Truly Scary Halloween Costume: Sexy Men’s Rights Activist

Yeah, I don’t play the lotto- I just have plenty of ideas of what to do with the money.

I wondered if the rainbow fish pic was photoshopped, because they were so bright – but dye-injected? Eww, no thanks. That’s right up there with people breeding dogs and cats with caved-in faces that give them lifelong breathing trouble, or hips so narrow they can only give birth by Caesarian, among other problems.

That’s right up there with people breeding dogs and cats with caved-in faces that give them lifelong breathing trouble, or hips so narrow they can only give birth by Caesarian, among other problems.

Don’t even get me started…

Practically every “real man” meme defines a “real man” based on how he treats and what he does for women. Practically every “real woman” meme defines what a “real woman” does for herself and justifies her current condition (real women have curves).

No it doesn’t. I mean, I hate the gender essentialism of “real man” and “real woman” stuff anyway, but what you assert is just straight-up not true.

Googling “real men,” the first link that comes up is “Top Ten Traits of a Real Man” on AskMen.com. The ten:
1. A real man is strong
2. A real man is focused
3. A real man knows the importance of family
4. A real man doesn’t gossip
5. A real man’s word is his bond
6. A real man strives to be a role model
7. A real man makes his own fortune
8. A real man doesn’t look like a woman
9. A real man keeps his house in order
10. A real man can defend himself.

There’s nothing there about men doing things for women. The piece also includes a lot of put-downs toward women (for example, describing gossip as “girlie talk”), which suggests that a “real man” treats women dismissively.

Most of the other links on the first page (not counting the ones to movies or TV shows with “Real Men” in the title) are similar. They include sites like “A Tribute to Real Men” (“When did it become acceptable in this country for a man to go from being a rugged, plaid-wearing, beef jerky eating badass to a well-groomed, ‘metrosexual’ girly-boy like Ben Affleck?”), “20 Characteristics of a Real Man,” and “A Summary of Things Real Men Don’t Do” (which features the 1980s chestnut “Real men don’t eat quiche”).

“Real Men Cook” and “28 Ways to Spot a Real Man” (“He knows that you don’t have to fight a war to save a life”) break masculine stereotypes and show men acting generously, but on most of the sites the definition of a “real man” is based on men doing things for their own glorification. Real men show strength, win battles, and demand respect. Also, there’s almost nothing on any of the sites about what “real men” should look like physically (aside from “not like a woman”) or whether they should be attractive to the opposite sex.

Googling “real women” doesn’t bring up handy numbered lists, but all the links on the first page (not counting the ones to movies or TV shows with “Real Women” in the title) are either a) about body issues or b) sites for groups promoting traditional femininity. The former category includes “What Real Women Look Like,” a collection of photos of average women, and “Real Women Run,” an organization that encourages women not to feel ashamed about exercising with less-than-perfect bodies. The latter includes “Real Women of Philadelphia,” a cooking community, and “Real Women of Canada,” a “pro-family conservative women’s movement” mostly focused on homemakers.

So. “Real women” are very concerned about their looks, especially their weight, and also on homemaking and family. Even the sites dedicated to helping women develop positive body image don’t challenge the idea that being beautiful is an important part of being a woman. Nothing in the first page of links mentions achievements outside the home as part of womanhood. A “real woman” is defined by what she does for men–especially in the hotness department–and for her family. Not exactly a stirring message of lady-power.

“Instead, have a perfectly camouflagued cat. You’ll never be able to find her!”

Cat? What cat? I don’t see Mads anywhere… 🙂

You know, honestly, when he said “real men,” I thought he meant stuff like “real men wear pink,” calling your website “the site for REAL MEN,” or like saying things like “real men shave their faces with lawnmowers.” You know, stuff that’s just humorous over-the-top masculinity.

Athywren — yes, it’ see ally it’s really a question, I have like 10g of the books.

Make that 20g

I have like 10g of the books.

O_O That’s a lot of book… how many books are there? I’m guessing they cover the whole WoD at that size, not just vampires? I’d be very interested to read the Salubri clanbook… though I did just find a whole collection of WoD books online… ooh, and D&D too, so nm.

@ Argenti

I knew your psych was trying to fix it so you wouldn’t qualify for the benefits you’re applying for. Hopefully the judge will figure out that PTSD + malingerer = this psych needs to go back to college.

BTW if people want to see rays and friendly pretty fish for less expensive than the Galapagos and so on, the Persian Gulf is full of them. Saudi obviously isn’t much fun as a destination, but maybe Dubai? Great food there too.

Good: MRA’s are not misogynists. Would you accept feminists as being misandrists? If not, you are practicing true bias.

Bullshit.

1: MRAs are misogynists.

2: EVen if I accepted the idea of, “misandry” that MRA’s are misogynists doesn’t equal that the group the MRM has decided is their bête noir is therefore actually guilty of the paranoid delusions the MRM has projected onto them.

Ergo, unless you can show that 1: the MRM isn’t misogynist, at core, and 2: that Misandry is a real thing and 3: that Femism is, at root, based on that”misandry”, your statement is a probative as anything else you have ever said.

… I stand corrected. There was a Dark Ages Salubri clanbook.

Also, retyped stuff: just google taintedsnowqueen and you will find them.