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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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Ronnie Libra
10 years ago

“Stop conflating PUA with healthy flirting and sex with enthusiastic consent.”

Ok, well, tell me how. What’s the right way? You tell me the difference between healthy flirting and that evil PUA shit? Teach me how…

titianblue
titianblue
10 years ago

Not every woman in a club or bar is looking for a man.

And not every woman in a club or bar is looking for any man.

Fade
10 years ago

racnad

I think I can: David Deangelo. What I’ve seen from him hasn’t been rapey or woman-bashing. I would not say that about Ross Jeffries or Tom Leykis.

looked at some of his stuff. haven’t seen actual rape advice so far. have seen that weird objectifying and treating women as all the same/ all objects that PUAs love to do. So so far, he’s not as bad as he could be but it is still not an example of a non-misogynistic PUA

ronnie whatever

Clubs – they are CALLED clubs as in SOCIAL clubs, as in People go there to be SOCIAL, and not just with the 1 or 2 people they go with. They go to be with OTHER people, to MEET people. I

yeah, but not everyone wants to be *social* with YOU.

if they want you to leave just bugger off, don’t be “but it’s a SOCIAL” club!!!

And I am wiling to bet that “pickup lines” or tactics or techniques were used by one party or the other.

my parents met in their college chemistry class i really want someone to help me think of hilarious chemistry based pick up lines.

The man ACTUALLY had to get up the nerve to start a conversation with the woman WITH the INTENTION (I promise you as shocking as this may sound to you it is true)… With the INTENTION of eventually having sex.

I so wish i was in a good enough relation with my dad atm to check that…. lol.

@WWTH

I was too confused by most of ronnie’s content to see the implied threat, thank god

@titianblue

So yes, books are on the internet. And no, PUA sites aren’t the “ONLY” place young men can go for help.

but it is the only place whiny men can go to where people will act like their problems of not being fucked as often as they like is serious business!!!

@johnny

Someone who has a mental sickness, the kind that causes them to express hatred for one group or another is a lot more difficult.

if you’re so kind to mentally ill people, why are you assuming mental illness causes hatred and violence? FFS

Wouldn’t a morally superior person try to examine all aspects of a person?

Oh, do fuck off. I don’t owe my oppressors ANYTHING. certainly not “examining all aspects” of them and coddling their feelings

contrapangloss
10 years ago

I’ve only gone to a bar three times. Each time it was pretty much only to hang out with friends and do kareoke.

People offering you hard drinks during kareoke is just obnoxious!

‘No thank you, Sir Gentlman Old Enogh to be My Father. I’d kind of like to sing later and it’s hard to do that if my throat is sandpaper. Also, I’d like to retain my sense of pitch for a while yet.’

I haven’t said it, yet, but I’ve really wanted to.

Aylin
Aylin
10 years ago

I was on risperdal for several months because the doctor I was seeing at the time thought it would help me cope better with autism. From what I understand it isn’t that uncommon for that medication to be prescribed to people on the autism spectrum.

That doesn’t mean I or anyone else with autism is psychotic, just that being on an anti-psychotic doesn’t automatically make someone psychotic.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

my parents met in their college chemistry class i really want someone to help me think of hilarious chemistry based pick up lines.

Hey baby, wanna form a covalent bond with me?

I had to Google covalent bond to make sure I remembered it correctly. Worth it!

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Fade, how about these?

So, I’m ionic and you’re polar… Could I be a part of you solution?

You’re so hot, my heart just sublimated!

I’d love to work out the michaelis-menton enzyme kinetics model for me and you.

If you were OH- and I was H+, could we get together and make something really, really important?

I’m sure there are more!

Fade
10 years ago

@WWTH and contrapangloss

those are perfect i am dying of laughter atm

(tho i will admit the michaelis-menton kinetics thing flew over my head)

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

Titianblue

I recall a few years back John Scalzi posted about his wife defending herself against a creep in a bar where she was having a drink with some friends; the sheer volume of hysteria this provoked was pretty jaw dropping to me at the time, though I came to realise that it was pretty much par for the course when it came to MRA types.

I’m English, and MRA is far less significant in our culture, but the US people are doing their best to export this stuff in all its toxic venom; fortunately we have very stringent gun laws which helps, but I am still freaked by the idea that someone will set about planning to kill good looking blonde girls for the crime of being a good looking blonde girls.

Of course, the fact that my daughter is a good looking blonde girl, who looks a great deal younger than she is, and also happens to be a highly trained and passionately committed doctor, probably explains why this is so profoundly disturbing to me. None of the guys who have favoured us with their contributions on how we should respond to this appears to have noticed this fact….

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

. If we complain about PUAs and turn them away, we’ll leave them no choice but to turn to rape or murder.

