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The Power of Butt: MRA granddaddy Warren Farrell picks a new book cover, and can’t decide between tits, ass or vagina.

Men: Oppressed by butts?
Men: Oppressed by women’s butts?

Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, published twenty years ago, defined much of the agenda for what’s become the contemporary Men’s Rights movement. If you hear a Men’s Rights activist prattle on about “male disposability”or “death professions” or complain about draft registration (even though the draft itself has been dead for decades), you’ve got Farrell to thank, or blame.

So when Farrell decided to release a new ebook edition of his most famous book, it was perhaps not all that surprising that he decided to turn to the folks at A Voice for Men, probably the most influential Men’s Rights site around, for advice on a picture to use for a new cover.

But what was surprising was the pictures he asked the AVFMers to choose from, three sexually charged, and slightly NSFW, pics highlighting what Farrell evidently sees as the key female challenges to male power: their vaginas, tits and ass.

I’m not speaking metaphorically: one of the pictures shows a nude woman’s pelvic area, her vulva both highlighted and hidden by what is essentially a merkin made of moss; a second picture shows the ass of a young, topless woman in her underpants slaving over a hot stove, and the third shows a famous picture of Marilyn Monroe, also topless.

AVFM’s Paul Elam explained the, er, logic of these images:

Imagine the juxtaposition of the title, “Myth of Male Power” over one of these images. The cover alone will challenge the idea of male power in men and women alike on a gut level.

By “on a gut level” he apparently means “in men’s pants.”

You sort of have to see them to see how utterly tacky they are; here’s the one of the butt, which either Farrell or Elam helpfully captioned “Where’s the power?”

You can find the others on AVFM here; if you don’t want to give them the pageviews, you can find them here.

You couldn’t really ask for better symbols of the essential misogyny of the Men’s Rights movement today — or of its obsession with blaming women (and women’s sexuality in particular) for the restrictions on male power that so chafe the hides of MRAs. Farrell, in the past, generally avoided demonizing female sexuality quite so obviously and directly, but these days he’s apparently been spending too much time amongst the A Voice for Menners.

Farrell’s choices for potential covers also tell us a good deal about him as well; in the past he’s essentially been able to hide his crackpot pseudoscholarship behind a certain veneer or respectability — releasing his books through major publishing houses, touting his PhD — but here he seems to be falling to his natural level, amongst the self-publishers of crappy e-books with stock-photo covers.

While some AVFMers had other suggestions — perhaps a picture of the Wicked Witch? — most seemed to think that the pictures were perfect for his book. Tom Golden — along with most of the voters in the poll — preferred Marilyn and her tits:

Tom Golden says November 23, 2013 at 9:06 PM I think the point that Warren is trying to make is that simply the sight of a very attractive female puts most men into a mental position of subservience and blind willingness to be of service to her in whatever way he can. In essence he becomes a slave. How can men be in so much power when just the sight of a lightly clad young attractive woman throws them into such a state? I think any of the images accomplishes that task but I personally like #3 because when I see that image my awareness of my surrender to her power is palpable.

Others were more taken with the ass pic. Alek wrote:

alek says November 23, 2013 at 1:36 PM My choice (nr. 2) is losing heavily :( :D DDD I like 2 since its the most powerfully influential… The gist of the book “myth of male power” is that “oppression of women” is an interpretational myth – “poor wimminz had to stay in the kitchinz, while man goes outside and has a blast being all hero and shit” (i’m dumbing down female gender role to “kitchen” as representative of all oppression interpretational myths covered by Warren) This photo challenges that whole notion of the kitchen as an oppressive enviroment, while immediately and visually telling the viewer just how powerful she – the woman is, merely by seeing her silhouette, casual relaxed demeanor and posture projecting utter sexual power.

And Elam, while voting for the moss-encrusted vulva himself, was apparently also quite, er, affected by dat ass.  (Those with especially sensitive stomachs may wish to skip the following quote, as it contains an unsolicited update from his boner.)

I am about as red pill as men come I think. There has not been a woman that could sexually manipulate me in decades. But one look at that woman’s ass in image #2 and I feel every instinctive reproductive trigger trying to go off in my brain. It is not a feeling of power at all for me, but a feeling of something I might have to overcome in order to just self-preserve.

So there you have it: Two of the most influential figures in the Men’s Rights movement — indeed, arguably the two most influential figures — actually believe that men are oppressed by women’s butts.

Indeed, Elam is apparently so overwhelmed by the sight of an attractive ass that he considers it a literal threat to his life.

Adding to the creepiness factor here: Farrell is 70 years old, making him literally old enough to be grandfather of the model in her underpants. Elam is in his late 50s.

