So I’ve been poking around the CreepyPM’s subreddit again — it’s a place where people, mostly women, post screenshots of the creepy private messages they’ve gotten from anonymous weirdos — and I ran across this doozy from Omegle, an online chat program that links up random strangers.
This bit of passive-aggressive, cut-and-paste pervery was one anonymous fellow’s opening conversational salvo. (Click on the pic to see a larger, more readable version.)
Now, I’m no psychiatrist, but as someone who’s suffered from depression, I’m pretty sure that guilt-tripping random women on the internet into sending you pictures of their BOOBZ isn’t going to actually help to cure this depression.
But the fact is, this guy isn’t actually suicidal. He’s just made that bit up in order to con women — and evidently some underage girls — into showing him their tits.
How do I know? Because. as a couple of the regulars in the CreepyPMs subreddit have pointed out, he’s done this before, apparently many times, with the same sob story about “having a really crap week (my grandma died).” So either he’s lost several dozen grandmothers in the past couple of years or he’s lying. I’m going to go with the latter explanation. Occam’s razor and all.
So congratulations, dude, you’ve managed to define a new low in shitty online pervery. From now on, people will forever measured by your yardstick. As in, “well, that’s guy’s pretty pervy, but he’s not quit as pervy as the guy who pretended to be suicidal on Omegle to get girls to show him their tits.”
Washing your hands also limits your exposure to everything else that you’ve touched in a communal space (whether it’s your home or work or the public sphere). We’re talking diseases like the flu, which decimated my office this winter. And bathrooms are filled with tiny bits of fecal matter floating around in the air. If you can smell poo when you walk in the door, you’re walking through the bits. Not only do I scrub the hell out of my hands every time, but I do not touch anything after that. I use my elbow to shut off the water and my foot to open the bathroom door.
It’s not just what you touch, but what everyone else has touched. Why don’t people get that?
Samantha Vimes — gorgeous boobies you’ve got there!
You know, I wonder just where exactly the term “boobs” actually comes from.
I mean, I look at some of them and…yeah, “tits” comes from teats, a part of a farming animal. But how you did get a “oobs” sound from a corruption of “reasts”?
And the breasts don’t resemble anything that has a name that sounds like “boobs”…
Ally, so shitty that you’ve had to put up with that shit from your dad. You don’t deserve that. No one does.
Justabrowngirl, Cassandra, so sorry you had to endure that shit from your abusers as well, glad you got away from them.
I had an ex years ago who threatened suicide to keep me in the relationship. And it worked, for a while, though I was miserable in the relationship and trying my best to figure a way out, because I really thought she might do it.
@10knives
from etymonline.com – which has so many answers to these kinds of questions.
boobs (n.)
“breasts,” 1929, U.S. slang, probably from much older term boobies (late 17c.), related to 17c. bubby; perhaps ultimately from Latin puppa, figuratively “little girl,” hence, in child-talk, “breast.” Or else it is a natural formation in English (cf. French poupe “teat,” German dialectal Bubbi, etc.)
So, sounds like, as with a lot of english words, it came to us via several other languages.
Thank you, Kim.
Hugs for anyone who wants them; like auggziliary said no one deserves that treatment and it wasn’t right you had to go through that.
@auggziliary, What kind of phone service does your roommate have? I think most cell providers and some landline providers offer call blocking for free, at this point he doesn’t get the right to disrupt your lives with his calls.
^^^^ ZOMG THIS.
Amanda Todd. Does she have a male equivalent, some guy who killed himself because a manipulative power-tripping woman demanded dickpix or else? And who harassed and blackmailed the shit out of him after he caved in? Or is that just something that happens to girls, with older guys? Because I’m trying to think of a single instance where this happened to a boy, and I’m drawing a blank. One would think such a thing would have made the news, if it happened, because it is just so egregious.
And to think the MRAsshats think guys have it so rough. Because an underage girl won’t flash her boobs at some predatory voyeur who isn’t content to look up a Tumblr or something if all he wants is a wank, and who insists on a special show instead so he can have himself a real power trip. “Dead Grandma” excuse be damned…wanking was always the furthest thing from my mind when I lost a grandparent. The only thing on my mind then was grief. But a young girl who’s never lost a loved one isn’t going to realize that. And she won’t realize that truly suicidal people don’t go demanding boobie-flashes, either. That’s what makes this whole shit-show so truly filthy.
