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The Power of Butt: MRA granddaddy Warren Farrell picks a new book cover, and can’t decide between tits, ass or vagina.

Men: Oppressed by butts?
Men: Oppressed by women’s butts?

Warren Farrell’s The Myth of Male Power, published twenty years ago, defined much of the agenda for what’s become the contemporary Men’s Rights movement. If you hear a Men’s Rights activist prattle on about “male disposability”or “death professions” or complain about draft registration (even though the draft itself has been dead for decades), you’ve got Farrell to thank, or blame.

So when Farrell decided to release a new ebook edition of his most famous book, it was perhaps not all that surprising that he decided to turn to the folks at A Voice for Men, probably the most influential Men’s Rights site around, for advice on a picture to use for a new cover.

But what was surprising was the pictures he asked the AVFMers to choose from, three sexually charged, and slightly NSFW, pics highlighting what Farrell evidently sees as the key female challenges to male power: their vaginas, tits and ass.

I’m not speaking metaphorically: one of the pictures shows a nude woman’s pelvic area, her vulva both highlighted and hidden by what is essentially a merkin made of moss; a second picture shows the ass of a young, topless woman in her underpants slaving over a hot stove, and the third shows a famous picture of Marilyn Monroe, also topless.

AVFM’s Paul Elam explained the, er, logic of these images:

Imagine the juxtaposition of the title, “Myth of Male Power” over one of these images. The cover alone will challenge the idea of male power in men and women alike on a gut level.

By “on a gut level” he apparently means “in men’s pants.”

You sort of have to see them to see how utterly tacky they are; here’s the one of the butt, which either Farrell or Elam helpfully captioned “Where’s the power?”

You can find the others on AVFM here; if you don’t want to give them the pageviews, you can find them here.

You couldn’t really ask for better symbols of the essential misogyny of the Men’s Rights movement today — or of its obsession with blaming women (and women’s sexuality in particular) for the restrictions on male power that so chafe the hides of MRAs. Farrell, in the past, generally avoided demonizing female sexuality quite so obviously and directly, but these days he’s apparently been spending too much time amongst the A Voice for Menners.

Farrell’s choices for potential covers also tell us a good deal about him as well; in the past he’s essentially been able to hide his crackpot pseudoscholarship behind a certain veneer or respectability — releasing his books through major publishing houses, touting his PhD — but here he seems to be falling to his natural level, amongst the self-publishers of crappy e-books with stock-photo covers.

While some AVFMers had other suggestions — perhaps a picture of the Wicked Witch? — most seemed to think that the pictures were perfect for his book. Tom Golden — along with most of the voters in the poll — preferred Marilyn and her tits:

Tom Golden says November 23, 2013 at 9:06 PM I think the point that Warren is trying to make is that simply the sight of a very attractive female puts most men into a mental position of subservience and blind willingness to be of service to her in whatever way he can. In essence he becomes a slave. How can men be in so much power when just the sight of a lightly clad young attractive woman throws them into such a state? I think any of the images accomplishes that task but I personally like #3 because when I see that image my awareness of my surrender to her power is palpable.

Others were more taken with the ass pic. Alek wrote:

alek says November 23, 2013 at 1:36 PM My choice (nr. 2) is losing heavily :( :D DDD I like 2 since its the most powerfully influential… The gist of the book “myth of male power” is that “oppression of women” is an interpretational myth – “poor wimminz had to stay in the kitchinz, while man goes outside and has a blast being all hero and shit” (i’m dumbing down female gender role to “kitchen” as representative of all oppression interpretational myths covered by Warren) This photo challenges that whole notion of the kitchen as an oppressive enviroment, while immediately and visually telling the viewer just how powerful she – the woman is, merely by seeing her silhouette, casual relaxed demeanor and posture projecting utter sexual power.

And Elam, while voting for the moss-encrusted vulva himself, was apparently also quite, er, affected by dat ass.  (Those with especially sensitive stomachs may wish to skip the following quote, as it contains an unsolicited update from his boner.)

I am about as red pill as men come I think. There has not been a woman that could sexually manipulate me in decades. But one look at that woman’s ass in image #2 and I feel every instinctive reproductive trigger trying to go off in my brain. It is not a feeling of power at all for me, but a feeling of something I might have to overcome in order to just self-preserve.

So there you have it: Two of the most influential figures in the Men’s Rights movement — indeed, arguably the two most influential figures — actually believe that men are oppressed by women’s butts.

Indeed, Elam is apparently so overwhelmed by the sight of an attractive ass that he considers it a literal threat to his life.

Adding to the creepiness factor here: Farrell is 70 years old, making him literally old enough to be grandfather of the model in her underpants. Elam is in his late 50s.

