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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Yep, it’s not like men read this shit and act on it. It’s not like that just happened a couple days ago or anything. It’a not like this shit doesn’t give all those misogynist out there plenty of justification or anything like that.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@pecunium

Because you think the readers of this blog are suddenly going to Rush out to buy their books?

I, for one, buy books from raging misogynists, probably rapists I hate. I mean, which of us regulars doesn’t.

@Erin

Fade says: Puedes hablar un millar de idomas y en cada de una todavia no tendras razon.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Sparky: “Erin the Superfeminist who fears no misogynist and calls women b*tches and wh*res thinks that just ignoring raging misogynists and self-admitted rapists is the way to defeat sexism.”

How has making noise about these idiots on this blog helped move things along? Not a fucking inch.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@kittehs

Uhhhh what would her being “”Biologically male”” have to do with anything?

As in “this is a bloke sockpuppeting”.

then if Robert thinks it’s a man he should just ask if Erin is a man XX/XY/XXY has nothing to do with it.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

dude the site is about mocking misogyny. Read the header. It’s not hard.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Pues mal por ti. Me parece una perdida de tiempo hablar y hablar sin hacer un carajo sobre el tema.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin: How does burying your head in the sand move things along?

katz
10 years ago

I literally can’t keep up with this thread.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Thank you for implicitly gendering me as a man in order to come up with a witty response to Erin’s bigotry. I assure you it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside.

Ally, maybe Robert could have worded it better, but do you really think he was saying anything about trans women or intersexed people, rather than “this is a man sockpuppeting”? I’d be frankly astonished if it were the former.

Ally S
10 years ago

I did incorrectly gender Erin as a man (and I apologize), but that wasn’t because I knew her chromosomes – it was because she was expressing an attitude similar to one I find among a lot of entitled men.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Dude, all your mocking has done fuck all. All you do is cackle like a bunch of chickens whenever one of these dicks says something horrible.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin: How does calling women wh*res and b*tches move things along?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Okay, everyone, now test the other five! XD

kittehserf
10 years ago

then if Robert thinks it’s a man he should just ask if Erin is a man XX/XY/XXY has nothing to do with it.

Fair enough, Marie.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

How does Cassandra hoping my sense of secuirty doesn’t bite me in the ass move things along?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Ally

Ally, maybe Robert could have worded it better, but do you really think he was saying anything about trans women or intersexed people, rather than “this is a man sockpuppeting”? I’d be frankly astonished if it were the former.

I thnk the point is it doesn’t matter his intent, he still was throwing trans women under a bus :/

@Erin

Dude, all your mocking has done fuck all. All you do is cackle like a bunch of chickens whenever one of these dicks says something horrible.

Please save us brave Erin.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

I’d rather expose their lies and shatter their cred than make them into the sexual predators their fanboys worship.

I forgot being a sexual predator is a special super power only granted by others. It’s not common at all and they only find vulnerable young potential victims with the help of people on this board. **head spins furiously and pops off my body**

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin: How does believing that a man who admits to rape is harmless move things along?

katz
10 years ago

Fade wants to know if Katz has written the troll rules down, or if she manages to keep that scoring I* can never figure out in her head.

There are no rules! *Throws confetti*

Initial flounce scores are entirely based on my whims and you are encouraged to score them based on your whims, too. Deductions are as follows:

-2 per post for not sticking the flounce.

-1 additional per post if you specifically said you were going to stick the flounce.

Penalties for multiple flounces are cumulative (if you flounce twice, all subsequent posts are -4).

Penalties also apply cross-thread.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

How does Cassandra hoping my sense of secuirty doesn’t bite me in the ass move things along?

The header, Erin. Right under the title of the website. The goal of this site is to mock misogynists. MOoooooocccckkk.

If you’re coming in with NAMALT, you’re being a misogynist, and you will be mocked. It’s not hard.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Oh, so now mocking PUAs makes them into sexual predators? Wow, the misandry exhibited by the women here is apparently unending.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin: How does belittling the role misogyny plays in violence against women move things along?

Ally S
10 years ago

@kitteh

I’m not assuming that Robert intended to misgender trans women. I’m just sick and tired of seeing that from cis folks, regardless of whether they intend to be jerks to us. I think you’ll understand given my extensive experience with transmisogynistic folks on the internet.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Allez, Andiamo, Vai, Gitmek, yty.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@brooked

I forgot being a sexual predator is a special super power only granted by others. It’s not common at all and they only find vulnerable young potential victims with the help of people on this board. **head spins furiously and pops off my body**

I guess it’s a good thing we have Erin here to tell us how sexual predators work.

@katz

thanks for posting the kind of rules 😀 I think I couldn’t keep track, though…

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