I was going to write up something today about International Men’s Day, the me-too what-about-the-menz holiday that’s so meaningless that even Men’s Rights activists can barely remember to celebrate it. Do we really need a day to “celebrate [the] achievements and contributions” of men? Don’t we get quite a lot of that already? Do we need a day given over to “highlighting the discrimination against [men]” as if this is really a thing?
But then I discovered that today was also World Toilet Day, and realized it was probably more worthwhile to promote this event, as the lack of toilets and proper sanitation — a widespread problem in parts of the developing world, particularly in south Asia and sub-Saharan Africa — can have devastating public health consequences.
Some disturbing facts, from the UN, which I clipped from this CNN story:
- 2.5 billion people — one in three people in the world — do not have a toilet or access to sustainable sanitation
- Diarrheal diseases are the second most common cause of death in young children in developing countries
- They kill more than HIV/AIDS, malaria and measles combined
Learn more at the official website. Also, Al Jazeera has a useful infographic.
And just a note to the MRAs who have somehow concluded from this post that I am comparing men or men’s issues to toilets (!?), let me try to make my point very clear: I am contrasting a sharply focused activist campaign aimed at a very real problem — lack of toilets and proper sanitation in large parts of the developing world — with large consequences — disease and death, of adults and children alike — with a badly thought out International Men’s Day that seems largely driven by jealousy that “women get a day so why can’t we have one too.”
How halfassed is International Men’s Day? Here’s a screenshot of the International Men’s Day website’s “resources” page.
Generally speaking, you would expect a “resources” page to list facts and figures and possibly link to relevant other groups. All you get at the International Men’s Day site are some posters made from stock photos.
What I found on the site’s “about” page was much more troubling. The site was put online by a group called the Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, working with the founder of International Men’s Day, Dr Jerome Teelucksingh. The Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, as I discovered with a bit of Googling, turns out to be a virulently homophobic and transphobic organization that is also behind a site called Gendermatters.com. A quasi-manifesto on the site titled 21 Reasons Why Gender Matters asserts, among other things, that:
Transsexuality signals a deceptively fierce disorder. Elective castration, mastectomy, hysterectomy, etc., are futile non-solutions. The cruel, permanent disfigurement of so-called gender reassignment is not the answer. Transsexuals need psychological and spiritual insight that frees them to celebrate the chromosomes they received at conception.
So, yeah, a halfassed men’s “day” that’s associated with transphobic assholes. Not exactly a winning combination.
Look, if you’re concerned about making a difference in the lives of men, pick the issue that matters most to you, and work on that. If you want to increase funding for prostate cancer research, work on that. If you want to raise money to help male victims of domestic violence, work on that. Actually do the hard work of activism. Don’t just have yourself a “day” and pretend that it means something.
EDIT: Rewrote part of the first paragraph and added all the stuff after the Al Jazeera link to clarify the point of this post, because clearly some people have missed the point entirely.
Ninjaed! Cassandra, yeah, I had that conversation about the bloody carols with my favourite checkout person at the supermarket last week. He was about ready to smash the CD player too, I think.
If you’re going to comment in a rocking chair manner, make sure there are no kitties in the chair, first.
Why don’t those of us who’ve been here for years leave so you can have your way? You’re kidding right?
Ah, my feminist coffee is nearly ready, and then I have a footer to work on. My mother thinks FemBorg looks like she’s wearing a book for a shirt, so it seems I need to give her corset some detail. Debating between shading her some breasts or adding lacing, the former is probably easier.
Katz — no, just her, and making her clearly female makes sense in context, so I guess I’m good. Oh, your last post had broken links cuz WP added extra ” marks to them, should be fixed now.
hellkell,
If I’m such a “troll” why are you here, to show me the truth, the light and the way?
Okay, who’s getting David for this one.
FUCK YOU. From the bottom of my NT heart, eat a bowl of bees, you sack of shit.
Pro-tip, Moma, you might want to watch your spelling and grammar when you rage-post. A misplaced apostrophe or typo really stops the flow of a good rant.
