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How Melody Hensley is putting the bullies to shame

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Yesterday, a message arrived in my email inbox with the title “Are you happy to die a virgin,” a somewhat unusual question, I felt, not just because of its faulty premise but also because of its lack of the conventional question mark at the end. The email itself was equally blunt and illiterate:

You sound like a 40 y/o FAT VIRGIN living in a basement rotting away. Is manboobz.com your way of hide behind your own internal issues u refuse to face? Father issues???

Ah, here’s where the missing question mark went, along with some friends.

The sender appended a photo of an extremely obese Asian man at least 20 years my junior, mostly if not completely nude, along with the question (and I quote verbatim) “This this photo you??”

As hate mail goes, this isn’t particularly interesting and original. What got my attention was the sender: it came from the admin account at mensrightsmelbourne.com, an Australian Men’s Rights site taking much of its inspiration from Men’s Rights Edmonton (its website design) and A Voice for Men (its propaganda). So this wasn’t simply some anonymous internet troll sending me puerile hate mail: this is one of Australia’s most visible MRAs.

On the front page I noticed something else: A post with the title: “‘Twitter gave me PTSD’: Woman claims mean comments and ‘cyberstalking’ gave her an illness usually suffered by WAR VETERANS.”

The post – most of which is plagiarised directly from The Daily Mail, including the title itself – is an attack on Melody Hensley, a feminist and skeptic who is the Executive Director of Center for Inquiry in Washington DC. Hensley, who in the past suffered intense harassment from misogynists in the skeptic movement and other assorted assholes, is now facing a second wave of harassment as a result of saying publicly that the earlier harassment had given her Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder.

That’s right: she’s being harassed for saying that harassment so fucked up her life that it gave her PTSD.

While much of the most vicious harassment this time is coming, as it did last time, from the misogynist wing of the atheist/skeptic movement, MRAs are jumping on board as well.

The “argument” of Hensley’s enemies? That she couldn’t possibly have gotten PTSD from “mean words” online. Men’s Rights blogger The Native Canadian put it this way:

PTSD from being a feminist on the internet? Yeah I bet she wakes up screaming at night because of all the mean words! Must be hard going day to day with flash backs of your friends being called “femnazi’s” right in front of you! How ever do you handle life? Fucking disgraceful b****. Let’s see her tell that to someone who really knows what living with PTSD is like. …

I’m sorry but I am totally shocked, I don’t know what else to say, other than, is there nothing sacred to these cat lovers?

And that’s pretty much the argument all of them make: based on nothing but their own vague notion that PTSD is a serious thing that only happens to soldiers, they’ve decided she’s a lying “b****” who is trying to steal the sympathy that rightly belongs to men. (Never mind that her comments on Twitter about veterans suffering from PTSD are always respectful.)

As Hensley has made clear, she’s not claiming that a few mean tweets gave her PTSD. On a page she’s set up to help raise money for research into PTSD she notes:

In July of 2013 I publicly disclosed that I had been diagnosed by my psychiatrist with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) due to more than a year of online harassment and abuse. The abuse -including death and rape threats- occurred on numerous websites and via email, phone, online postings, images, and videos.

Is it possible for this sort of harassment to cause PTSD? Well, according to someone who knows a lot more about the subject than me or The Native Canadian or the dude at Men’s Rights Melbourne or the staff writers at The Daily Mail, the answer is a clear yes. Caleb W. Lack, a licensed clinical psychologist and psychology professor who writes a blog called Great Plains Skeptic, and who is an expert on anxiety disorders, writes in a recent post on the Hensley controversy that

Bullying has long been known to have a severe impact on mental health, particularly if the bullying is repeated and prolonged. While research has traditionally focused on youth (as briefly reviewed here), more recent work has examined it’s impact on adults. as well, particularly in the workplace. Research focusing specifically on cyberbullying has found very similar results to “traditional” bullying, in terms of increased risk of depression, suicide, and anxiety. In youth, around a third of bullying victims display quite high rates of PTSD symptoms and rates are perhaps even higher in adults who are bullied.

So, given what we know about PTSD, and given what we know about the effects of bullying (cyber and otherwise) on mental health, I think it’s relatively safe to say that “Yes, you can ‘get’ PTSD from Twitter.” One needs to be careful, though, to be specific about this: it’s the bullying and harassment that could lead to PTSD or PTSD symptoms (as well as depression, increased suicidality, and so on), not anything inherent to Twitter itself. Twitter and other forms of social media are just a new tool to use to bully and harass others, but the underlying mechanisms and the results are the same as if these interactions were face to face.

