Oh, David – I’m Canadian! We take things sloooooow and insist everyone else go ahead of us in line! I might be able to see a therapist in their private practice more quickly but I’m not in a great position to be paying for therapy.
I can speak to my psychiatrist and the therapist he works with who liaises between my shrink and the mental health organisation that will provide my therapy. The referral will be submitted as soon as my psychiatrist is satisfied with the meds and dosages he’s got me on (warning, TMI: hoooooooooooly, am I ever horny on these) and is confident in his assessment of what therapy I need to pursue. I’m OK in the meantime. I was a lot better BEFORE that person called me. I was more inclined to hurt them (which I would never do) than myself though.
I’m stuck between the concern I was being an impatient asshole with someone who was just trying to help me and I’m being too nice for not reporting the incident. I have no desire to get anyone in shit but “Hey guys, this is what happened and it discouraged me from pursuing therapy in general, with this person in particular” might provide some insight and opportunity for learning. I hate criticising people though. I’m already racked with guilt for having been as abrupt and aggressive as I was with that woman.
fruitloopsie
10 years ago
Ally s
My father is the same way, He’ll try to break you down emotionally making it that’s it all your fault so it’s easier to control you. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Don’t let him win and be there for your sisters so they wont let him win either. He’ll do whatever it takes to gain control over you.
Marinerachel — idk if you saw my complaints about meds psych from hell, and my lack of desire to report her, but I got a certified letter not long ago about her not being with the clinic. On one hand, w00t! On the other…other people must’ve filed complaints right? Would mine have made it happen faster? Point here is fuck the person being an ass, if you’re gonna worry, worry about the other the people they could hurt, not them.
And that is really ass. The only part of that that makes sense is ensuring that suicidal ideation =/= in danger. And that doesn’t require an inquisition!
Argh! Hopefully you can find somewhere less populated by assholes!
Ally — they probably aren’t going to be able to keep sister/brother she/he etc straight, and when one slip is all it takes, I really wouldn’t risk it. I don’t say this to discourage you, but because even pecunium uses the wrong pronouns for me on occasion, and he’s a grown ass adult. It’s one thing in his living room when an eye roll is the result, in front of your father though? And that’s with me consistently using ze, only person who’s successfully used ze with me personally, and gendered pronouns in front of my parents is LBT — who’s got a lot more practice than your sisters.
I wish you had sensible parents and your sisters could be all “we love our big sister!” and you could be all “I love you too! Who wants candy?” (Spoil ’em rotten and send ’em home, that’s my motto!)
Marie
10 years ago
@Ally
it made sense, Ally. And it sounds like you’ve been a good sister to your younger sisters.
I wish they could be in my care somehow. But I know I can’t possibly support anyone else right now, let alone provide them basic amenities and essentials. I’m so worried about them. I’m afraid of never hearing from them again. They are such sweet, adorable sisters. I can’t stand this.
::offering hugs, if wanted:: I don’t have any advice though 🙁
What if I gave my brother the letter, and he had them read it for themselves? That would minimize the risk of parents finding out.
As far as I can tell it work? But I’m not very knowledgeable here.
It looked like a good letter to me, Ally :3
I don’t know. Maybe I’m being selfish. I just desperately want to be out to them. I feel so horrible not being out to them
It’s not selfish to want to be out to them.
Marie
10 years ago
@marinerachel
I expect mental health professionals to maintain composure and work effectively when they hear someone experiences suicidal ideation. How is anyone supposed to seek help for the issue if they can’t trust the people who are supposed to be capable of assisting them with it to respond reasonably
Jedi hugs from me, if wanted. Sadly, there are way too many shitty mental health professionals out there.
They asked what I struggled with. I told them suicidal ideation. They flew off the handle. It became my job to defuse them.
Okay, taht person sounds super fucking shitty 🙁
I’m stuck between the concern I was being an impatient asshole with someone who was just trying to help me and I’m being too nice for not reporting the incident.