Now, the weird tackiness of the images Farrell chose for his book cover did not go entirely unnoticed at AVFM. There were critics — including, amazingly, AVFM’s own John Hembling, who was a little baffled by the idea of using a sexualized picture of a woman on the cover of Farrell’s book about men, and asked if Farrell was possibly trolling them.

One MRA blogger, Kevin Wayne, posted a link to his blog, where he excoriated all three choices as “Budweiser Ad rejects” and begged Farrell to try something else:

This is just going to backfire. Don’t we have enough issues of being branded as a bunch of no-necks wanting to take women back to the 1950’s?

Elam, while gentle in his handling of Hembling’s criticism, threw a fit over Wayne’s post, banning him from AVFM and bashing him — on AVFM and on Wayne’s own site — as a do-nothing newcomer to Men’s Rights who was too “borderline retarded” to  understand the profound deeper meaning behind  Farrell’s T&A pics.

Farrell himself seems to have been a a bit more willing to listen to the critics. Indeed, he’s asked AVFM’s readers to submit some more pictures to choose from. There will be a runoff between the winner of the first AVFM poll (Marilyn and her tits) several of the new pics.

So far there hasn’t exactly been a flood of submissions. They’ve included a painting of Diogenes, a painting of Lilith, a photo of a homeless man, and this:

Office_Bitch

Yeah, that’ll work great.

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vaiyt
10 years ago

Ladies, gentlemen, everyone! The reasonable wing of the Men’s Rights Movement!

thebobgoblin
10 years ago

Tom Golden’s comment is illustrative. Do all MRAs fear female sexuality that much? Could that be the whole basis of their “movement”?

Whenever I see an attractive woman (attractive to me, that is), I mostly just want to talk to her and see if she’s cool. No impulse to either get down on my knees, or try to force her to hers.

What a sad, sad man.

acrannymint
acrannymint
10 years ago

I ook at those images and wonder if those guys were so easily led by their junk that a picture of .a woman would so easily distract them.

acrannymint
acrannymint
10 years ago

That should be look not ook

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

If our bodies, even “perfect” exemplars, oppress them so much, then these guys need to start pricing desert island real estate, NOW. But really, as covers for a book? Even the Fifty Shades of Ghaaah series was far and away more tasteful than this.

kittehserf
10 years ago

That should be look not ook

They certainly haven’t reached orangutan level. 😉

Argenti Aertheri
10 years ago

Goddamnit, the moss covered genital region is actually aesthetically pleasing as a work of art.

Wait…copyright anyone? Does Farrell have permission to use any of these? Cheshire Cat has doubts.

Also, David, those are boy short underwear, not shorts.

Ally S
10 years ago

The best way to give men the impression that women have power over men is to show men pictures in which women are objectified. Nothing shows power like being depicted as an object of sexual pleasure.

jabesgeek
jabesgeek
10 years ago

It’s ridiculous & hyperbolic. Obviously, the new cover for the Ebook is about shock value to get people to buy it. I think it’s wrong headed.
If it were up to me, I would choose a picture of arlington cemetary, or the bataan death march.

The idea is to show that men are severely harmed by gender roles too (mostly *inflicted* by men–but also encouraged & shamed by women), not that men as a group are oppressed by women as a group, and certainly not by women’s butts.

That said, even though I think this is a wrong-headed step for mra’s (and I plan to post my thoughts on avfm) I don’t see it in any worse vein than the way feminists try to paint the penis as weapon.

I haven’t seen any mis-steps from the mra camp that even compare to the hatred & vitriol displayed for men in entrenched political feminist lobbying groups.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

“Where’s the Power”? Um, it’s trying to creep up Ms. Hotpants’ ass.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

I love how these guys are weirdly obsessed with female “sexual power,” which is apparently… them standing around in scanty clothes. Also, in most of MY country at least, prostitution is illegal. Ergo, all that sexual power? AIN’T PAYING THE GODDAMN BILLS.

Also, does this mean gay men aren’t oppressed? Or women aren’t oppressed if they get all weak-kneed over sexy pictures? Seriously, this bullshit makes no sense whatsoever, and the idea that as a man, I’m SUPPOSED to be so out of control that the sight of a woman cooking in shorts makes me “a slave”… WTF. And I’m a fucking SUB.

Just… wtf, guys. W.T.F.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Also, I’m wondering if Marilyn’s estate can sue for misrepresentation of her image. She was anything BUT powerful over men, if memory serves…

Alice Sanguinaria
10 years ago

Objectification of women is MISANDRY!

On a more serious note, are they seriously saying that all men, when they see a sexualized body part, are naturally unable to resist their urges? With the nice implication that if they could they’d get “dat ass” (maybe with the side of rape)? Wow, how little do you have to think of men that you believe that all men are as assholeish as you are?

