You may remember the embarrassing spectacle a couple of months back when Warren Farrell asked the readers of A Voice for Men to help him pick out a cover picture for a new ebook version of The Myth of Male Power, the 21-year-old crackpot bestseller that more or less provided the, er, intellectual foundation for todayโs Menโs Rights movement.
It wasnโt just embarrassing because AVFM is a noxious hate site that regularly calls women c*nts and whores and helps to organize informal campaigns of harassment directed at individual women. It was also embarrassing because all three of the pictures were sexualized images focusing on specific female body parts. You can guess which three, and youโd be right: tits, ass, and vagina (the latter tastefully covered in a merkin made of moss).
Well, Farrell ended up rejecting all of these images in favor of … a different picture of a womanโs butt. Yep, the screenshot above features the actual cover of the recently released ebook version of The Myth of Male Power. (You can see it in its full sized-glory over on Amazon.)
The implicit message of the cover couldnโt be clearer: men may seem to run the world, but women can control and exploit them through the power of their sexuality. Male power is undercut by … butt power.
Am I reading too much into a cover image? Farrell doesnโt really believe this nonsense, does he?
Well, in the introduction to the ebook, Farrell writes:
In case youโre wondering, โgenetic celebrityโ is Farrellโs term of art for any attractive woman.
But golly, you say, the fact that a dude feels โpowerlessโ because he canโt have sex with every woman with a nice butt that happens to wander across his field of vision doesnโt actually mean that men are powerless or that male power is a myth. Well, Farrell has an answer to this as well. And by โanswerโ I mean, well, whatever this is:
Got that? I’m not sure there’s anything there to get; it’s nothing more than hand-waving to distract attention from the nonsensical nature of his previous statements. In case any Men’s Rights activist ever brings Warren Farrell up as an example of a respectable, “academic” MRA, you may wish to point out that almost nothing Farrell writes ever actually makes any fucking sense.
In the book itself, Farrell repeatedly suggested that male power can be undone almost completely by the sexual power of women. In one oft-quoted passage, he wrote about the effect that a โsecretary’s miniskirt power, cleavage power and flirtation powerโ allegedly has on their male bosses. (Myth of Male Power, p. 21)
While that statement has earned a certain notoriety for its sheer ridiculousness, Farrell went further elsewhere in the book, essentially arguing that men are as addicted to female โbeautyโ as drug addicts are to the drug of their choice — and as helpless.
โSexually, of course, the sexes arenโt equal,โ Farrell wrote. โ[M]any men feel โunder the influence the moment they see a beautiful woman.โ (p. 320, emphasis in original.)
This sort of temporary โintoxication,โ Farrell argued, leads men into shackling themselves to these temporarily sexy tyrants for the rest of their lives — thus agreeing to support them (he suggested implicitly) even after they get old and ugly. (p. 85.)
In Farrellโs original book, this โargument,โ such as it is, was merely one of many that he thought undercut the alleged โmyth of male power.โ Now, with the butt on the cover, heโs put it front and center. Or, more precisely, rear and center.
Warren Farrell, youโre an ass, man.
Oh, awkward segue here, I just wanted to show off the cover to the new edition of my classic book, The Myth of Human Power.
It will soon be available for one million dollars in cash in unmarked bills, upon delivery of which I will sit down and write it for you. It will probably be pretty short and not very convincing.
And there you have it, the order of words says what he’s really pissed off about. It’s not even the potential violence sex workers face, it’s the oh noes what about teh menz, and blaming sex workers for the violence against them.
Same old, same old. If a woman is sexually available to any given man (as sex work or not) she’s blameworthy and his violence is her fault. If she’s not available to any given man, she’s blameworthy and his violence is her fault.
Piss off budget troll, we’ve heard it all before.
What makes you think male sex workers don’t cater for women? I’ve read interviews with guys who specifically mention that yes, the women who hire them do like conversation, and these guys provide it as well as attentive sex.
These are not bad things, you titty-baby. Don’t blame women because your life sucks. That’s on you.
Are you kidding me? GTFO. Take your victim-blaming, anti-sex-worker nonsense elsewhere – and preferably stop being terrible in general.
Budmin is banned for his comments about hookergal. Fuck you, asshole.
