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When you assume: A “Nice Guy” launches a pre-emptive strike

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So I’ve been reading Reddit’s CreepyPMs subreddit a lot lately, where the recipients of bizarre and, well, creepy personal messages share them with the world. As you might imagine, some of the creepiest come from complete strangers on dating sites, like the following message received by a young woman on MeetMe, who put up a profile stating that she was looking for friends only (she already has a boyfriend) and that she would talk to anyone.

Well, one young man didn’t quite believe her, and sent this message:

assume

He doesn’t judge, huh? That’s the most judgy non-judgemental message I’ve ever seen.

If you haven’t already checked out CreepyPMs, go take a look. You can lose hours in there.

 

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dallasapple
dallasapple
10 years ago

What that guy said i just posted above about sounds like a parent child relationship .Children don’t realize often times until they are old enough the sacrifices (with no thanks) and tireless efforts that go into trying to protect them and give them the best they can .We don’t even expect them to “know” .But that’s a child .Hopefully they will grow up and realize it and respect you for it . Then they can in turn do the same for their children .

But women aren’t children and the men aren’t the parental’s of them .

sn0rkmaiden
10 years ago

Like that guy had posted that ladies should understand that there are men out their that would rescue her out of a burning building and go back in for her cats . I’m like and ?

Yes, that charming bit of wisdom from our friend Fistula. What he fails to recognize is that is that he depends on the same men to rescue him out of any potential burning buildings he may find himself in.

kittehserf
10 years ago

“Fistula”

::dies::

JoJo
JoJo
10 years ago

Ladies, are you not remembering all the mammoths we dudes used to catch for you? You think bringing them home and teaching them to fetch the newsrock and vacuum your cave floors was easy? Well think again, missy!

I totally saw it on a documentary too. Also, it taught me that big, fat loud men got hot redheads for wives so that means I’m entitled to that too!

kittehserf
10 years ago

And what about all the men who ran into burning caves to save your mammoths?

… wait, that’s not right …

Diana Adams
Diana Adams
10 years ago

Many misogynists see women exactly as children, who are incapable of doing anything for themselves and are also incapable of rational thought and I believe it’s women’s on average smaller and more delicate physical appearance that causes a lot of their delusion. I’ve often read them compare women to adolescent boys. They don’t understand that testosterone which gives men the muscle and bone growth so they can fight other males (evolutionary speaking) doesn’t make men more mature than women. They have a really hard time grasping the fact that women are full grown autonomous human beings no different than themselves.

dallasapple
dallasapple
10 years ago

Well these men need to realize they WERE the children and it was most likely their mommy that wiped their little asses 90% of the time and put diaper ointment on their soft little baby tushes to avoid diaper rash .In ways you would never know little boys “women” worked tirelessly and sacrificed and with no thanks apparently ever from these guys. No they grow up and they are the big strong men who view adult women as children ?

I just want to know WHO are these men doing all these things for “women” that we don’t even know about that they get NO benefit at all in doing not even a thanks or that do not also benefit men?

In ways “you will never know” is the answer because that’s the answer. You would never know it because there is nothing to know .

Felisha
Felisha
10 years ago

@David Futrelle

Although some professions use that ‘r’ word to describe severely low IQ individuals with mental conditions, I understand how it’s being hi-jacked on the street to mock those with something like down syndrome, for example. That’s why I don’t use it. Yet my thinking was that the AMR reddit associates the word ‘idiot’ with that word.

@cassandrakitty & @kittehserf

The word p**** probably dates back to ancient germany used to call a woman’s vulva, but not in a derogatory way. Other languages might have used the word as a way to call cats. That’s why you hear the word ‘pussycat’ conjoined. I even hear children use it. Of itself, doesn’t have the insult of the words c*** and s***, which are used to describe a disgusting whore or whore-minded woman. The catholic church may have invented the ‘s’ word in the 1400s to debase female sexuality. And the british use the ‘c’ word even to describe men acting crazy. I know a british youtuber whose good at destroying MRA fallacies, but he uses the ‘c’ word from time to time, which makes me uncomfortable. But that’s his culture. As an American, I don’t tell him not to use it. And I know he’s not using it to belittle women. Besides, it’s his video site, his rules. But I did tell AMR users I wasn’t going to use the word idiot anymore on the reddit, but then asked what I could use. From there did things go down hill…

Anyway. kittehserf, I don’t see how you find the ‘p’ word more offensive than the ‘c’ word. That’s probably the first time I ever heard someone say that. The Russian feminists, Pussy Riot, own it. Then there’s the Slut Walk feminists. It’s mocking misogyny. But I don’t know any feminist owning the ‘c’ word in that way.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Felisha, your little semantic games are cute and all, but is it really so hard to just not use a word someone has asked you not to use? It’s not fucking rocket science.

