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Men’s Rights Redditor: “Going to a strip club as a guy must be like going to a regular nightclub as a girl!”

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How stupid do you have to be to actually believe the following nonsense? Not just regular stupid. Men’s Rights stupid.

Wow, just wow. This blew my mind the other day when I went to the strip club (self.MensRights)  submitted 1 day ago* by horqth  So I went in there, with no intention of buying anything, I just went in there and got something to drink and sat down by myself.  After a few minutes, strippers comes up to me and starts to be nice to me, tells me I look good, that I dress well and, they are just basically trying to charm me and they treats me as a king. (This is just to get me to spend money on them of course, but if we ignore that, these girls are basically making me feel really good about myself)  Then it hit me: going to a strip club as a guy must be like going to a regular nightclub as a girl!  Because when a girl goes to a club all the guys will come up to her and treat her nice, and try to charm her.  Told my friends about this and they said their minds were blown as well, what do you think?  Edit: spelling

Heck, this is even stupid by normal Men’s Rights standards. It made me think of this line from Ruthless People.

Now, horqth could very well be a troll. His account is brand new, and, I mean, this is just amazingly dumb. But here’s the thing: his comments are being treated as if they are completely reasonable by the Men’s Rights subreddit. I noticed only a couple of mostly ignored comments out of more than 100 even raising the possiblity that he was a troll.

Not only has his post gotten dozens of upvotes, but in the comments there are numerous other Men’s Rights Redditors — not trolls — who’ve actually managed to outdo him in the sheer ridiculousness of their opinions. And they’re getting upvotes too.

Milessycamore seemed to suggest that horqth had understated the degree to which men were being victimized in both places, and more than 200 Redditors agreed:

milessycamore 162 points 1 day ago (212|50)  except the difference is that you, as a man... pay BOTH places...

Saxonjf thought it would be nice if more women would act like these strippers and make men feel “important special.”

saxonjf 8 points 1 day ago (10|2)  Great analogy. I've never been to a strip club (and have no intention), but it wouldn't hurt women to realize that making a man feel important special will help the relationship.  We've grown up in an era where denigrating men is fashionable, and women don't realize that building us up, rather than tearing us down, will make a huge difference in our relationships.

Itchybrain, putting his economist hat on, suggested that the root of the problem was the massive over-valuation of women:

itchybrain 27 points 1 day ago (36|9)  Very true. Most guys minds would explode if they got the attention the average looking girl gets. I think Marc Rudov said that for a guy to get the kind of attention the average girl gets he would have to be a millionaire. It just shows you how over valued women are sexually and how under valued men are.

So how did the ladies get so overvalued in the first place? Blame the government and all that darn welfare. Responding to one contrarian Men’s Righster who suggested — get this! — that women are appropriately valued — FloranHunter laid down this truth bomb, by which I mean a bunch of complete and utter crap:

FloranHunter 7 points 17 hours ago (8|1)  Not exactly.  The government MASSIVELY subsidizes women, especially single mothers. They still can't get everything they want or possibly need with it but women no longer need a man to survive. This causes a corresponding massive devaluation of unattractive but socially useful (aka has an ok or better job) men. In the past, women needed men or they starved or were vulnerable to violence. This is no longer the case.

If only we could return to the good old days, when women would starve unless they were super nice to unattractive dudes who pestered them in bars!

Lawtonfogle also has no problem with the idea of men being valued for their money; he just wants to get more bang(s) for the buck.

Lawtonfogle 10 points 1 day ago (12|2)  Government intervention in the means of social support programs that result in a woman having far more bargaining power in relationship dynamics. If it weren't for laws that provided support for children and forced fathers to pay for children (even when they aren't the biological father), it would be a very different issue. Men would still be valued for their money and women for their attractiveness, but money would hold more value and being a male willing to commit would also hold (more) value.      permalink     source     parent     save     give gold     hide child comments  [–]IOIOOIIOIO 5 points 23 hours ago (7|2)  Effective male contraception is going to be amazing.

I give up.

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katz
10 years ago

Whether or not women are held to a higher standard of beauty is something that likely depends on the society under discussion.

Unlike every other element of interaction between the genders, which is absolute throughout all space and time.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Cultural narratives are often believed only in the abstract, and are very often hypocritical and internally inconsistent.

If only he knew how ironic it is for him to be saying this.

kittehserf
10 years ago

::rolls eyes again::

Type I, Type II … who actually gives a shit? What do you want to do, dissect people?

You’re also talking out of your arse if you think they’re separate, or separable. Emotions are essential for even the most basic decision-making.

