*Sorry, that second sentence wasn’t directed at Marie directly, it was supposed to read that if she wanted to get hold of you urgently, then she should have rung you rather than texted you. Texting is still viewed as informal, at least in New Zealand, so for example when people here have been dismissed via text (which I find unbelieveably cold as well as incredibly rude), the employment court here has said that the person hasn’t been dismissed.
pallygirl
10 years ago
Anyways some super good news from me, I now have awesome purple hair. 🙂
hellkell
10 years ago
Marie: If she were pissed, she’d have called. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. She most likely found someone else. It’s good that you want to help her, but her life isn’t your emergency.
Aregnti: sorry to hear about your fishes.
Marie
10 years ago
@pallygirl
yay for purple hair :3
and yeah in US texting is viewed as informal too.
hellkell
10 years ago
pallygirl: Dismissed from a job by text? And here I thought a text message breakup was cold.
pallygirl
10 years ago
Oh, not me personally, but yeah there’s been a couple of cases to go in front of employment court here where an employee has been dismissed by text. I think at least one of them was a casual worker. In each case, the judge ruled that a dismissal by text (or any change to employment conditions by text such as start time) wasn’t legal.
it got is name because that’s where the Spanish stole the silver… but even that, is part of our story).
I didn’t know that! You learn something new every day, especially on Mammoth. (And this is way nicer than chimpanzee spunk.)
RE: marie
It’s okay, I miss texts all the time. (My phone plan is month by month, so sometimes I get caught out and no texts or calls reach me for a day or two.) It’s really not the best way of keeping track of someone, and accidents happen.
Argenti, I’m so sorry about your fishies! Lots of non-contact hugs.
Wanting a new pet isn’t being bad or not mourning. You’re not forgetting the ones gone, you’re loving someone else.
Marie, seconding everyone about texts. Someone needs to talk urgently, they ring. Expecting people to be checking their damn phones all the time, let alone arranging things that way, is both rude and stupid.
Pallygirl, purple hair, excellent!!!!
Marie
10 years ago
@LBT, Kittehs
thanks. I”m just worried a lot but you guys are really helping <3
Marie — yep, that’s just silly. If it’s time sensitive, you use a medium you know the other person received — the damned phone or in person. Best bet is probably a simple “hope you got Monday sorted and sorry I missed your text until today” type message (calling may help get he point across if you’re up to it)
Thanks again all. I’m trying not to think of the mass fish grave (we have a sorta pet cemetery in the yard, started back with my poor runt of the litter decades ago now). So at least they got a proper burial, sorta.
@Marie, I send a text specifically so as not to interrupt the person I’m sending to. They can get the message whenever, and respond whenever. If it’s urgent, I call. I don’t think a reasonable person would be mad at you.
@Argenti, I’m sorry about your fishes. I’m glad the puffer’s okay.
@Luzbelitx: I hadn’t heard about the impounding, but I’ve been kind of avoiding the news lately. I googled, but it doesn’t seem to have made the news in Canada.
Summary: “I banned you from the house for your own good because you decided to go to your friend’s place right away without calling me and because I was protecting you from your step-mother, who made fun of your long hair in a recent FB picture. I’m such a wonderful father who makes all sorts of difficult decisions for the sake of family peace. By the way, you are still a sinner for existing because being trans is against Islamic morals. You brought this gender identity crisis[*] upon yourself. I love you unconditionally!”
*Yes, “gender identity crisis” is literally the term he used to describe my transness.
I feel so triggered right now. I don’t know if things will ever get better for me. Every fucking time I try to clean up the mess that’s my life, someone comes along and emotionally manipulates me into going back to square one. Or square zero, rather.
Ally, I can only say remember that this is really early days in getting away. You’ve no idea how much things might, almost certainly will, change for the better. You haven’t got clear of the toxic environment in your family yet. That’s the major step to take – you’re sort of poised, foot in air, in the middle of it. Don’t give up, don’t assume these shitfaces are going to control you forever.
Don’t go back to the man with the common decency of a stool-sample.
You are awesome, and amazing, and I think you are a far better woman than I am. I’m 22, freaking out about the first time a friendship gets weird.
You’re 19, and have gotten yourself out from under an abusive tyrant, sorted out way more complicated gender issues than I can adequately comprehend, started on the way to fixing the complex gender issue, and faced down scads of uncertainty, heaps of arseholishness from jerk-folks, and you persevered.
