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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Alex, I tried to reassure that woman that the world isn’t one big misogynist stew and I got jumped on. And that’s while pretending to be a woman, for fuck’s sake.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Also, the bra question. So, I remember that some people here said they liked Cleo bras. Have any of you tried their plunges? If so, which ones, and were you happy with the fit? I’m thinking about buying the Penny.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Fibi, that attack chicken is adorbs!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Dude, your whole shtick was not all men.

that is, before your new shtick was ‘b*tches, wh*res’ and ‘cassandra is mean’

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Hmm, why would someone assume that pretending to be a woman would make people less likely to call them out on sketchy things that they say? Yep, that’s another misogynist red flag, and a troll red flag too as a bonus.

Alex
10 years ago

No, you NAMALTed in a thread about a man who murdered women, and then you called women whores. You’re a misogynist piece of shit and you’re not fooling anyone.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I didn’t call all of you whores. That was directed at Cassandra and her “hope you don’t get raped” comment.

Ally S
10 years ago

TMI stuff:

I have one spectacular chafing story – not me, it was a shop assistant I was talking to (which led to instant Sharing Chafing Stories, naturally). She said she was at the beach once, and came in from the water with blood all over her thighs – her friends thought she’d got her period, but it was her thighs bleeding everywhere just from chafing.
Oh, shit. X_X That sounds like a nightmare.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Again, dude, lying doesn’t make the “Older Comments” feature magically disappear.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

oh, you were just calling one person a wh*re that makes it okay.

and you missed the part where her comment was sincere. She actually hoped you didn’t get raped.

and sleepiness just him me it makes tyipng hard.

Alex
10 years ago

You know we can scroll back, right? And once again, because you don’t fucking get it, CASSANDRA WASN’T BEING SARCASTIC. She literally, actually, meant you well. I know that’s a difficult concept for a disingenuous little shit like you to grasp, but it’s true.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Man it’s way past m ybedtime.

Ally S
10 years ago

Okay, time to sleep. I’m done with this shit.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Erin, the world is is a “big misogynist stew” for most women due to exactly the sort of behavior you displayed in this thread.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I didn’t even mean rape specifically, btw. MRAs and PUAs are dangerous in all kinds of ways. Gunwitch shot someone.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin, you said:

Erin Williams | May 26, 2014 at 11:56 pm
By the way whores. I am a guy, but I’m not an MRA. I’m actually really cool and fight misogyny all the time. Bye, love you.

So, yes, you did call us all wh*res.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Guys like Erin are pretty much the flour/other thickening agent that holds the stew together and makes it a stew rather than a soup, tbh.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@ally

night night.

ps i should go t bed cuz i just had energy crash but I have to see what hapepend.

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

If we’re hyenas, does that make David Scar?

Also, dibs on Ed!

@Cassandra

Are you having a problem with the post button not working? If so, I find opening the page in a new window allows me to post. It’s annoying as shit, but it works.

Alex, I tried to reassure that woman that the world isn’t one big misogynist stew and I got jumped on. And that’s while pretending to be a woman, for fuck’s sake.

Quelle surprise!! Clearly our “All women are angels and can say whatever the fuck they want” code was faulty. Thank God you turned out to be a guy, or the whole commentariat may have been forced to do a 1000 pushups each as penance!

katz
10 years ago

And that’s while pretending to be a woman, for fuck’s sake.

I like how he keeps coming back to that like it’s a good thing.

Hey dumbass: it was obvious from the start that you were a man. So of course we didn’t go easy on you because we thought you were a woman.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Careful, David, or Erin will accuse you of being a “mean girl.” XD

Fade
10 years ago

all this talk of stew is making me hungry…

i haven’t had a good stew in forever.

Alex
10 years ago

I think I need to go to sleep now, too. Night all. Don’t let the trolls bite.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Erin: you’re talking to a board mostly, not entirely, populated by women, on a blog run by a man.

You’re on a thread about a mass murderer who killed specifically because he hated women.

Your NAMALT line was a waste of key strokes. First, duh, we know perfectly well not all men are mass murderers of women. There wouldn’t be any of us left if they were. Many of us here are in relationships with the men who aren’t like that. Some of us have been in relationships, or otherwise had to deal with, the far-too-many men who are like that.

We know what you are oblivious to, the reality of being women in a world where a great many men are violent. We know that in a way you never will. What on earth did you hope to gain by dismissing our lived experience that way?

It makes no difference, as you’ve seen, whether a man or a woman made those claims. Women can be misogynists too – just look at Faux News.

Then to launch into misogynistic slurs, to dismiss a rapist as being unimportant and not someone to worry about, to rant and scream about how nasty we’re being to you – yeah, it’s what cloudiah said, you’re displaying classic abuser behaviour, doing that.

Go away and think about what you’ve done here.

At any rate, just go away. You’re not welcome. You’re seriously not an ally.

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