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Open Thread for Personal Stuff: February 2014 Edition

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An open thread for personal stuff, continuing from here.

As usual for these threads: no trolls, no arguments.

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Skye
Skye
6 years ago

Just read a mention about Lana in a different thread and came here. I’m sorry to hear she passed away. Condolences to her family and friends.

kittehserf
6 years ago

titianblue, has Maisie come home safely yet?

Ophelia – LOL LOL oh my, I wish I could have seen the Dark Lord’s face when he read your email.

Wish I could have seen yours when you realised. ๐Ÿ˜›

What’s this about not being able to Ravelry? I’ve got your favourite on my Aston jacket and you’re on the Crafty SPINSTERS* list.

*Who are not DIRECTLY ON THE BEACH.

Tracy
6 years ago

To Lana’s family and friends – I’m so sorry and am thinking of you. I don’t comment here a lot but I read, and she seemed like a fun, intelligent person.

Sam-I-Was?
Sam-I-Was?
6 years ago

@Nynaeve and Lana’s friends & family. You have me deepest condolences, I only know her from what she posted here but she will be missed.

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

@kittehs, no news on Maisie. Have done everything possible, everyone in my village is looking for her. Got Minnie chipped today. Now it’s just wait & see.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

@titianblue keeping my fingers crossed.

grumpycatisagirl
6 years ago

My fingers also crossed for Maisie to come home!

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

He flew with the grace of a frustrated pancake too.

Thanks, Auggz, I needed that laugh!

kittehserf
6 years ago

Crossing my fingers too, titianblue.

Are people looking in sheds and lockups and the like? She could have got in there and be hiding because she’s scared of strangers. That’s what silly Mamie did – nipped into a shed that was rarely opened, while people were putting furniture in there. That’s why it took two weeks for them to find her. No idea what she lived on in that time unless it was mice and spiders! Didn’t do her any harm, strangely enough.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

Oh yes, we accidentally shut the neighbour’s cat under our house once. Didn’t notice she nipped in while a garage door was open.

Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

And there was our previous kitty (*my* kitty) who’d be gone for days and come back looking all “what’s the matter with you two legs, I was hunting!” (And oh how this cat could hunt!)

Here’s hoping Maisie is doing similar and will come sauntering home and look at you like you’re the one being foolish!

My condolences to Lana’s friends and family.

In cheerier things, I may’ve met someone, I’ve at least made a friend, well see if it develops beyond that. But seeing how I haven’t had anyone to make a museum trip with or the like since I moved back up here, I’m thrilled. (And going to see the dinosaurs tomorrow, and fuck being an adult, I’m going in the discovery room!)

opheliamonarch
6 years ago

@ Argenti, so happy for you. ๐Ÿ™‚

@Titianblue, lots of luck.

We lost our Rowan (one of our previous cats) for two months once, turns out she’d moved in with a neighbour in the next street. In their ‘wisdom’ they’d decided to feed her and ignore all of our posters. We only tracked her down because a bloke at our local pub saw the picture we were putting up and said his next door neighbour had a new cat that looked just like her.

@kitteh,

Whatโ€™s this about not being able to Ravelry? Iโ€™ve got your favourite on my Aston jacket and youโ€™re on the Crafty SPINSTERS* list.

Yeah, it’s not too bad, I just had trouble commenting. I tried to post that Monty Pythons sketch I sent you and it didn’t work properly, and for some reason it put little animal characters in my comment. Me not so bright. ::shrugs::

Bit tired out with this cold, Gonna go to bed now, damn this bug, poor poorly me. ๐Ÿ™

opheliamonarch
6 years ago

Damn you blockquote monster! If you carry on ignoring me I’m gonna take my offerings elsewhere!

::mutter, mutter, I am too a real Boobzer!::

kittehserf
6 years ago

Hey Ophelia, go have a look at Ravelry, I answered your post there. ๐Ÿ™‚

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

A little bit of happy news:

Maise is home!

I just woke up (at 5 am) with a little cat besides me on the bed. Assumed it was Minnie until I turned on the light & realised it is my prodigal kitty. She’s fine – hungry & very happy to be back, following me from room to room even after having been fed her favourite dinner/breakfast.

I’ve counted & recounted & I really do have the right number of cats again. Happiness is finding your lost kitty. Thank you, Manboobzers, for your kind encouragement over the past few days.

Argenti Aertheri
6 years ago

W00t! Maisie’s home!

