Over on Random Xpat Rantings the terrible excuse for a human being who calls himself Xplat sets forth an intriguing proposition: for men in search of sexy times, having money is the equivalent of a woman having tits.
In other words, it’s not absolutely necessary for a man to have big bucks to garner the attention of the opposite sex, just as it’s not absolutely necessary for a woman to have something in the tit department in order to garner the attention of men, but it helps. A lot.
Oh, by the way, the title of the post in which he sets forth this theory is “ALL women are inherently gold diggers down to their pussy juice.”
Let’s let him explain, in his own icky way:
Women know their value. They know they can trade their value for their benefit. In [South-East Asia] this is not a dirty little secret. It’s not even an open secret. It’s just a fact of life. Money is part of the equation, blatantly and openly. …
Money-and-power-and-social-status is exactly equal to breasts. It can be a cause of sexual attraction in and of itself, and can maintain a relationship when there is nothing else being offered.
Yeah, I’m pretty sure when someone is literally interested in nothing about you except your money, you’re not actually in a “relationship” with that person.
Women aren’t men with vaginas. Their sexual attraction triggers are different. It’s not just that they fuck for food. Not JUST a matter of pragmatic sales of a service. Actual attraction is ALSO involved.
I like big bucks and I cannot lie?
Now, of course Xsplat here is challenging the common PUA gospel that men shouldn’t rely on money to win over their “targets” but rather on being cool and caddish and, you know, going to places where there’s a good chance a lot of the women will be pretty drunk.
Manospherians hampsterbate about this with a zillion “ya buts”. Ya, but you don’t NEED money. Yup, and girls don’t NEED tits.
Having tits is better and more attractive anyway, and girls with tits can get more and better quality men.
Having money is better in exactly the same way. You don’t see many flat chested Penthouse centerfolds, nor are there many broke romance novel heros.
Well, I don’t know much about romance novels, but from what I hear there’s a shitload of slash fiction about two dudes named Sam and Dean who basically live out of their car.
It’s not the case that SOME girls are gold diggers.
It’s just a matter of all the gold diggers mining for gold in different ways.
And of course all of this turns out to be a justification for Xplat’s own use of his relative wealth, as a western expat living in Southeast Asia, to exploit impoverished women for sex.
For me sex is about ecstatic intimacy. Money helps to get more intimacy with a greater percentage of girls, and higher quality girls. I choose to allow egoic esteem to include finances. Money is not cheating. Money helps to skin the cat. Money is not separate from my fantastic ethereal self. Money is part of what I am; part and parcel of what I am to a woman.
That’s got to be one of the creepiest and most delusional excuses for sexual exploitation I think I’ve ever run across in the three years of doing this blog.
Seeing that I am a bum relying on crash space and generosity of others until I get my ass to Ohio in January, I can’t really claim superiority on this front. At least I have Social Security. (Though that’s just taxpayers, rather than patrons.)
I’m probably just bitter because my blog doesn’t tell anybody to kill themselves and I still work two part-time jobs.
@ LBT
But you give people comics in return for their money. He gives them a creeped out feeling and a demand that they kill themselves.
Right after the bit I quoted earlier.
Lol. Magical fucking. What is this, a bishounen manga?
Oh, look, it’s the “subs are broken and trying to self-medicate with BSDM” paradigm.
So many of the things they write make me just want to go “okay, now, what EXACTLY did you do?”
I’m trying to think of the worst thing I ever did to someone. Um, there was this one time in kindergarten when I poured an entire tin of paint over the head of my little nemesis? Getting that out can’t have been fun, especially since he was blond and the paint was blue.
I’m not convinced that tracking him down and offering to spank him would help heal that trauma.
Yeah no. Most people aren’t trauma-inducing machines. If you do unforgivable things to most of the people you know maybe it’s time to take a look at yourself instead of putting that on everybody else.
Yesterday, the various Predator Alert Tool posts on my blog had one of their biggest single days ever: over 1,050 hits.
After weeks of trying to share the idea with anyone who’d listen, and weeks of seeing people literally refuse to share the link, mention the idea, or even just remark on its existence publicly, despite their self-professed “little” knowledge about it and me, I called those people out for being supportive of rape culture because they made clear that they cared more about their personal distaste for me than they cared about spreading ideas and sharing empowering tools with rape survivors.
Then, when someone on Twitter took a jab at me for saying that, I told him to kill himself. This, in turn, lead to even more people trying to shame me for using such language, so I told those people to kill themselves, too.
Lo and behold, it worked.
