I was going to write up something today about International Men’s Day, the me-too what-about-the-menz holiday that’s so meaningless that even Men’s Rights activists can barely remember to celebrate it. Do we really need a day to “celebrate [the] achievements and contributions” of men? Don’t we get quite a lot of that already? Do we need a day given over to “highlighting the discrimination against [men]” as if this is really a thing?
But then I discovered that today was also World Toilet Day, and realized it was probably more worthwhile to promote this event, as the lack of toilets and proper sanitation — a widespread problem in parts of the developing world, particularly in south Asia and sub-Saharan Africa — can have devastating public health consequences.
Some disturbing facts, from the UN, which I clipped from this CNN story:
- 2.5 billion people — one in three people in the world — do not have a toilet or access to sustainable sanitation
- Diarrheal diseases are the second most common cause of death in young children in developing countries
- They kill more than HIV/AIDS, malaria and measles combined
Learn more at the official website. Also, Al Jazeera has a useful infographic.
And just a note to the MRAs who have somehow concluded from this post that I am comparing men or men’s issues to toilets (!?), let me try to make my point very clear: I am contrasting a sharply focused activist campaign aimed at a very real problem — lack of toilets and proper sanitation in large parts of the developing world — with large consequences — disease and death, of adults and children alike — with a badly thought out International Men’s Day that seems largely driven by jealousy that “women get a day so why can’t we have one too.”
How halfassed is International Men’s Day? Here’s a screenshot of the International Men’s Day website’s “resources” page.
Generally speaking, you would expect a “resources” page to list facts and figures and possibly link to relevant other groups. All you get at the International Men’s Day site are some posters made from stock photos.
What I found on the site’s “about” page was much more troubling. The site was put online by a group called the Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, working with the founder of International Men’s Day, Dr Jerome Teelucksingh. The Dads4Kids Fatherhood Foundation, as I discovered with a bit of Googling, turns out to be a virulently homophobic and transphobic organization that is also behind a site called Gendermatters.com. A quasi-manifesto on the site titled 21 Reasons Why Gender Matters asserts, among other things, that:
Transsexuality signals a deceptively fierce disorder. Elective castration, mastectomy, hysterectomy, etc., are futile non-solutions. The cruel, permanent disfigurement of so-called gender reassignment is not the answer. Transsexuals need psychological and spiritual insight that frees them to celebrate the chromosomes they received at conception.
So, yeah, a halfassed men’s “day” that’s associated with transphobic assholes. Not exactly a winning combination.
Look, if you’re concerned about making a difference in the lives of men, pick the issue that matters most to you, and work on that. If you want to increase funding for prostate cancer research, work on that. If you want to raise money to help male victims of domestic violence, work on that. Actually do the hard work of activism. Don’t just have yourself a “day” and pretend that it means something.
EDIT:Â Rewrote part of the first paragraph and added all the stuff after the Al Jazeera link to clarify the point of this post, because clearly some people have missed the point entirely.
hellkell,
I’ll toss that question back at you. Why are you still here if you do not like dealing with me. For myself its because I have a right to comment on this blog and not be hounded by a bunch of viperous jackals who lack context, reading comprehension and critical thinking skills. You do not own this blog, you cannot chance people off of it and most commenters aren’t asshats you guys.
Moma, are you ever going to address the reasoning why your post was racist? Ever?
Here’s the link, if you want to read it.
Indulge the non-American? Isn’t a jalopy an old, beat-up car? Or am I confusing that with another old-timey word?
Psst, katz. How hard would it be to swap out the dancing snakes for dancing jackals?
Moma, admit it: You started capitalizing Alice’s name just to ruin our drinking game.
Joke’s on you, though: Three shots for misusing “jalopy,” “censor,” and “intersectionality” and one for your provably inaccurate claim about the white population of the US. And any MRAs present finish their drink because you accused them of being mentally ill.
Or just replace the heads.
Not even MRAs deserve to deal with that kind of comment formatting.
Oooh, oooh, now we’re viperous jackals! Sweet!
Why is Moma Sita here again?
Also, Kittehs, if I ever get my stupid gravatar to work, I plan to use what I have on my business cards, which is a happy wee LB who appears female. We can be the genderfuckers together!
This is the worst doubling down I have ever seen.
Moma: you keep telling yourself that’s what this blog is about. You pissed away any goodwill you may have had after your first fucked up post pages ago.
Cassandra,
You want an honest dialogue then I went through the pain (cuz I knew you wouldn’t since you have no sense of fairness) of posting it all-so expect for it to take up space. If you want your claim to have any legitimacy that I’m a racist then go through it and prove how I’m a racist. My post was aimed at alice. She asked for a debate, I posted my posts so she can get the full view.
Jalopy is a trashy car, so if your interpreting something in a jalopy manner it means in a trashy manner. Seriously, google, ten seconds you would’ve known.
hellkell,
If youve read any of my posts you’d know whether or not I think their should be a white history month. Taking one minute of your lame day and reading the posts above would clarify that. Literally its written right in my fucking posts.
This comment:
Okay, now you’ve gone the other way and are trying to make us get alcohol poisoning. 6 shots in 4 sentences.
CassandraSays – Seriously, I can format better than that.
Even easier: just grab the link for the first post and go from there.
LBT,
Why are YOU here?
Pain is definitely what happens to anyone trying to read those comments. We should start passing out ibuprofen with the drinks as a preventative measure.
My big post was to alice not any of you. She wanted to debate the accusation of racism so I posted all of my posts including who I was responding too for context cuz I know she wouldn’t go through all of the trouble.
This comment:
Two shots (because “in a jalopy manner” still doesn’t mean anything) and finish your drink because she’s still demanding that people read her posts when she doesn’t read anyone else’s.
Cassandra: stop commenting in such a hoopty manner.
Still doesn’t make any fucking sense.
Moma: I’m guessing my lame days are better than your best days. And if you were wondering, this isn’t one of your best days.
Moma, all I asked you to do was to address that one post. I have a cursor, I can go back and reread the history anytime. It’s not going anywhere.
This comment: Finish your drink.
David: can we get an IP check on Aisle WTF over here?
This comment: One shot.
Genderfucker Fistbumps!
Hellkell, I object to your commenting in a bicycle manner.
Cassandra,
If reading causes you pain perhaps its cuz you’re stupid? Absorbing information is often hard for those who aren’t precocious. Also, let me get this straight you haven’t read ANY of my posts yet continue to accuse me of things that you have no evidence for? If you were reading my posts you would already have known what was in them so it wouldn’t be a ‘pain’ to get through.