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So over on A Voice for Men, young Jason Gregory seems faintly jealous that young women who put up dating profiles online tend to get flooded with messages — and the occasional dick pic — from horny guys.
F]ree cock is everywhere. Men give it away like it’s worthless. … I doubt that it is unusual at all for a woman to get 300 messages in her inbox from men who are desperate for female affection, approval, and sex. There is no doubt in my mind that men send “dick-pics” and clamor, bother, and sometimes harass women for their affections and attentions.
But Jason feels no sympathy for young women who put up profiles hoping to meet some nice young fellow who’s also into Sherlock and Neil Gaiman and Indian food and instead get messages from guys who introduce themselves by expressing a desire to ejaculate in their hair.
No, Jason is angry because he’s convinced all these offers of “free cock” only serve to make the women of the world into snooty-stuck stuck-up so-and-sos who think they’re all that and a folder full of dick pics.
All you men who give it away, all you do is reinforce the entitlement mentality of women who believe that their being present is plenty. You reinforce the idea that women don’t owe anything to the relationship—that they deserve a free-ride of cocks and that they don’t even have to break a sweat.
Jason, I should add, means this last bit literally. He’s resentful that when he allegedly engages in the act of coitus he has to do all the work while his alleged partners allegedly lie there like inflatable love-dolls.
Anyhoo,.Jason has a plan to take these stuck-up ladies down a peg or two: A cock strike.
Yep, he wants men to start saying “no” to women who are interested in them, just to see how they like it. But he doesn’t want them to just say no. He wants them to be giant dicks about it.
Try telling a girl no. Tell her, after she makes it clear that she wants your cock, that you’re not interested in giving it to her. Tell her that she isn’t interesting, that her soul is dog-shit and that she has nothing to offer other than boobs and booty, that she is a piece of shit and a total failure as a human being, that you don’t find her attractive and that she isn’t even good enough to be a cum-bucket. Tell her that she is never going to be any good at sucking cock and that she needs to stop pretending that she is doing any favors and learn to compensate for her inadequacies by becoming “kinky.” Tell her that her vapid life of shoes and pop-culture and materialism are soulless pursuits of dog-shit. Watch what happens. If you Jez-ladies wanna know what “hostile” means, see this rejected woman.
Emphasis mine.
A Voice for Men, you may recall, sees itself as leading the most important civil rights movement of the 21st century. I am sure Jason Gregory’s post here will be remembered alongside Martin Luther King’s Letter from a Birmingham Jail as a classic in civil rights literature.
EDIT: I added a couple more “allegedlys” to a sentence I thought needed them.
To be honest, I’m having trouble making heads or tails of this one. He seems to think that women who get a lot of offers from men are really passive in bed and make their partners do all the work. He doesn’t explain where he gets that from, but in any case his repeated references to “cock riding” and “saddling up” that make it sound like the opposite is true.
He would probably find his sex life a lot more satisfying if he could communicate what exactly he wanted to his partner with a more clarity and without, you know, the seething hatred.
Geez louise. He would have sounded like a decent guy if he had known when to stop sharing his opinions. I think not sending pictures of your junk to women who didn’t request it is good policy, and that not slobbering over every woman you meet is likewise a good idea.
If he had stopped there instead of going to crazy town and running for public office…
I imagine that a lot of the guys who send unsolicited dick pics, and insist that this is a complement and a good thing for the recipients are the same guys who complain when a woman who’s not movie-star “attractive” wears a bikini at the beach.
At least be consistent in your terribleness. If you’re going to pull the “no one wants to see that” card (which you shouldn’t, because it’s terrible and false), accept when other people tell you the same!
(Think this would work? Maybe we can use their misogyny against them!)
JoJo: Just a heads-up: Unless you walk it back very quickly, you’re going to get a bit of well-earned pushback for “crazytown”. No ablism, plzkaythx.
(Follow-up to the above: I recommend substituting “Shitheadville” or “Asshat County” (in which case he’d be running for sheriff).)
you know what? If you are going to keep attacking me for petty reasons even though I’m on your side I’m just not going to talk to any of you. I’m tired of getting bullied in the comments on this blog.
That post seems to assume that no guy has ever rejected a girl that’s interested in him ever in the history of mankind. Those of us men that are living outside the land of make-believe know that both men AND women get rejected on a regular basis.
I guess MRAs are so hard up for a lay that it’s a foreign concept to ever THINK of saying no to a woman who’s interested…!
BTW, well done, LBT. Forgot to say.
*headdesk* here we go again…
JoJo: If my post falls under your definition of ‘attack’… *shrug* And it’s not a petty reason. That language causes real people real distress, and achieves nothing merit-worthy in the process.
Jojo, I don’t need “allies” who make ableist comments. You’re only being held to the same standard of everyone else here. I don’t know why you think you get to punch down at people living with mental illness, but I’d wish you’d change your mind because you don’t.