You are way stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you are a fantastic woman.
You can get through this.
Don’t get me wrong: it’s okay to be anxious, and have bad days, weeks, months, years…But, you are strong.
Your dad’s just a slime-ball who can go bathe in skunk musk to make his physical and metaphysical odors match.
I just opened a magazine that has the hide to call itself All About History. It has a piece on the battle of Agincourt (1415). It has pictures. One of them claims to be of Charles d’Albret, the Constable of France who was killed at the battle.
The picture is actually a portrait – a clear, colour, easily-recognizable-even-at-that-small-size portrait of Charles d’Albert, duc de Luynes. He was Constable of France, all right, but he was born in 1578 and died in 1621. He was Louis’s first favourite.
Sure, maybe a typo resulted in that picture being selected. But did nobody even look at the picture? Did nobody who works at a FUCKING HISTORY MAGAZINE know the difference between a 17th century man and a 15th century one? Did not one of them have a fucking clue about stuff so basic to their subject, let alone the matter of actually doing picture searches or checking what the fuck they typed?
Fucking incompetents.
Yes I have written to the editior, minus the swears.
I have been reading a lot about PTSD and I’ve come to the conclusion that I have it. My behavior is typical among those with PTSD, especially those who have PTSD as a result of abuse. Few other mental disabilities other than PTSD can account for my constant hypervigilance, my intractable self-loathing and feelings of guilt and shame, my nightmares of abuse (which have been occurring more and more often over time), my frequent anxiety attacks, my avoidant behaviors (I refuse to talk to my dad on the phone for any reason, I get anxiety attacks whenever I obsess about potentially interacting with abusers, etc.) and my overall detachment from people. Contrary to what some may assume, I have no problem considering myself to have PTSD. In fact, it’s comforting in a way because I feel like I can now gain a much clearer understanding of a large bulk of my mental illnesses.
We Hunted The Mammoth
@hellkell
I don’t know if she’ll actually be mad, I”m just super anxious and worrying right now.
Aw, I’m sorry about your fishies, Argenti.
*Sorry, that second sentence wasn’t directed at Marie directly, it was supposed to read that if she wanted to get hold of you urgently, then she should have rung you rather than texted you. Texting is still viewed as informal, at least in New Zealand, so for example when people here have been dismissed via text (which I find unbelieveably cold as well as incredibly rude), the employment court here has said that the person hasn’t been dismissed.
Anyways some super good news from me, I now have awesome purple hair. 🙂
Marie: If she were pissed, she’d have called. I don’t think you have anything to worry about. She most likely found someone else. It’s good that you want to help her, but her life isn’t your emergency.
Aregnti: sorry to hear about your fishes.
@pallygirl
yay for purple hair :3
and yeah in US texting is viewed as informal too.
pallygirl: Dismissed from a job by text? And here I thought a text message breakup was cold.
Oh, not me personally, but yeah there’s been a couple of cases to go in front of employment court here where an employee has been dismissed by text. I think at least one of them was a casual worker. In each case, the judge ruled that a dismissal by text (or any change to employment conditions by text such as start time) wasn’t legal.
RE: Luzbelitx
it got is name because that’s where the Spanish stole the silver… but even that, is part of our story).
I didn’t know that! You learn something new every day, especially on Mammoth. (And this is way nicer than chimpanzee spunk.)
RE: marie
It’s okay, I miss texts all the time. (My phone plan is month by month, so sometimes I get caught out and no texts or calls reach me for a day or two.) It’s really not the best way of keeping track of someone, and accidents happen.
Argenti, I’m so sorry about your fishies! Lots of non-contact hugs.
Wanting a new pet isn’t being bad or not mourning. You’re not forgetting the ones gone, you’re loving someone else.
Marie, seconding everyone about texts. Someone needs to talk urgently, they ring. Expecting people to be checking their damn phones all the time, let alone arranging things that way, is both rude and stupid.
Pallygirl, purple hair, excellent!!!!
@LBT, Kittehs
thanks. I”m just worried a lot but you guys are really helping <3
Glad to help, Marie.
Marie — yep, that’s just silly. If it’s time sensitive, you use a medium you know the other person received — the damned phone or in person. Best bet is probably a simple “hope you got Monday sorted and sorry I missed your text until today” type message (calling may help get he point across if you’re up to it)
Thanks again all. I’m trying not to think of the mass fish grave (we have a sorta pet cemetery in the yard, started back with my poor runt of the litter decades ago now). So at least they got a proper burial, sorta.