Now, the weird tackiness of the images Farrell chose for his book cover did not go entirely unnoticed at AVFM. There were critics — including, amazingly, AVFM’s own John Hembling, who was a little baffled by the idea of using a sexualized picture of a woman on the cover of Farrell’s book about men, and asked if Farrell was possibly trolling them.

One MRA blogger, Kevin Wayne, posted a link to his blog, where he excoriated all three choices as “Budweiser Ad rejects” and begged Farrell to try something else:

This is just going to backfire. Don’t we have enough issues of being branded as a bunch of no-necks wanting to take women back to the 1950’s?

Elam, while gentle in his handling of Hembling’s criticism, threw a fit over Wayne’s post, banning him from AVFM and bashing him — on AVFM and on Wayne’s own site — as a do-nothing newcomer to Men’s Rights who was too “borderline retarded” to  understand the profound deeper meaning behind  Farrell’s T&A pics.

Farrell himself seems to have been a a bit more willing to listen to the critics. Indeed, he’s asked AVFM’s readers to submit some more pictures to choose from. There will be a runoff between the winner of the first AVFM poll (Marilyn and her tits) several of the new pics.

So far there hasn’t exactly been a flood of submissions. They’ve included a painting of Diogenes, a painting of Lilith, a photo of a homeless man, and this:

Office_Bitch

Yeah, that’ll work great.

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wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
10 years ago

CassandraSays,

In the early days of Manboobz, possibly even before the hosting platform switch, one of the MRAs decided to cite femdom porn as evidence of misandry.
…I really wanted to see a study of the gender dynamics of the consumers of femdom porn, because I have a feeling it skews male, or at least there is a significant male consumer base.

“OMG! Stuff that makes men horny is misandry.”

…Then again, they really do seem to think that is correct.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

@ wordsp1nner

They really are impossible to Poe, aren’t they?

Side note – I am a domme and I have no interest in traditional femdom stuff. I like my kink free of stuff that specifically plays on gender dynamics in an “all A’s are B” way.

kittehserf
10 years ago

HeatherN – it does make sense, and even more bizarre is that it’s not even a woman in their presence on this occasion; Fappell’s feeling all oppressed looking at a picture of a woman. She probably doesn’t know he exists (lucky her) let alone that he’s full of ragewank over seeing her backside. That goes beyond passive to … I don’t know what you’d call it.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

It doesn’t take a specific woman having power over him because he wants to fuck her to enrage him, just the idea that he might want something from her that she may or may not be willing to give freaks him out.

These guys are afraid of their own sexuality almost as much as they’re afraid of ours.

cloudiah
10 years ago

just the idea that he might want something from her that she may or may not be willing to give freaks him out.

DING DING DING we have a winner. Because otherwise he would just think “Wow she’s hot” and (a) fap & go on with his day, or (b) just go on with his day. No reason to think she’s being hot at him unless he thinks she exists for him..

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

“OMG! Stuff that makes men horny is misandry.”

And yet, they keep harping and dwelling and fapping on it. I hereby conclude that MRAs are the ultimate misandrists.

sparky
sparky
10 years ago

HeatherN – it does make sense, and even more bizarre is that it’s not even a woman in their presence on this occasion; Fappell’s feeling all oppressed looking at a picture of a woman. She probably doesn’t know he exists (lucky her) let alone that he’s full of ragewank over seeing her backside. That goes beyond passive to … I don’t know what you’d call it.

Creepy and narcissistic?

Rabukurafuto
Rabukurafuto
10 years ago

Honey Badgers are the FeMRA on AVFM

Ah, thank you. I thought I saw GirlWritesWhat mentioned about them.

Redcap
Redcap
10 years ago

wordsp1nner: The Abhorsen series was one of my childhood favourites! I wanted to name children and pets after the bells for a long time, until my mom told me that “Ranna” is “frog” in Italian…

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
10 years ago

Any dog I get, no matter the gender, is going to be Kibeth, but I didn’t like the idea of naming my cat after Mogget.
Pan, however, is named Pantalaimon from The Golden Compass and Jade is named after the main love interest in the Books of the Raksura, who is basically the crown princess of a matriarchal city-state (she’s also not human, so some of the terms don’t translate directly.)

So fantasy literature is kind of a theme.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Brain bleach, you say? Here, have some moar kitteh porn.

lightcastle
lightcastle
10 years ago

I thought Ta-Nehisi Coates did a good job of discussing the whole male mythology of immunity to desire and how it ties in with deep rooted misogyny while talking about Raymond Chandler last year.

It seems to tie in exactly with the way Elam and the others at AVfM are talking about that Almighty Butt.