The internet isn’t somehow apart from the “real world.” It’s a part of it, and actions on the internet have real world consequences. Unfortunately, the internet seems to magnify the power of bullies. But it may also magnify the power of bullying victims to fight back.

Of course, the bullies don’t want to acknowledge that what they are doing is bullying. Indeed, many of the worst bullies in the skeptic and Men’s Rights movements consider themselves “activists” — even though the bulk of their “activism” may consist of nothing more than harassing individuals. That may be part of what is driving the widespread refusal to accept that online harassment can lead to real trauma, including PTSD.

And that may be why the guy at Men’s Rights Melbourne — that is, a guy who sent me a crude, bullying email calling me a “FAT VIRGIN” — felt the need to weigh in on the Hensley’s case, and to insinuate ( in one of the few portions of his post that wasn’t plagiarised) that she’s making it all up.

But on some level the bullies know that they’re bullies. There’s no question that the new wave of harassment against Hensley is driven by one of the central dynamics of bullying — offline and on. Bullies love to pounce on anyone who shows signs of vulnerability, and Hensley’s announcement that she suffers from PTSD is a sign that the first wave of bullying got to her.

Happily, that’s not the whole story. What really seems to infuriate Hensley’s enemies is that she’s not acting like they think a victim should. She’s not shutting up and going away. She’s back on Twitter and responding to critics, because doing so gives her a sense of control over her bullies. She’s taking power away from them.

On A Voice for Men, Dean Esmay tries his best, in a barely coherent post, to paint her as a “professional damsel in distress” who deserves to be distressed some more. But the tweets of hers he reposts aren’t very damsel-like; they’re blunt and direct and they call out bullies by name. And when she posts them she knows she has the support of a lot of people who are as disgusted by the bullies as she is.

And while the bullies fulminate, she’s raising money for PTSD research. Because she’s an actual fucking activist, not a bully with a Twitter account, or a website, or a YouTube channel.

EDIT: There has been a lot of really good stuff written about Hensley and PTSD, particularly on Freethought Blogs. Here are some links to interesting, useful, insightful posts.

How could Twitter possibly cause PTSD? by Stephanie Zwan, documents some of the harassment.

What Melody Hensley Has to Teach You About Professionalism, an older (2013) piece by Zvan

Your Uninformed and Incorrect Opinions About Psychology, by Miri Mogilevsky

A Voice for Me – AVfM and Thunderfoot on PTSD, by Avicenna

PTSD and Me(lody), by Avicenna

Feel free to post more links in the comments!

NOTE TO DRIVE-BY ASSHOLES: If you want to talk about what a liar you think Melody Hensley is, don’t bother trying to post comments here. I mean, you can if you want; it’s just that it takes me a lot less time to throw them in the trash than it does for you to write them.

 

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bluecat
bluecat
7 years ago

“Cat lovers” is an insult now? Good grief.

Xen
Xen
7 years ago

“I’m sorry but I am totally shocked, I don’t know what else to say, other than, is there nothing sacred to these cat lovers?”

Shocked? That PTSD can happen to anyone? Poooooor man. Also, the Egyptians were major cat lovers who could have kicked your sorry ass.

I like how these losers try to associate one animal with feminists then hate said animal. How immature and unscientific. I guess cats are “evil” to them. Nope, not how that works. You guys have the minds of a medieval peasants. Animals cannot be evil; they have no set morals to begin with.

But hey, you guys would try to argue with Caleb W. Lack on how this woman cannot have PTSD. Why bother explaining something to you that you’d probably not understand anyway?

AK
AK
7 years ago

I like how they always try to water it down to simply being called mean names on Twitter. No kidding no one gets PTSD from being called a feminazi a few times. But living in fear due to countless rape and death threats for a year or so? Yeah, that’ll do it.

AK
AK
7 years ago

Xen, I don’t think cats are evil to them so much as they’re not masculine pets (in these guys’ minds, anyway). So of course they’re the pets of lonely, bitter feminists who can’t get a man.

Xen
Xen
7 years ago

Yeah, it’s just I remember this discussion elsewhere on Manboobz

“I theorize that women like cats because they have to work for a cats attention. If anything, cats embody the dark triad. I have never seen a cat give a fuck, and from the field reports you guys post, you people give very few either.”