It really doesn’t matter how or why someone finds a word offensive. Do you keep standing on a person’s foot when they’ve told you you stepped on it?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Damn, Felisha has a whole herd of teal deers. Pity none of them make her refusal to respect other people’s requests that she stop using gendered slurs any less obnoxious.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Cassandra: And she’s trying out the “Brits say c*nt” thing. Lulz ahoy!

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Did you know that was your culture?

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

I love it when Americans splain my culture to me.

JoJo
JoJo
10 years ago

Well, to be fair, if you walked into an English bar and asked a random guy what a c*nt was he’d probably point to the guy sitting next to him.

I don’t think any of us are in an English pub so I don’t think that argument holds water.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Notice how if you asked a British woman in a pub the same thing she’d be more likely to tell you to fuck off.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Jojo: the point is, not all Brits use the word.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

Are we really at such a not-even-101 level on this blog that “well, British MEN say it all the time” is being used to argue that it’s not a gendered slur?

Diana Adams
Diana Adams
10 years ago

They somehow manage to rationalize and exclude their mothers (atleast most of the time) from the rest of the women. You know like all women are whores except… for my mother or another female relative.

As for them not even noticing women’s work that’s just so typical, a firefigher is a noble profession that saves lives but so is a nurse and countless others, but I haven’t heard the argument that nurses are doing their job for men, because it’s idiotic, they are doing it for everybody and because they get paid.

JoJo
JoJo
10 years ago

And my point was this isn’t the time to use such language. I was trying to mock the people you were arguing with. Looks like I failed to get my point across again, and I will stop talking now so I don’t say something idiotic again.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Cassandra: Looks like it.

cassandrakitty
cassandrakitty
10 years ago

There is no appropriate time for that language.

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

Jojo: yeah, I got that from your “but we’re not in an English bar” part. It was the sentence before that that was the problem.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Hey Felisha

I don’t give a flying fuck for the origins of the words. Don’t ‘splain my language or background to me, either. Like you’ve been told repeatedly, you were asked not to use the word because it’s offensive, yet here you are insisting you can use it. Funny kind of feminist you are.

Oh and I do know feminists who want to reclaim the word c****. I disagree with them, and guess what? They have manners enough not to use it around people who’ve asked them not to.

Why is this so hard for you to grasp?

Your ‘splaining and condescension are making you more and more obnoxious and you’re fast heading into contemptible troll territory.

opheliamonarch
10 years ago

Most blokes I know would have some serious words with a guy who called them a c**t.

It happened once to me, he didn’t realise Mr M was with me. Mr M certainly wasn’t laughing and neither did the other guy.

Definitely not justifying violence, just saying calling someone a c**t in Nottingham will not end well. But then, Nottingham isn’t exactly posh, maybe we’re all just fighty thugs.

Ally S
10 years ago

The word p**** probably dates back to ancient germany used to call a woman’s vulva, but not in a derogatory way.

The problem isn’t the etymology; the problem is its misogynistic usage. It is used to deride men for being feminine in some way.

Other languages might have used the word as a way to call cats. That’s why you hear the word ‘pussycat’ conjoined.

Completely different, irrelevant word usage that doesn’t erase the reality that “p*ssy” is used as a misogynistic slur.

And the british use the ‘c’ word even to describe men acting crazy. I know a british youtuber whose good at destroying MRA fallacies, but he uses the ‘c’ word from time to time, which makes me uncomfortable. But that’s his culture.

I hear men in the US being called the c-word as well. But that doesn’t change the fact that its usage – regardless of who it is applied to – is misogynistic. The word is insulting because it’s associated with contemptible women.

As an American, I don’t tell him not to use it. And I know he’s not using it to belittle women. Besides, it’s his video site, his rules. But I did tell AMR users I wasn’t going to use the word idiot anymore on the reddit, but then asked what I could use. From there did things go down hill…

Why can’t use just avoid using those words altogether? It really isn’t hard at all.

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