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The Power of Butt: MRA granddaddy Warren Farrell picks a new book cover, and can’t decide between tits, ass or vagina.

Men: Oppressed by butts?
Men: Oppressed by women’s butts?

Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, published twenty years ago, defined much of the agenda for what’s become the contemporary Men’s Rights movement. If you hear a Men’s Rights activist prattle on about “male disposability”or “death professions” or complain about draft registration (even though the draft itself has been dead for decades), you’ve got Farrell to thank, or blame.

So when Farrell decided to release a new ebook edition of his most famous book, it was perhaps not all that surprising that he decided to turn to the folks at A Voice for Men, probably the most influential Men’s Rights site around, for advice on a picture to use for a new cover.

But what was surprising was the pictures he asked the AVFMers to choose from, three sexually charged, and slightly NSFW, pics highlighting what Farrell evidently sees as the key female challenges to male power: their vaginas, tits and ass.

I’m not speaking metaphorically: one of the pictures shows a nude woman’s pelvic area, her vulva both highlighted and hidden by what is essentially a merkin made of moss; a second picture shows the ass of a young, topless woman in her underpants slaving over a hot stove, and the third shows a famous picture of Marilyn Monroe, also topless.

AVFM’s Paul Elam explained the, er, logic of these images:

Imagine the juxtaposition of the title, “Myth of Male Power” over one of these images. The cover alone will challenge the idea of male power in men and women alike on a gut level.

By “on a gut level” he apparently means “in men’s pants.”

You sort of have to see them to see how utterly tacky they are; here’s the one of the butt, which either Farrell or Elam helpfully captioned “Where’s the power?”

You can find the others on AVFM here; if you don’t want to give them the pageviews, you can find them here.

You couldn’t really ask for better symbols of the essential misogyny of the Men’s Rights movement today — or of its obsession with blaming women (and women’s sexuality in particular) for the restrictions on male power that so chafe the hides of MRAs. Farrell, in the past, generally avoided demonizing female sexuality quite so obviously and directly, but these days he’s apparently been spending too much time amongst the A Voice for Menners.

Farrell’s choices for potential covers also tell us a good deal about him as well; in the past he’s essentially been able to hide his crackpot pseudoscholarship behind a certain veneer or respectability — releasing his books through major publishing houses, touting his PhD — but here he seems to be falling to his natural level, amongst the self-publishers of crappy e-books with stock-photo covers.

While some AVFMers had other suggestions — perhaps a picture of the Wicked Witch? — most seemed to think that the pictures were perfect for his book. Tom Golden — along with most of the voters in the poll — preferred Marilyn and her tits:

Tom Golden says November 23, 2013 at 9:06 PM I think the point that Warren is trying to make is that simply the sight of a very attractive female puts most men into a mental position of subservience and blind willingness to be of service to her in whatever way he can. In essence he becomes a slave. How can men be in so much power when just the sight of a lightly clad young attractive woman throws them into such a state? I think any of the images accomplishes that task but I personally like #3 because when I see that image my awareness of my surrender to her power is palpable.

Others were more taken with the ass pic. Alek wrote:

alek says November 23, 2013 at 1:36 PM My choice (nr. 2) is losing heavily :( :D DDD I like 2 since its the most powerfully influential… The gist of the book “myth of male power” is that “oppression of women” is an interpretational myth – “poor wimminz had to stay in the kitchinz, while man goes outside and has a blast being all hero and shit” (i’m dumbing down female gender role to “kitchen” as representative of all oppression interpretational myths covered by Warren) This photo challenges that whole notion of the kitchen as an oppressive enviroment, while immediately and visually telling the viewer just how powerful she – the woman is, merely by seeing her silhouette, casual relaxed demeanor and posture projecting utter sexual power.

And Elam, while voting for the moss-encrusted vulva himself, was apparently also quite, er, affected by dat ass.  (Those with especially sensitive stomachs may wish to skip the following quote, as it contains an unsolicited update from his boner.)

I am about as red pill as men come I think. There has not been a woman that could sexually manipulate me in decades. But one look at that woman’s ass in image #2 and I feel every instinctive reproductive trigger trying to go off in my brain. It is not a feeling of power at all for me, but a feeling of something I might have to overcome in order to just self-preserve.

So there you have it: Two of the most influential figures in the Men’s Rights movement — indeed, arguably the two most influential figures — actually believe that men are oppressed by women’s butts.

Indeed, Elam is apparently so overwhelmed by the sight of an attractive ass that he considers it a literal threat to his life.

Adding to the creepiness factor here: Farrell is 70 years old, making him literally old enough to be grandfather of the model in her underpants. Elam is in his late 50s.