Something that I think is seriously messed up about this is that, if Elliot Rodger did have any girlfriends and/or sex partners, I somehow don’t think that would have magically erased his misogyny and rage. And I think now we’d be hearing a lot about how his girlfriends “went for the abusive asshole; what the hell is wrong with women??”

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

At what point did we plumb the depths of ‘if you refuse to have sex with me I’ll have to rape someone and it’s all your fault’?

I have refused to have sex with quite a few guys in my time but no one ever tried that line on me, possibly because they judged that my reaction would be to relocate their testicles to the vicinity of their larynxes, but more probably because they weren’t stupid enough to believe it.

And since when did murder become the equivalent of having sex? Am I really supposed to believe that perfectly normal individuals schedule their diaries with evenings devoted to have sex/murder someone?

How did we reach the point where people advancing mind numbingly stupid propositions are surprised and somewhat offended when someone points out that it’s a mind numbingly stupid proposition? Answers on a postcard, please…

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

Something that I think is seriously messed up about this is that, if Elliot Rodger did have any girlfriends and/or sex partners, I somehow don’t think that would have magically erased his misogyny and rage. And I think now we’d be hearing a lot about how his girlfriends “went for the abusive asshole; what the hell is wrong with women??”

One thing that his “manifesto” makes very clear is that he’d turn on his former friends at the smallest perceived slight. I don’t for one millisecond imagine that he’d have behaved any differently if he’d somehow managed to start a relationship – all it would take would be him getting even the slightest impression that his girlfriend was interested in someone else, and he’d fly off the handle in some way.

This is, after all, someone who owned up to assaulting people with whom he had no connection at all, merely for having the temerity to be affectionate to each other in public.

So no, I don’t think losing his virginity would have solved anything at all. Just look at GGG – not only not a virgin but someone who’s had more sexual partners over the last year than I’ve had in twenty*. And has it made a difference to his rantings? Not at all – if anything, he’s become even more flagrantly misogynist.

(*Granted, mine constituted a small number of long-term relationships, but still.)

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Elliot was generally treated with ridicule on PUAhate and his last post involved telling everyone to fuck off because they didn’t agree he was as good looking as he thought he was.

How did I forget this little gem? Apparently it’s OK to make hateful comments about women and view us as sex objects. That’s totally cool. But express an inflated view of your hotness; way out of line! Unacceptable!

That this is what ostracized him from the PUAhate community is very telling.

Ronnie Libra
10 years ago

well apparently the author is picking and choosing which of my comments to allow. So at this point I know my time is better spent elsewhere. With women who aren’t jaded and have healthy relationships with the opposite sex.. 🙂 Peace out girlscouts.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Yes. Please drop whatever creepy rape or violence apologia turd David wouldn’t let through someplace else.

Please do let the door hit you in the ass on the way out.

Ally S
10 years ago

“Opposite sex”

Yeah, I don’t think you understand what biological sex is.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@ronnie

well apparently the author is picking and choosing which of my comments to allow. So at this point I know my time is better spent elsewhere. With women who aren’t jaded and have healthy relationships with the opposite sex.. 🙂 Peace out girlscouts.

Girlscouts isn’t even an insult, girscouts are awesome 😀

Don’t forget to stick to the flounce.

scott1139
scott1139
10 years ago

Don’t forget to stick to the flounce.

Yes, please don’t come back, Ronnie Libra.

cloudiah
10 years ago

From now on, I think we should end all of our conversations with “Peace out, Girl Scouts!” and disappear in a cloud of Thin Mints.

Wetherby
Wetherby
10 years ago

well apparently the author is picking and choosing which of my comments to allow. So at this point I know my time is better spent elsewhere. With women who aren’t jaded and have healthy relationships with the opposite sex..

I’ve always been under the impression that a very significant proportion of the Mammoth commentariat:

(a) are in very happy long-term relationships;
(b) aren’t, but don’t have any particular hangups about it.

You seem to imply otherwise, but where’s your evidence?

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cloudiah

From now on, I think we should end all of our conversations with “Peace out, Girl Scouts!” and disappear in a cloud of Thin Mints.

I second the notion.

Fade
10 years ago

thirded. peace out girl scouts for *every* conversation ender!!

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Now I want thin mints.

Stevie
Stevie
10 years ago

I suspect that Ronnie’s personal experience of women is somewhere on the spectrum between not much and zero, not least because he appears to believe that girl scouts are jaded. I realise that I may be lacking the nuances since I’m on the other side of the Pond, but Girl Scouts and jaded are not words I have hitherto thought of as belonging in the same sentence…

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Trefoil, with a dollop of whipped cream and a strawberry on top. Best way to eat a Girl Scout cookie!

Oh, and thanks to David for his Almighty ModPowers! If we’re not seeing all of Ronnie-dearest, that’s definitely a good thing, in my book!

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