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Pickup artists argue that "Game" is the solution to Elliot Rodger-style rampages. Here's why they're wrong.

From Elliot Rodger's Google+ Profile
From Elliot Rodger’s Google+ Profile

Pickup artists, classy fellows that they are, are using Elliot Rodger’s killing rampage as a marketing ploy. In the comments to one of Rodger’s videos on YouTube, a company called Strategic Dating Coach offered their solution to prevent similar shootings in the future: send disturbed young men who can’t get dates to one of their coaching sessions!

THIS is why we do what we do. TO PREVENT THIS SHIT!!! Could couldn't experience it because he didn't learn to attract women. He should have gone to our website and got our personal dating coaching or purchased one of our products. IF ANYONE NEEDS HELP, CONTACT US! Don’t do anything stupid.

While this response to Rodger’s mass killing is uniquely crass, the argument that “Game saves lives” is hardly new. To PUAs like Heartiste and Roosh Valizadeh it’s practically an article of faith.

In the wake of George Sodini’s murderous shooting spree in a Pennsylvania gym in 2009, Heartiste (then known as Roissy) wrote

If Sodini had learned game he would have been able to find another woman and gotten laid after his ex dumped him. He wouldn’t have spent the next 20 years steeped in bile and weighed down by his Sisyphian blue balls, dreaming of vengeance. Game could have saved the lives of the women Sodini killed.

The fact that Sodini had in fact imbibed in the alleged wisdom of pickup artistry, going so far as attending a pricey seminar from old-school pickup guru R. Don Steele, a self-proclaimed expert on dating young women, didn’t lead any in the pickup community to reconsider this position.

Nor has it this time. It is clear that Elliot Rodger was steeped in “red pill” thinking about women. And while he wasn’t himself a PUA, he was certainly aware of the basics of “Game.” Indeed, he subscribed to a number of PUA channels on YouTube and was a regular commenter on PUAhate, a sleazy forum devoted to criticizing “game,” not because it is manipulative and misogynistic but because it doesn’t work.

On the Roosh V forum earlier today, Roosh acknowledged that Rodger knew at least a little about “red pill” ideology – noting that Rodger referred to himself as an”alpha” – but still went ahead and argued that Game was the solution to massacres like this:

He is self-delusional and massively entitled, but exposing him to game may have saved lives.

In a followup comment, Roosh expressed his concerns for the real victims of this tragedy – Pickup artists:

I’m trying to think of ways our enemies will come after us because of this, but if anything, we’re the solution to this sort of murder rampage. This is the society that progressives wanted, where women are fully able to choose the top 10% of alpha males while shaming masculinity, leaving beta males with modest resources in the dust. Of course they will simply push a ban on guns, but this wholly neglects the cause. Seven people died because this guy couldn’t get laid … .

Other commenters were quick to agree. According to someone known as Moma,

Roosh has a very valid point. This will continue to replay over and over again. As human beings, our wiring is very basic yet primal. …

When have you last heard of a porn star shooting up a place? How many have emptied their balls in a hot lizard and then felt the urge to go and smoke 50 strangers?

According to Samseau, the problem wasn’t that Rodger hadn’t heard the Game Gospel; the problem was that he had rejected his salvation:

He knew about Game. If he had an account on PUAHATE then he knew about game. He was just a denialist. There was no helping this dude.

Roosh seconded this bit of wisdom, seeing it as clear evidence that “game denialism kills.”

Michelin, for his part, hoped that PUAs would be able to use the massacre as a publicity bonanza and a great “told you so” to all the haters.

One should write a mainstream article about this case. The argument that game could have saved lives can be an eye-opener and a smash in the face to haters of game.

Tuthmosis, the man best known for a Return of Kings post on the “5 Reasons to Date a Girl With An Eating Disorder,” reported his joy that PUAhate was getting bad press:

Seeing your enemies fall is a delicious treat you only get to taste a few times in your life. I’m savoring this delicacy with a cup of freshly brewed coffee. It’s a shame real people had to lose their lives, but I can’t help but think this will discredit a horrible website, PUAHate–and a way of thinking–that could have harmed even more men and innocent people. Beta losers will never go away, but this will wake up a few men and, more importantly, scare others.

Zelcorpion blamed “girls” and MGTOWers for giving Rodgers bad dating advice:

I bet a few girls told him that he only needs to be himself, be nice, be a gentleman, have a nice car, looks etc. – only to realize that it mattered shit. Instead of learning from the PUA-community he chose to listen to PUAhaters and some of the anti-female comments of the MGTOWs who themselves are often refusing to accept Game or even basic concepts like Alpha/Beta. I think that problem will become way worse, since hypergamy and promiscuity will only increase and most men will be left in the sexual wasteland.

