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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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kittehserf
10 years ago

(I wonder if tales of men shaving their pubic hair/pits might be another good troll-banishing tactic?)

That sounds like a plan.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

I’m sorry, I’m still in awe that ronnie thinks hetero males are being demonized for being attracted to women — based on an OP about a murderer who killed people. I mean, what’s going on here? Is lack of sex worth killing for? Is that’s ronnie’s conclusion? Is that why we seem so umsympathetic to him? That we think lack of sex isn’t a good reason to go on a kill rampage for?
There’s a little more going on than that. These guys could masterbate, which is good fun, or go to a sex worker, which would solve the lack of sex thing. The problem isn”t a lack of sex. These guys, Sodini/Rodger, embraced toxic notions of masculinity, that dictate they must have women who their peers want to fuck, that they must fuck A LOT in order to feel like a man — and if they don’t, they’re defective. Ronnie’s getting mad at the wrong people.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Kittehs

I also have a bra advice question saved for next time we need to do a little fumigating.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Shiraz

Apart from anything else, lots of us are attracted to men. I personally would find it rather inconvenient if men as a group stopped being attracted to women. If they stopped being creeps about it, that would be awesome, but no men wanting to sleep with women at all? Nope, that would not suit me at all.

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

Me neither, Cassandra.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Bras and pubic hair and pies, OH MY!

Bras and pubic hair and pies, OH MY!!

Bras and pubic hair and pies, OH MY!!!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

No bears for me, obviously.

kittehserf
10 years ago

I also have a bra advice question saved for next time we need to do a little fumigating.

Splendid!

::rubs hands::

Ronnie seems to think (confession: I skimmed his teal dear rant) that “being attracted to women” is the same as “harassing and raping women”, despite his “do you want us to be rapists” nonsense.

The (sour) joke being that men are not demonised for rape or harassment, let alone for being attracted to women.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Ohhh, you’re lucky I already finished my tea, cassandra! Otherwise I’d have to send you an invoice for keyboard cleanup!

kittehserf
10 years ago

Bras and pubic hair and pies, OH MY!

Just make sure the pubic hairs don’t get into the pies, please!

::barf::

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I did love the fact that there was no “have lots of great sex with women who actually like you” option in Ronnie’s rant. I also noticed that, like many of the misters, he doesn’t seem to understand that “I love fucking women” is not the same thing as “I love women”

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Sing a song of sixpence, a pocket full of rye,
Four-and-twenty pubic hairs, baked in a pie,
When the pie was open, kittehserf began to spew,
And wasn’t that a dandy dish to give tonight to you!

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

There ya go, Cassandra. I noticed that too. But did Ronnie?

**shakes head**

kittehserf
10 years ago

I was just looking at a blog piece about a doco on incels. One of the little creeps said the cameraman seemed to be a feminist; cameraman said “I think women are people” and the incel started raving about how he’s been brainwashed. Oh, and the trio interviewed seemed to think women only have sex because the guy wants it, we don’t actually have sexual desires of our own.

It’s no wonder misogynists like this like to think rape or murder are the only options. They really do hate us that much.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I hereby nominate dustedeste for the position of official blog bard.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

It’s a catch 22, though, isn’t it? Women generally don’t want to have sex with men who don’t think we’re people, so in the experience of the seduction fail trio women having no sexual desires of our own would appear to be true. Scientific method and all – they’ve never seen it, so they assume it doesn’t exist. The female libido is like a purple unicorn from their perspective.

neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

What we need is a trained eyeball-locating kitten, in keeping with the overall blog theme.

I found one! Sure the eyeballs are filled with catnip but I’m sure Mammotheers eyes have sufficient catnip on them.

http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/fd/73/96/fd73967b438862fe43829063f3ac1499.jpg

kittehserf
10 years ago

dustydeste, you are an evil person! XD

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’m not sure I like the look that cat is giving us, though. I suspect she may be planning to eat the eyeballs.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Eyeball kitty! <3

Shiraz
Shiraz
10 years ago

@kittehserf

Eeesssh. Yeah. That’s the problem. They have to convince/con/manipulate women into having sex. ‘Cause god forbid women have sexual agency.

dustedeste
dustedeste
10 years ago

Well I think I’ll end tonight on that high note 😛

kittehserf
10 years ago

Oh wow: another board, another incel comes out with this gem. NOTE: he’s ableist, too, of course.

I will use your name calling to explain something about incels and work – any incel working (unless he’s saving to find a wife or escape Western society) is a mental patient. He is like a Jew donating money to Hitler. What kind of an idiot would pay taxes to a femifascist state that made him incel in the first place by making women no longer need providers, thus allowing them to chase losers who will create single mothers? If I could destroy just one group in society it would be such incels. To me they are worse than feminists. They are feeding the machine that makes all decent men incel.


Source

GGG isn’t so unusual among this lot, methinks.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

(Blinks)

Well, you can’t say that their theories aren’t elaborate.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Ah – it might actually be GGG on that board. Someone mentioned Croatia being less patriarchal than they thought if “tib” is so miserable there.

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