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

Oh gosh, that’s great news. ๐Ÿ™‚ Hooray!

weirwoodtreehugger
6 years ago

Yay!

Ally S
6 years ago

Yay! This clearly calls for a clowder party.

grumpycatisagirl
6 years ago

Hearts are jumping with joy all over the world for titianblue and her Maisie! I am so relieved she’s all right.

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

I really should go back to bed & get another hour’s sleep but I’m probably too excited.

http://instagram.com/p/k6Lysdl-8-/

http://instagram.com/p/k6L9BHF-9F/

katz
6 years ago

So glad the missing kitty is back!

Ally S
6 years ago

What a cutie! :3 The tabby on my bed says hi.

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

Maisie says hi back.

I’m having to type one-handed ‘cos a certain kitty needs to be constantly tickled. Not a metaphor. ๐Ÿ™‚

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

She is so pretty, both of them are. ๐Ÿ™‚

kittehserf
6 years ago

OMG Maisie is back, that is such good news!

Wickedwickedwickedwicked kitty making your mother so worried.

I’d forgotten that these two are tuxedos – how weird is it that it’s not just the name, it’s the colouring with Maisie and Mamie?

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

@kittehs, it’s obviously obligatory to call any any tuxedo cat a name with the format M—-ie. I’m sue there’s a law about it somewhere.

Ally S
6 years ago

So tomorrow night I’m going to the trans support group in downtown Boulder. Hopefully through people in the group I can find therapists that people trust and would be good for helping me with my own issues.

I need a therapist not only because I need to improve my overall mental well-being but also because I need someone to help me organize my life and analyze my priorities. I am so stressed out and afraid that I have no idea what to do these days. I just sit around, dreading the day I come out to everyone else, the ever increasing pressure to move back to California this year, the tendency among family members to stop me from transitioning, and so on. At this point in my life I already feel dead inside. Like I’ll always be stuck in this awful shell because of people shaming me for “mutilating” myself and “using drugs” in order to transition. I just want to get away from everyone, transition quietly and peacefully, and get on with my life.

kittehserf
6 years ago

My thought exactly, titianblue.

It’s obviously also a requirement for tuxedo kitties to be bad and wicked and disappear!

Ally, so glad there’s a support group you can see. I’ll bet lots of people there will recognise what you’re going through all too well.

Fibinachi
6 years ago

My sister asked me to write her academic report for her. It’s a necessary component of the programme she’s in, and required for partaking in upcoming exams. No report, no exams.

I can write it just fine (You may have had occasion to acquaint yourselves with my verbosity), but…

… yeah. How do you respond to that? My first instinct is of the “Go to hell” variety, but on the other hand, there’s little point in doing something that could potentially cripple her current academic trajectory when it’s a matter of me taking 4 hours to do a thing I find fun.

But…. on the other hand, last time I saw her, she told me I was a fat lazy dirty creepy molester of children who would never amount to anything and should just go suck on a glock and or hang myself, preferably both, because christ was I just annoying what with my insistence on having milk for breakfast (so there was less milk for her morning milkshake, see).

Forgiving and forgetting is one thing, and stuff, but… at what point does mere forgiving someone’s rage impulse sniffle into being not having boundaries? Maybe being forced to do a few all nighters to catch up on her workload would be good?

Sigh.

@Ally S; Therapy is good. Therapy is lovely. Therapy is helpful. I am not sure if therapy is also the same as a coach, and a prioritizing helper, but I think some of them can be. Good luck with the group!

@titianblue; glad to hear Maisie is back. That’s one hella cute kitten. Wow.

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

Hope the trans support group goes really well, Ally. You deserve to be happy and it sounds like you are doing all the right things to get the support you need from people who understand.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

@Ally good luck!

@Fibinachi: what’s an academic report? Is it supposed to be written by the student themselves? How long has it been since you last saw/had contact with your sister?

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

@Fibinachi, just read my post and it sounds confrontational. Not meant that way, just trying some more information about your situation as I don’t completely understand it.

Kim
Kim
6 years ago

@fibinachi
She doesn’t deserve your help. Someone saying stuff like she said means they forfeit any favours from the person in perpetuity.

Fibinachi
6 years ago

@Kiwigirl: It’s just me being vague. It’s just your average essay, on a book. No big deal, except its part of the requirement for some assement of a subject and due tomorrow.

Anyway, I didn’t find that particularly confrontative.

And yes, it’s supposed to be written by the student themselves, as a way to exhibit their mastery of a foreign language and critical thinking skills, all that stuff that’s in the vogue. Academic fraud! I’m practically a highroller of crime.