Or is this a terribly long-winded way of saying you’re a robot who cannot understand emotions and thinks they’re inferior? You can’t be a Cyberman, they wouldn’t waste so many words, and a Dalek would have got straight to the point about how Daleks rule and will exterminate everyone else.

(Never could see the point of that. It’s not like they’d be any good at enjoying life with their ill-gotten gains.)

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Auggz — until recently the idea of not having kids wasn’t just shunned, but nearly impossible — Roe’s 40 years old, the idea of remaining childless is even younger. Under those conditions it makes sense not to mention any potentially problematic genes, and thus not to discuss the heritability.

Except this was used to justify eugenics — mental patients were sterilized for decades (among other “undesirables”) because gods forbid we might pass on a crazy gene! (It’s a risk I’m not willing to take, but that’s my personal choice and other people should be free to decide that they are okay with the risk)

In short, I think we don’t want to talk about it because it would admitting that eugenics wasn’t COMPLETE crap, just 99% crap. That is, that yes, you can pass on flawed genes, and maybe should decide not to, but that’s your choice. That’s not gonna be a thing high schoolers grasp well. Am I making sense? What I’m trying to say is I don’t think we want to touch anything remotely related to eugenics, and at the same time don’t want to admit that we may pass less than ideal genes onto our kids, especially if those genes are related to something stigmatized.

kittehserf
10 years ago

The “males have more variance than females” bit: He’s just saying that he can’t tell women apart, isn’t he?

Well, it’s tricky when you can only see breasts.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

@katz, no idea. Under the Bayesian system, you focus a lot more on distributions than on point estimates (like you do in frequentist statistics, with the mean, etc). It sounds like he’s saying that the posterior distributions for traits are larger for males when compared to females, but that doesn’t make an awful lot of sense. For trait expressions, like eye colour, they’re all binary: you either have green eyes or you don’t. So for each eye colour, you could do an estimate of the proportion of the male population that has green eyes, and the proportion of the female population that has green eyes, and with the Bayesian approach you would be more interested in the distribution, not the point estimate (i.e. you would be interested in the minimum and maximum proportions calculated, not the mean proportion). But each person with eyes must have an eye colour, so how does that equate into the variance for males being larger?

It’s not that I don’t have a clue about what they’re trying to say, I don’t think anybody else could understand it either.

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Wait, beauty standards besides breasts are culturally dependent? Hate to break it to you but breasts aren’t sexual idea in all cultures.

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

*sexualized

Fucking autocorrect

foursidedtriangles
10 years ago

To equate two things is to say that they are the same. It is not equating to say that two things are both bad or both good, unless you only equate things modulo Z2.

kittehserf
10 years ago

What’s your problem, trolly (apart from being unable to write in plain English)? Why do you feel the need to trot out this evopsych bullshit? You had jibes at MRAs buried in your first screed. Fine, they exist to be mocked, as far as this site’s concerned. So why flap around with the same garbage they like to trot out, pretending humans are little more than breeding machines on autopilot?

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

It is not equating to say that two things are both bad or both good, unless you only equate things modulo Z2.

o_O. To say two things share the same characteristics is equating them. To say being fat and being lazy are bad in the same way is to equate fatness with laziness.

LOL. You’re really backpedaling here.

Fibinachi
10 years ago

1. An equation of being fat with being lazy would forego the necessity of the “and” conjunction. There is no need to say that something is “red and scarlet.” To do so would be redundant. Hence, my use of “and” is an indication that I do not find the additional adjectives to be absent additional information. One would hope you to be a non-native speaker and that you speak a language where the closest analogue to our “and” conjunction has a different logical truth table. Otherwise, your lack of comprehension signifies either dishonesty, laziness, or cognitive deficiency.

You didn’t specify “and”, your sentence were broken up by commas, which imply continuinity in the listed terms. It read:

Most MRA’s are fat, lazy, lower IQ, genetically inferior individuals

I would be careful with stating someone is cognitively deficient when one appears to be grammatically ineffective oneself. We could assume the “and” in question was actually there, replacing the commas, but then your sentence would read “fat and lazy and lower IQ and genetically inferior”, which is two things – bad writing, and untrue.

Don’t be insulting and high fallutin’ if you cannae get the writing down without crapshootin’

2. I am well-aware that triangles possess only three sides, and I’m fairly certain you know that I know this. The name, as you are probably aware, is a deliberate absurdity. Pretending that I don’t understand basic geometry is an adorable attempt at poisoning the well, but adults can see that it for the petulance it represents.

Yeah, I was giving you lip. I like your name though, I find it neat.

