Yesterday, several days after the twentieth anniversary of Kurt Cobain’s suicide, A Voice for Men took a moment to honor the brilliant musician who tragically ended his life at the age of only 27.
Well, not exactly. What they actually did was run a terrible poem using the anniversary of Cobain’s death as an excuse to launch an extended attack on the supposed evils of feminism.
Here’s the opening:
Feminists killed Kurt Cobain
Men my age are all the same
They hate themselves & feel ashamed
For what they are & cannot change
It gets worse. The poem, written by a YouTube MRA calling himself Laudanum Byron, continues on for another 104 lines after this. Only 13 refer to Cobain, and five of these are simply repetitions of the opening accusation: “feminists killed Kurt Cobain.”
The rest of the poem consists of an assortment of Men’s Rights talking points sketched out in the most melodramatic manner possible.
Men chastised, demonized,
Healthy males pathologized
A man is just a dirty ape
Longing, lust, desire: all rape
Your body is a loaded gun
And all that it has done is wrong
Like all too many MRAs, Mr. Byron lets his anger at women get the better of his logic. In the following lines, for example, he lashes out at women both for living off of the earnings of men — and for earning money of their own.
Now the girls get told get what you can
After all, he’s just a man
You’re right to think it’s right to take
Yes you go girl, you make him pay
The girls get taught they must get on
Like work empowered anyone:
To sell your life for dollar bills
Taking calls & stacking shelves
In offices & factories
Fulfilment sought in drudgery
Mr. Byron – no relation, one presumes, to the actual Byron – seems to have only a rudimentary notion of what a poem actually is. While most, though not all, of his lines scan, he has persistent troubles with the concept of rhyme, with his aabb and aabbcc rhyme schemes dominated by half-rhymes and quarter-rhymes and, well, the words have some similar sounds in them.
“Bills” and “shelves” don’t rhyme, or half-rhyme, despite both ending in the letter “s.” “Take” and “pay” aren’t even remotely close.
Admittedly, “chivalry” is a tough one to rhyme. But surely one can do better than “steeds.”
White knights, on their hobbled steeds
Still cling to laws of chivalry
Passed over by the queens they save
A joke to all the other slaves
When he pulls off an actual rhyme, it comes a surprise:
All of us the sons of Cain
Feminists killed Kurt Cobain.
But while we’re on the topic, it’s worth pointing out that feminists and/or feminism did not actually kill Kurt Cobain. (Nor did anyone else; the conspiracy theories suggesting he was murdered don’t make a lot of sense.)
Byron’s only “evidence” linking feminism to the suicide?
He screamed onstage & pierced his flesh
Put on make-up, wore a dress
Look, nobody knows for sure the reason or reasons Cobain took his own life, but he was a troubled man with a history of suicide attempts. He suffered from depression and from a painful, persistent stomach ailment. He was addicted to heroin. And as his suicide note made clear, he found the fame he had achieved to be something of an intolerable burden; he felt like a fake. Like a lot of suicides, Cobain’s could be seen as psychologically overdetermined; it could have been caused by any or all of these things.
Using his suicide to score cheap rhetorical points against feminism is not only dishonest but highly disrespectful to his memory.
To top off this gigantic platter of disrespect, whoever wrote the headline on AVFM didn’t even bother to spell Cobain’s first name correctly. It’s Kurt, with a K.
Below, “Byron’s” own reading of his poem. If you can’t bear listening to it — I only made it a couple of stanzas in before I had to shut it off — you can make your way to AVFM, or to YouTube, to read the rest. I feel safe in saying that Kurt, who considered himself a feminist, would have hated it, and A Voice for Men as well.
Ugh, if the “Courtney killed Kurt” brigade doesn’t come out of the woodwork, I’d be amazed.
MRAs KILLED MR. ROGERS
A poem by tesformes
MRAs killed Mr. Rogers
They stabbed him in the eye
The media said it was stomach cancer
But we know that’s a lie
They killed him for his message
And nailed him on a cross
For telling all the childrens
That they aren’t worthless cretins
Women my age hate themselves
They try to starve their bodies
They think that catabolysis
Will make them into hotties
And if a guy says something
That isn’t dumb and hateful
They call him a mangina
Or a white knight with no game, yo
The evidence is everywhere
It’s sitting on the shelves
MRAs hate anyone
who tells girls to love themselves
They don’t think girls should ride the train
Or watch the LA Dodgers
Or damn near anything they want to do
MRAs killed Mr. Rogers
And here’s another thing: He seems pissed off that women are supposedly hooking men to steal their money-yet at the same time he’s mad women are working. So…women are supposed to rely on the government? Oh, wait, no, we’re not. So…women are supposed to have no money whatsoever? Yeah, I don’t go to my job ’cause I like it. I go ’cause I gots to make the mun-nay. ‘Cause you know, I can’t suck all my money out of my boyfriend.
No one will notice. Is just me. She was much more visible. But maybe if more people say it, people will at least think about it before they do it.
The man is obviously suffering, like a lot of the men in the Men’s Rights Movement.
