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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Ally S
10 years ago

You’re trying to shore up your own sense of safety by dancing on the graves of the people who just got shot, and that makes you a horrible person.

And, on top of that, he’s saying that we “allow” ourselves to be afraid of murderous misogynist. Like we have the luxury to just ignore male violence.

Fuck off indeed.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

You believe Roosh? Roosh is more full of shit than them all. Do you seriously think girls in places like Poland are letting such an ugly bastard get close to them? Roosh is all talk. He says all the shit he does in order to sell books. Calling him a rapist only gives him street cred among his idiot fan boys.

Kitteh, forget the ban hammer because I’m out. You’re welcome to cower in fear all you want, but I’m out. It seems to me that all you want to do is scare the shit out of each other and when someone isn’t as scared as you, you want to get rid of them.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

BTW, what is this Runaways thing you’re all talking about? I’m not a comics person, but it has to be more interesting than watching Erin dislocate her shoulder by patting herself too hard on the back.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Erin seems to be missing the point. These guys are part of a larger culture of misogyny. Not all men narratives change nothing.

Why are you choosing this particular thread to be an asshole?

How many people in the last few days have waltzed in here, saying offensive shit and then whined about mean we are when called out? I lost count.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Keep lying to yourself if it makes you feel better, Erin. Since I’m a nicer person than you I hope it doesn’t come back to bite you in the ass.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Fuck you, bitches and fuck your little click. If you want to let these simpletons scare you, be mny guest. This fucking blog, although well meaning, is made rancid by bitches like you.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

it’s a marvel comic. I like it. (obviously)

@erin

stick to the floouuunnccceee.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Fuck off Cassandra. Seriousl;y, fuck off, you fucking whore.

cloudiah
10 years ago

And in a stunning surprise, Erin fails to stick the flounce!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

Dang she came back two minutes after flouncing omigod XD

also: meltdown

Ally S
10 years ago

[CN: rape]

You believe Roosh? Roosh is more full of shit than them all. Do you seriously think girls in places like Poland are letting such an ugly bastard get close to them? Roosh is all talk. He says all the shit he does in order to sell books. Calling him a rapist only gives him street cred among his idiot fan boys.

https://www.wehuntedthemammoth.com/2013/03/23/mens-rights-redditors-team-with-pua-douchebag-roosh-v-to-raise-money-for-alleged-victims-of-feminism/

“While walking to my place, I realized how drunk she was. In America, having sex with her would have been rape, since she legally couldn’t give her consent. It didn’t help matters that I was relatively sober, but I can’t say I cared or even hesitated. I won’t rationalize my actions, but having sex is what I do.” – Roosh V

STFU.

cloudiah
10 years ago

Ah, they always reveal their true personalities when they meltdown.

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

What flounce are you talking about? Fuck you too.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

fade regrets to inform you that she can’t post cuz she’s drawing. It’s really complicated.

Fade says: Erin, you’re really acting like you care about stevie.

I assume she was being sarcastic.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Fuck off Cassandra. Seriousl;y, fuck off, you fucking whore.

Meet Erin, ladies and gentlemen, brave anti-misogynist hero and friend to women everywhere.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@erin

You said you were leaving, and posted twice more in the next three minutes. 😛 You can’t even leave without messing up.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

Meet Erin, ladies and gentlemen, brave anti-misogynist hero and friend to women everywhere.

I have tears in my eyes from her such feminist bravery :’)

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

No, no, Erin, do not attempt to defend yourself by being classy. Stop. Wait. Don’t.

cloudiah
10 years ago

I’m giving the flounce itself only 3/10 points (with standard deductions for not sticking the landing), but I have to admit that the meltdown is impressive.

pecunium
10 years ago

Erin: Wow, you guys are being mean for no reason at all.

To whom?

Oh,to you: the person who said: when did I even imply that any of what you said is alright? And no, these guys who we are discussing are not as big a threat as you’re making it to be. Want to know why? Because they’re shut ins who are more afraid of girls than we are of them. They’re just a bunch of shit talkers on the internet, for fuck’s sake.

Ok, not all men are like that. To borrow someone else’s analogy.

5 percent of M&Ms are toxic.

Go ahead, eat a handful… not all of them are like that.

Here’s the link I handed to racnad: Not all men are like this

And how are women supposed to know which men those are?

How about this group that not all men are like.

Why is that something to excuse? Why do you want to excuse it?

I was trying to make Stevie feel better about her daughter. That is it.

By saying that men who abuse women aren’t that big a deal? By saying men who say women ought to be beaten/killed/reduced to slavery aren’t something to be concerned about?

No, I’m talking about Roosh V, The self admitted rapist? This is your example of somoene who’s not a real threat to women? This is what you offer as a non-threat to women? This is the guy you say we ought not worry about?

Paul Elam? The guy who says that if he is ever on a jury in a rape case he doesn’t care if he knows the guy did it, he’s going to acquit him because women are evil?

Why should people who see you doing that be nice to you?

Why?

Erin Williams
Erin Williams
10 years ago

Yeah, continue letting a fucking idiot like Roosh scare you when there are more serious cases to worry about. Good job, ladies. You let a known liar like Roosh take all your attention and energy. Here’s a question for you. Roosh is supposed to be this globe trotter who gets laid in every country he visits, yet there are zero pictures of him with women. Don’t you think a guy who makes money out of teaching other guys how to get laid would fill the internet with pictures of him with the hotties he picks up?

Ally S
10 years ago

Erin, male violence is ubiquitous. That is the reason for our fears, not because of personal failings that lead us to “allow” this fear to affect our lives. The fear of male violence affects women as a group no matter what. Learn to fucking empathize and stop insulting women who are afraid of violent men.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cloudiah

I’m giving the flounce itself only 3/10 points (with standard deductions for not sticking the landing), but I have to admit that the meltdown is impressive.

fade wants to know if the flounce gets more points for being comically inept XD

cloudiah
10 years ago

Erin, how can we miss you if you don’t go away?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Erin

the flounce, erin. what happened to the flounce.

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