Over on Random Xpat Rantings the terrible excuse for a human being who calls himself Xplat sets forth an intriguing proposition: for men in search of sexy times, having money is the equivalent of a woman having tits.
In other words, it’s not absolutely necessary for a man to have big bucks to garner the attention of the opposite sex, just as it’s not absolutely necessary for a woman to have something in the tit department in order to garner the attention of men, but it helps. A lot.
Oh, by the way, the title of the post in which he sets forth this theory is “ALL women are inherently gold diggers down to their pussy juice.”
Let’s let him explain, in his own icky way:
Women know their value. They know they can trade their value for their benefit. In [South-East Asia] this is not a dirty little secret. It’s not even an open secret. It’s just a fact of life. Money is part of the equation, blatantly and openly. …
Money-and-power-and-social-status is exactly equal to breasts. It can be a cause of sexual attraction in and of itself, and can maintain a relationship when there is nothing else being offered.
Yeah, I’m pretty sure when someone is literally interested in nothing about you except your money, you’re not actually in a “relationship” with that person.
Women aren’t men with vaginas. Their sexual attraction triggers are different. It’s not just that they fuck for food. Not JUST a matter of pragmatic sales of a service. Actual attraction is ALSO involved.
I like big bucks and I cannot lie?
Now, of course Xsplat here is challenging the common PUA gospel that men shouldn’t rely on money to win over their “targets” but rather on being cool and caddish and, you know, going to places where there’s a good chance a lot of the women will be pretty drunk.
Manospherians hampsterbate about this with a zillion “ya buts”. Ya, but you don’t NEED money. Yup, and girls don’t NEED tits.
Having tits is better and more attractive anyway, and girls with tits can get more and better quality men.
Having money is better in exactly the same way. You don’t see many flat chested Penthouse centerfolds, nor are there many broke romance novel heros.
Well, I don’t know much about romance novels, but from what I hear there’s a shitload of slash fiction about two dudes named Sam and Dean who basically live out of their car.
It’s not the case that SOME girls are gold diggers.
It’s just a matter of all the gold diggers mining for gold in different ways.
And of course all of this turns out to be a justification for Xplat’s own use of his relative wealth, as a western expat living in Southeast Asia, to exploit impoverished women for sex.
For me sex is about ecstatic intimacy. Money helps to get more intimacy with a greater percentage of girls, and higher quality girls. I choose to allow egoic esteem to include finances. Money is not cheating. Money helps to skin the cat. Money is not separate from my fantastic ethereal self. Money is part of what I am; part and parcel of what I am to a woman.
That’s got to be one of the creepiest and most delusional excuses for sexual exploitation I think I’ve ever run across in the three years of doing this blog.
Hellkell, I’m honestly shocked. I mean, there’s porn about bugs. BUGS. Lima beans are seriously where the line is drawn!?
What Auggziliary said, Ally. I seriously wanted to break something just reading that.
RE: CassandraSays
Now I’m trying to think of ways in which lack of sex could lead to death.
Reverse vaginal embolism? Exploding azure testicles?
Also, I’m still reeling over the idea that not having sex to keep yourself from raping someone is considered comparable to starving yourself to death. DUDE. YOUR HAND. USE IT.
Oh gods. I’m so sorry Ally. Just… just reading it is just, WTF? Who thought that telling a student how much you’d want to rape them was a good idea? Like, EVER?
LBT – The horror of perpetual blue balls. *nod*
This is more like lima bean romance, I guess…
http://allromancereviews.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/08/Lima-Bean.jpg
(no nudity or anything)
@ LBT
And this is the guy who thinks he can dismantle rape culture. Yeah.
Maybe like in Ninja Scroll when Kagero offers to have sex with Jubei to counteract his poisoning?
Wait, why did I not think of checking manga? Someone has to have already done this as a plot. Probably with detailed illustrations of exploding balls.
Not a derail, Ally. I’d add that people like that are another reason I’m fucking thankful for only having been interested in Mr K since I was seventeen.
I wish we had a convenient pit of boiling oil to drop people like Ally’s acquaintance into.
I wonder whether those comments would violate UC policy on sexual harassment, actually…
LBT – if we had a category for Fastest Weird Meltdown, we’d have a runner. Other than that, I got nothin’.
Female ferrets can die from lack of sex! Their heat cycle doesn’t end until they mate, and being in heat for an extended amount of time will make them anemic and eventually kill them.
Although, really, even ferrets can be spayed and then they’ll be okay without sex.
Cliff – You’re advocating castrating TRU MEN? MISANDRYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!11!
RE: CassandraSays
What really bugs me is that, fuck, I’m a sexual abuse survivor, I’ve definitely “reevaluated” my history. The thing was, I realized I never really consented in the first place. That’s not the same thing as what he’s discussing. And yeah, back when me and hubby were first starting out, before we’d really started figuring shit out, we did have some consentfail, one of those things where there really was a lot of bad communication and gray areas — you know, the shit consent theory is intended to keep from happening.
The difference was, my husband immediately REALIZED what he’d done, immediately did things to make up for it, and CHANGED. Immediately. No guilt trips, no dicking around, he immediately got his ass in gear and fixed shit. And I pulled my end too, so that we wouldn’t have so many communication errors.
I feel like this guy is trying to portray himself as doing this radical consent thing, when actually, he is throwing the gates so wide that things get muddy… and that gives him license to operate.
@ LBT
Yeah, it feels like he’s trying to create a paradigm that would make bad behavior easier to get away with under the guise of creating a better paradigm. Like I said earlier, my spidey senses say “manipulative, abusive creep”.
auggz, no need to apologize. You’re one of the nicest people here in my opinion – I definitely wasn’t bothered by any of your comments. :> I actually do feel validated when I see other people get just as pissed off as me when they hear about stuff that’s happened to me.
Rogan, I sent you an email to your address.
Mr NoYouMayMayNot sounds like yet another rapist for whom consent is just another word for gaslighting.
Ally – seconding Cassandra’s suggestion of boiling oil for the scum that did that to you.
RE: auggziliary
I’ve talked a few people out of suicide, and they say I’m “good at it” compared to most,
Good on you. I’ve had to do that a couple times. Sometimes it worked out okay. Once… it really. Really. Didn’t.
RE: Ally
Responded! Hopefully I say something useful, and not just shit you’ve already heard. I also have my son-of-lawyers buddy who offered you his contact info if you’d like more detail; his mom (who he currently lives with) is in family court, and she deals with a LOT of horrible, horrible parents.
All of my imaginary punishments for evil people come from Monty Python.
Honestly, even though the idea of boiling oil sounds REALLY GREAT for asshole-ish behavior that SERIOUSLY violated boundaries (ew, WTF, professors telling students how they would totally want to rape said students?), I just wish they realize that HOLY SHIT WHAT THEY DID WAS TOTALLY UNETHICAL.
And step on Legos of self-awareness.
And maybe be prosecuted for violating code of conduct (and maybe the law, depending on where and when those comments were said).
To clarify, I wasn’t this teacher’s student – he just became a friend of my siblings, who were his students. Thankfully it seems that my siblings are distancing themselves from him.
Have you reported this incident to his employers? Saying stuff like that in front of any student should be a disciplinary offense.