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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@shiraz

Erin, why pose as a female feminist at all?

You’re a sexist dudebro.

Cuz everyone knows we just hate men! Posing as a woman was the perfect plan!

With one small flaw…

Fade says its’ cuz all MRAs know that feminists must agree with women. It’s why we’re all defeated by the existance of femras.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Shaming women apparently “moves things along.”

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Take away the bigotry and we have “you behave like sex workers (and?) and female dogs (famed for their loyalty, and typically rather good parents)”. Wow, I feel just terrible now.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

“A person admitting he once had a violent thought, but didn’t act on it because he knew it was wrong is actually a much better person than someone who doesn’t have the self control to start tossing out bigoted insults because people were mean to hir. Hate to break it to you, Erin, but pecunium is a vastly better human being than you are.”

Claudiah, I sincerely give less than two shits if you think I’m a horrible person. Guess what? I’ve never thought about murdering anyone. I guess that makes me a better human than himn and his ass kissers.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Marie: Well, Erin does do sooooo much more for feminism than anything anyone here has ever done.

We don’t know quite what that is, but Erin said so.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

. I guess that makes me a better human than himn and his ass kissers.

Yeah, you’ve certainly proved your humanity by calling us wh*res and b*tches, saint erin.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Damn, Erin is really sulky about Pecunium being more popular around here than hir. Still not sure whose sock this is, but I’m voting for the original being a man.

cloudiah
10 years ago

No, you just think it’s okay to be a bigot if people are mean to you.

Yeah, I’m still going to go with the person who isn’t a bigot.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Maybe this Erin fool is AM from the other thread who was whiny about Pecunium earlier.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@sparky

We don’t know quite what that is, but Erin said so.

If only Erin could tell us these Great Feminst Deeds she does. I need to know, so I can make my statue of her accurate.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: But you assume I’m lying because you are ignorant about the ethnic group I belong to.

I make fun of your inconsistent spelling of Russian. What I think is happening is that your rage has gotten the better of your motor skills (I know that my typing suffers when I am angry), and I decided to poke you in a tender place.

That said, I do think you are lying. I think you are lying because your claim to polygot status came after you were shown to be several sorts of fool.

So you made a claim about “seven languages” and picked one you couldn’t fake. You got called on it.

Sucks to be you.

cloudiah
10 years ago

What other trolls have been fixated on pecunium?

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Ahem, Cloudiah. not Claudiah.

Errr, sometimes I think “Erin” needs to be here for the attention. Then it’s all “bitches” and “whores.”

Erin, love, do you come for the fights?

contrapangloss
contrapangloss
10 years ago

Ooh! Are we handing out cookies for not having violent thoughts, now?

I could go for a good chocolate macadamia…

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

BTW, I hope my sarcasm isn’t putting off any of you non-erin people.

Is it?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

WHY ARE YOU FRIENDS WITH HIM AND NOT WITH ME, WIMMINZ?

(insert bitches and whores rant here)

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: Guess what? I’ve never thought about murdering anyone.

Prove it.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

“Pro-tip, things people make public statements about, to show that somethings are common (e.g. having violent thoughts about someone who is abusing you), and some things aren’t (e.g. killing women because they don’t come up and say, “you are so dreamy, will you be my boyfriend) isn’t going to hurt the target of your ire.”

You’re just a violent person. The sooner you admit that the better off you’ll be.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@pecunium

You dare question the good will of Erin? Superfeminist, calling all of us b*thces and wh*res and acting like us being scared of men on the internet is unreasonable?

HOW COULD YOU YOU MONSTER!

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Marie: Yes indeed, we need a statue of Erin!

I’m thinking astride a horse with a cape blowing majestically back in the wind, raising a sword while preparing to valiantly ignore misogyny!

cloudiah
10 years ago

Wow, really fixated on pecunium. This is interesting.

kittehserf
10 years ago

MEZ is a possibility, but I’ll still hold Pell. Granted, I almost always vote Pell, even if I think it’s not, so that doesn’t say much.

LOL I tend to do that too. The trolls are sooo similar, but the language bragging is very Pellish

I’m thinking of making a movie poster for Languages On the Beach. What’s a good script font to use, like the ones they favoured in the 50s?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

You’re just a violent person. The sooner you admit that the better off you’ll be.

I always can tell violent people about how they talk about not doing violent things it makes this so easy.

Weird Erin is jumping on Pecunium for one violent thought and telling us the MRAs are just shit talkers. I sense an inconsistency from Saint Erin.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Erin, callings “bitches” and “whores” isn’t exactly fluffy of you. Perhaps you have some violent thoughts lurking?

Unimaginative
Unimaginative
10 years ago

I think about murdering people all the time. But then, I work in customer service.

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