Ally S
10 years ago

Wait…copyright anyone? Does Farrell have permission to use any of these? Cheshire Cat has doubts.

I’m going to laugh if they try to seek permission to use those photos and they’re denied permission because the people who own those photos don’t want MRAs to use them.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

On a more serious note, are they seriously saying that all men, when they see a sexualized body part, are naturally unable to resist their urges? With the nice implication that if they could they’d get “dat ass” (maybe with the side of rape)? Wow, how little do you have to think of men that you believe that all men are as assholeish as you are?

Apparently, they are. And they do.

The sad part is, the supposed “power” these women hold is literally nothing more than an illusory image that “makes” some guys want to fap. I’ve yet to see a woman, however gorgeous, whose looks alone literally compelled people to sell their souls over her. Even the guys who were so lucky as to live with one of those ladies eventually had to realize that Ms. Perfect Everything has…um…BODILY FUNCTIONS. Some of them quite boner-deflating by nature.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Yup, poor ol’ Grandad Farrell is oppressed by his boner getting all twitchy at the sight of a photo – not even a person right there, a photo – of a near-naked woman.

Protip, WF: stop typing ragewank and have an actual wank. You’ll feel better.

Ally S
10 years ago

I’ve yet to see a woman, however gorgeous, whose looks alone literally compelled people to sell their souls over her.

Yeah, that sounds like something you only hear about in cheesy romance novels. Wait a second…

kittehserf
10 years ago

Even the guys who were so lucky as to live with one of those ladies eventually had to realize that Ms. Perfect Everything has…um…BODILY FUNCTIONS. Some of them quite boner-deflating by nature.

I love the thought of someone like the model in the pic letting rip a mighty fart, just to make these losers WILT.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

(…and, moreover, a personality, wants and needs that might very well have nothing at all to do with any man’s boner.)

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

Good job not being deeply offensive, MRAs. David must be cherry-picking again.

grumpycatisagirl
grumpycatisagirl
10 years ago

The level of shittiness and cluelessness on display here honestly does surprise me. For real. Even from these people, whom I’ve known for some time are pretty shitty and clueless.

Falconer
10 years ago

I look at that moss-merkin photo and all I can think of is how uncomfortable the model must have been. Then I wonder what the point of the photo is.

And then I note that the model is yet another thin white woman.

MaudeLL
10 years ago

Haha, Fidelbogen weighted in on the issue on Wayne’s blog (sorry for the length, but it’s all good):

There is no lack of simple-mindedness in the world. There is plenty to go around, for everybody, on every side of every issue. That said, let’s move along. . .

Whatever semiotics is meant to be conveyed by the proposed book covers, I know that the enemy will either a.) not see it, or b.) pretend to not see it. And having done so, they will put the worst possible spin on it.

Yes, I know them well, I know how they operate, and I know just the spin they will put on the book cover designs that are proposed here.

The real question is, how will the middle mass take it? After all, that’s the market we ought to worry about.

My guess is, that the middle mass will be split 50-50. Some will lean toward the feminist spin, some will lean away from it.

Admittedly, such an outcome could be useful if it generates polarization against feminism, i.e. feminist v. non-feminist. Certainly, we need to make such polarization happen.

HOWEVER. . .

What concerns me, is the ultimate basis on which said polarization gets generated.

And the “cheesecake” image projected by these design proposals would tend to get branded onto the non-feminist side of the polarity. Make no mistake – it would. And to that extent, it would operate as a grappling point for some time into the future.

So the nitty-gritty question becomes: Is This Politically Optimal?

My thinking is, to give the enemy NO tools or weapons at all, if it can be avoided.

So if it is possible to convey the desired semiotics via a more “teflon” symbolism, it should be done.

To continue:

The picture with the stove is OUT. No. Frigging. Way!

The picture with the veil is not so bad, but it still has that “objectifying male gaze” thing about it – or that is how they will spin it, anyway.

The picture with the moss is arguably “rapey” looking, but at the same time, it’s something that a goddess-worshipping radical lesbian womyn could love. So the enemy will feel ambivalent, and this will dissipate the force of their conviction.

In conclusion…I would call the moss picture the “least worst” of the lot. Ergo, if we MUST make a choice among the three, let it be that one.

But first we should consider alternative means to the same end. . ..

Nice morse code ellipses at the end for dramatic effect.

Bina
Bina
10 years ago

Does anyone else realize how creepy the kitchen one is? He’s going on about how it’s “enslaving” him, but really, it looks like she’s just cooking breakfast in her underwear alone in her house.

Yes, really. As you say, not so much the picture; I looked at it and thought “model cooking in her undies, big whoop”, not “ZOMG DAT ASS!!! I must have it or DIE!!!”

But then again, I’m not an MRA boner-slave, so I guess I just have no idea how inherently oppressive these things are.

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