But it took a relative newcomer to the forum by the handle of thedavidgt to raise the obvious logical objection to the Game-for-everybody solution to incel rage:

If every sexless beta in the world took it upon himself to learn game, approach girls, lift, dress well etc, would it not simply feed women’s egos and entitlement? So instead of occasionally getting awkwardly hit on by skinny fat, poor-dressed chumps, the average 7 would then be approached several times a day by extremely high value men. We’ll have a society of men working to improve themselves for women who will get lazier and lazier while at the same time demanding more and more.

In fact, the “Game saves lives” mantra is dead wrong, but not for this reason. First of all, there is no clear evidence that “game,” per se, works, except insofar as it encourages men to pursue large numbers of women and numb them to the pain of rejection. It’s possible that a few of the conversational ploys invented by various PUAs may work better than having no conversational ploys at all. But there are no magic cheat codes to “getting with women.”

There is one more disturbing way in which “game” may increase “success” with women for unscrupulous men: many of the standard techniques of “game”– invading a woman’s personal space, touching her repeatedly, trying to “isolate” her from her friends – may serve as “tests” to find women who are less likely to resist violations of their boundaries. In this way, “game” may serve as a quite effective enabler of date rape. Indeed Roosh himself has admitted to raping a date too drunk to consent.

So how much of a solution is training a guy who is already filled with a toxic mixture of entitlement and self-loathing (yes, these strange bedfellows do often go together) in some techniques that might help him to tamp down his insecurities enough to manipulate some willing or not-so-willing women into bed?

You might have simply turned a mass killer into a serial rapist, or possibly a serial killer. Ted Bundy was quite the charmer. Somehow this didn’t make him a decent human being.

Even if “game” were the beneficient form of “self-improvement” that some of its proponents like to claim it is, teaching Rodger how to be a better dater would not make him a better person. Would having a girlfriend solve all his problems? Hardly. Relationships require patience and compromise and mutual respect, and Rodger seems to have had none of these qualities. Instead of directing his narcissistic rage at “girls” at large, he would likely have ended up abusing a string of girlfriends.

The problem wasn’t Rodger’s lack of “Game.” It was his lack of humanity.

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sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Fade:

shooter: I did it because I want revenge on women for not sleeping with me
Ken L: WHAT *REALLY* MADE HIM PICK UP THE GUN?!

Yep, this. This right here.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I would like to live in Ken’s magical realm, in which something like this has never happened before and men killing women is a rare occurrence.

Shadow
Shadow
10 years ago

Apparently Ken L feels that this is the time to solve all the mysteries of the human psyche. Apparently it’s not enough to focus on the misogyny of a misogynistic man’s misogynistic killing spree because… er… because… er… squirrel!

I don’t know whether to laugh or cry. Mere minutes after LBT posts about his experience with his own psychosis and my post about my experience with my aunt’s schizophrenia, justwantedtosay just felt absolutely compelled to hit us with this totes unexplored, completely different point of view. MY ENTIRE WORLDVIEW HAS BEEN SHAKEN! MY LIFE IS NOUGHT BUT A SNOW GLOBE IN JUSTWANTEDTOSAY’S ALL KNOWING PALM! CAPS LOCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@ken

please note that what i said was not directed at you, from day one Marie as had it out for me.

“on day one, Marie called me out for ableism, and didn’t like my fauxpology.”

What I am saying is what brought him to picking up a gun? how can thousand of these people have the same view and not do the same thing? the view his view alone did not get him there would be thing like this happening all the time,

Get to the fucking point, ken. Yes, some people murder and others don’t. that is a thing that happens. Pointing it out doesn’t make you look smart, it just makes you tiresome.

stop lumping me in with other people.

*waits*

*tries to avoid it*

*can’t avoid it*

“But not all men!”

Amnesia
Amnesia
10 years ago

@Ken L.

“It is our choices, Harry, that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.” -Albus Dumbledore

There. There’s your reply.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

My new theory is that Ken is trying to drive us all to drink.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

I did about twenty post ago. you did not care to answer me seriously then and you still don’t now. you already made up your mind no matter what i say or mean you’ll just shit on it. I promise no longer engage you on this site. it only pisses you off and so just leave me alone you fucking won.

Good, then maybe you will finally fuck off. I’m not sure what made people think you weren’t trolling when you first showed up here, but your willful ignorance is either trolling or your really are that stupid.

Justsaying sounds just like Retha.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

I’ve mercifully manage to avoid Justsaying here. Are they in moderation, or am I just unobservant?

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Last page, Marie. You’re not missing anything.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Shorter Ken – Halp, halp, I’m being bullied by a high school student! (first year college? Sorry, Marie, can’t remember.) I mean, unlike the victims of the guy we’re talking about she hasn’t actually hurt me, or tried to, but she keeps disagreeing with me, and that’s just wrong! My pride, it is wounded, and the worst part is that nobody else seems to recognize how horrible a thing my oppression at the hands of this teenage harpy is! Woe! Woe!

