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Phyllis Schlafly channels the manosphere with a column about female "hypergamy."

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Professional antifeminist Phyllis Schlafly – perhaps best known for her fervent opposition to the Equal Rights Amendment – seems to have been channeling the manosphere in a column she published yesterday on the issue of “paycheck fairness.” Turns out she thinks such fairness is actually a bad idea, because ladies love marrying rich guys more than they love earning money.

According to Schlafly, equal pay messes with the fundamental female desire for “hypergamy” – that favorite manosphere buzzword – and undermines marriage:

[H]ypergamy … means that women typically choose a mate (husband or boyfriend) who earns more than she does. Men don’t have the same preference for a higher-earning mate.

While women prefer to HAVE a higher-earning partner, men generally prefer to BE the higher-earning partner in a relationship. This simple but profound difference between the sexes has powerful consequences for the so-called pay gap.

Suppose the pay gap between men and women were magically eliminated. If that happened, simple arithmetic suggests that half of women would be unable to find what they regard as a suitable mate.

Indeed, Schlafly argues, women love marrying men who earn more than them so much that when the pay gap is eliminated some of them just won’t marry at all. Which is apparently the end of the world, or something.

The pay gap between men and women is not all bad because it helps to promote and sustain marriages. …

In two segments of our population, the pay gap has virtually ceased to exist. In the African-American community and in the millennial generation (ages 18 to 32), women earn about the same as men, if not more.

It just so happens that those are the two segments of our population in which the rate of marriage has fallen the most. Fifty years ago, about 80 percent of Americans were married by age 30; today, less than 50 percent are.

So it’s not enough that most people end up getting married; civilization will crumble if more than half of them don’t marry before the age of 30!

And so, she suggests, if American women knew what was good for them they would be begging for employers pay them even less, relative to men.

The best way to improve economic prospects for women is to improve job prospects for the men in their lives, even if that means increasing the so-called pay gap.

Hmm. Correct me if I’m wrong, but I’m pretty sure that Schlafly – a best-selling author and popular speaker on the right – didn’t send back any of her royalties or speaking fees so that she would feel more like a woman and her late husband would feel like more of a man, and I doubt she’s doing so now, as a widow. She’s also been unmarried for more than twenty years. Coincidence?

NOTE TO MEN’S RIGHTS ACTIVISTS: When you find yourself agreeing with Phyllis Schlafly on pretty much anything (beyond, say, the existence of gravity, the need for human beings to breathe air, and other widely accepted beliefs of this sort), this is an indication that perhaps your movement isn’t the progressive, egalitarian movement that you like to pretend that it is, and that in fact it is sort of the opposite.

That said, I should also note that Schlafly’s notion of “hypergamy,” while sexist and silly, is decidedly less obnoxious than the version peddled by PUAs and websites like A Voice for Men — congrats, Men’s Human Rights Activists, you’re actually worse than Phyllis Schlafly!

She just uses the term to indicate a desire to marry up. For many manospherians, by contrast, “hypergamy” doesn’t just mean marrying up; it means that women are fickle, unfaithful monsters who love nothing better than cuckolding beta males in order to jump into bed with whatever alpha male wanders into their field of vision. (I’m guessing Schlafly hasn’t actually been going through the archives at AVFM or Chateau Heartiste looking for column ideas.) While many MRAs love to complain about hypergamy, many of them also seem to think that it’s unfair that “beta” males with good jobs aren’t automatically entitled to hot wives.

In case anyone is wondering, the actual definition of the word “hypergamy” involves none of that. According to Random House Kernerman Webster’s College Dictionary, the word means “marriage to a person of a social status higher than one’s own; orig., esp. in India, the custom of allowing a woman to marry only into her own or a higher social group.”

That’s it. It refers to the fact of marrying up, not to the desire to marry up, much less to the alleged desire of all twentysomething women to ride the Alpha Asshole Cock Carousel. The manosphere’s new and not-so-improved definition came from a white nationalist named F. Roger Devlin.

ANOTHER NOTE: Big thanks to the people who emailed me about this story. If you ever see something you think would make for a good Man Boobz post, send me an email at futrelle [at] manboobz.com. I get a lot of ideas from tips!

 

 

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leftwingfox
10 years ago

leatapp: I think the name is pretty irrevocably tarnished, between her own nonsense, and her son Andrew founding Conservapedia.

(Bourbon Barrel Ale sounds awesome though)

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

The pay gap between men and women is not all bad because it helps to promote and sustain abusive marriages.

Fixed that for ya, Phyll.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Shit. Blockquote Monster ate my formatting. Let’s try this again:

“The pay gap between men and women is not all bad because it helps to promote and sustain abusive and/or loveless marriages.”

Fixed that for ya, Phyll.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Okay, this thing does not recognize strikethroughs. “Not all” should be crossed out. Fuck you, WordPress!

