Don’t worry, you don’t have anything to apologize for. More hugs from me, if you want them.
Unimaginative
10 years ago
No need to apologize, Ally, many of us know what anxiety attacks are like. Keep breathing, do what you need to do to get through it, and know we’ll still be here for you later.
This is one of the worst anxiety attacks I’ve had in months.
I’ll bet! You’re going through a really tough time right now; anxiety is to be expected. Be gentle with yourself and ride it out as best you can. It’ll be okay.
RE: Cassandrakitty
At a certain point it’s either rest or burn out, you know?
True facts. It’s just that I’m so far past the point of burn out that I don’t even know what non-burnout feels like anymore, I think. Plus, my energy seems to be multiple axes: sometimes I’ll be too weak to leave the house and need crutches, but still be able to do art, while other times I can do basic cleaning but can’t touch art. It’s a terrible learning curve, like having multiple bank accounts that you can never overdraw, but nobody will tell you how much you have in them.
RE: Unimaginative
That’s your workaholism & self-doubt talking, and they need to fuck right off.
Very true, and very annoying. I’m trying to quash those feelings.
Marie
10 years ago
OT, but hoping it’s ok cuz this is an open thread: does anyone know any good bra-stores, online or in meatspace? I’ve been trying to find my fit, but dont know any stores that carry my size :/
So far, Nordstrom seems to hold my size. I’m hoping I can try some on in one of their stores to make sure I sized myself right. Problem is, I think I need a better bra, but don’t have any money. NEway. Just have money problems.
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago
So . . .random . . . but here’s a sign I’ve been reading this blog and comment threads for too long . . . I was just at Safeway and my preferred kitty little brand was now on the top shelf where I could not reach it (why’d they do that?) Anyway, this tall guy walked by me and I asked him if he could reach the kitty litter for me. Which he graciously did. But I worried that he might think I was hitting on him, especially if he lived directly on the beach.
He was admittedly and coincidentally pretty nice looking. But seriously, I just needed the right kitty litter.
chimisaur
10 years ago
@ Ally – really, like the others said, you are in no way responsible for your parent’s bad behavior. I will not say anymore, just anxiety attacks are awful and I hope you feel better and find a critter to cuddle (Tawney?) (my puppy helps me a lot).
And now for something completely different:
Somebody say bra talk? Me and my impossible-to-find-sized-but-somehow-still-lingerie-obsessed self are all ears. 😀
cassandrakitty
10 years ago
Ah, grumpycat, but maybe that’s just your hamster talking and you secretly were hitting on him on a subconscious level because you sensed that his sperm was valuable.
There must be SOME way to make homemade bras, right? Seriously, how difficult could they possibly be to make?
If I could’ve made them out of whatever fabric and pattern I wanted, man, I would’ve been so much less grumpy about wearing the damn things. SKULLS. GRENADES. RAINBOWS.
cassandrakitty
10 years ago
For small busts, probably not hard to make. For bigger ones though, I feel like the engineers who build bridges should probably get involved.
chimisaur
10 years ago
I’ve tried, and as an accomplished seamstress I’ll tell you LBT – it’s possible, but HOLY FUCKING ARRGHHH it’s fiddly and hard. And this is coming from someone that pokes at individual cells under a microscope for a living with her damn hands >_<;;;
Also, don't get me started on "fun" patterns. I feel your pain for lack of variety, but at the small end of the spectrum here (yes-I-still-do-need-a-bra, thanks) tween-targeted patterns are all the color variety I get: Black, white, or freakin' fruit patterns or rainbows on neon colors. I LONG for a little elegance (for under $70, that is – If I was rich there's always the little bra co.)
Ally, I’m a big fan of distraction when I’m having an anxiety attack. Can you watch a movie or go for a walk with music or something? Also/or, do you have a therapist or hotline you can call?
Auggz, maybe the blog you found is trying to be “impartial” by presenting multiple approaches? Or they think not posting pro-ana stuff would be like shaming? Or maybe they’re really confused, and sometimes they want to get better but other times the disease wins and they post thinspo?
I have no idea, so here is a video of my cat being a vicious killer (not really):
But I worried that he might think I was hitting on him, especially if he lived directly on the beach.
You owe me a cup of tea now.
Homemade bras? Do ’em the way they started in their modern incarnation – coupla handkerchiefs and strips of ribbon. 🙂
The thing that bugs me with bras is underwiring (all mine have had theirs ripped out) and the elastic under the breasts. Too bloody sweaty in summer, that is.
I wish there were really minimal pull-on ones for larger sizes. I don’t want a structured thing or a sports bra (gods forbid) in hot weather, just something a bit opaque for under light tops.
Cassandra, good point. My subconscious hamster must have made previous arrangements for the kitty litter to be higher than I could reach. But I’m going to have to hone my strategy a little for next time because I went home with no sperm at all.
Probably your subconscious hamster was being influenced by the Furrinati, to test your devotion.
cassandrakitty
10 years ago
Wait, does anyone live in LA? It would be extra funny if they ran into Michael at the supermarket, loitering around waiting for women to have a hard time reaching something so he could yell SPINSTER at them.
We Hunted The Mammoth
@Ally
Don’t worry, you don’t have anything to apologize for. More hugs from me, if you want them.
No need to apologize, Ally, many of us know what anxiety attacks are like. Keep breathing, do what you need to do to get through it, and know we’ll still be here for you later.
Ally, you have nothing to apologise for. Anxiety attacks aren’t voluntary!
Have a whole heap of kitty cuddles.
Is Tawney anywhere around? Stroking her might help you right now.