Ok, Moma Sita, go to fucking hell. You accuse Cassandra of ableism for calling you stupid and then decide we’re all mentally I’ll welfare queens giving the mentally ill a bad name?
Seriously, fuck you.
I could tell you guys more about why the carols are in stores now, so email me if you want the whole boring story.
Oh, wow. I don’t know why this blog post isn’t longer; the source is a goldmine.
Oh my, this is precious. Sockytroll’s counting the time till the banhammer and desperately making scattergun attempts to upset people – which isn’t working, ‘cos troll’s an idiot.
Is there a whiff of sock about this? We haven’t had the “I am the greatest doctor/surgeon/lecturer/whatever” line, but this carry-on has a Pellish feel to it.
By the end of my one retail Christmas I never wanted to hear Santa Baby again.
What does Aussie Xmas dinner look like? Is it basically just British Xmas dinner? Plum pudding and all that?
Aha! I’ve posted in the wrong thread! Please excuse me.
Lol, well that’s an insult salad I won’t be serving to my family for Thanksgiving.
I posted why I find this argument racist yesterday and it hasn’t gotten any less racist overnight.
Regardless of you being here for years (which is kind of pathetic really who else but an out of work person living paycheck to paycheck with mental illness would be able to spend this much time on a blog) it does not delegitimize the fact that you are a fucking troll who viciously attacks, misinterprets and name calls anyone who does not agree with you. It just means that you’ve been a troll here for years, no different than any of the others. Also I’m not asking that you leave. I asked that you be fair in debating and being accurate in what I actually said. If you want to call me a racist, then you have to prove it using my posts and allow for me to explain. You cannot simply accuse when you haven’t taken the time to understand or to even read and comprehend my posts. You have been the only one here who has been insisting I leave merely because I disagree with your accusations of my posts.
Listen, I only came on here to post the full context of the post because alice mentioned that she wanted to debate it. Clearly she has given up on that most likely because she knows she’s wrong and cannot prove anywhere in my post that I am a racist. Like the typical child she is she ran off too scared to show me where in my post that it proves that I’m a racist.
Alice, don’t worry, I’ve emailed David.
Cassandra – it varies. Plenty of people like to do barbecues and such, but it really depends on the weather. There’s no saying if Christmas will be broiling hot or cold and wet. But yeah, the British Christmas dinner is pretty much the pattern for it, at least in my experience. Mum and I will have roast chook if it’s a cool day, and definitely the PUDDING, which is the one part of Christmas that matters, lol. Oh, and mince pies. Never could persuade my sister to try them; she can’t get over thinking of mince meat.
This comment: WOO SHE CALLED US ALL MENTALLY ILL EVERYONE FINISH YOUR DRINK!!!! Also EVERYONE takes one shot for EVERY PERSON PRESENT who doesn’t live check to check in government housing (provably untrue), one shot for misusing “emblem,” and then finish your drink AGAIN for accusing us of ableism while being ableist!
So brooked, have you read the full post (one click back and you’ll see it) and who I was replying to keep it in context? For example, why was I mentioning that rape can happen to white women in non-white countries by men who hold stereotypes regarding white women as promiscuous and sexually permissive? Keep in mind even freemage agreed.
THat thud is the sound of manboobzers across the world passing out drunk …
Go step on a lego katz. I’m debating with brook who seems to be the only one to actually debate in a more adult style than you defunct asshats.
I STILL WANT TO KNOW WHY I’M A MAN
*hic*
defunct asshats
defunct asshats
Priceless! 😀
kitteh,
Get the fuck over it. I misinterpreted a post a while back in which I thought you wrote that you were a guy. Chronically bringing that up does not dismiss my arguments regarding hyts post, privilege and having an international mens day.
This comment: Finish your drink for accusing us of spending too much time on a blog. Then pour yourself a new drink and finish that one for telling people not to accuse her of things without reading her comments and allowing her to explain. And then take another shot.
This comment: Two shots