I was going to write up something today about International Men’s Day, the me-too what-about-the-menz holiday that’s so meaningless that even Men’s Rights activists can barely remember to celebrate it. Do we really need a day to “celebrate [the] achievements and contributions” of men? Don’t we get quite a lot of that already? Do we need a day given over to “highlighting the discrimination against [men]” as if this is really a thing?
But then I discovered that today was also World Toilet Day, and realized it was probably more worthwhile to promote this event, as the lack of toilets and proper sanitation — a widespread problem in parts of the developing world, particularly in south Asia and sub-Saharan Africa — can have devastating public health consequences.
Some disturbing facts, from the UN, which I clipped from this CNN story:
- 2.5 billion people — one in three people in the world — do not have a toilet or access to sustainable sanitation
- Diarrheal diseases are the second most common cause of death in young children in developing countries
- They kill more than HIV/AIDS, malaria and measles combined
Learn more at the official website. Also, Al Jazeera has a useful infographic.
And just a note to the MRAs who have somehow concluded from this post that I am comparing men or men’s issues to toilets (!?), let me try to make my point very clear: I am contrasting a sharply focused activist campaign aimed at a very real problem — lack of toilets and proper sanitation in large parts of the developing world — with large consequences — disease and death, of adults and children alike — with a badly thought out International Men’s Day that seems largely driven by jealousy that “women get a day so why can’t we have one too.”
How halfassed is International Men’s Day? Here’s a screenshot of the International Men’s Day website’s “resources” page.
Generally speaking, you would expect a “resources” page to list facts and figures and possibly link to relevant other groups. All you get at the International Men’s Day site are some posters made from stock photos.
What I found on the site’s “about” page was much more troubling. The site was put online by a group called the Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, working with the founder of International Men’s Day, Dr Jerome Teelucksingh. The Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, as I discovered with a bit of Googling, turns out to be a virulently homophobic and transphobic organization that is also behind a site called Gendermatters.com. A quasi-manifesto on the site titled 21 Reasons Why Gender Matters asserts, among other things, that:
Transsexuality signals a deceptively fierce disorder. Elective castration, mastectomy, hysterectomy, etc., are futile non-solutions. The cruel, permanent disfigurement of so-called gender reassignment is not the answer. Transsexuals need psychological and spiritual insight that frees them to celebrate the chromosomes they received at conception.
So, yeah, a halfassed men’s “day” that’s associated with transphobic assholes. Not exactly a winning combination.
Look, if you’re concerned about making a difference in the lives of men, pick the issue that matters most to you, and work on that. If you want to increase funding for prostate cancer research, work on that. If you want to raise money to help male victims of domestic violence, work on that. Actually do the hard work of activism. Don’t just have yourself a “day” and pretend that it means something.
EDIT: Rewrote part of the first paragraph and added all the stuff after the Al Jazeera link to clarify the point of this post, because clearly some people have missed the point entirely.
Moma, c’mon, you’re such a tease. While you’re reposting everything everyone has said, why can’t you just post the comment where kitteh said she was a guy? Or the one where I called you racist? Or the one where I defended all those people?
moma: I’m here to mock you.
Like a hurricane.
I’m bored with Moma Sita (sorry for misreading your nym earlier, but seriously, tl;dc.)
I want to talk about what the U.S. people here are making for Thanksgiving dinner.
We’re having two of them and one is tomorrow. None of us eat meat, so I’m going to have a bunch of sliced veggie chicken from the Asian market, mashed potatoes, Emeril’s eggplant casserole (because I want stuffing and no one else will eat it but everyone likes eggplant), maybe some roasted carrots if I feel like it and pumpkin pie. Also I made these some mini empanadas with mushrooms to have first because dinner might start late. And gravy. I have made the empanadas (and frozen them) as well as the pie and gravy.
I’m still working out Thursday’s menu. What are y’all having?
Slurps feminist coffee (thanks, CassandraSays).
Cassandra: I’m not happy with your commenting in such a recliner manner.
Or the one where I called you mentally deficient, or that matter, or the one where I made the whole conversation revolve around me?
gaaaawd, Cassandra, jalopy does not mean car, it means decrepit car, so the proper term would be jalopy bicycle, not simply bicycle you twit.
serrana: The old turkey, cauliflower horseradish gratin, cornbread bacon rosemary stuffing, mashed potatoes, brussels sprouts, yams, cranberry sauce, pumpkin and pecan pies. Maybe some other sides, I dunno.
serrana – I don’t know yet, to be honest. My family doesn’t do “Thanksgiving dinner”.
serrana,
You were never talking to me you were just being a fucking troll along with all your little viper, backstabbing cliquey loser allies. You never even bothered to read what I was writing. You guys are fucking idiots, the stupidest I’ve found any any fucking blog.
You viperous jackals, commenting in such a wall unit manner.
Thanksgiving already? Strewth. Do the shops go all-out with pushing it there, the minute Halloween’s over?
But “jalopy” is a noun, not an adjective. *is confused grammar pedant*
This comment: Finish your drink.
hellkell,
Your only mocking yourself sweetie.
kittehs – Oh, you can’t imagine. We’re already pushing Christmas, complete with egg nog.
@ Hellkell
How about if I was to comment in a rocking chair kind of way instead? Would that be an acceptable compromise?
I’m also getting bored with Moma Sita. Thanksgiving dinner – we’re going to have roast pork, sides, and probably some sort of berry crumble. What’s everyone else who’s US-based having?
This comment: Two shots, one for word misuse, one for provably untrue. Because jalopy will never be an adjective, no matter how many times you say it.
And yet you were happy to comment here until you were called out … now suddenly it’s all meltdown and screaming rage, and going on about how terrible everyone else is, and how everyone else is a troll, blah blah blah.
Seconding the call for an IP check here, there’s a whiff of sock about these antics.
I guess a rocking chair is OK.
Moma: again, if we’re viperous jackal twits, why you here? To show us the truth, the light and the way?
This comment: Two shots.
As happy as I was to see the Christmas coffee appear at Trader Joe’s, you’d think they’d wait till they were done selling the Thanksgiving coffee first.
At this time of year I really feel for people who work retail. As if asshole customers weren’t bad enough, they’re going to be listening to the same Christmas CD for the next month and a half. The one year I did that I was ready to go postal and smash up the CD player in a jalopy manner.
Alice – gah, it’s just as bad here. I overheard a boy on the tram the other day saying “They shove Christmas stuff in the shops the minute the Cup’s over,” which about sums it up. (That’s the Melbourne Cup, run on the first Tuesday in November.) Actually I think it was earlier, they barely cleared the Halloween stuff. They’re already playing carols.
hellkell – I thought that was obvious, with the constant self-casting as the OPPRESSED, who is only trying to tell THE TRUTH and lead us sheeple to the Promised Land.
Just to toss this out there; but is it probable you all have mental illness and because you feel disempowered in real life, probably live check to check on some government housing you come on this forum and troll, bully and generally unfairly attack anyone who doesn’t agree with you so via hostility and online violence you can build yourself up? You are the emblem of pathetic. Also you don’t help ableism and stereotypes regarding those with mental health issues by acting vicious and irrational, you only perpetuate these stereotypes regarding the contributions of people with mental illness. Really you are all a bunch of useless fucking hypocrites.
kittehs – Yep. Huzzah for commercialization?
CassandraSays – I feel bad too. i love music, but my ears can get tired!