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@hellkell

thanks for telling. I’ll probably avoid justsaying, then

@cassandra

I laughed XD Fade’s first year college, but I got my GED and haven’t gone to college.

beegee
beegee
10 years ago

Just to pile on @Ken;

Maybe he WAS mentally ill. Who cares? The motivation for his crimes was still misogyny, it’s not like being crazy changes that. If anything, if he was violent because of his mental illness then it just proves how dangerous the PUA community/MRM is, because his recital of its talking points illustrates how he was groomed into these crimes by their ideology.

If a man has some delusions about how women and the male “jerks” that are successful with girls are out to get him and frustrate him, then finding an entire movement that hates women and blames them for all the world’s problems will just radicalize him.

Tl; dr even if he was “violently crazy” then the manosphere has blame for encouraging him.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

I’m getting sock vibes from just saying too. Retha or Sauron maybe.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

What is it about this blog in particular that people who get their asses handed to them verbally, or just aren’t very well liked, just can’t bring themselves to leave? They always come back, whether as themselves or as socks, every damn time. You’d think this place was made out of chocolate and crack.

contrapangloss
10 years ago

Ken, now would be a good time to take a break. Recall the first rule of holes. Also, recall the note about people here really, really not liking throwing non-neurotypical people under the bus.

Yes, mental illnesses can sometimes contribute to inappropriate behavior. However, not all mass murderers are ‘crazy’ and most ‘crazy’ people never do anything to harm others.

Also, bad behavior is not always caused by a mentally ill person’s mental illness. It can be completely secondary.

My point, in short: Don’t armchair diagnose. Don’t assume he must have been mentally disturbed. Chill for a bit, so you don’t wear out everyone else’s good will.

For now, all we can say for sure is that his misogyny contributed to a fairly large degree, as per his own video and manifesto. There may be other factors, but his misogyny is one of the ones that society shouldn’t ignore.

Think of it this way:

Blame his (hypothetical) mental illness? Harm mentally ill people by association and don’t fix societal ills because they clearly don’t have anything to do with normal people.

Blame his misogyny? Then we actually have to work at addressing entitlement culture, which could help reduce the instances where his type of manifesto can fester into a rage-killing spree.

Amnesia
Amnesia
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty

It isn’t? What have I been eating then?

Amnesia
Amnesia
10 years ago

I mean, that’s what I thought all these spoons were for! My life is a lie!

contrapangloss
10 years ago

* note for everyone: when I say socially inappropriate, I’m thinking about fairly specific instances. They aren’t common.

I’d feel safe saying that neurotypical people are just as socially inappropriate on average, as non-neurotypical individuals.

Psych really isn’t my field, though.

Do any of you know of any good papers I should try to find? My EMS book only has a couple chapters, and since it’s EMS, it definitely focuses more on inappropriate behaviors being caused by medical problems, overdoses, or intoxication, over ‘people are just jerks, sometimes’.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

And Ken never got a spoon! It was Marie. Marie stole his spoon, because she had it in for him from day one. No particular reason, she just likes stealing men’s spoons.

Ken L.
10 years ago

@beegee

Thanks, you know i need to be smacked around more. But seriously an excuse or other reason is not nor as ever been my point. I had a real and honest interest in what made this guy different from every other MRA. That’s all. nothing else meant or implied or anything. but I must be a troll or apologist so why would you care what i say anyway.

@contrapangloss

I will take a break, thank you but i must point out i said I don’t know what the thing other was or even if it’s knowable at all. I never arm chaired it at all. thanks again it should go without saying but your measured thought out response. made me stop and think more then any taunt or jab. I’ll admit I was carried away in my anger. But I nor anyone here likes meaning put to their words are untrue,

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@cassandra

you’re too awesome, I’m laughing too hard XD

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@Ken

ut seriously an excuse or other reason is not nor as ever been my point

than what the fuck is your point? you can never seem to say one…

Michelle C Young
10 years ago

I tried to tweet to #YesAllWomen, and, like my website and email, I can’t post to that, either.

Here’s my tweet: #YesAllWomen, because the only way to get rid of the creepy guy, old enough to be my grandfather, was to make up a jealous Marine boyfriend.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

I had a real and honest interest in what made this guy different from every other MRA.

You really can’t figure it out? Holy shitballs.

Marie
Marie
10 years ago

@michelle

gah that sucks 🙁

I’ve had dudes old enough to be my grandfather creep on me, too, but it was in a situation I could walk away from. (he was at work, creeping on me, a customer, so I just ahd to leave and he stayed with his job)

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