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Men’s Rights Redditor: “Going to a strip club as a guy must be like going to a regular nightclub as a girl!”

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How stupid do you have to be to actually believe the following nonsense? Not just regular stupid. Men’s Rights stupid.

Wow, just wow. This blew my mind the other day when I went to the strip club (self.MensRights)  submitted 1 day ago* by horqth  So I went in there, with no intention of buying anything, I just went in there and got something to drink and sat down by myself.  After a few minutes, strippers comes up to me and starts to be nice to me, tells me I look good, that I dress well and, they are just basically trying to charm me and they treats me as a king. (This is just to get me to spend money on them of course, but if we ignore that, these girls are basically making me feel really good about myself)  Then it hit me: going to a strip club as a guy must be like going to a regular nightclub as a girl!  Because when a girl goes to a club all the guys will come up to her and treat her nice, and try to charm her.  Told my friends about this and they said their minds were blown as well, what do you think?  Edit: spelling

Heck, this is even stupid by normal Men’s Rights standards. It made me think of this line from Ruthless People.

Now, horqth could very well be a troll. His account is brand new, and, I mean, this is just amazingly dumb. But here’s the thing: his comments are being treated as if they are completely reasonable by the Men’s Rights subreddit. I noticed only a couple of mostly ignored comments out of more than 100 even raising the possiblity that he was a troll.

Not only has his post gotten dozens of upvotes, but in the comments there are numerous other Men’s Rights Redditors — not trolls — who’ve actually managed to outdo him in the sheer ridiculousness of their opinions. And they’re getting upvotes too.

Milessycamore seemed to suggest that horqth had understated the degree to which men were being victimized in both places, and more than 200 Redditors agreed:

milessycamore 162 points 1 day ago (212|50)  except the difference is that you, as a man... pay BOTH places...

Saxonjf thought it would be nice if more women would act like these strippers and make men feel “important special.”

saxonjf 8 points 1 day ago (10|2)  Great analogy. I've never been to a strip club (and have no intention), but it wouldn't hurt women to realize that making a man feel important special will help the relationship.  We've grown up in an era where denigrating men is fashionable, and women don't realize that building us up, rather than tearing us down, will make a huge difference in our relationships.

Itchybrain, putting his economist hat on, suggested that the root of the problem was the massive over-valuation of women:

itchybrain 27 points 1 day ago (36|9)  Very true. Most guys minds would explode if they got the attention the average looking girl gets. I think Marc Rudov said that for a guy to get the kind of attention the average girl gets he would have to be a millionaire. It just shows you how over valued women are sexually and how under valued men are.

So how did the ladies get so overvalued in the first place? Blame the government and all that darn welfare. Responding to one contrarian Men’s Righster who suggested — get this! — that women are appropriately valued — FloranHunter laid down this truth bomb, by which I mean a bunch of complete and utter crap:

FloranHunter 7 points 17 hours ago (8|1)  Not exactly.  The government MASSIVELY subsidizes women, especially single mothers. They still can't get everything they want or possibly need with it but women no longer need a man to survive. This causes a corresponding massive devaluation of unattractive but socially useful (aka has an ok or better job) men. In the past, women needed men or they starved or were vulnerable to violence. This is no longer the case.

If only we could return to the good old days, when women would starve unless they were super nice to unattractive dudes who pestered them in bars!

Lawtonfogle also has no problem with the idea of men being valued for their money; he just wants to get more bang(s) for the buck.

Lawtonfogle 10 points 1 day ago (12|2)  Government intervention in the means of social support programs that result in a woman having far more bargaining power in relationship dynamics. If it weren't for laws that provided support for children and forced fathers to pay for children (even when they aren't the biological father), it would be a very different issue. Men would still be valued for their money and women for their attractiveness, but money would hold more value and being a male willing to commit would also hold (more) value.      permalink     source     parent     save     give gold     hide child comments  [–]IOIOOIIOIO 5 points 23 hours ago (7|2)  Effective male contraception is going to be amazing.

I give up.

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scott1139
scott1139
10 years ago

@gillyrosebee Thank you very much for taking the time to write what you did; reading it really helped clarify things for me.

I apologize for anything I wrote that was offensive.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Our dress code at work is pretty much “be dressed, please.”

Oooooh, perfume. My other favorite thing behind makeup. I have some that won’t wear to work, like Nassomatto Duro, which is only suitable for scaring the bejeezus out of people and/or sacking a small country. I generally wear CdG Wonderwood or Kiehl’s Original Musk, both of which go on light enough for work.

kittehserf
10 years ago

That’s pretty much our dress code, too. The guys wear the uniform polo by choice (dull Prussian blue, ugh ugh ugh). I wear whatever I fancy.

katz
10 years ago

One of these days I’ll just throw in the towel and get a big neck or hand tattoo. Then whatever else I wear to interviews will hardly matter.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

NO NECK TATTOOS. And I say that as a tattooed person.

katz
10 years ago

But horrifying people is the point.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

It’s not even horrifying, it’s just a bad idea. I’ve never seen one that looked decent (obviously not your point, but still). I have seen some lovely hand work though.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I’ve seen really small, delicate ones on the side of the neck look OK, but ones that go across the front of the throat? Nope.

gillyrosebee
gillyrosebee
10 years ago

I’m too fickle for a tattoo, though I have always wanted to get one (I keep thinking of getting something on my wrists). My problem is that as soon as the work was done I’d feel deflated and be 100% sure that no matter how much I loved it at first, now I want a different one.

Brooked
Brooked
10 years ago

@gillyrose
Thank you for eloquent explanation of Graident Lair’s policies, which was much better than my earlier cranky one.

gillyrosebee
gillyrosebee
10 years ago

@Brooked, I get splainey when I’m cranky (and tired), so it’s usually a struggle to stop myself, but you’re welcome!

kittehserf
10 years ago

I don’t like neck tattoos because I seldom see them on anyone but blokes who’re doing the full-on feral/bogan look, which I really dislike. But at any rate, think what a neck tattoo would look like if one ended up with turkey neck in old age … nope, nope, nope.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

I’ve seen some good neck tattoos, of loved ones names and the like. But yes, they are tricky and a lot of artists refuse to do them on principle.

Speaking of which, me and Sneak got tattooed a week or two ago! It’s a cuff around our upper arm, and we’re getting a similar one on the other arm done in another week or so. Woo!

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

Oh, and as a side note, getting it done taught me that Sneak has a much lower pain tolerance than me. Which is sad, because zie was miserable throughout the whole tattooing procedure, but also means zie is high unlikely to ask me about getting triangles tattooed on the backs of our hands again.

katz
10 years ago

Speaking of which, me and Sneak got tattooed a week or two ago!

Ooh ooh share share share!

kittehserf
10 years ago

OW back of the hands would hurt like hell.

Are you all wrapped up in clingwrap now? Smothered in Bepanthen and reeking of it? (Ah, memories.)

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

I’m almost into year 5 of a tattoo removal (home job overtattooed by a professional). There was just *soooooooooooo* much ink. And it’s been painful each time – like having someone cut into my skin with a knife. And the blistering.

Depending on what it looks like later, I will get the area fixed up by another tattoo. A professional one.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Ouch. I’ve sometimes wondered if I should get rid of my second tattoo – it’s only a few centimetres square – but that makes me think, nope, bad luck if it’s not that good!

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

This one is over an entire shoulderblade. I’ve hated it ever since I got it, back in 1990.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Yow! That’s a lot of tattoo to get rid of, and what a painful place.

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