Oh poop, phone rang and I forgot the link:
https://www.google.com.au/search?q=kitty+cuddles&num=20&client=firefox-a&hs=oa2&rls=org.mozilla:en-GB:official&tbm=isch&tbo=u&source=univ&sa=X&ei=STT4UuGCDsGFkAWD5IHICw&ved=0CC0QsAQ&biw=1093&bih=406
RE: Ally
This is one of the worst anxiety attacks I’ve had in months.
I’ll bet! You’re going through a really tough time right now; anxiety is to be expected. Be gentle with yourself and ride it out as best you can. It’ll be okay.
RE: Cassandrakitty
At a certain point it’s either rest or burn out, you know?
True facts. It’s just that I’m so far past the point of burn out that I don’t even know what non-burnout feels like anymore, I think. Plus, my energy seems to be multiple axes: sometimes I’ll be too weak to leave the house and need crutches, but still be able to do art, while other times I can do basic cleaning but can’t touch art. It’s a terrible learning curve, like having multiple bank accounts that you can never overdraw, but nobody will tell you how much you have in them.
RE: Unimaginative
That’s your workaholism & self-doubt talking, and they need to fuck right off.
Very true, and very annoying. I’m trying to quash those feelings.
OT, but hoping it’s ok cuz this is an open thread: does anyone know any good bra-stores, online or in meatspace? I’ve been trying to find my fit, but dont know any stores that carry my size :/
Wait, ignore that last question, I’m fine.
What? You’re gonna tease us with possible bra talk and then not? UNFAIR
@kittehs
Hey, I’m always up for bra talk 😉 I just found some stores on my own.
Cool, what ones?
Stores that deal in plus-size patterned leggings and ship to Oz are my current holy grail, and just as hard to find, it seems.
Bras… *shudder* former bane of my existence…
@kittehs
So far, Nordstrom seems to hold my size. I’m hoping I can try some on in one of their stores to make sure I sized myself right. Problem is, I think I need a better bra, but don’t have any money. NEway. Just have money problems.
So . . .random . . . but here’s a sign I’ve been reading this blog and comment threads for too long . . . I was just at Safeway and my preferred kitty little brand was now on the top shelf where I could not reach it (why’d they do that?) Anyway, this tall guy walked by me and I asked him if he could reach the kitty litter for me. Which he graciously did. But I worried that he might think I was hitting on him, especially if he lived directly on the beach.
He was admittedly and coincidentally pretty nice looking. But seriously, I just needed the right kitty litter.
@ Ally – really, like the others said, you are in no way responsible for your parent’s bad behavior. I will not say anymore, just anxiety attacks are awful and I hope you feel better and find a critter to cuddle (Tawney?) (my puppy helps me a lot).
And now for something completely different:
Somebody say bra talk? Me and my impossible-to-find-sized-but-somehow-still-lingerie-obsessed self are all ears. 😀
Ah, grumpycat, but maybe that’s just your hamster talking and you secretly were hitting on him on a subconscious level because you sensed that his sperm was valuable.
(Or, you know, some ridiculous shit like that.)
There must be SOME way to make homemade bras, right? Seriously, how difficult could they possibly be to make?
If I could’ve made them out of whatever fabric and pattern I wanted, man, I would’ve been so much less grumpy about wearing the damn things. SKULLS. GRENADES. RAINBOWS.
For small busts, probably not hard to make. For bigger ones though, I feel like the engineers who build bridges should probably get involved.
I’ve tried, and as an accomplished seamstress I’ll tell you LBT – it’s possible, but HOLY FUCKING ARRGHHH it’s fiddly and hard. And this is coming from someone that pokes at individual cells under a microscope for a living with her damn hands >_<;;;
Also, don't get me started on "fun" patterns. I feel your pain for lack of variety, but at the small end of the spectrum here (yes-I-still-do-need-a-bra, thanks) tween-targeted patterns are all the color variety I get: Black, white, or freakin' fruit patterns or rainbows on neon colors. I LONG for a little elegance (for under $70, that is – If I was rich there's always the little bra co.)
Ally, I’m a big fan of distraction when I’m having an anxiety attack. Can you watch a movie or go for a walk with music or something? Also/or, do you have a therapist or hotline you can call?
Auggz, maybe the blog you found is trying to be “impartial” by presenting multiple approaches? Or they think not posting pro-ana stuff would be like shaming? Or maybe they’re really confused, and sometimes they want to get better but other times the disease wins and they post thinspo?
I have no idea, so here is a video of my cat being a vicious killer (not really):
You owe me a cup of tea now.
Homemade bras? Do ’em the way they started in their modern incarnation – coupla handkerchiefs and strips of ribbon. 🙂
The thing that bugs me with bras is underwiring (all mine have had theirs ripped out) and the elastic under the breasts. Too bloody sweaty in summer, that is.
I wish there were really minimal pull-on ones for larger sizes. I don’t want a structured thing or a sports bra (gods forbid) in hot weather, just something a bit opaque for under light tops.
Oh and prices, gahhhh why are bras so fucking expensive????
Grace the savage monster kitteh! 🙂
Cassandra, good point. My subconscious hamster must have made previous arrangements for the kitty litter to be higher than I could reach. But I’m going to have to hone my strategy a little for next time because I went home with no sperm at all.
Probably your subconscious hamster was being influenced by the Furrinati, to test your devotion.
Wait, does anyone live in LA? It would be extra funny if they ran into Michael at the supermarket, loitering around waiting for women to have a hard time reaching something so he could yell SPINSTER at them.