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Check out my review of Michael Kimmel’s Angry White Men on The American Prospect

What you'll say to yourself if you don't read my piece right away
What you’ll say to yourself if you don’t read my piece right away

I‘ve got a nice long review essay on Michael Kimmel’s new book Angry White Men: American Masculinity at the End of an Era up at the American Prospect. Check it out!

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Bina
10 years ago

Also, it is in the interest of the nation to privilege males of the majority ethnic/racial group, even if it fosters inequality.

No, it is NOT. Precisely BECAUSE it fosters inequality. Inequality leads to insecurity and lowered quality of life. Here, have a little light reading. And until you actually know what you’re talking about, kindly STFU.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

@Cloudiah,

So, I know pecunium is fond of his glittery “citation needed” gif, and it is a thing of beauty and a joy forever, but since there are people here that love the water animals I decided to make a punny meme as an alternative to use when our trolls make unsupported allegations:

http://i.imgur.com/NSLrZ4I.jpg

*squees* Animals? Puns? Obscure words? Internet memes? This hits so many of my buttons, and I love it.

@Opium,

What about using pluralized language for gender neutral? They, them, their

I was told that “they” was for a person of unknown gender, and “ze” (or “zie”) was for someone of known, nonbinary gender (unless they use something else). To use “ze” for a man or woman would be misgendering, just as using “s/he” to refer to a nonbinary-gendered person.

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

@ Dumb & Dumber

In fact, declining societies are often marked by excessive concern for women and minorities instead of outward projection of power and influence.

Cetatian needed. Also, lol @ equality being “excessive concern”.

Also, it is in the interest of the nation to privilege males of the majority ethnic/racial group, even if it fosters inequality. They’re the power base of your society

GB2 Stormfront with this bullshit. This is a posteriori reasoning at its finest.

there is very little in the MRA crowd that would count as “hate” outside of Western countries.

Unless you ask the women in those countries, but I guess they don’t count. Also, I thought you people hated cultural relativism?

emilygoddess
emilygoddess
10 years ago

*Cetacean. Damn it!

kittehserf
10 years ago

I was told that “they” was for a person of unknown gender, and “ze” (or “zie”) was for someone of known, nonbinary gender (unless they use something else). To use “ze” for a man or woman would be misgendering, just as using “s/he” to refer to a nonbinary-gendered person.

I thought ze/zie etc were meant to include everyone, regardless of gender. But I’ve only seen them used or talked about here, so my knowledge is kinda limited.

talacaris
talacaris
10 years ago

“I thought ze/zie etc were meant to include everyone, regardless of gender”

I thought the same, that is why the word seems so handy (iif I knew how to pronounce it, does zie rhyme with pie or fee?)
they for a singlet feels like a misnumbering and I don’t like to be referenced with they.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

RE: Argenti

Best insult I’ve heard, that wasn’t one of pecunium’s vocab lessons? Houseplant.

I’m honored.

RE: talacaris

they for a singlet feels like a misnumbering

Thing is, I know genderqueer singlets who use ‘they,’ and I also don’t know if a lot of folks are singlet or not. Since I have some plural friends who flip their shit if they aren’t conjugated properly, ‘they’ seems to be the safest base-coverer for all my friends. I won’t use it for you.

talacaris
talacaris
10 years ago

” I won’t use it for you.” Thanks

I was thinking if zie couldn’t be constructed as number indeterminate word (I don’t think the use is fixed in most people’s minds), that would be really handy.

kittehserf
10 years ago

Interesting; I’ve never associated “they” with someone thinking of me as multi, though that’s hardly surprising. I’m cushioned enough not to be bothered by what pronoun people use of me; on the odd occasion I get misgendered it’s usually because of my gravatar, and it amuses me (“that’s not MY portrait yanno”).

Oh, speaking of amusing, I told the boss about Prester John/Drunken James’s efforts last night and how he said I’d an attempted mass murderer in my gravatar.

“But how do you know Katie hasn’t attempted mass murder?” the boss asked.

neuroticbeagle
neuroticbeagle
10 years ago

@Kittehs
The boss has a point there.

Alice Sanguinaria
10 years ago

I’m aware that “they” has been used as a gender-neutral singular pronoun for years. It’s how I use it on academic papers (because I’m not sure if my professor would accept zie/zir/zirs). So I’m accustomed to using it as such. *shrug*

Of course, if people request me not to use it, I’ll honor that request. So don’t worry talacaris, I’ll try to remember to use zie/zir/zirs instead of they/them/theirs.

kittehserf
10 years ago

He does. I reckon she’d do it if she could, and the fancy took her.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

Yeah, talacaris, if you prefer ze, by all means! I’ve just only seen it used in singlet style.

Bina
10 years ago

I’m quite partial to the singular “they”, myself; even Shakespeare and Jane Austen have used it, and the English major in me likes the fact that a commonly used non-gender-specific term has such a long (if unofficial) history. (I’m guessing that use was not so uncommon even then, regardless of what the prissy old “he”-purists may say.) Lots of my Facebook friends are using it, and I’ve been using it myself, casually, for as long as I can remember.

I also must admit to being confused by the whole hir/zie/ze/zir thing, partly because it’s new and not fully standardized, and partly because I keep hearing someone speaking pidgin Dutch in my head whenever I see it. I can’t help it, and I’m not proud of the fact. Gotta work on that, I guess…I hope I don’t come off as bigoted if I muff it!

BTW, does anyone recall that recent-ish news item about some high school kids who spontaneously started using “yo” as a non-gender-specific singular pronoun? I thought that was also interesting.

LBT
LBT
10 years ago

Oh yeah, I heard about yo ages ago.

One of the kids here uses ze/zer/zers. We know some GQ folks who would rather drop dead than be called ze, others who avoid they because of too many multi pals around, and so on. People have different preferences, and that’s okay.

Bina
10 years ago

Ah, the joys of the confusing English language…I kind of envy the Swedes, who were able to easily make a third-gender/nonspecific pronoun for their language. And I can’t honestly say I blame anyone currently learning ESL who’s seeing all this pronoun debate and throwing up their hands in confusion. I often do, and I’ve been speaking it all my life, and even majored in it…

serrana
serrana
10 years ago

I couldn’t resist.

http://i.imgur.com/TDemhE5.jpg

Viscaria
Viscaria
10 years ago

Serrana that is the greatest
That picture
I died

Alice Sanguinaria
10 years ago

serrana – DAMN YOU AND YOUR PUNNINESS. DAMN YOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUU!!!

kittehserf
10 years ago

Bwahahahahha!

serrana
serrana
10 years ago
cloudiah
10 years ago

Serrana, you took a silly pun and you really committed to it. ::applause:: 🙂

talacaris
talacaris
10 years ago

“I kind of envy the Swedes, who were able to easily make a third-gender/nonspecific pronoun for their language.”

“Hen” , which btw is a loanword from Finnish I think, is not so commonally accepted, and it has been great debate if it should be used. One common ridicule is pointing to the words meaning in English.