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Men’s Rights Redditors confused, angered by random woman’s obvious joke about spermjacking some dude

Dorothy Parker would like to remind you that women are also capable of making jokes.
Frustrated Dorothy Parker would like to remind you that women are also capable of making jokes.

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Yet more proof that Men’s Rights activists live in an imaginary misandrist dystopia of their own making: this post on Reddit, which has the Men’s Righsters there in a tizzy:

567  Heard this gem yesterday at a college. Stay safe, men! (self.MensRights)  submitted 1 day ago by LoudMatt  Thought MensRights would find this interesting.  I teach a class at a small community college and yesterday I was set up at a student activities fair. At the table next to me, one of the staff (not a student, mind you), a chubby, cute woman in her early to mid 20s was talking to two students in their late teens and said (this is verbatim, btw):  "If I don't have a baby by 28, I'm just going to go to some bar and get pregnant from some guy. It's easier and cheaper and I'll get a check too!"  A classy role model right there. Stay safe, boys.      145 comments

Yeah, fellas, assuming that this even happened, I’m pretty sure what we’re dealing with is what the rest of us human beings call a “joke.” A dumb joke, but a joke nonetheless. This young lady, I feel confident in saying, does not actually intend to spermjack some innocent lad so she can spend the next 18-plus years of her life raising a child herself while trying to squeeze child support out of someone who hates her.

But don’t tell that to the Men’s Rightsers, who assume the worst about this young woman — and then some.

springy 40 points 1 day ago (45|5)  And then when she is a month pregnant, and reality sets in, she will find some sucker that looks like he has good financial prospects, sleep with him and say "You are going to be a father - let's get married". He will do the honorable thing, and then two years later she will kick him out, and she will keep the child, his house, his car, and his savings. He lose everything, including his dignity. He will only get to keep two things: regrets, and child support bills.

Indeed, some of the regulars there are so angry about it they literally want to get the young woman fired or at the very least admonished for making such a terrible, terrible comment in front of young, impressionable students who, I guess, have never heard a joke before.

Another commenter wonders how it is possible for a chubby woman to also be cute. Because fat women are hambeasts AMIRITE FELLAS HIGH FIVE!!!1!

If you scroll down far enough in the comments you will find some Men’s Rights Redditors wondering if maybe, perhaps, possibly, the woman might be making a joke. But these aren’t the comments getting the upvotes. In the Men’s Rights subreddit, anti-woman hysteria trumps rational skepticism pretty much all day, every day.

Q: How many Men’s Rights Activists does it take to screw in a lightbulb?

A: MISANDRY! SPERMJACKING! MALE DISPOSABILITY! THAT’S NOT FUNNY!

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cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Hey, Argenti, if you’re around, how would you feel about adding a new type of animal to the herd for “dramatic”?

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

@MEZ: he is already manipulative, and sounds like he is abusive as well. I’m not being dramatic. As a rule, abusive people tend to escalate their abuse over time – they don’t bloody suddenly become magically unabusive. *The best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour* (barring those genuinely seeking help).

And those of us who have been in abusive relationships aren’t fucking “chumps” either – they weren’t fucking abusive when we first met them and started seeing them (note my escalation comment).

I’m backing away because I am triggering badly on this conversation now.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

It figures that language like “dramatic” would show up in a thread where we’ve been talking about gaslighting.

(Offers Kiwi Girl hugs if she wants them)

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

Hugs gratefully accepted. Maybe things are better now for people being believed when they mention they think they are being abused, but society sure still has a long way to come.

I hope Catgirl’s okay. Catgirl if you’re reading this, *none* of the comments you wrote are triggering for me. I’m just concerned for you. 🙂

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Eh, if people are insisting that folks be gentle with their possibly-an-abusers even on feminist blogs then I’m not sure things have gotten much better at all.

Which is depressing, so here, have a puppy with puppies.

http://permabliss.tumblr.com/post/32526758730/so-efficient-and-preshiousssshhhh

kittehserf
10 years ago

Does a drama tic live on a drama llama and give it grief, I wonder? At any rate the drama llama would be my vote for the word herd.

scott1139
scott1139
10 years ago

I definitely don’t think calling people out is bullying. I feel like some of my posts must have indicated I thought otherwise–if so, I apologize. While I don’t think you guys are bullies, I’m still somewhat frightened of commenting.