Zoe
Zoe
10 years ago

Perfect! The last image is ideal for the cover of my upcoming book, How to Oppress White Dudes.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

I love that Coates article. And you’re right, a lot of MRA stuff seems like an attempt to displace all vulnerability (whether it be emotional, physical, sexual, or whatever) onto women. They’re terrified of vulnerability and, because toxic misogyny has programmed them to think of anger as a more acceptable emotion, they keep trying to control their fear by controlling women, as if there’s some mythical way in which society could work that would ensure that no woman ever does anything that hurts them.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

Also, this is why there are so few gay MRAs even though there are plenty of gay men who’re really sexist.

lightcastle
lightcastle
10 years ago

Also, this is why there are so few gay MRAs even though there are plenty of gay men who’re really sexist.

That’s an interesting point. The MRAs as they exist now are so based in anti-feminism and this particular form of anger over their own vulnerability that they form their own sort of toxic island. It is even enough to be sexist or misogynistic to join, you need to be a particular form of hateful.

I figure at some point men’s issues will get a group identity that’s less tainted by this all. If I recall, just about every group actually working to help men avoids the label MRA fiercely, but I do think at some point that will have a name and identity, and some of the people who loiter around MRA discussions who clearly *aren’t* hateful, but are sucked in by the name, will have somewhere useful to go.

cloudiah
10 years ago

That Coates article is great.

And I’m glad that most people can deal with vulnerability without lashing out against women. Having spent WAY too much time in hospitals recently and seen lots of vulnerability, the (still mostly female) nurses just want to fucking help you and most patients seem to know that. But I imagine that some resent them for reminding them of their vulnerability.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

It’s also part of the reason why they’d be useless as an advocacy group even if they were more focused and organized. If your aim is to protect and advocate for men who’re disadvantaged you really can’t ignore gay men as a group, but since the foundation of the MRM is that fear/vulnerability/desire thing that’s specifically focused on women then they have neither anything to offer gay men nor any ability to recognize the ways in which gay men are disadvantaged.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
10 years ago

Also, there isn’t any way to resolve the fear of vulnerability created by wanting someone. Even in the most rigidly patriarchal society men can get their hearts broken by women who don’t return their feelings of love/lust/whatever, so it’s a movement that’s trying to solve an existential crisis via control of others, which just isn’t going to work.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Wanna know something truly ironic? Raymond Chandler was what MRAs would totally characterize as a “beta mangina”. His wife was 18 years older than he, and he ADORED her. Said that everything he did was just “the fire for her to warm her hands on”. He even bought her a house in La Jolla as a thank-you gift for putting up with him through all the lean years when his work was barely paying. When she fell ill and died, he was devastated. He tried to see other women, as she implored him to do before she died, but never remarried, and even attempted suicide at some point because he just couldn’t bear to live without her. And he followed her to the grave five years later, his life shortened by the grief of losing her.

So much for the hard-boiled fedora wearer of MRA fantasyland…

wordsp1nner
wordsp1nner
10 years ago

I’m wondering if this fear of the loss of bodily control relates in any way to the hatred of menstruation. I mean, I dislike menstruating–it hurts and is a PITA–but I’ve never heard people who actually menstruate talk about it with the kind of horror that cis men will.

Not to mention there is the stereotype about men being horrified about being asked to pick up pads or tampons…

lightcastle
lightcastle
10 years ago

so it’s a movement that’s trying to solve an existential crisis via control of others, which just isn’t going to work.

Yup.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

I’m wondering if this fear of the loss of bodily control relates in any way to the hatred of menstruation. I mean, I dislike menstruating–it hurts and is a PITA–but I’ve never heard people who actually menstruate talk about it with the kind of horror that cis men will.

I’ve often wondered that myself. They seem to fear the ill effects of PMS a lot more than any woman who suffers it herself. In fact, so much of their insult-lexicon is built around menstrual/vaginal deprecation that I’m virtually certain that they do. A “castrated” man is a “mangina”, while a despised woman is taunted about PMSing or being “on the rag” (as though she had to be entertaining Mama Monthly, or just about to, in order to be angry with a dude, or just act like dudes do all the time in general.) And if she’s no longer menstruating, she’s a dried-up worthless hag. Even when she’s no longer bleeding and grossing them out once a month, she still scares the piss out of them. They pride themselves on not being her, but they fear her and try to suppress her, along with the part of themselves that can identify or empathize with her.

Of course, that’s when she goes from being the Anima to being the Shadow, in Jungian terms. And that…is when the fit hits the shan.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Bina, kitteh porn, moar plz! 🙂

Meanwhile, camel cuddles:

http://youtu.be/K9X7zQ6Cb1A

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