Now, the weird tackiness of the images Farrell chose for his book cover did not go entirely unnoticed at AVFM. There were critics — including, amazingly, AVFM’s own John Hembling, who was a little baffled by the idea of using a sexualized picture of a woman on the cover of Farrell’s book about men, and asked if Farrell was possibly trolling them.

One MRA blogger, Kevin Wayne, posted a link to his blog, where he excoriated all three choices as “Budweiser Ad rejects” and begged Farrell to try something else:

This is just going to backfire. Don’t we have enough issues of being branded as a bunch of no-necks wanting to take women back to the 1950’s?

Elam, while gentle in his handling of Hembling’s criticism, threw a fit over Wayne’s post, banning him from AVFM and bashing him — on AVFM and on Wayne’s own site — as a do-nothing newcomer to Men’s Rights who was too “borderline retarded” to  understand the profound deeper meaning behind  Farrell’s T&A pics.

Farrell himself seems to have been a a bit more willing to listen to the critics. Indeed, he’s asked AVFM’s readers to submit some more pictures to choose from. There will be a runoff between the winner of the first AVFM poll (Marilyn and her tits) several of the new pics.

So far there hasn’t exactly been a flood of submissions. They’ve included a painting of Diogenes, a painting of Lilith, a photo of a homeless man, and this:

Office_Bitch

Yeah, that’ll work great.

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sparky
sparky
10 years ago

That said, even though I think this is a wrong-headed step for mra’s (and I plan to post my thoughts on avfm) I don’t see it in any worse vein than the way feminists try to paint the penis as weapon.

“Feminists try to paint the penis as a weapon.” Citation needed.

I haven’t seen any mis-steps from the mra camp that even compare to the hatred & vitriol displayed for men in entrenched political feminist lobbying groups.

Here are a few examples of hatred and vitriol from the MRA camp. There are many more.


http://manboobz.com/2013/11/26/manosphere-blogger-feminism-is-a-morbidly-obese-sexually-promiscuous-short-haired-tattooed-cussing-beast-whom-no-man-can-ever-love-or-trust/


http://manboobz.com/2013/10/18/paul-elam-of-a-voice-for-men-in-his-own-words/#more-10230

hellkell
hellkell
10 years ago

I haven’t seen any mis-steps from the mra camp that even compare to the hatred & vitriol displayed for men in entrenched political feminist lobbying groups.

Do you even go here?

augochlorella
augochlorella
10 years ago

Some of you need a history refresher:

Washington, 1920: A group of women walk into the oval office and reveal their butts. The president is overcome by their sexual power that women are given the vote.

October 29th, 1929: Women are fed up with men’s inability to provide for them, so they decide to ruin the economy. Thousands of women reveal their butts, and their combined sexual power crashes the stock market. The US enters the Great Depression.

December 7th, 1941: Spurred on by women revealing their butts, the Japanese attack Pearl Harbor, pulling the United States into WWII (which was also caused by butts).

January 28th, 1986: An inconvenient boner caused by rampant unchecked female power led to a programming error in the NASA space shuttle program. The Challenger shuttle explodes after liftoff, killing seven crew members – just as feminism planned

April 9th, 2114: Sky and earth meet in a cataclysmic event. The laws of physics buckle and reverse. There will be no end times. This is all there was and ever will be. A great union of women with butts will set the gears in motion. This has been prophesized by the almighty sexy bum.

And that’s just United States history.

augochlorella
augochlorella
10 years ago

Do I want to know about the “boobquake” guy?

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

“I haven’t seen any mis-steps from the mra camp that even compare to the hatred & vitriol displayed for men in entrenched political feminist lobbying groups.”

If you’d like to join us on Earth sometime, you have a standing invitation.

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

Am curious which entrenched political feminist lobbying groups you mean, though.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

The penis as a weapon? Have you not SEEN the plethora of vagina dentata Freudian fantasies on the market? I know of TWO haunted vagina stories, and I wasn’t even LOOKING for them!

giliell
giliell
10 years ago

Actually, if men were turned into mindless slaves by simply looking at women’s butts then they should not be considered mature members of society. Their standing should be somewhere between dogs and children.
Nobody hates men quite as mach as the MRAs themselves.

giliell
giliell
10 years ago

much.
Dammit, U and A aren’t even close on the keyboard…

tedthefed
tedthefed
10 years ago

This is fascinating. “I look at an attractive woman. It makes me lose control and desperately want to have sex with her. Since I do not have the control, she must.”

The power is being taken away from men, being GIVEN TO THOSE SAME MEN’S COCKS, and attributed to the women. It’s… mind-blowing.

chimisaur
chimisaur
10 years ago

Guys! GUYS! I figured it out! The ass picture has nothing to do with sexy and everything to do with poor dudebro oppression: That FEMALE is obviously taunting the viewer with her superior protection from hard chairs. (MISANDRY!)