Auggz: Honestly, I hadn’t realized JoJo HAD been called out before. That’s one reason I tried to post fast-and-gentle; I was assuming a good-faith poster who just slipped up the way we all do from time to time.
Blech! As if there is enough abusive brainwashing in the world to make these asshats attractive.
Mayor of Bullshitsburgh!!
As much ‘sense’ in the back-assward MRA-logic way that would make, I think the answer to what this is supposed to accomplish is a lot simpler – women feel bad about themselves. End of story. These guys have finally out and confirmed my suspicions that they don’t want or enjoy sex with women outside of using it as an opportunity to humiliate the other party, and this dudebro thinks he’s found a way to circumvent the nasty physical bit.
Also, shoes and materialism? Do these guys all live in “Sex and the City” ? What real-world person, let alone majority of women, is like that?
Jojo: what the fuck? OK, if you want to play it this way, have a tantrum.
Auggz: the abelism’s new, but there have been some really sexist comments before.
Why. The. Fuck. can’t these people get it through their fucking thick heads that this ALREADY HAPPENS!!!!!!!!
I hate it when guys talk to me about dating and then start complaining about how I never hear no when I ask guys out. WHAT? I’ve been told no many times! Many girls get told no by guys they are interested in. I’M SO FUCKING TIRED OF HEARING THAT IT DOESN’T HAPPEN!!!!!
Right…Hey dudes you should have seen me KICK ASS man ! This chick totally wanted to ride my COCK! Like she was begging for it and I told her NO, DOG SHIT SHOE SHOPPER! <YOU DON"T DESERVE MY FREE COCK!! And she went away ..
HA HA HA!!!! I win!
Yeah, sheriff of Asshat County sounds about right. The idea, or willful insistence, that women are pleased and flattered by the sort of attention exemplified by the CreepyPMs is . . . well, with a bit of composting it would be good for your roses.
It reminds me, in a way, of my twelve year old son. He has great difficulty expressing any positive emotions, and sometimes resorts to swinging his fists while deliberately missing me. But he’s twelve, and mentally ill (not a figure of speech). Don’t know what effect puberty is going to have on him, but we’re going to work hard on having him not treat women that way. Given that he’s been in therapy since he was five, I suspect he thinks of women as people who are always asking him about his emotions.
Dear Jason Gregory:
You aren’t interesting. Your soul is dogshit. You have nothing to offer but a (TINY) twig and berries. You are a piece of shit and a total failure as a human being. I don’t find you attractive, and you aren’t even fit to be a sperm donor. You’re never going to be any good at sex, and need to stop pretending that you are doing women any favors, and become a slave by way of compensation. Your vapid life of “men’s rights activism” and sexual conquest are soulless pursuits of dogshit. Kneel and lick my boots!
Y’know, this works a LOT better when it’s turned around on him!
I hate to say it but he’s probably only encouraging others to say ‘no’ because he’s not even personally had a chance to say it to a lady. Not to make a personal attack on him, it’s just rather demonstrative of all the ‘activism’ these boys try to bring into force – it’s all talk and no action. Even these so-called PUAs make me suspicious that they actually do half the the rubbish they say they can/
Thanks, AIT and Freemage for the phone numbers. I’m not sure how I’ll get them to the guy–I’m worried his partner will take it from him, since hell, if she’s willing to violently assault the guy there’s no reason for me to believe she doesn’t have other abusive behavior tendencies. But I’ll maybe give it to the landlord so it goes directly to him? I’m not sure, both tenants are with the cops right now and I don’t know what the situation will be when I come back.
RE: JoJo
If you are going to keep attacking me for petty reasons even though I’m on your side I’m just not going to talk to any of you. I’m tired of getting bullied in the comments on this blog.
I’m mentally ill. I’ve been told that I deserve to die in the street because I’m crazy and don’t work like I should. If you feel bullied because someone called you out on calling a group of assholes “crazytown,” please, feel free to go; you sound like a whiny little ponce.
Wait, a moratorium on cock pics?
Why am I thinking of a stopped watch right now?
JoJo: everyone who uses ableist terms, or any other sort of racist/gendered/homophobic/trans phobic slurs, gets called out here. It’s very easy to do by mistake, because they are so common, and plenty of us have to learn to adjust the language – me included – and have been called out for it. It’s not an attack, it’s not specific to you, and shit, it’s not so hard to apologise and try not to do it again, is it? Doubling down and/or starting the I-am-being-bullied line are “when in a hole, stop digging” reactions.
LBT – holy shit, that’s awful. Super extra high fives for you for helping.
Well, in Mr Gregory’s case, it is worthless. The penis might be okay but it’s attached to an obnoxious, stupid, misogynistic human being, and that cancels any value it had.
I hope he does follow his little plan. I hope all his witless mates become MRTS* as well. It’ll ensure they never have sex with another human being again, and that’s a major win.
*Men Refusing Teh Secks