I’d be careful about claiming petulance (interesting attempt at ascribing a typically feminine emotion to me, though, and deliberately reducing any conversation to me as a childishly sulking and you as intellectual superior… that’d be dishonest, and, what’s that phrase, poisoning the well? Well, you wouldn’t…) when mere “sass” would be more appropriate.

On the other hand, I know of no proof that all triangles must have three sides. To be sure, any sufficiently topologically trivial Riemannian manifold has the property that a closed, 2-dimensional figure with three internal angles must be comprised by the intersection of three arcs, and if we wish, we can specify that the arcs must be geodesics in order to properly generalize the notion of a polygon to non-Euclidean geometry. In particular, any flat space with finite dimension (R^N, SxSxSx…xS, or even R^NxSxSx…xS) will almost certainly have this property. However, I am not aware of any proof that there’s no manifold (or orbifold) wherein all geodesic polygons with three internal angles must be constructed by exactly three geodesics. In particular, spaces in which the homology contains torsion elements may not pass this test. For example, must all “triangles” in the real projective plane (RP^2) or any of its higher dimensional analogues be comprised of three distinct geodesics? It’s not obvious that this must be the case, even if it is true. You may also note that the “tri” in “triangle” signifies the presence of three internal angles, not the presence of three “sides,” as you asserted. It’s even in the name. It’s tri-ANGLE, not tri-SIDE.

Take your Non-Euclidean inanity elsewhere, you parallel apologist, you’re being hyperbolic enough without attempting to move into hyperbolic geometry. A triangle has three sides and three internal angles, and any attempts at pretending that such a thing as manifolds exist or that sufficiently advanced mathematics allows us to envision dimensions with a non-complete z axis is the Devil’s Math.

3. Also, I included the possibility for exceptions to the general rule of sexual selection. This is obvious in that I even included a particular exception by name. To act as if I allowed for no exceptions is patent dishonesty.

No, it’s patent truth, given that you allowed for exceptions, then went right on stating your argument as if those exceptions were irrelevant – then included a further summation that invoked elements of different species mating patterns attributed to humans and constructed an eugenic argument which ignored your own stated exceptions.

You’re being patiently dishonest if you claim otherwise, and for the record, this is me being petulant at your petty inability to maintain a cohesive argument.

4. Certainly males exhibit some degree of mate selectivity. Indeed, the existence of exceptions, something to which I attested, proves this to be the case. However, the difference in male and female reproductive biology all but guarantees that, ceteris paribus, the selectivity of females will be larger. Also, as I indicated, the X/Y sex determination scheme ensures that male phenotypic variance will be larger than female phenotypic variance for all X-linked traits, and also that the phenotypic variance of Y-linked traits will be non-existent for females. For all other chromosomes, both males and females have two pairs. Barring extreme epigenetic factors, the overall variance of males should be greater than that of females. As a “Bayesian prior,” for any given trait, males will have a higher than 50% chance of having more variance than females. This provides an even stronger indication that the primary sexual selectors will be female.

But all other things aren’t equal in mating, and parity in the biological sense is a constantly shifting circumstance based on the environment. This isn’t physics or math where we can neatly disregard the rest of the world and assume friction is just a petty annoyance, this is evolutionary biology, where such mere thing as complete disregard for the rules of the world is rather a big deal.

Also, read a genetics primer about the chromosomal distribution of human genotypes (Hint: It’s not just xx and xy)

So with that, variance and variability has little impact on sex selection because all it results in is varying phenotypes from males at a somewhat higher rate than females – that changes nothing about the notion of sex selection, and pretending it does is… patently dishonest. Merely repeating your dross science won’t make it true, but it will make you seem petulant. Ceteris paribus works in economics, because we know it’s a dismal science, and it works in accounting, because fuck if I’m testing for tax, but proclaiming that “All else being equal” when all else is patently not equal is utter madness, of the inane kind – humans don’t rely on genotypic variation to test for selective parameters, because, oh dear, we have brains and can talk (Sapien sapien, I say again).

Also, as a bayesian prior, for any given trait with a higher variance, the person with the highest possibility of being exceptional gets to make the choices in that field – but that would make sufficiently lucky genetic constructions with a male genotype more likely to be selective and oh shit wait I just messed up your argument by changing the assumption. Ups. It’s almost like it’s just dressing up a stereotype in scientific language. Odd.
Yeah, now I’m being petulant.

I’ll spell it out – mating is not a one time transfer, it’s a process over time. Now adjust for that, and try again… You might arrive at a conclusion that isn’t ham-fistedly unconcerned with the 99 % of sexual selection science.