That’s gotta be it, right?
They wouldn’t seriously think a headless, objectified near-naked woman was a symbol of anything but female oppression…right?

*Head explodes*

Anenome
Anenome
10 years ago

Just wondering…

Any psychology students or graduates able to offer analysis on some of this? Do at least some of these guys present as having deep rooted submissive fantasies? Or is it quite the opposite?

I noticed quite a few MRAs in the earlier days gad scatological based names, often wondered if that self infantilisation was indicative of something deeper.

gelar
gelar
10 years ago

Yes, I know them well, I know how they operate, and I know just the spin they will put on the book cover designs that are proposed here.

“Hey! Like BUTTS? Look at this BUTT. That is one fine BUTT. Please read our book.”

Anyway: Picture of a guy in suit or dress-shirt, from the waist up, face unseen. Maybe he’s holding coffee or something. A woman’s arms tightening what should be his tie, but is actually a noose.

Actually, that’s probably been done before. Could use more butts.

this one is between perspectives
this one is between perspectives
10 years ago

I”m not gonna tackle the objectification as power thing since other already have here)
So their lack of self-control is oppression now is it? I see sexy ladies and sexy men all the time. I’m a bit of a creep, I like sexy people but they have never compelled me to do anything. Even so, the only power they would have over me is the power I willingly surrendered to them. Sounds like bitchz need to take some responsibility.

Also how is “get back into the office and make me some money” inherently oppressive (and akin to slavery) but “get back in the kitchen and make me a sandwich” part of the natural order and the super-secret-bleeders-only-puppet-masters-of-society-club?

like WTF?
don’t even get me started on this “the kitchen isnt oppressive even though we scream it at you like a fucking insult every time you speak” bullshit

leftwingfox
10 years ago

The power is being taken away from men, being GIVEN TO THOSE SAME MEN’S COCKS, and attributed to the women. It’s… mind-blowing.

Strangest case of “phantom limb” ever.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

Yup, ted. Pretty much. It’s this weird thing where they think arousal is something someone else is FORCING upon them. By just standing there.

Just… I feel like I’m missing some circuit in my brain or something. Shit like this is why I was so confused about my gender for so long.

giliell
giliell
10 years ago

Can I claim to be oppressed by chocolate?
It makes me drool…

DefJam
DefJam
10 years ago

Also, even if being hot to some folks WAS power… seeing the MRM’s obsession with women getting old, doesn’t that mean all women eventually LOSE that power?

Er, it’s not about any individual woman, it’s about “women” as a class. And sure, he has a point, although I have to agree with JtO… it’s just not a palatable choice.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: Anenome

Do at least some of these guys present as having deep rooted submissive fantasies? Or is it quite the opposite?

I’m a submissive man. Somehow, I manage to experience sexual arousal without thinking someone is TAKING POWER from me. You’re correlating apples and oranges.

tedthefed
tedthefed
10 years ago

Anenome: My gut tells me that the base of the whole thing is a deep, abiding, self-relevant, and highly personally important belief in traditional gender roles, which is attempting to coexist with normative, Western values of equity. The result is massive cognitive dissonance, which in turn leads to these skewed conclusions. “Men are sexual beings! I gaped at a woman yesterday! But, the world should be FAIR!”

There’s also some low-level narcissism in there, in the sense that the things that personally affect them absolutely NEED to be the most important things in the universe. “I really wanted a girlfriend in high school, but they didn’t even notice me! This absolutely must be central to my political beliefs! How can women be kept down by society when I HAD FEELINGS????” This is also enhanced by the traditional gender roles thing, because they had no way of healthily expressing their feelings and at the time, were deeply ashamed about having them. The confusing of the personal and the structural isn’t at all just these guys, but I think the gender roles thing solidifies much more, because they can so easily generalize to All Men and All Women.

The last part, I think, is perceived immunity to bias. The internet’s part of the problem here, because it’s always so easy to find people who support you, and to dehumanize the people who disagree with you. But it’s also, I think, a nerd thing: “The bad guys are the Jocks, duh. How can I be regressive and caveman-ish and cruel? I went to COLLEGE.”

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: DefJam

I thought you were leaving because we lacked intellectual rigor?

Also, how does it being about ‘women’ as a class change that? Women as a class can be old, or children, or fat, or disabled, or any one of a hundred things I keep hearing aren’t fuckable. So… what’s the deal here?

DefJam
DefJam
10 years ago

As I noted over at avoiceformen.com, that picture futrelle chose to display would make a good inside-cover image.

DefJam
DefJam
10 years ago

That is, the cartoon one, of a woman slapping a man.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

They really do pay you for each URL drop, don’t they? Now we know where all those donated funds go!

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: DefJam

I disagree. I’d rather not upset any guys who were physically abused by their partners.