And w00t for purple hair!
@Marie, I send a text specifically so as not to interrupt the person I’m sending to. They can get the message whenever, and respond whenever. If it’s urgent, I call. I don’t think a reasonable person would be mad at you.
@Argenti, I’m sorry about your fishes. I’m glad the puffer’s okay.
@Luzbelitx: I hadn’t heard about the impounding, but I’ve been kind of avoiding the news lately. I googled, but it doesn’t seem to have made the news in Canada.
Holy fuck, I just read the article on the Guardian’s site. What the actual fuck. World, we need to get the finance industry under control.
So my dad just sent me an email.
Summary: “I banned you from the house for your own good because you decided to go to your friend’s place right away without calling me and because I was protecting you from your step-mother, who made fun of your long hair in a recent FB picture. I’m such a wonderful father who makes all sorts of difficult decisions for the sake of family peace. By the way, you are still a sinner for existing because being trans is against Islamic morals. You brought this gender identity crisis[*] upon yourself. I love you unconditionally!”
*Yes, “gender identity crisis” is literally the term he used to describe my transness.
Lying fucker that he is.
I feel so triggered right now. I don’t know if things will ever get better for me. Every fucking time I try to clean up the mess that’s my life, someone comes along and emotionally manipulates me into going back to square one. Or square zero, rather.
Ally, all the hugs. Things will get better, I know it. And you will keep getting stronger and happier. We’re all here for you.
Ally, I can only say remember that this is really early days in getting away. You’ve no idea how much things might, almost certainly will, change for the better. You haven’t got clear of the toxic environment in your family yet. That’s the major step to take – you’re sort of poised, foot in air, in the middle of it. Don’t give up, don’t assume these shitfaces are going to control you forever.
Don’t go back to the man with the common decency of a stool-sample.
You are awesome, and amazing, and I think you are a far better woman than I am. I’m 22, freaking out about the first time a friendship gets weird.
You’re 19, and have gotten yourself out from under an abusive tyrant, sorted out way more complicated gender issues than I can adequately comprehend, started on the way to fixing the complex gender issue, and faced down scads of uncertainty, heaps of arseholishness from jerk-folks, and you persevered.
You are way stronger than you give yourself credit for, and you are a fantastic woman.
You can get through this.
Don’t get me wrong: it’s okay to be anxious, and have bad days, weeks, months, years…But, you are strong.
Your dad’s just a slime-ball who can go bathe in skunk musk to make his physical and metaphysical odors match.
FUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
I just opened a magazine that has the hide to call itself All About History. It has a piece on the battle of Agincourt (1415). It has pictures. One of them claims to be of Charles d’Albret, the Constable of France who was killed at the battle.
The picture is actually a portrait – a clear, colour, easily-recognizable-even-at-that-small-size portrait of Charles d’Albert, duc de Luynes. He was Constable of France, all right, but he was born in 1578 and died in 1621. He was Louis’s first favourite.
Sure, maybe a typo resulted in that picture being selected. But did nobody even look at the picture? Did nobody who works at a FUCKING HISTORY MAGAZINE know the difference between a 17th century man and a 15th century one? Did not one of them have a fucking clue about stuff so basic to their subject, let alone the matter of actually doing picture searches or checking what the fuck they typed?
Fucking incompetents.
Yes I have written to the editior, minus the swears.
@kittehserf
Maybe you should apply to be the editor or proof reader or something of said magazine. Clearly, you are better at it than those currently on staff.
And kitten video.
Zefrank has all the win! XD
I have been reading a lot about PTSD and I’ve come to the conclusion that I have it. My behavior is typical among those with PTSD, especially those who have PTSD as a result of abuse. Few other mental disabilities other than PTSD can account for my constant hypervigilance, my intractable self-loathing and feelings of guilt and shame, my nightmares of abuse (which have been occurring more and more often over time), my frequent anxiety attacks, my avoidant behaviors (I refuse to talk to my dad on the phone for any reason, I get anxiety attacks whenever I obsess about potentially interacting with abusers, etc.) and my overall detachment from people. Contrary to what some may assume, I have no problem considering myself to have PTSD. In fact, it’s comforting in a way because I feel like I can now gain a much clearer understanding of a large bulk of my mental illnesses.