5. Humans think, but you largely overestimate the degree of Type II reasoning in humans. Humans engage in unconsciously-driven and heuristically-derived behaviors (Type I reasoning) far more often than you would like to believe. Type II reasoning (rational deliberation, empirical evidence, etc.) is hard and time-consuming. Most decisions must, of necessity, be left to less reliable but faster methods.

…. So the method that grants you a mental short cut like: “This person can talk to me, and he has hair” is more likely to end up being followed by people than the method wherein they sit down, get genetically screened, and then finally find out if they’re genotypically compatible? So… people in an emotionally charged situation will often not take the most reasonable course of action or maximize their utility, but will instead probably do something stupid?

Now you’re just fucking with us, chap. Because that would mean your entire argument shot itself in the foot. Come on, one more time now – explain to us exactly why humans who often persue the less optimal, less rational, less utility maximizing path will nevertheless entirely disregard genetically unfit people when they have no way to test for genotype variance other than phenotypic stand in like a marker of some kind, and then, as a bonus, explain to me that testing becomes solely the onus of the woman in this hypothetical situation.

(oh, and being really petulant as opposed to merely boring – None of those arguments explain why MRA’s are the lowest of the low who should have their genes die off to passive eugenics, nor did you apologize for randomly calling a bunch of people losers, lazy and jobless, you shiftless intellectual ivory tower of dishonest rambling. Given the constraints of your set up, any given person could still sleep with anyone else, because human beings don’t have genetic scanners in their eyes. )

foursidedtriangles
10 years ago

It’s rather obvious what I meant. Before any additional analysis, it is more likely than not that a trait will have higher variance in males than females. Given that this is a prior, belief can be modified after analysis. The fact that a given trait is neither X-linked nor Y-linked would almost certainly lower the probability down to 50%.

Even binary traits can have variance, by the way. If minimal constraints are imposed, then the maximum entropy distribution for binary traits is the Poisson distribution. The variance is equal to the mean.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Trolly must be a hoot at a party or on a date. Instant insomnia cure.

kittehserf
10 years ago

You still haven’t said what’s your point in posting here.

Ally S
10 years ago

Oh, look – another cissexist evo psych enthusiast. Very new and refreshing.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

He’s the Ghost of Terrible Parties Past, here to remind us all to ask the host(ess) who else is going to be in attendance before RSVPing.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

You could have just said you were wrong when you stated this:

Barring extreme epigenetic factors, the overall variance of males should be greater than that of females. As a “Bayesian prior,” for any given trait, males will have a higher than 50% chance of having more variance than females.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

Also this:

Before any additional analysis, it is more likely than not that a trait will have higher variance in males than females. Given that this is a prior, belief can be modified after analysis.

If you know anything about Bayesian statistics, you know that you have to enter a mathematic value for the priors, not some vague shite about it being “higher”. You’ve basically said that the analysis should use an informative prior. So what values are you actually using and what research are they based on?

Do you have a fucking clue?

kittehserf
10 years ago

He’s the Ghost of Terrible Parties Past, here to remind us all to ask the host(ess) who else is going to be in attendance before RSVPing.

Whoa shit yes, that reminds me of some parties I’ve avoided.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Good lard, this troll is fucking dull.

Bored now.

foursidedtriangles
10 years ago

I am unable to see females except as breasts? Amusing claim, though it describes the sexually desperate MRA’s far more than it describes me. I have no desire to reproduce and, barring reproduction, there is no rational reason to have sex. Sex is a risky action which involves a large allocation of resources to procure. Even with prophylaxis, it is still far riskier than celibacy. Indeed, even if I had the desire to reproduce, I would do so without sexual intercourse. Unhygienic, risky, time-consuming, and disease-transmitting “breeding” vs. sterile and controlled procedures? The choice seems obvious to those not blinded by hormones. With artificial reproduction, one can even introduce a degree of control over which genes are actually passed on. It disturbs me that there are still intelligent people who reproduce via sex.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Now we’re dumb for liking sex. Hey troll, have you thought about going and fucking yourself?

Myoo
Myoo
10 years ago

Is this Pell? Or is it just some other obnoxious pseudo-intellectual?

foursidedtriangles
10 years ago

The prior would come from an estimate of the total number of genes on the X vs. the total number of genes in the genome. Either a trait is X-linked or it isn’t. If we (roughly) know Nx/N, that gives us a probability. If a trait is not X-linked, there’s a 50/50 chance that variance is higher in men than women. If it is X-linked, there’s (very close to) a 100% chance it’s higher in men than women.

P(Higher variance in males) = .5*P(Not X-linked) + P(X-linked)

Since P(~X) + P(X) = 1, it’s obvious that P(Higher sigma in males) is bigger than 0.5.

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