Maybe we should have some compassion instead of more hate.
Sorry, tesformes, you rhymed “Dodgers” with “Rogers”. You are in far too good of form.
Please don’t use “crazy.” Thank you.
I had a friend back in the day who heard the Nirvana demo and they said, “Sounds like Skin Yard, but with less talent.” They freely admitted it was good thing their opinion had no impact on Nirvana being signed.
I figured rhyming “childrens” and “cretins” would make up for it, especially since “childrens” isn’t a real word.
I wrote a poem the other day about my love of ushankas and even that was better than the Kurt Cobain poem.
Zach: why should I have compassion for someone who doesn’t think I’m fully human?
True, and I also appreciate “hateful” and “yo,” but then you go and rhyme “bodies” with “hotties.” Your cleverness keeps seeping through.
That’s worse than most of the high school poetry I’ve read, and I edited our high school literary magazine, which meant reading a lot of execrable poetry.
Kurt Cobain was married to Courtney Love, the opposite of a shrinking violet wife if ever there was one. He completely supported her independent music career. Does that sound like the asshats at AVFM? Not much.
Zach, you’re not on the ‘oh, pity the suffering racist/misogynist/homophobe/other bigot’ track are you?
Such blatant hatred doesn’t deserve compassion. It deserved to be told that it’s unacceptable, that it won’t be tolerated, and that expecting compassion from the people that are being targeted is ridiculous.
Well, Zach, it seems you’re a dude. (If I’m wrong about that, I apologize.) If so, you’re free to have compassion for them; you’re not their target. We are. So how about hold off on telling us to be compassionate towards people who think we aren’t people and who would enjoy and encourage all sorts of violence directed at us?
To be fair, you don’t have to rhyme exactly to make a good poem, and slant-rhymes are often used for artistic purpose: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Half_rhyme
Yes I like to write the occasional. I get it from my Dad. 🙂
That being said, the content of the poem is still disgusting, even if his rhyming of “steeds” with “chivalry” isn’t really criticism-worthy.
Looks like the panel discussion at Jaclyn’s event is descending into chaos with AVFMers grilling her about Adele Mercier and trying to derail the discussion:
https://twitter.com/search?q=%20%23QUfeminism&src=typd&f=realtime
I used to write poetry (even got published in an e-zine once) but it was always free verse, ‘cos I knew I couldn’t rhyme for quids.
Zach, why do you assume that scorn and mockery are the same thing as hatred? I haven’t seen any hatred expressed toward the misogynist who wrote this *cough*poem*cough*. Plenty hatred to be seen coming from him, though.
Seconding kittehserf. Hatred should not be met with hatred, no. But mockery, yes, bring out the heavy artillery.
Lord Byron is WAAAAAAAAAY overrated. But this shite makes everything he ever wrote look brilliant.
I was working a shitty, dead end job out in California when a coworker, the only other person in the department who was around my age and female, came out of the lunchroom with tears just streaming down her face and told me Kurt Cobain was dead. I didn’t know her particularly well, but we stood there and hugged each other in the middle of the building while other workers and customers looked at us like we were crazy. One of the older men there snickered at us, and I said “Oh yeah, like you didn’t sob like a bitch over Elvis, tough guy.” He went away from there.
One of the things I always admired about Kurt Cobain was his feminism, which was very direct. He was definitely not subtle about it, and he was also not general about it. He was specific, and intelligent, and it was a delight to me. And it still is. And no MRA ever gets to take that away, especially with some of the worst writing I’ve ever managed to somewhat kind of read. That kind of “poetry” just throws into high relief how exactly the opposite of these dudebros Kurt Cobain really was.
(Well, maybe chaos is too strong a word. Event has wrapped up.)
Is there any reason to believe Adele Mercier was the one who made those comments other than someone using her name on a newspaper website? Isn’t it kind of convenient that a random feminist, decided to go on a newspaper’s website and, using her own name, start trivializing child abuse by women? This sounds like something out of a list of MRA talking points, and the only things I can find on the incident are from genderratic and AVFM. What the hell is happening here?
Yeah, would be Byrons are usually terrible. Anybody who watched Babylon 5 back in the day knows what I mean 😉
As someone who’s dealt with her fair share of emotional turmoil (of course, *women* with mental problems don’t deserve compassion, eh MRAs?), when I read about everything Kurt went through in his life I’m surprised he made it as far as 27. Feminism wasn’t what killed him; it was the natural result of his sensitivity (IMHO of course).
David:
It looks like AVFM attempts to disrupt succeeded. On the bright side, they swore up and down beforehand they’d show feminists how to respectfully attend an event…not so much, apparently.
Some lowlights from the #QUFeminism Twitter feed:
Hey David, are you going to do an open thread for this month?
And here I was thinking that I’d never try poetry because I thought I’d be no good at it (as well as having little to no interest in such activities). I would at least have tried to paint a reasonably accurate picture of my subject – and there lies the difficulty.
The world has lost nothing by the absence of any efforts of mine. And it would be a far, far better place if clowns like this would give up after the first 5 minutes of their “effort”.