I’ll bet this Omegle troll is one of those “cappers”, like the ones who drove Amanda Todd to suicide. The police should be put onto him before it happens again.
Hugs to all who need ’em. Positive vibes to Auggz’s roomie, too…
TW: Sexual assault
Adding to the tales of woe, I’ve had suicide threats used against me as well, by the guy who sexually assaulted me. In fact he did it twice.
First of all when I cut called him out and then cut contact with him due to unrelated bad behaviour (namely mocking and being disrespectful of my family), he made a post about it on a social media site where he knew I would likely see it, making references to bridges and lakes. I knew this was a suicide threat because he had told me about his suicidal thoughts before, and they always involved jumped off bridges into lakes.
Then when I started to speak up about his sexual assault of me, he did it again, on the same social networking site, this time more explicitly, but still with references to bridges and lakes.
Unfortunately he deleted his account on the site and I didn’t keep records of the threats, but several people saw them and could confirm if it was ever needed.
It’s despicable behaviour to threaten suicide in an attempt to control or silence people, and for a while it did make me feel really guilty for calling him out and speaking up, which was what he wanted.
As soon as I made it clear that I was not going to shut up and started getting him removed from spaces full of vulnerable people the suicide threats stopped. He only used them when he thought he could make me feel guilty and keep me quiet, as soon as they became useless he stopped. And that tells you everything you need to know.
Well, this is just so infuriating on so many levels.
Instead, this cat is awesome:
http://pinkbluelovescute.com/2012/11/gif-cat-pops-head-out-of-couch/
CONTENT NOTE: Bullying, suicide, sexual predation/exploitation
There was a case in Fife (Scotland) last year where a teenage boy killed himself after being blackmailed with footage he’d provided thinking he was talking to a girl his own age. I’m not sure if the identity of the predator was ever confirmed. You can read a (pretty vague but nevertheless deeply distressing) BBC news report on it here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-edinburgh-east-fife-23712000
And here is some brain bleach:
Wait, I thought we were giving it away to other countries, whether they wanted it or not?
God bless Romneycare, for real. The only plan I’ve ever had that was better, public or private, was Vermont’s state health care. I love the economic and entertainment opportunities available in Boston, but in terms of politics and progressive values, I really miss living in Vermont.
@Shayla, I have had excellent luck with Blue Cross by calling and talking to someone in person.
@Unimaginative, ugh, don’t even get me started on dental. I’ve needed braces since I was a kid; I’ve already had to have one gum graft (with more in my future) because my teeth are so crooked they’re being pushed out the front and back of my gums. But there’s no such thing as dental medicaid unless you’re dirt poor (even unemployed and injured, I didn’t qualify), and nothing that’s available through my employer covers braces. Dentistry is still considered purely cosmetic in this country.
More kitties. For anyone who needs them:
http://www.picturescaption.com/wp-content/uploads/animal-funny-kitten-pictures-with-captions-43-50-funny-kitten-pictures-with-captions.jpg
http://www.picturescaption.com/wp-content/uploads/animal-funny-kitten-pictures-with-captions-32-50-funny-kitten-pictures-with-captions.jpg
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You are so embarrassing. You deserve to be a perma-virgin.
I bet you think that the nonsense that you’re spouting here is going to win you accolades among the women folk.
It won’t.
RE: Marie
That fucking sucks 🙁 I hope you manage to keep your disability benefits.
It should be okay. It’s just extra trouble for me and aggravation. I swear, people seem to have the NWO idea that disabled people just cry in the street and get things.
RE: emilygoddess
The only plan I’ve ever had that was better, public or private, was Vermont’s state health care.
