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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Nope. This is my first time posting here. I’m not looking for a fight. It’s just that I’m in your turf and you do not like it.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@sparky

Marie: Yes indeed, we need a statue of Erin!

I’m thinking astride a horse with a cape blowing majestically back in the wind, raising a sword while preparing to valiantly ignore misogyny!

Excellent, I’ll have my finest sculpters get on it right away!

@kittehs

I’m thinking of making a movie poster for Languages On the Beach. What’s a good script font to use, like the ones they favoured in the 50s?

haha I know nothing about script fonts XD

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Folks, Rusyn is an ethnic group in the Ukraine. It’s a little controversial about whether they are distinct from Ukrainians, ethnically. The language is also not officially a separate language, but it’s closer to Ukrainian than Russian, supposedly.

Dialects are complicated.

Can we drop that line of Rawr?

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Liar. This is not your first time here and you are most definitely looking for a fight.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

Nope. This is my first time posting here. I’m not looking for a fight. It’s just that I’m in your turf and you do not like it.

Erriiiinnn, how am I going to make a statue of you if you don’t tell me of your Great Feminist Deeds? I have to know, I’ve already started working on it.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

“Erin” really has it out for pecunium. Jeeze Louise.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Erin, I still find you silly. Never fear.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I think about murdering people all the time. But then, I work in customer service.

Legit made me LOL.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I think about murdering people all the time. But then, I work in customer service.

*fistbumps* One of my first jobs involved working in a mall over Christmas.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: You’re just a violent person. The sooner you admit that the better off you’ll be.

I’ve never denied it. I grew up in East LA. I spent 16 years in the Army. I was deployed to Iraq in 2003. I’ve studied swordplay, pistol, rifle, Judo, Aikido, knife-fighting, jo and I forget what all else. I’ve spent time in Personal Protection Details (what the civilian world calls a bodyguard) in places where it was likely my charge would be attacked.

I have had stalkers who had guns and threatened to kill me.

What I don’t do is lash out just because I don’t get what I want.

Because I know right from wrong, am not full of hate.

But yes, I am capable of violence. Sometimes I want to commit violence. Unless I am attacked (or defending someone else who is being attacked) I don’t engage in it.

I know myself.

Which is why your flailing about my “nature” is fruitless. I sell the T-shirts.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

contrapangloss:

Ooh! Are we handing out cookies for not having violent thoughts, now?

I could go for a good chocolate macadamia…

Aww, man, no cookies for me. Because, shockingly, me being human and all, I have also had violent thoughts which I didn’t act on because I recognize that such actions would be wrong and that such thoughts were not coming from a good place.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Yeah, real pecunium fixation there.

Funny how Roosh is just fine, hunky-dory, just a lying loser who really doesn’t matter, despite admitting to rape – yet pecunium is Teh Evil because he’s admitted to a violent thought.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

(Still didn’t call any of the customers who annoyed me bitches or whores, though.)

Unimaginative
Unimaginative
10 years ago

Oops, Erin’s on to us. We hate new people on our turf *SO MUCH* that we just have to be mean to them for no reason at all. Nobody EVER gets welcome packages here!

pecunium
10 years ago

Pell is possible, but if so this is the first time he’s fixated on me.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I spelled Rusyn not Russian. It’s a language that belongs to an ethnic group from the Crapathian mountains. I speak mostly romance languages because I grew up in Latin America and received an education in Spanish. My grandmother, also a polyglot, speaks mostly Slavic languages because she emigrated to the U.S. as an adult.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I don’t have cookies, but I have brownies. Anyone want one? (Not Erin, zie’s been very, very bad.)

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Kitteh:”Funny how Roosh is just fine, hunky-dory, just a lying loser who really doesn’t matter, despite admitting to rape – yet pecunium is Teh Evil because he’s admitted to a violent thought.”

Yeah, except I never said Roosh was hunky-dory, you imbecile. I merely said he’s full of shit and a charlatan who uses the negative publicity you give him to sell his stupid books.

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Marie:

Erriiiinnn, how am I going to make a statue of you if you don’t tell me of your Great Feminist Deeds? I have to know, I’ve already started working on it.

That is beautiful. Do you think Fibinachi would write the poem for the base?

kittehserf
10 years ago

I think about murdering people all the time. But then, I work in customer service.

Oh gods yes, this! XD

cloudiah – oh, yes, that’s a good one, thanks!

cloudiah
10 years ago

Some other recent troll tried to use pecunium’s violent thought that he didn’t act on against him. Who was that?

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

The Crapathian mountains are always so shitty.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

What Erin thinks that manboobz comments section looks like.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@contrapangloss

That is beautiful. Do you think Fibinachi would write the poem for the base?

I hope so :’)

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