If you missed my talk at Northwestern on the Friend Zone, and most of you did, I go over a lot of what I said in it in my interview with Amanda Marcotte here. My segment of the podcast starts about 8 minutes in. (The rest of the podcast is interesting, too.)
The one thing missing from the podcast that my talk had was … a gazillion terrible Friend Zone memes to illustrate all my points. So here are a couple of the ones I refer to in the interview.
racnad: It’s really half past fuck off o’clock for you. Go away, troll boy.
uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuugh
guys who violate people’s spaces and act like rapists people have known are shitty. If a woman thinks a guy is dangerous and avoids him, it is not her fault that he cannot get dates.
in fact, why are you so obbsessed with getting dates?
Abloobloobloo. Cry more. My mug is getting empty. I need more tears for the man hating ritual my coven is having this Esbat.
http://www.amazon.com/Funny-Coffee-Mug-Male-Tears/dp/B00I2U7JFE/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1400885089&sr=8-1&keywords=male+tears
Oh, is it assbackwards day? Someone really should have told me so that I could wear my underpants on my head in honor of trollboy’s deliberate cluelessness.
@Racnad
Wow those poor fucking babies. Their failed attempts got labled the friendzone by themselves, they’re the ones who wanted a word for when women don’t eat niceness coins and desposit sex coins.
We just make fun of them for it.
@fromafar
i need that mug…
@fromafar
I need that mug :p
Let me get my tiny violin…
@racnad
I think you just don’t like us challenging your views that men should take responsibility for their own actions.
RE: Marie
it’s not okay for gay men to make het men uncomftorable. That’s just obscene!
RE: racnad
But I’m not talking rape or rapists.
You were talking about abusers just a few posts ago, dude. Sexual abuse happened to be the dish du jour of my family. Or do I get to put them in a separate category because you can’t handle that?
they have trouble establishing consensual romantic relationships and describe their failed attempts at getting a girlfriend as a “friendzone.”
“Consensual romantic relationships.” As opposed to… what, exactly? Do you even SEE what you’re writing?
If it’s THEIR failed attempts, then they’re friendzoning themselves.
And you ain’t answered my question. I’m a gay man. Do I get to stare at your crotch and drool until you politely tell me to stop?
You see, Mammoths, I got grabbed and groped by a dude hanging outside my apartment complex not long ago. He was deaf, but obviously I should’ve just politely explained to him in my best writing that I did not want to be grabbed.
Or is it totally a different thing because I’m a dude? I’m sure I was just friendzoning him, refusing to give him a consensual romantic relationship there in the street…
Also, your beef with the friend zone is basically this:
A woman was raped or abused (as many are, as many as 1 in 5). Or lives in a society where sexual assault is a common danger.
Your boundary pushing behavior reminds her of the rapist or abuser, maybe even only a little. She chooses to avoid you as a result, just in case.
Poor you? What?
@LBT
I don’t know. We should wait for Racnad to rationally explain it. :p
Also, you quoted me and didn’t reply? Sorry I am confused
Rapists are ordinary guys, fuckwad. They aren’t a mystical species. They are just men who, like you, think women owe them access to their bodies. http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2009/11/12/meet-the-predators/
Educate yourself, you mewling sack of shit.
…and no, you aren’t challenging anything. You are upholding the status quo. That ain’t edgy. It ain’t smart. It’s just more smarmy, rape culture bullshit spew from the lips of one more clueless, entitles douchebag. You have no right to expect anything but derision. You’ve earned our contempt.
@LBT sorry you had to deal with that guy :/
There seems to be a pattern here.
1. Man does thing/invents idea
2. Women respond in an unfavorable manner.
3. Other man blames women for doing/inventing thing.
4. At some point he’s bound to claim that men are more logical than women, just for the extra irony points.
Racnad, go read CreepyPMs for numerous examples of men reacting badly to rejection.
http://www.reddit.com/r/creepyPMs/
I’ve heard the same from countless women. If there is a study out there I can find I’ll post a link.
@ everyone who likes the mug
Read the reviews. They’re hilarious. Even the 1 star one. ;D
We’ve just glossed over the fact that this jerk is acting as if women’s friendship is a punishment. Don’t we know we’re only good for one thing? How dare we decide who we do and don’t want to fuck? Don’t we know that makes Rancid sad in his pants?
*spit*
*sad trombone*
Rancid, don’t come here telling us you need women to teach you how to reproach women and then inform us (some of whom are women) what women are like. It’s condescending and it’s fucking stupid. Go eat your fedora.
friendzoners lament to the tune of angel by sarah mclachlan (some the syllables are off but i tried)
approach women…
Freudian slip?
RE: Marie
Also, you quoted me and didn’t reply?
Sorry, I borked it and forgot to respond. Basically, just the hypocrisy makes me snort. Yeah, straight boy, I’m sure you’d just LOVE me ogling you and expressing my appreciation of your nubile form. Uh huh.
RE: Fade
sorry you had to deal with that guy
It’s okay. He seems to have moved on. Now I have a NEW creeper to deal with at the local park! 😀 Thankfully, also easy to avoid.
@LBT
Eeps. Sucks you have a creeper, though I’m glad to hear you he’s easy to avoid.
LBT, sorry you’ve got a new creeper!
racnad, if you are genuinely looking for advice on how to do better with women, guess, what? You’re actually getting lots of very good advice and information from this thread. Or you would be if you actually listened to some of what people here are saying to you.
Aw, but Dave, then racnad would have to give up his little martyr complex! THINK OF HIS MARTYR COMPLEX DAVE.
Seriously, only straight boys would come up with this stupid idea that people not wanting to enter “consensual romantic relationships” with them is some personal grievance. Try being queer for a bit, dude, when 90% of your gender isn’t your fucking orientation!
Oy gevalt.