Man, much envy. I considered moving to Vermont, but I didn’t know anybody there, and unfortunately, these days I can’t just uproot and go somewhere without people who know what’s going on with me. God willing, I’ll manage to squeeze the damn Ohio government into giving me my legal healthcare. *eyeroll*
RE: suicide threats [obvious WARNINGS]
Rapist never tried that one on me, though he DID try the whole, “Without you, I’ll lose my job and not be able to keep my life together because I NEED YOU!” Seriously, dude was fucking twenty-one and he needed a sixteen-year-old kid to be the goddamn adult in the relationship. He sobbed like a child when I cut him off, and his tears were like delicious candy to me. Seeing how the cops couldn’t do anything, and nobody around us did anything, it was my sole consolation. Maybe I was helpless to get him charged or arrested or even get him socially shunned, but I made that fucker CRY!
I DID have the suicide shit pulled on me with a close friend, though. They had been suffering suicidal depression for a while, and I tried to run support, and I failed. I failed HARD. They later called me up furious, telling me that the only reason they didn’t jump in front of a bus because of me was because the bus was late. That fucked my head up for a while, and I actually pretty much retired from a lot of the Internet for a year or two just because I was terrified that I would kill someone by accident out of sheer stupidity. (It didn’t help that we had a lot of mutual friends.) Last I heard, they were still furious and terrified of me; if you’d like the longer story, you can just Google ‘baaing-tree’ and ‘suicide.’
Oddly, it was actually my big crash of 2012 that helped me move on from that. I was dissociative and suicidal, and I realized in one of those bolt-of-lightning moments that dear god, had I SUCCEEDED in jumping, it would have been none of my friends’ faults. NOTHING they would’ve said, however stupid, would’ve made me jump, because however garbled the message would’ve been, however crazy I was, I understood that they were my friends and didn’t want me to die. I was sick and crazy, but I KNEW this, in my heart of hearts, and I was able to recognize that even if they HAD said something absolutely horrible to me, it would’ve been just a drop in the ocean that was my sickness at the time. Maybe it would’ve been a straw breaking the camel’s back deal, but still, that wouldn’t have been why I jumped.
Now, I can just be happy that I’m far away from this ex-friend, and that I’m more emotionally distant from the mutual friends we had, and that I have a larger, more variegated support network so there’s less crossfire.
I’ve gotten a Borg email requesting we do not just obvious red flags but commentary on why posts like the ones from MEZ the other day are NOT helpful. Anyone interested should clicky my nym and email me via the constant form.
To the person who emailed me, I figure I should make my approval of your idea public, cuz I love it 🙂
That whole power trip thing is what causes creepshots too. There’s a vast internet full of naked people in porn, but these assholes take up-the-skirt pictures and post them specifically because they enjoy violating the woman’s privacy and her rights by exposing her.
In other news, bulldogs also do not grasp the concept of “uncomfy spots to sleep”: http://fyeahenglishbulldogs.tumblr.com/post/75185866038
MEZ? What did I miss, Argenti?
Bingo. They don’t really care what’s up anyone’s skirt; they get off on the idea that they are violating her right to be left alone. Making (or rather, KEEPING) the world unsafe for women and girls is their life’s goal, it seems.
That’s where you’re wrong, me boyo. David’s doing us a great service by saving us having to wade through reams of toxic twaddle from guys who REALLY deserve to be perma-virgins such as yourself. And making us chuckle along the way, too.
Isn’t virgin-shaming misandry?
Geez, it’s so depressing when someone thinks the only reason a man would care about women/a woman is that he’s trying to get access to their/her pants. MRAs are the biggest man haters I’ve ever met.
Only when women do it. To “incels”. Whom they taunt with their bodies that they refuse to hand over.
@historophilia and David
Sorry to hear you two have both had to deal with ex’s threatening suicide. Internet hugs from me, if either of you want them.
@emilygoddess
Wow. Didn’t know it was considered just cosmetic 🙁
@LBT
That’s good news. Still sucks that you’ve got to go through the trouble though.
Glad to hear you got away from your ex-friend. Internet hugs from me, if you want them, too.
@auggz
Yeah, it’s like being a virgin is some horrible fate? mra’s are confusing.
RE: Tim
Tim, I’m a gay man. Why on earth would I be a feminist to get into a woman’s pants? Don’t you think that’s kinda absurd?
Then again, if I absolutely had to have sex with SOMEONE on this site, I’d choose one of the women over you.