I don’t think you were being an impatient asshole. YOu can report the incident if you want (I definetly dont think it would be uncalled for). But I don’t think you need to if you don’t want to or it’d make you stressed.
But rambles. It took me a long time to learn that just because I tell someone I”m depressed doesn’t mean I want to have an hour long conversation about it. People should be able to mention that shit, especially when you’re just trying to schedule an appointment and someone asks without a long conversatoin about it.
We Hunted The Mammoth
Thanks, David, a new thread’s a great idea. 🙂
Pallygirl, whoot!
Oh, David – I’m Canadian! We take things sloooooow and insist everyone else go ahead of us in line! I might be able to see a therapist in their private practice more quickly but I’m not in a great position to be paying for therapy.
I can speak to my psychiatrist and the therapist he works with who liaises between my shrink and the mental health organisation that will provide my therapy. The referral will be submitted as soon as my psychiatrist is satisfied with the meds and dosages he’s got me on (warning, TMI: hoooooooooooly, am I ever horny on these) and is confident in his assessment of what therapy I need to pursue. I’m OK in the meantime. I was a lot better BEFORE that person called me. I was more inclined to hurt them (which I would never do) than myself though.
I’m stuck between the concern I was being an impatient asshole with someone who was just trying to help me and I’m being too nice for not reporting the incident. I have no desire to get anyone in shit but “Hey guys, this is what happened and it discouraged me from pursuing therapy in general, with this person in particular” might provide some insight and opportunity for learning. I hate criticising people though. I’m already racked with guilt for having been as abrupt and aggressive as I was with that woman.
Ally s
My father is the same way, He’ll try to break you down emotionally making it that’s it all your fault so it’s easier to control you. ITS NOT YOUR FAULT! Don’t let him win and be there for your sisters so they wont let him win either. He’ll do whatever it takes to gain control over you.
Marinerachel — idk if you saw my complaints about meds psych from hell, and my lack of desire to report her, but I got a certified letter not long ago about her not being with the clinic. On one hand, w00t! On the other…other people must’ve filed complaints right? Would mine have made it happen faster? Point here is fuck the person being an ass, if you’re gonna worry, worry about the other the people they could hurt, not them.
And that is really ass. The only part of that that makes sense is ensuring that suicidal ideation =/= in danger. And that doesn’t require an inquisition!
Argh! Hopefully you can find somewhere less populated by assholes!
Ally — they probably aren’t going to be able to keep sister/brother she/he etc straight, and when one slip is all it takes, I really wouldn’t risk it. I don’t say this to discourage you, but because even pecunium uses the wrong pronouns for me on occasion, and he’s a grown ass adult. It’s one thing in his living room when an eye roll is the result, in front of your father though? And that’s with me consistently using ze, only person who’s successfully used ze with me personally, and gendered pronouns in front of my parents is LBT — who’s got a lot more practice than your sisters.
I wish you had sensible parents and your sisters could be all “we love our big sister!” and you could be all “I love you too! Who wants candy?” (Spoil ’em rotten and send ’em home, that’s my motto!)
@Ally
it made sense, Ally. And it sounds like you’ve been a good sister to your younger sisters.
::offering hugs, if wanted:: I don’t have any advice though 🙁
As far as I can tell it work? But I’m not very knowledgeable here.
It looked like a good letter to me, Ally :3
It’s not selfish to want to be out to them.
@marinerachel
Jedi hugs from me, if wanted. Sadly, there are way too many shitty mental health professionals out there.
Okay, taht person sounds super fucking shitty 🙁
I don’t think you were being an impatient asshole. YOu can report the incident if you want (I definetly dont think it would be uncalled for). But I don’t think you need to if you don’t want to or it’d make you stressed.
But rambles. It took me a long time to learn that just because I tell someone I”m depressed doesn’t mean I want to have an hour long conversation about it. People should be able to mention that shit, especially when you’re just trying to schedule an appointment and someone asks without a long conversatoin about it.