Dark triad? What? But I’m off topic here, sorry XD.

grumpycatisagirl
7 years ago

If only this horridness was limited to the manosphere. I’m seriously dismayed that even the mainstream attitude is to blast her for even daring to say she has PTSD. Sometimes people are horrible. 🙁

tamofironhooks
7 years ago

I’ve known people have PTSD from being in the forces, from childhood experiences… The clue is in the name: Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It doesn’t specify exactly what flavour the ‘traumatic stress’ has to be. *sigh*

grumpycatisagirl
7 years ago

Didn’t David once mention someone found this blog with the search term “men should not own cats?” Of all things. . . .

bluecat
bluecat
7 years ago

Sorry, my first post seems a bit trivial, set against the MRA hideousness. (I’ve just googled Melody Hensley and my goodness, the stack of abuse and diagnoses-at-a-distance. Kudos to you David if you can wade through it with your faith in humanity untarnished).

I don’t really feel able to engage with the ghastliness at the mo. Just that plangent “Is nothing sacred to these cat lovers?” amused the bathos-lover in me. Especially as Hensley is a skeptic. “Is there nothing sacred to these skeptics?” err, um…

chimisaur
chimisaur
7 years ago

It’s so nice to see people like Melody and you call them on their shit, David. They’re terrified of the loss of power that comes of being identified at the childish harassers that they are, which is why they’re resorting to attacks outside of public forum. Keep it up! They deserve to have their borderline illiteracy, ad minimum, exposed to the world and mocked.

Z
Z
7 years ago

BTW, Caleb Lack’s post is notable for another reason: that blog is on Skeptic Ink, a blog network that was started at least in part by people pissed off at Freethought Blogs and the (for the lack of a better term) “feminist” side of Elevatorgate and related controversies.

Viscaria
Viscaria
7 years ago

“The Native Canadian better not be some fucking white guy. There’s nothing on his site that makes it clear if he is or not.

leatapp
leatapp
7 years ago

Thanks for writing about this, David. Yes, this is the real world, just like phone calls and mail happen in the real world. Of course, these asshats know that the constant stream of threats, lies, bigotry and harassment is damaging to people. That’s why they do it.

Complaining about being treated that way shows that you haven’t been scared silent. It shows you don’t believe you deserve the abuse. It’s backtalk and they hate being sassed by their uppity targets, so they redouble there efforts.

If this is how they treat women online, how do you think they treat them in person? They aren’t afraid of women holding them back or abusing them. They’re afraid of us talking back. They are afraid of being held accountable. They’re afraid of being seen for the tragically stupid, tantruming, bitter, bigoted, abusive low lifes they are.

There is nothing wrong with being fat. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin or liking cats. There is nothing wrong with being unhappy. Happiness isn’t mandatory and the range of human emotions includes the ability to feel dissatisfied or to grieve over loss or injustice. There is nothing wrong with being poor or unable to live independently of family. None of those things suggest that a person is a bad person. None of those things should be considered shameful.

What is shameful is being so full of hate that you join in vicious efforts to make a traumatized person feel worse, all the while gaslighting them and clearly enjoying it.

AK
AK
7 years ago

@Xen, OMG I forgot about that “cats have dark triad traits” thing. That was hilarious. 😀

dustydeste
dustydeste
7 years ago

It always really bothers me how, when PTSD is brought up, it always goes straight to “MEN ONLY BECAUSE MANLY MAN SOLDIER DISEASE.” It’s just, argh, you know who get PTSD at high rates? Rape and abuse victims. Of whom there are a lot more than soldiers, I’m pretty sure.

Attitudes like this hinder compassion, diagnosis, and treatment for those who suffer from PTSD stemming from events that aren’t specifically serving in combat. It’s a tremendous disservice to sufferers, and the amount of callous disregard for the wellbeing of others that is involved in attempting to diminish and delegitimise what a victim of harassment has endured, while at the same time piling on more harassment, boggles my mind.

In other news, I need to remember what info I was using for my login, because I miss my kitty avatar D:

Miri
7 years ago

Thanks for writing about this. I’ve written two posts on it now, but it’s nice to see it get wider exposure. This whole thing is ridiculous and disgraceful and basically everything that’s wrong with both organized atheism and organized “men’s rights.” (I throw up a little in my mouth whenever I have to put those two words together.)

sparky
sparky
7 years ago

dustydeste:

Attitudes like this hinder compassion, diagnosis, and treatment for those who suffer from PTSD stemming from events that aren’t specifically serving in combat. It’s a tremendous disservice to sufferers, and the amount of callous disregard for the wellbeing of others that is involved in attempting to diminish and delegitimise what a victim of harassment has endured, while at the same time piling on more harassment, boggles my mind.