Ally S
10 years ago

Everyone, check out JtO’s new groundbreaking and totally not hypocritical article on rape culture: http://www.donotlink.com/gt_

leftwingfox
10 years ago

Bina: Try using the “del” as the tag. And struck

Myoo
Myoo
10 years ago

@Ally S
Ah yes, another example of MRAs using social justice terms without having the faintest clue what they actually mean.

leatapp
leatapp
10 years ago

leftwingfox,
It’s a heavy, sweetish beer. You can definitely taste the bourbon flavor. I only get it once a year and it’s at a summer festival. It goes great with heavy fair foods, like pork chop sandwiches and BBQ.

weirwoodtreehugger
10 years ago

Ally,
I’m sure if we stop talking about his penis and what he does it with it, he’ll return the favor by never participating in any conservations about women’s bodies and what we do/should do with them. Right? Right?

Falconer
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty: Oh man, I hadn’t been paying much attention to the ferry sinking.

The whole thing sounds horrible. If that captain did lock those doors, he deserves all the jail time. What. the. hell.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Falconer

The crew also ordered a bunch of passengers to stay in their seats, which seems to have been a major contributing factor to the death toll. The most awful part, though, is reading the texts that the kids sent their parents as the ship was tipping. Seriously, don’t, unless you want to start your day crying.

tealily
tealily
10 years ago

Schlafly and the MRAs grossly overestimate what they think they know about gender roles and what women want. Traditional gender roles were instituted a very long time ago with roughly half the population not getting a vote on how things were going to be because through most of human history, might always meant right. If women really wanted to be dominated without the ability to make money, or to make less money, and “led” by some legend-in-his-own-mind control freak, they wouldn’t have hopped on the horse-pulled wagon with the equal rights signs. So Schlafly et al can stuff what they think women want where the sun don’t shine. For them, it’s all about what THEY want women to want.

Schlafly is a female misogynist who wants other women to do as she says and not as she does, no more and no less. She won’t be around forever and neither will the older MRAs who can remember a time when women were little more than chattel. I predict that equal rights for everyone will take a giant leap forward at that time.

DM
DM
10 years ago

Men are like this, and women are like THIS. When your thoughts on gender issues reflect hackneyed 80s stand-up routines, its a good time for some self-reflection.

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

That JtO piece just made my opinion of him and AVforM sink lower. It’s boggling that they can keep making it sink lower after the number of times they’ve hit (seemingly) rock bottom.

lkeke35
10 years ago

I’m just puzzled about why anyone would listen to anything that woman or that 700 Club mouthpiece would have to say. As a WoC, there’s not one d*** thing either one of these people can tell me about my life and/or how it shoud be led.

Not one thing.

tealily
tealily
10 years ago

Also, it’s amazing how much MRAs can tolerate an old woman when she’s telling them what they want to hear. 😀

cloudiah
10 years ago

reports that he had his staff lock some of the kids in their cabins so that the crew could escape more easily

Wat.

Luzbelitx
10 years ago

For them, it’s all about what THEY want women to want.

Nailed it, tealily!

Falconer
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty: I remember reading/listening to voice mail messages and phone calls from 9/11. They made me horribly sad and then I felt like a vulture, an intruder, a peeping tom for reading/listening.

So no, I know enough to stay away from those text messages.

I think I will hug my babies extra tonight.

Lids
10 years ago

No, I can’t think of a single reason women should want to be paid equally to men, or any reason why women shouldn’t get married straight out of high school /sarcasm.

Honestly, Schlafly is the biggest hypocrite of them all. for the reasons many of you stated above. Oh, it’s fine for her to make more than her (now deceased) husband, but the rest of us shouldn’t, no siree, women making less than their husband (which they must have by 30 or No One Will Want Them) is for OTHER women.

Aside from her quoting the same kind of garbage the MRM likes, I can see why they like her, what with them being just as hypocritical as her.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Also, it’s amazing how much MRAs can tolerate an old woman when she’s telling them what they want to hear.

…even if she did hit the wall a hundred years ago, by their (dim) lights.

PS: that ferry sinking reminds me of the Triangle factory fire, from all I’ve heard so far.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

Well, between the South Korean ferry disaster and Jon the Odder Otter babbling about his penis (shudder), I need some cute. Anyone else?

Love this kitty:


http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=v71Dtj2W7pw

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

@ Falconer

I made the mistake of clicking one of the links and the first thing I saw was a message saying “mom, please tell them that we’re still alive in here and to come get us”. At that point I decided not to read any more – like you said, too private.

Also, media is saying that it may have been one of the parents who called in the coast guard rather than the ship’s crew. WTF, people running that ship?

Falconer
10 years ago

@cassandrakitty: Okay, time for me to peace out and spend an afternoon on the lighter side of the Internets, I think.

The whole ferry thing is horrible and if anyone intentionally did anything that led or contributed to the death toll, fuck them.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Yeah, I’m going to go hug my cat until she gets annoyed with me and runs away.