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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Does she not know what the word “leave” means?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Quickest meltdown ever?

cloudiah
10 years ago

@Marie & Fade, katz is the scoring expert, but in her absence I am ruling that the flounce gets a lower score for being comically inept but I am tempted to give extra points for the dramatic tantrum that followed.

kittehserf
10 years ago

As much as I despise the men who visit these sites, I know that most of them don’t have what it takes to go through with half the shit their internet personas suggest.

You know this how? Mind reader, are you?

You guys are welcome to be scared all you want, but I simply don’t give a crap about them. Does this mean I will stop exposing them and calling them out on all the horrible shit they stand for? Absolutely not. I simply am not going to allow them to scare me the way they have scared you.

Wow, what a little shit you are. You’re assuming we’re all personally scared, for one thing, and bragging about how tough you are because you’re not. Like cassandra said – you’re dancing on the graves of murdered people.

Fuck off, troll.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’m guessing Erin is probably a returnee who got her ass handed to her before, actually, given the whole “fuck your clique” thing.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

That escalated quickly.

After reading about and watching a community deal with an act of domestic terrorism, why not lighten the mood by calling strangers cowards and fucking whores? It really takes the edge off.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cloudiah

@Marie & Fade, katz is the scoring expert, but in her absence I am ruling that the flounce gets a lower score for being comically inept but I am tempted to give extra points for the dramatic tantrum that followed.

Awesome XD

Fade wants to know if Katz has written the troll rules down, or if she manages to keep that scoring I* can never figure out in her head.

*I being Marie. Not Fade.

Also, to explain: Fade draws in a comfy position, but her tablet is on her keyboard, so she can’t type. She could move it, but her computer hates her and the tablet probably won’t work post moving. That’s why I’m transcribing.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: As much as I despise the men who visit these sites, I know that most of them don’t have what it takes to go through with half the shit their internet personas suggest. You guys are welcome to be scared all you want, but I simply don’t give a crap about them.

Good for you.

Tell me, have you ever worked in security (either personal, or installational)? I have done both. One doesn’t prepare for what an attacker will do, but what one can do.

Why? Because one can’t know who the attacker is.

Same here. And one of the things one has to consider is the emotional/social landscape of the group from which the threat will come. It’s a lot more likely there will be a race-based attack in an area where racists are tolerated and encouraged than one in which the aren’t.

But that doesn’t mean one can ignore that threat if the threat is being assessed against a target which might be attractive to racists, because the might decide to make a point of going where they aren’t tolerated in the interest of “making a point” (see, if you care, The Order.

So your facile contention that these guys aren’t important… is bullshit.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

There’s nothing that ups your anti-misogyny cred like calling women whores when you don’t like them. Erin is so hardcore, we should all fall on our knees and worship her.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@brooked

don’t forget that brooked is also the bravest and most feminist-ist of us all.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

There’s nothing that ups your anti-misogyny cred like calling women whores when you don’t like them. Erin is so hardcore, we should all fall on our knees and worship her.

that must be why I haven’t levelled up in feminism recently! I haven’t gotten that ‘calling women who disagree with me bitches and whores’ thing down.

kittehserf
10 years ago

My, my, an alleged feminist who’s into calling women wh*res and b*tches for disagreeing with zir. Who claims to know the minds of not only misogynists (they’re not dangerous at all!!!) but of women (you’re all cowards, not like me!!!)

I am so impressed.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Erin, I’m not scared, I’m pissed.

I’m pissed because a man, who frequented manosphere sites and stated multiple times in both his you-tube videos and his “manifesto” that he hates women and wants them to die. This man then killed 6 innocent young people because he hated women and wanted them to die. I’m pissed because, despite the absolutely obvious motive of this guy, despite the fact that women are hurt and killed by men every day, multiple times a day, people think that the most important thing to do right now is bury his misogyny as deep as possible and instead blame his actions on him being “crazy.” Or being on the autism spectrum. Or for “homosexual urges.” Or women for not sleeping with him. Or feminism, because I don’t even know why. There are people who are screaming “not all men!” Because, obviously, examining toxic masculinity and entitlement as a source of violence might make men uncomfortable, and no matter what, we must make sure we coddle the men’s feelings. There are even people who are hailing this guy as a hero.

I’m pissed because I have a 3 year old daughter, a delightful child who loves animals and singing songs and tickles and hugs. I am pissed because, if things don’t change a whole heluva lot in the next couple years, I am going to be sending her out into a world of men who do not consider her fully human, but toy to be used and abused.

I am pissed because I have multiple women, online and IRL, who have been raped and abused and assaulted by men who hate women. I am pissed because more often than not those men who have hurt them have never faced any kind of justice whatsoever. I am pissed because of the damage men who hate women have done to my friends.

I am pissed because what Elliot Rodger did is not so unusual. It is merely an extreme end of a spectrum of misogynistic violence againts women.

So, Erin, this is what you came into a thread about a man killing women because he hated women with:

Stevie: “At what point did we plumb the depths of ‘if you refuse to have sex with me I’ll have to rape someone and it’s all your fault’?”

We have not, Stevie. You have to remember that these guys are a teeny, tiny minority who have zero influence on regular men.

Literally, not all men. You came into a thread about a man who killed women because he hated women with “not all men.”

Cheese and crackers

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

It helps if you rant about their “click” like a toddler throwing a tantrum. People always think you’re super brave and intimidating when you do that.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Whatever, you guys can keep chasing these lightweights. Some of us are doing real work making sure flesh and blood men, not internet boogey men, don’t get to harm women.

kittehserf
10 years ago

I’m guessing Erin is probably a returnee who got her ass handed to her before, actually, given the whole “fuck your clique” thing.

The meltdown gave me that impression, too.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Receipts or GTFO, Erin.

brooked
brooked
10 years ago

@Marie

Huh? I was directing that sarcsism towards Erin’s abusive meltdown, I do apologize if doesn’t read that way.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

I called Cassandra a whore due to her comment about my sense of security biting me in the ass. That was uncalled for and you know it.

Bitch please. Clique, click, whatever. I speak seven languages, how many do you speak?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@brooked

@brooked

don’t forget that brooked is also the bravest and most feminist-ist of us all.

Omigodbrooked I”m so sorry I mean Erin XD But I was being sarcastic.

@Erin

Will you stick to this flounce? Cuz it’s the second time you’ve flounced in fifteen minutes, so you can see why I doubt you…..

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

Bitch please. Clique, click, whatever. I speak seven languages, how many do you speak?

Pell?????

I speak two. Well, only one fluently. But I”m not sure why we’re doing this. Is it a poll?

kittehserf
10 years ago

Whatever, you guys can keep chasing these lightweights. Some of us are doing real work making sure flesh and blood men, not internet boogey men, don’t get to harm women.

Oh, so you stopped the not-real Elliot Rodger, did you?

-9 for not sticking the flounce, again. Can’t stay away, can you, little sockpuppet?

Ally S
10 years ago

Whatever, you guys can keep chasing these lightweights. Some of us are doing real work making sure flesh and blood men, not internet boogey men, don’t get to harm women.

I’m pretty sure Roosh, Elam, etc. are all corporeal beings. They live in the real world, and they do damage in the real world. That they exist on the internet as well means nothing.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Yes, Erin, calling us b*tches and wh*res really makes that a credible claim. Just like calling people the n-word always makes me think they’re doing great anti-racist work.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Fuck you, Cassandra. Keep fighting those internet tigers like Roosh. While you blow smoke up his ass you’re increasing his book sales. Didn’t know that, did you?

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