Yes, this.

Who the hell harrasses someone who has PTSD from online harassment? That’s like, taking a crowbar and beating on the cast of someone with a broken leg.

An the arrogance of those who think they know better about PTSD than Ms. Hensley’s psychiatrist and and Prof. Lack, the clinical psychologist.

These people disgust me. They are nothing but bullies.

Cinzia La Strega
7 years ago

My my, they’re not doing a very good job of making their victims shut up, are they? In fact, as you point out, being bullied seems to amplify the victims’ voices. Yay for Melody!

chimisaur
chimisaur
7 years ago

It always really bothers me how, when PTSD is brought up, it always goes straight to “MEN ONLY BECAUSE MANLY MAN SOLDIER DISEASE.” It’s just, argh, you know who get PTSD at high rates? Rape and abuse victims. Of whom there are a lot more than soldiers, I’m pretty sure.

Also they’re effectively erasing female soldiers, many of who’s experiences include those of rape, abuse, and PTSD. 🙁

historophilia
historophilia
7 years ago

Melody is a freakin’ trooper and this proves once again that MRA’s don’t actually care about vulnerable men (in this case soldiers with PTSD), they just want to use them as a stick to beat women with.

If they actually care so much about veterans with PTSD why aren’t they raising funds for them or boosting information about the symptoms of PTSD and resources for getting diagnosis or care?

MrFancyPants
MrFancyPants
7 years ago

As soon as I heard about this, I immediately donated to her PTSD research fund. The bullies and MRA’s are just shooting themselves in the feet on this, and it’s just going to get worse for them.

Luzbelitx
7 years ago

If they actually care so much about veterans with PTSD why aren’t they raising funds…

… like, you know, they very person they’re harassing!!

Ophelia Benson (@OpheliaBenson)

Yes, for some reason cats have become yet another handy code for hating women with. I didn’t know that until last year sometime when one of my many harassers commented on my blog to ask if I’d been eating too much cat food lately. Wut?

historophilia
historophilia
7 years ago

Or if they don’t want to donate to an icky woman’s fund raising efforts there are prominent men who campaign for awareness of PTSD in veterans, like Patrick Stewart.

Except he is a vocal campaigner against domestic violence against women who has openly acknowledged his privilege and uses it to great effetc and thus is probably a “mangina white-knight”.

ash serban
7 years ago

(They think men who treat women like humans will die virgins? This logic escapes me… Than again, nothing they’ve ever said has made sense.)

ash serban
7 years ago

Then*
My appologies

Buttercup Q. Skullpants

No matter what the disorder or trauma is, women are always assumed to have lesser versions of it. PTSD is Much More Serious Business for male veterans, and imaginary for female targets of rape/bullying/harrassment, who are obviously just making it up to get attention.

Then there’s childbirth, normally experienced by women, but Much More Serious Business for men. due to the high potential for scratches and unsuitable language in the delivery room. Women giving birth are no big deal biologically, so all the sympathy and bravery credits should go to the fathers. The Native Canadian would no doubt nod in agreement on this one. Feelings are only “outrageous and shocking” when women have them, you see.

Melody Hensley, and David, display remarkable grace and courage in calmly standing up to these bullies and exposing them for what they are. Sunlight is the best disinfectant.

weirwoodtreehugger
7 years ago

This from the same people who feel oppressed by women’s butts.

leftwingfox
7 years ago

The abusers lobby strikes again.

Avicenna Last
7 years ago

Actually the issue is not that. It’s very easy but not very healthy to compare PTSD triggers. People do not quite understand things about PTSD (Here’s my take on the issue as a sufferer of PTSD from warfare)

http://freethoughtblogs.com/amilliongods/2014/04/21/ptsd-and-melody

And me dealing with the Thunderfoot/AVfM tag team

http://freethoughtblogs.com/amilliongods/2014/04/22/a-voice-for-me-avfm-and-thunderfoot-on-ptsd/

The dialogue is what’s wrong.