They seem to not understand the difference between genuine popularity and the fact that the Internet just can’t look away from a trainwreck.
(Also, I’m a rape survivor. But I guess they only want to empower rape survivors who agree with them about everything. The attitude of a True Ally, indeed.)
I really fucking hope he never tries to write bishounen manga. Please no.
I do admit to TRYING to make useful, enjoyable things in exchange for my bread and butter. And hey, I have a fanbase, so maybe I’m succeeding on some level! Do kinda hope I’m not relying on disability forever. (While at the same time trying to tell myself it’s okay if I do.)
Also, maybe it’s just that I don’t do pain play, but I would NEVER consider anything I did as “perpetuating unforgivable, unforgettable traumas” on my loved ones. Perpetuating unforgettable AMAZING, maybe!
Due to his shitty writing skills it sounds as if he thinks that all the people who he told to kill themselves actually did so.
How to not get popular on the Internet, lesson 321987: don’t tell people to kill themselves. Instead of garnering you positive publicity, you will instead get negative publicity. And while it might get more views onto your site or whatnot, it will not make you endearing to the general public.
I’ve done some things that I’m ashamed of, but I don’t really think I’m “ruin the lives of everyone I come in contact with” bad. Also most of the people who I encounter don’t traumatize me, either.
It’s a shame that he’s so anti-therapy, because he sure sounds like he could use some.
the only ethical thing to do is to facilitate others’s growth so as to make yourself obsolete.
The hell you say! I ain’t asking for a dom to help me GROW. I do it for SEX. I mean, sure, it’s wonderful and intimate and fun and all that… but so is vanilla sex.
I mean, Jeez, let a guy tie you up once and he thinks he’s your therapist or something. Eesh!
RE: Cliff
(Also, I’m a rape survivor. But I guess they only want to empower rape survivors who agree with them about everything. The attitude of a True Ally, indeed.)
You don’t count! You’re merely another of the bourgeoisie brainwashed sheeple!
That or he’s trying to empower you by “perpetuating unforgivable traumas” on you.
I’ve done some shitty thing when I was a little kid. Apparently I used to cut up all of my mom’s dresses with scissors, and I do recall one incident when I was a little kid in which I lost my temper and slashed a pair of scissors at my brother (cut his shirt, thankfully he wasn’t hurt, I was an asshole of a child in those days and I’ve since mellowed out). But I don’t think I’ve ever directly told someone to kill themselves.
Alice – But, as they reminded me tirelessly, they don’t want to be popular! Wanting popularity is shallow and cowardly and evil! True heroes aren’t afraid to make everyone hate them!
…Now please promote their software and give them money.
(Disturbingly, they repeatedly referred to people not telling others to kill themselves as a transparent popularity ploy. Like I’m just rubbing my hands together going “mwahahaha, my devious scheme is to not attack everyone who talks to me, see how my empire grows.“)
Hey, it works! By being so incredibly obnoxious he spurred Cliff to come here, which led to participating in the mocking, which has hopefully rendered all of nonsense obsolete.
“The magical power sadomasochistic relationships can offer us is the ability to confront the reality that we are complicit in perpetuating unforgivable, unforgettable traumas on most people in our lives without becoming incapable of working to end that complicity.”
I…WHAT?
Maybe it’s just that I’ve been awake for, um, 27 hours, most of it writing (lol, debugging) JS — to the point that “DOM rights” made me shudder. But that’s probably just why this comment is a disaster, not why he doesn’t make any sense?
…I should go to bed. With luck tomorrow FemBorg will have comment scrollbars that aren’t a total theme clash. In the meantime, I’ve been posting daily brain bleach, anyone who needs some should head over there *shameless promotion*
Hugs to everyone who needs or wants them.
Enh, your blog was always a lot more helpful to me than his, Cliff. It helps that you don’t bloviate.
Also, if being popular is about not telling people to kill themselves… I am totally okay with that kind of popularity ploy. Popularity through common decency! How SHOCKING.
Next revelation – not walking up to people and punching them in the face when you first meet them is a shameless popularity ploy.
Cliff – But of course everything is a plot against this one brave soul who DARED to defy conventions and told someone to kill himself because of criticism. It’s not like NOBODY’s ever done that before!
What bravery! What passion! So edgy! So out of the ordinary! Someone give him a cookie!
/sarcasm.
*them
My bad. (I. NEED. TO. STOP. UNCONSCIOUSLY. PROMOTING. GENDER. BINARY. DAMNIT)
I thought he was a guy? I mean, he created malesubmissionart, I thought it was a safe bet he IDed male…