@Kim: Yeah, that’s what I keep defaulting to.

titianblue
titianblue
6 years ago

@Fibinachi Sounds like you every reason to refuse to do your sister’s work for her and only one (familial guilts)to help her. It is, of course, your choice but my vote is with the noes.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

@Fibinachi: we can set aside how horrible your sister has been to you, and she has been downright nasty, and use professional ethics to decide. As you have said, her report is a student assignment, that contributes towards her grade. It is cheating if someone else (particularly someone incredibly intelligent, *you*!) writes that report. She is the one studying, if she wants the credit for producing work then she needs to be the one to actually produce it.

I’m with the noes, and an “ethics” perspective allows me to reach this same conclusion. (I also don’t like arseholes to prosper, so it’s potentially a win-win here.) If she was found out, she would run the risk of getting a 0 for the report and other sanctions. She would be highly likely to be found out, as there is no way that something you write will sound anything like she writes.

Good luck with what you decide to do. I’m sorry you have such a horrible family member.

kittehserf
6 years ago

Seconding what everyone said, Fibi.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

You’re up early! ๐Ÿ™‚

kittehserf
6 years ago

So’re you! ๐Ÿ˜€ This is my normal time in the mornings. I get up at 5. ๐Ÿ™

gillyrosebee
gillyrosebee
6 years ago

@titianblue, I am SOOO HAPPY that Maisie is home (and boy, wow, what a cutie!)!

@Fibinachi, if it were me, I’d laugh in her face and then say “No!” or maybe “Hayle No!” but hey, that’s me, and I’m not a very nice person. You, on the other hand, are a wonderful person and deserving of much better treatment. I hope you get that better treatment in the future!

hellkell
hellkell
6 years ago

Fibi:

How do you respond to that? My first instinct is of the โ€œGo to hellโ€ variety, but on the other hand, thereโ€™s little point in doing something that could potentially cripple her current academic trajectory

She’s already crippled her trajectory by having the sheer effrontery to ask you to do this. It’s cheating.

So she’s only nice to you when she wants something? Tell her HELL NO.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
6 years ago

Completely off all topics, but a thank you to whoever recommended Community to me. We’re about a third of the way through season 1 now and finding it very funny.

kittehserf
6 years ago

Fibi – quote back at her the horrible things she said to you and then say you don’t help cheats anyway, but you really don’t help nasty abusive cheats.

(I am also not nice. My reaction is “give her a serve” and, if possible, never speak to her again: blood is way thinner than water in my view.)

gillyrosebee
gillyrosebee
6 years ago

but on the other hand, thereโ€™s little point in doing something that could potentially cripple her current academic trajectory

Sheโ€™s already crippled her trajectory by having the sheer effrontery to ask you to do this. Itโ€™s cheating.

I’m with hellkell here, in spades. Having someone ghostwrite your academic work is beyond the pale for most reputable academic institutions. I’ve seen situations where people were expelled with prejudice (no appealing, no fleeting hope of being readmitted to finish) for such practices, so refusing her request is actually helping her. Better that she seek extra help or extra time if she needs it (most unis will have some mechanism to allow you to appeal for either or both) is better than committing academic fraud and potentially getting caught.

Don’t be guilted, it’s not you who is endangering her academic progress.

Fibinachi
6 years ago

Huh.

I guess I’m just so used to being the go to “How do I solve this assignment?” person that I actually didn’t really think through the further chain, because I was defaulting to “Well, it’s just another time-wasters assignment about the images of adolesence in Alice in Wonderland because I guess paper has to be used for something”, thinking it was actually a question of whether I should allow myself to remain somewhat hurt about really harsh words or not.

But it’s not, is it? It’s actually an academic report meant to be sent of and reviewed by people in order to judge for a substantial part of the subject grade, and this is a question about literally ghost-writing someone’s academic work.

Thank you, everyone (I especially like the all caps hell no option, as presented)

… I think I’ll stop doing the work of people who tell me to go kill myself, and then I’ll further be continually baffled as to why that wasn’t a foregone conclusion in my mind. Family does weird stuff, woah. After 22 years of this stuff you just kind of forget sometimes.

We now return to your regularly scheduled rhyming.

Fibinachi
6 years ago

( Wait, no – we’ll return to that just after I managed to sneak in a: “And you are all lovely people, and I wish you the best of good things that you might want to have, seriously, thank you”)

cloudiah
6 years ago

Yay, a prodigal kitty returned!