I also want to add that something felt…off…about MEZ’s comments. I take particular issue with “You both played a part in blowing up the argument.” I may be wrong, but I read it as “catgirl is partly to blame for her boyfriend hurting her emotionally”. And those smiley’s seem like they were intended to be hurtful. Sorry if I’m just misinterpreting, MEZ–I can be rather bad at grasping unstated meaning.

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

that’s so cute. Is that a bull terrier? But I’m still a complete cat person!

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I think it’s a pit bull?

I’m trying to step back until I can calm down on the MEZ thing, because honestly, right now what I’m thinking is “this, right here, is why people find it so hard to leave abusive relationships, because when they reach out for help this is what they get”.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Also? Someone doesn’t have to be a 100 % Official Confirmed Abuser as decided by the committee of is-this-person-hurting-you-enough-for-it-to-count-yet for the person they’re hurting to decide that nope, they’re not going to wait around to see if it escalates or not.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Looks like a pit bull to me.

This is the dog my sister’s hoping to adopt – SO cute.

http://www.petrescue.com.au/listings/269925

pecunium
10 years ago

About the only thing I’m not clear on would be a case where one parent sneaks the child to a Safe Haven site without the knowledge of the other. Assuming the other parent ultimately learned the truth, it wouldn’t surprise me if there were a lot of legal complications arising,

I’d expect that to be cleared up in pretty short order; when parent two called the police to report a missing child/kidnapping.

cloudiah
10 years ago

kittehs, that doggie is so adorable I squeed.

This seal had the same effect on me.

I’m staying out of the other conversation because I agree with Cassandra — it’s depressing.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Eeeeeee seal!

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

oh wow, the corgis will inherit the internetz when (if!!!!) the cats give it up. The seal photo is really cute too. 🙂

cloudiah
10 years ago

Also this smiling caterpillar. Or Or these little sweethearts. I have nothing useful to contribute here except brain bleach.

kittehserf
10 years ago

If my sister has any say in it, they will! She has A Thing for corgi crosses. 😀

kittehserf
10 years ago

Smiley caterpillar and OMG TABBY KITTENS

::swoons::

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago

catgirl, if you’re still reading, I just want to send you my support and agree with what most everyone has said. Your feelings are legitimate. Your boyfriend does not have the right to negotiate your boundaries.

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago
kittehserf
10 years ago

I’m making weird choking noises laughing so much at that kitty, Viscaria!

Can’t see Mads or Fribs doing that. They tend to inflate into balls of fur and float away when the vac comes out. This could be because I don’t use it often enough for them to get used to it. 😛

Kiwi girl
Kiwi girl
10 years ago

Mine run from the vacuum. Although when the youngest was a little kitten, and my partner used the dustbuster just in front of him, he spat. I had never seen a cat spit before – I thought all those cartoons were exaggerating. Even now, 7 years later, I tell him he’s still my baby when I pet him. Misandry!

kittehserf
10 years ago

Miscatry!

Marie
10 years ago

@MEZ

IMO, as decent people, we should strive to be considerate towards our acquaintances unless and until they prove themselves to be on the attack and we’re forced to defend ourselves verbally, or as a last resort, physically

I disagree. Politeness =/= niceness, and I’ve met way to many polite people who will spew sexist, homophobic, ect crap, no matter how polite they act.

I don’t have a problem with her framing it as taking a break, I have a problem with her taking a break at all.

Dude. It’s not your relationship. If taking breaks doesn’t work for you, suit yourself, but not everyone has to follow your rules.

It unconsciously says “I’m not ready for this relationship right now, but let me give you this glimmer of hope so I can keep you around in case I later change my mind.” It’s extremely unfair to the other person, guy or girl. Again, what people consciously intend is not always what the other person experiences.

Wow. Look, it is 100% your fault if you read ‘I’m taking a break’ as ‘I’m not doing this, but I’m stringing you along to give you a glimmer of hope. Most people say what they mean.

I meant that you are being dramatic in your assumptions of how things will go, not in your behavior. But that is expected, because you have your experiences, and your biases, and I have my experiences, and my biases. Maybe I am being dramatic as well? 🙂

I’m not sure why, but this paragraph is striking me so the wrong way.

@kiwigirl

I’m backing away because I am triggering badly on this conversation now.

That sucks 🙁 Internet hugs from me, if you want them.

cloudiah
10 years ago

That cat video! I needed that laugh.

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