Melody getting PTSD from Twitter Harassment is the issue. We know it’s due to harassment. These people think it’s due to Twitter rather than harassment. It is spin. So when people pass on the information it’s not “She was bullied” but “she saw some twets”. One’s a lot more understandable than the other.

pecunium
7 years ago

I’ve been bullied (offline, and on). It sucks. The sense of dread when one sees the inbox has a sudden influx of mail… It’s taken some toll, there are times I don’t want to speak out, when I use a burner account to make comments (so that the sorts who will bully can’t get to me directly).

So I have no doubt she could be suffering PTSD as a result. One of the things which makes it easier to speak my mind is knowing there are people who will cover me, and provide some support (even if I’m wrong; not that they will support my errors, but they will point out that bullying, in response to error, is bullshit).

These yahoos know they are being abusive. I think they see the ability to do so slipping from their grasp. It’s not that they think “online” isn’t real (they gain too much pleasure from using the net to actually believe that), but the rest of the world seems to be catching on to this, and starting to call them on their shit (even to the point of it, “getting real” enough to land some of them in jail).

They are, of course, quick to say, “hey that’s not fair” (e.g. Jezebel not redacting names in the Epsilon Iota mess at American University) when the “bullying” is against one of their fellow travellers.

But bullies have ever been hypocrites.

Angela Gibbons
7 years ago

I like that you used Thunderf00t as your example of a YouTube bully. I hadn’t thought of him as a bully, and now I’m questioning why, since he fits the definition perfectly.

I have also wondered why manboobz doesn’t cover his misogynistic crap more often?

Alan Boyle (@SkepticalNumber)

As a sufferer of mental illness and someone that has followed organized skepticism for the last 12 years or so, this stuff makes me really, really mad. I made the mistake of reading some comments about this (on the Caleb Lack post and elsewhere) and the “she doesn’t really have PTSD because x, she’s just weak” rhetoric is very similar to the “depression is all in your head, snap out of it, you’re just being lazy/weak” attitude that makes that particular condition much harder to deal with.

Yet there are plenty of “skeptics” playing at armchair psychology over there. They’re acting like anti-vaxxers, because their argument is equivalent to “that child doesn’t have autism because he’s not been vaccinated and I don’t care what his doctor says.” Yet if confronted with that, I can bet they’d be all yelling about science and evidence. When the science and evidence is against them, though, they’re happy to throw it out the window and argue like a snake oil salesman.

Skepticism is supposed to be about critical thinking and rationality, and these people like to employ the rhetoric up until such time it interferes with them being reprehensible, women-hating, victim-blaming scumbags. Urgh.

Alan Boyle (@SkepticalNumber)

I have also wondered why manboobz doesn’t cover his misogynistic crap more often?

I tried watching a thunderf00t video once. It was a response to something by Anita Sarkeesian. The smug, hateful, creepy voice combined with the utter nonsense meant I didn’t get more than about 3 minutes in. I personally can’t fault David in the slightest for not watching those.

cloudiah
7 years ago

Dean Esmay’s comment on his own post:

It took a long time for me to realize that this was indeed the essence of it–that those on the other end of this thing are either stupid or know full well what is going on and will just use anything you offer them, at all, as a stick to beat you with.

The lack of self-awareness is truly astonishing. Someone should write an article about him for a psychology journal.

opium4themasses
opium4themasses
7 years ago

If the law is on your side pound the law. If the facts are on your side, pound the facts. If neither is on your side, pound your keyboard.

The MRM has plenty of flat keyboards by now.

(Apologies for the appropriated quote/saying)

weirwoodtreehugger
7 years ago

It is very gross to see MRAs appropriating veteran’s issues. What they hell do any of these guys do for vets? Are they donating to organizations that assist veteran’s with disabilities and/or PTSD? Are they lobbying for increased funding for PTSD treatments at the VA? Probably not. But hey, it makes a useful cudgel against a woman they don’t like. That surely counts as activism!

I worked as a contractor for the VA for years. IME most people don’t give a fuck about veterans unless they want to use them as a propaganda tool for the military-industrial complex. Looking too hard at the effects of war gets in the way of war cheerleading. It’s cheap and gross and it’s no surprise that the MRA is doing the same thing.

FortyTwoRose
FortyTwoRose
7 years ago

Maybe trigger? Rape/PTSD

I was raped as a teenager and was recently diagnosed with PTSD because of it, almost 20 years after the event. It means more than I can say when people like you, and your followers stand up for people like me.

Living as a rape victim, when you didn’t think what happened was rape, when you blame yourself, and when you jump out of your skin whenever someone even says the word – let alone jokes about it is hard. I was also a virgin before it happened and have not been intimate with anyone since. Virginity is something I would never make fun of. What is with these people?

