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Yet more proof that Men’s Rights activists live in an imaginary misandrist dystopia of their own making: this post on Reddit, which has the Men’s Righsters there in a tizzy:
Yeah, fellas, assuming that this even happened, I’m pretty sure what we’re dealing with is what the rest of us human beings call a “joke.” A dumb joke, but a joke nonetheless. This young lady, I feel confident in saying, does not actually intend to spermjack some innocent lad so she can spend the next 18-plus years of her life raising a child herself while trying to squeeze child support out of someone who hates her.
But don’t tell that to the Men’s Rightsers, who assume the worst about this young woman — and then some.
Indeed, some of the regulars there are so angry about it they literally want to get the young woman fired or at the very least admonished for making such a terrible, terrible comment in front of young, impressionable students who, I guess, have never heard a joke before.
Another commenter wonders how it is possible for a chubby woman to also be cute. Because fat women are hambeasts AMIRITE FELLAS HIGH FIVE!!!1!
If you scroll down far enough in the comments you will find some Men’s Rights Redditors wondering if maybe, perhaps, possibly, the woman might be making a joke. But these aren’t the comments getting the upvotes. In the Men’s Rights subreddit, anti-woman hysteria trumps rational skepticism pretty much all day, every day.
Q: How many Men’s Rights Activists does it take to screw in a lightbulb?
A: MISANDRY! SPERMJACKING! MALE DISPOSABILITY! THAT’S NOT FUNNY!
Hey, Argenti, if you’re around, how would you feel about adding a new type of animal to the herd for “dramatic”?
@MEZ: he is already manipulative, and sounds like he is abusive as well. I’m not being dramatic. As a rule, abusive people tend to escalate their abuse over time – they don’t bloody suddenly become magically unabusive. *The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour* (barring those genuinely seeking help).
And those of us who have been in abusive relationships aren’t fucking “chumps” either – they weren’t fucking abusive when we first met them and started seeing them (note my escalation comment).
I’m backing away because I am triggering badly on this conversation now.
It figures that language like “dramatic” would show up in a thread where we’ve been talking about gaslighting.
(Offers Kiwi Girl hugs if she wants them)
Hugs gratefully accepted. Maybe things are better now for people being believed when they mention they think they are being abused, but society sure still has a long way to come.
I hope Catgirl’s okay. Catgirl if you’re reading this, *none* of the comments you wrote are triggering for me. I’m just concerned for you. 🙂
Eh, if people are insisting that folks be gentle with their possibly-an-abusers even on feminist blogs then I’m not sure things have gotten much better at all.
Which is depressing, so here, have a puppy with puppies.
http://permabliss.tumblr.com/post/32526758730/so-efficient-and-preshiousssshhhh
Does a drama tic live on a drama llama and give it grief, I wonder? At any rate the drama llama would be my vote for the word herd.
I definitely don’t think calling people out is bullying. I feel like some of my posts must have indicated I thought otherwise–if so, I apologize. While I don’t think you guys are bullies, I’m still somewhat frightened of commenting.
I also want to add that something felt…off…about MEZ’s comments. I take particular issue with “You both played a part in blowing up the argument.” I may be wrong, but I read it as “catgirl is partly to blame for her boyfriend hurting her emotionally”. And those smiley’s seem like they were intended to be hurtful. Sorry if I’m just misinterpreting, MEZ–I can be rather bad at grasping unstated meaning.
that’s so cute. Is that a bull terrier? But I’m still a complete cat person!
I think it’s a pit bull?
I’m trying to step back until I can calm down on the MEZ thing, because honestly, right now what I’m thinking is “this, right here, is why people find it so hard to leave abusive relationships, because when they reach out for help this is what they get”.
Also? Someone doesn’t have to be a 100 % Official Confirmed Abuser as decided by the committee of is-this-person-hurting-you-enough-for-it-to-count-yet for the person they’re hurting to decide that nope, they’re not going to wait around to see if it escalates or not.
Looks like a pit bull to me.
This is the dog my sister’s hoping to adopt – SO cute.
http://www.petrescue.com.au/listings/269925
About the only thing I’m not clear on would be a case where one parent sneaks the child to a Safe Haven site without the knowledge of the other. Assuming the other parent ultimately learned the truth, it wouldn’t surprise me if there were a lot of legal complications arising,
I’d expect that to be cleared up in pretty short order; when parent two called the police to report a missing child/kidnapping.
kittehs, that doggie is so adorable I squeed.
This seal had the same effect on me.
I’m staying out of the other conversation because I agree with Cassandra — it’s depressing.
Eeeeeee seal!
oh wow, the corgis will inherit the internetz when (if!!!!) the cats give it up. The seal photo is really cute too. 🙂
Also this smiling caterpillar. Or Or these little sweethearts. I have nothing useful to contribute here except brain bleach.
If my sister has any say in it, they will! She has A Thing for corgi crosses. 😀
Smiley caterpillar and OMG TABBY KITTENS
::swoons::
catgirl, if you’re still reading, I just want to send you my support and agree with what most everyone has said. Your feelings are legitimate. Your boyfriend does not have the right to negotiate your boundaries.
Brain bleach!
http://youtu.be/tbIOD_elAgo
I’m making weird choking noises laughing so much at that kitty, Viscaria!
Can’t see Mads or Fribs doing that. They tend to inflate into balls of fur and float away when the vac comes out. This could be because I don’t use it often enough for them to get used to it. 😛
Mine run from the vacuum. Although when the youngest was a little kitten, and my partner used the dustbuster just in front of him, he spat. I had never seen a cat spit before – I thought all those cartoons were exaggerating. Even now, 7 years later, I tell him he’s still my baby when I pet him. Misandry!
Miscatry!
@MEZ
I disagree. Politeness =/= niceness, and I’ve met way to many polite people who will spew sexist, homophobic, ect crap, no matter how polite they act.
Dude. It’s not your relationship. If taking breaks doesn’t work for you, suit yourself, but not everyone has to follow your rules.
Wow. Look, it is 100% your fault if you read ‘I’m taking a break’ as ‘I’m not doing this, but I’m stringing you along to give you a glimmer of hope. Most people say what they mean.
I’m not sure why, but this paragraph is striking me so the wrong way.
@kiwigirl
That sucks 🙁 Internet hugs from me, if you want them.
That cat video! I needed that laugh.