Sorry I didn’t do it sooner; I was off the internet and only just caught up on my email.
For those who need to feel better for a moment, here are some beagles.
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The bit about “women refusing to settle down” is laughable. It sounds like we’re staying single to spite men. Because of course nobody could be settled on their own. Nobody could be perfectly happy single, whether that means having sexual partners or not.
Notice how being single is such a Great Manly Drama when it’s dudes – MGTOW – yet when it’s women, it’s just that we’re refusing to settle down.
Maybe it’s just me, but if touch and companionship is validation, women are not only not responsible for getting that for every man, but women aren’t even required for that. In fact, this sort of equating physical contact = sexual = validation has a limited demographic that even feels this way.
My boyfriend comes from a culture where touching other men is not seen as automatically homosexual, and he is very comfortable with platonic physical contact, including hugging, arms around shoulders, etc. I’m a bit amused because judging from conversations with other MRAs, they don’t realise how attractive this ability to touch and express affection without requiring some sexual component really is, and they stubbornly refuse to recognise how they can directly benefit from rejecting this toxic form of masculinity which doesn’t involve women in the slightest.
But I’m not surprised considering the other views expressed by the troll.
Thanks, David!
LOL that vacuum-beagle is the best!
Ewwww, violence troll. Not sad to have missed that dude.
Also, if all this bullshit about guys losing their minds over women is true, does this mean that gay men are imprisoning each other? Or are bi men being imprisoned by EVERYONE?
Seriously, this shit doesn’t make any sense. I guess my nubile young body made my husband briefly lose his mind, which is why we’ve been married five years. *eye roll* Power of pheromones, y’all.
In nicer news: ZOMG GUYS A TEACHER WANTS TO USE ONE OF MY STORIES FOR THEIR ENGLISH CLASS. 8D
Yay! Thank you, David!
LBT: Congratulions! That’s so cool! ๐
I don’t think I’ve ever seen David swear at a troll before. It’s beautiful *wipes tear*
Yay, David!
Yay, LBT!
Yayyy! Celebrate!
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Damn, I didn’t get a few more chomps in on the chewtoy. Oh well…
PS: Congrats, LBT!
Aww. I go to sleep & you all kick budmins ass. Thanks everyone!
I guess I should say:
1. I work in Australia where sex work is legal & I can go to the police.
2. I’ve never had a violent client in person. Sure, I’ve had nasty texts, but I can block & delete.
3. The handful of girl I know who had to go to the police were treated fairly & clients prosecuted.
4. I saw something regarding underage girls. Ew. I refuse to see men who trawl for barely legals. Gross. The underage girl is the VICTIM and shouldn’t work.
5. As you all said, no matter a persons work, violence shouldn’t be expected. Ever.
6. The who knife/gun story. What I took is that he STOLE HER PHONE and wanted it back. Who brings a gun to a knife fight? A man who wants sex for free of a hooker. That’s who.
Anyway. I would be missed, I’m white & middle class. I work for myself & set my own rates. I’m expensive. I’m not sorry for what I do because it pays for my life while I study. And honestly, I owe nobody any explanation for my legal job. Nobody does.
But again. Thank you all
This whole “Men look for validation” stuff… even if that were universally true, wouldn’t that be OUR (i.e., men’s) fault instead of women’s?
I love how budmin’s underlying objection to sex work is that it’s bad for the male consumers. He can dress it up in as many post-hoc rationalizations as he wants, but that was the initial objection. Hookergal is “hurting” the men who pay her for sex, oh boo hoo, poor them.
And then he got to the bit where he was using that to justify them hurting her in return and it wasn’t funny any more. Hopefully by the time I reach the end of this thread I’ll find that David has done something about that comment.
And David has indeed delivered.
Hi guys!
I always feel this special happiness when I read a thread here where a troll gets chewed up and finally banned. Bye, buttmin (yeah my puns aren’t great today)!
He spent so much time here, I’m confident we’ll be visited by a sock in the near future. ๐
@hookergal: I’m so sorry that budmin was such a flaming jerk to you, by the way. What an ass he was! Virtual hugs from me, if you’re okay with that. =)
@cassandrakitty: Yeah, good freaking riddance to budmin.
@Alex: Yeah, me too. Me too. =)