well, Erin makes up stories so Roosh must make up stories as well. *rolls eyes*

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

How many times do I have to tell you that Roosh’s stories are made up?

Until you find a citatoin.

Don’t you get it? There are much better ways to educate men about not sleeping with drunk girls than making a big deal over a made up story.

Alpha Ally, mansplaining to everyone How To Do Feminism.

katz
10 years ago

Oh fuck, I wasn’t dismissing a rapist. How many times do I have to tell you that Roosh’s stories are made up?

“I wasn’t dismissing it, I was just assuming that it didn’t happen!”

kittehserf
10 years ago

That’s a gorgeous painting!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

ps guys I’m pretty sleepy and I think my comments make less sense now.

at least I”m not erin

Robert
Robert
10 years ago

I went away to make dinner, and come back to. . .words fail me.

I apologize for my chromosome post. I was implying that Erin was a man socking as a woman. I strongly regret wounding those hurt by my remark.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Oh, look, he’s still not going off to fight the good fight against Roosh in what he thinks would be a more efficient manner. Funny, that.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

OMG. I have been to busy comment much and missed quite a show.

If I understand things correctly, Erin deceived us and pretended to be a woman, gas lighted our legit fears, called us a slew of misogynist names while pretending to be an ally and assuring us that not all men?

Am I all caught up now?

JFC Erin, fears not allayed. With brogressive “allies” like you we don’t need the MRM.

Adding to the fuck off chorus.

You are terrible. What possessed you to behave like this in a thread about a misogynist killing spree? What the actual fuck id wrong with you?

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

Awesome quote I saw:

“You must remember, it isn’t about “All men are menaces to women,” it’s about “All women have been menaced by men.”

http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/58/5f/b8/585fb8b459b3fd6eab1ad9a30b3fa353.jpg

Fibinachi
10 years ago

Damn, that’s good. Never seen that one before. Thanks Katz!

I updated my attack chicken to be a spartan attack chicken, in honor of. Now I’m going to go find more of Carrinton’s art.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Dude, come on.

“Oh fuck, I wasn’t dismissing a rapist. How many times do I have to tell you that Roosh’s stories are made up?”

Citations usually follow such a statement, but OK…

“Is he a horrible douchebag who desreves to be dropped in a vat full of acid? Yes. But understand that half the shit he says is bullshit and it’s better to hit him from that angle than get all worked up over the stupid shit he pretends to do. Don’t you get it? There are much better ways to educate men about not sleeping with drunk girls than making a big deal over a made up story.”

But if someone’s made up story about raping a drunk girl gets upvotes and kudos from people, what does that say about those people? Why aren’t you trying to correct those people, instead of here trying to shame posters who think that sort of thing is disgusting?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Weirdwoodtreehuuggger

you summerized correctly

kittehserf
10 years ago

Notice, too, how his supposed concern for any sex workers Roosh might rape was about women in totally different countries from where Roosh circulates. So, yeah, it’s so relevant what a (stereotypical) South American pimp might do, given that Roosh is in Europe.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty
And yeah, lying to people about potential dangers isn’t really doing them much of a kindness. I respect Stevie too much to pat her on the head and say “there there, violent and angry men who want to hurt women aren’t real” like she was 3 years old.

I found Erin’s original comment to Stevie patronizing, I just didn’t bother pointing that out after he lashed out at you and got rolling with the seven languages meltdown. Stevie mentioned that her daughter is a doctor, so both probably have a pretty good idea of how the world works. I felt Stevie’s comment were an understandable “hold the ones you love close” reaction to a mass murderer.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

In all seriousness, dudebro trolls, do you understand the concept “not now”? This is not the time to be NAMALT-ing. At least wait until all the victims have been laid to rest before you start up with that shit again.

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