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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Comments being wonky again! Erin, I already pointed out that I did not say what you’re claiming. People can scroll back and see that comment. Why are you still lying about it?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Also the “cassandra was mean to me once so I’ll stay around forever” thing.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Why exactly are you owed an opportunity to “state your case,” Erin? You stated it when you first came in, and threw a tantrum when you didn’t get instant admiring agreement.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

I mean, IDK if she came here with the goal of trolling, but that’s what she’s doing anyway, if that makes sense.

cloudiah
10 years ago

David, I don’t think hir initial comments exposed hir as a troll, but hir reaction to being criticized (let’s toss out some bigoted/gendered slurs) did it for me. But your blog, your rules!

I actually think I was pretty kind to hir in my first response, but hir behavior after that made me decide my kindness was misplaced.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

I’m going with Erin being a troll, also.

Alex
10 years ago

Yeah, I’ve now lost count of the number of trolls in this thread. Can I vote Pell, too? I always love voting Pell when they get ridiculous and bizarre.
Hey, Erin, are you a doctor?

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Anyway, you have an awesome blog and I admire your work, David, but I’m not too thrilled with your little attack dogs. They send an awesome message to lurkers and other people who would like to contribute, but don’t because they’re afraid to get on the wrong side of the mean girls clique. They don’t contribute anything and they’re driving people like me away.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Erin seems to have forgotten that the older comment button exists, and that people can scroll back and see the comment where I pointed out that what she’s saying isn’t true.

Ally S
10 years ago

~1170 comments in this thread so far. Whoa.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Alex

She won’t answer. She won’t even tell me how many doctorates she has 🙁 🙁 🙁

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Anyway, you have an awesome blog and I admire your work, David, but I’m not too thrilled with your little attack dogs.

this is cracking me up and I don’t even know why.

hippodameia8527
hippodameia8527
10 years ago

Yes, driving away people who think and behave the way you do is part of the fun here.

cloudiah
10 years ago

they’re driving people like me away.

Driving people whose “go to” insults are bigoted/gendered slurs?

I’m pretty okay with that.

Unimaginative
Unimaginative
10 years ago

before letting me state my case

You know, in this blog, you can just comment. Over and over again. You don’t even have to read what anyone else has posted. You can just go ahead and state your case. The only “letting” involved is David, and he’s really not an unreasonable moderator.

So, you know, I’m finding your defensiveness a little unconvincing. If you have a case to state, quick fucking around with the gratuitous, sexist insults, and state it.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Anyway, you have an awesome blog and I admire your work, David, but I’m not too thrilled with your little attack dogs. They send an awesome message to lurkers and other people who would like to contribute, but don’t because they’re afraid to get on the wrong side of the mean girls clique. They don’t contribute anything and they’re driving people like me away.

…Really?

Alex
10 years ago

Aww, but I wanted to hear all about the mature and immature female orgasms that Freud almost got right!

cloudiah
10 years ago

little attack dogs

I thought we were attack chickens! 🙁

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

“Great blog, David, let me keep commenting, so I can keep talking to these people I hate”

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

David, I agree with your post and I wouldn’t mind reigning it in a bit. But the gendered slurs, comming from someone posting under a woman’s name, is suspicious and disturbing.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Still can’t post comments, btw, folks, so thanks for jumping in and pointing out that a certain someone’s nose is growing with every comment in which she mentions my name.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Alex

Aww, but I wanted to hear all about the mature and immature female orgasms that Freud almost got right!

XD

@cloudiah

I thought we were attack chickens! 🙁

yeah, gosh, would it kill to have a little consistency in our animal based analogies from trolls1!!!

Ken L.
10 years ago

@Erin

speaking as someone who made a asshole of himself on this website and is here in good faith. listen to me. If your really are telling the truth. Hang it up for the day, clear your head, and come back latter. If you really think you have something to say the insults will sting but won’t stop you.

Ally S
10 years ago

they’re driving people like me away.

Best news I’ve heard in a long time.

Alex
10 years ago

Oo! Can we be attack mammoths?

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