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The Freak-Out Artist: Julian from Real Social Dynamics takes gaslighting to a new level

I’ve read and watched and listened to a lot of creepy pickup artist crap over the past few years while writing this blog, but in some ways this little video, from PUA “coach” Julian of Real Social Dynamics, one of the bigger and better known of the commercial “game” marketers, may well be the creepiest.  Essentially, Julian provides tips to young men on how to “get” the girl of their dreams by temporarily driving her out of her mind.

No, really: he recommends that men overwhelm their female targets with confusing and contradictory stimuli to throw them so off-balance they’ll reflexively turn to their mental tormenters for support (and, maybe later, reward them with sex). This isn’t pick-up artistry so much as freak-out artistry.

The one thing about this video that is vaguely reassuring is that Julian’s examples of his technique in action are so crude and hamhanded I seriously doubt they’d actually work on anyone “in field,” as the PUAs like to say. What’s not so reassuring is that anyone would actually come up with something this predatory and perverse in the first place. Also, you know that at least a few of the video’s 32,000 viewers have actually tried out this technique on annoyed and bewildered women around the world. The world doesn’t really need any new ways for dudes to be assholes in clubs.

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pecunium
11 years ago

Ok. If you were in the US I could offer to help a bit, but I can’t do a shipping over the border.

dustydeste
dustydeste
11 years ago

Thanks for being concerned, I really appreciate it 🙂

We really are fine, though, and lucky enough to be able to borrow from our families if we really need to. They may not like our opinions on basically everything, but we’re still family and they’d pitch in if we were in dire straits.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Pecunium — if you’re thinking what I think you’re thinking, just ship it to me and I’ll send it on it’s way!

In other news, my last batch of cat anger consequences has healed, so she gave me a new batch. At least I don’t seem to be bleeding this time.

kittehserf
11 years ago

In other news, my last batch of cat anger consequences has healed, so she gave me a new batch. At least I don’t seem to be bleeding this time.

It’s good to know they care. 😉

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

I’m wondering if the baked/stovetop mac and cheese thing is regional, since I was always raised on stovetop. (And now kinda crave some of hubby’s recipe.)

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Maybe? Pecunium, where’d your mother pick up your version?

pecunium
11 years ago

Near Cleveland. My stepfather (same area) was a stovetopper.

katz
11 years ago

Betcha it’s not so much a regional thing as a “how much time did your family spend on meals” thing. I like baked mac perfectly well but I rarely feel like spending extra time and dishes on something that’s a perfectly good meal as is. (For that matter, I often come up with stovetop variations of other baked meals as well.)

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

Well, I now know what I’m doing with that over-sized courgette/small marrow from the allotment. Oven-baked macaroni cheese with nutmeg & added veg.

Manboobz – come for the mocking, stay for the recipes.

CassandraSays
CassandraSays
11 years ago

Random – you’re in the UK, right? We got vegetables of unusual size this year too, especially courgettes*, but I thought it was some weird local thing. Apparently not?

* As in, bigger around than my fist and about a foot long. Giant mutant zucchini of doom.

kittehserf
11 years ago

Triffids! They’re triffids, I tell you!

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

Yep, in the UK. I grow tromboncino courgettes and “triffid” is the right word. They yomp across the allotment, seemingly growing about a foot a day.

mildlymagnificent
11 years ago

Those giant mutant zucchinis need some serious work to be palatable. I only ever turn them into chocolate zucchini cake or muffins or the like. I suppose if you grate them into a sauce or a gravy they’ll just disappear. As a vegetable they are a bit weak and watery once they get to that size.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

Cut up, blanched & smothered in cheese sauce is my solution 🙂

mildlymagnificent
11 years ago

They yomp across the allotment, seemingly growing about a foot a day.

Hah. One year we noticed our four zucchini plants were a bit slow to get going. So mr planted four more down by the back fence. It wasn’t long before he was spending a few hours a week trudging around to the neighbours with a basket of zucchinis to give away – had to pop in a few tomatoes and capsicums as a bonus to get takers after a while.

But even picking them every couple of days, we’d always miss a couple that turned into giants lurking under those large leaves.

katz
11 years ago

Eight zucchini plants?? Noooooo! We had two growing in a patch of gravel and it was still overwhelming.

Falconer
Falconer
11 years ago

Zucchini are my garlic*, unless they’re cooked in something — then they take up flavor, kind of like eggplant.

I can barely stand asparagus.

*Actual garlic is A-OK.

titianblue
titianblue
11 years ago

I love asparagus. Probably my favourite veg. THe two months from St George’s day are total bliss. Poached egg on lightly steamed asparagus with crusty home-baked bread is heaven on a plate.

cloudiah
cloudiah
11 years ago

I like roasting asparagus in a little olive oil, and at the end adding a topping of panko and Parmesan. Which is the same thing I put on my mac-n-cheese, coincidentally. I promise, I do not put that on everything.

Also, titianblue has now been added to this post.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

You cruel people! You’re making me crave food that I can’t really do on the road! *shakes fist*

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Marinate asparagus in balsamic vinegar and then grill them–it’s so good it should be illegal.

LadySunami
LadySunami
11 years ago

Good,

You still haven’t answered my question! It’s been a couple of days though, so perhaps you forgot.

The post: http://manboobz.com/2013/09/30/the-freak-out-artist-julian-from-real-social-dynamics-takes-gaslighting-to-a-new-level/comment-page-6/#comment-357445

Please respond.

kittehserf
11 years ago

LadySunami – I don’t know if Good was or wasn’t a Mr Al sock, though the references from his “Thomas Moore” character suggest so. With any luck, he won’t be back.

thenatfantastic
thenatfantastic
11 years ago

Titianblue, you have NO IDEA how jealous of you I am for that allotment. I live in a street where there’s about 80 houses and at least 250 households (flats) and a ten year waiting list for the allotment. I have to deal with my 6ftx5ft basement patio 🙁

Gemma
Gemma
11 years ago

Just came across this gem on youtube. It’s entitled “How to get girls to kiss you” but really it’s just a guy finding a sneaky way to undermine a girl’s ability to say “stop that you’re sexually harassing me.” I’d love to hear your thoughts on this. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RTuBf4BrIgE