It feels like a form of terrorism and I hate that I don’t have the courage to advocate about this under my own name. The fact that you mock these guys so I can begin to see them as less boogeymen than just assholes is helping me heal. Thanks y’all.

Also hi, long time lurker, first time poster. I hope to be able to write something more fun next time. 😉

Rose

AIT
AIT
7 years ago

Thank you, David! I know you’re not the first, but it’s really refreshing to hear people call this shit out for what it really is. Bullying. It’s a bunch of grown children who can’t stop bullying others.

Also, if you wanted, perhaps I could provide transcripts of Thunderfoot or other videos for you. That way it could still get covered and you don’t have to let your ears be poisoned. I know I haven’t been contributing much as far as comments lately, as life has been relentlessly busy, but my schedule has shifted a bit now, so I’d have a little time to do a video transcript for you now and then.

LBT
LBT
7 years ago

RE: grumpycatisagirl

I’m seriously dismayed that even the mainstream attitude is to blast her for even daring to say she has PTSD.

I’m not really surprised, but I’ve been out as mentally ill on the Internet for years. People really, REALLY flip their shit when we refuse to just shut up and stop daring to exist.

Seriously the “trauma needs to be THIS AWFUL to be real” meme needs to die. It took me until like, last month to realize that my Raping Year would be considered major trauma by a lot of people–I always assumed it was bupkis, because I was raised on DID memoirs. (Trust me, a year of rape is considered peanuts in those things.)

RE: dustydeste

It’s a tremendous disservice to sufferers, and the amount of callous disregard for the wellbeing of others that is involved in attempting to diminish and delegitimise what a victim of harassment has endured, while at the same time piling on more harassment, boggles my mind.

What? MRAs, using mental illness and trauma as a pissing contest instead of actually trying to help someone? This totally up-ends my understanding of how they do business! I am shocked! SHOCKED!

RE: sparky

Who the hell harrasses someone who has PTSD from online harassment? That’s like, taking a crowbar and beating on the cast of someone with a broken leg.

Well, isn’t that the classic behavior of assholes? “Why are you crying? I’LL GIVE YOU SOMETHING TO CRY ABOUT.”

cloudiah
7 years ago

Hi Rose! Hugs if you want them. I hope you’re getting support and care away from keyboard, and you can always lean on us here too. Here’s a welcome package for you.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

I didn’t know that until last year sometime when one of my many harassers commented on my blog to ask if I’d been eating too much cat food lately. Wut?

What a perfect illustration of how “activism” in the MRM sense works. It’s a game of angry, juvenile mad libs where you throw together as many sexist memes as you can cram into the comment box provided, and top them off with uncreative swearing and tragically creative grammar and punctuation.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
7 years ago

(Hugs Rose)

katz
7 years ago

I’m not really surprised, but I’ve been out as mentally ill on the Internet for years. People really, REALLY flip their shit when we refuse to just shut up and stop daring to exist.

Not to mention the “you’re mentally ill, therefore your perceptions of reality are wrong, therefore you’re no longer allowed to have an opinion on any topic, ever” aspect.

LBT
LBT
7 years ago

RE: katz

Not to mention the “you’re mentally ill, therefore your perceptions of reality are wrong, therefore you’re no longer allowed to have an opinion on any topic, ever” aspect.

YUP! People don’t seem to realize that there’s a spectrum. For instance, I walk around aware that my memory will distort and censor upsetting material, that my understanding of reality is unorthodox at best, and people will still ask my advice, because I’m accustomed to dealing with these things and apparently still have a chunk of common sense.

I have many opinions. Let me show you them. *snrk*

AIT
AIT
7 years ago

Email sent!

Like I said, sorry I’ve been lame on commenting here lately. I have been lurking though. Can’t wait to see the WHTM revamp!

Rose:

Wow. nthing offers of hugs, support, and kittehs.

Lady Mondegreen
7 years ago

Thanks for covering this, David.

I just want to add that it’s not a secret that Melody grew up in foster care and is also a rape survivor.

Not that bullying, including cyber-bullying, isn’t BY ITSELF traumatic enough to cause PTSD. But in their pathetic attempts to rationalize and justify their abuse, these assholes are calling her “privileged” and assuming that she doesn’t have any other trauma in her background.

(Hey, what’s unskeptical about making assumptions without evidence?)

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