auggziliary, That’s scary. It sounds like they caught it pretty early, before it spread. My best wishes for her complete recovery and continuing good health.
By the way, does anyone here have any experience in intervening in street harassment incidents? I would really appreciate some advice based on experience.
Thanks for the links cloudiah! =] I found them very helpful.
Also, I’m not entirely sure why, but ever since that day I intervened in that street harassment incident, I’ve gained a boost of confidence. I don’t know if it’s because I’m getting some strange sense of self-importance (which I really hope isn’t the case) , but now I feel more hopeful about my future and more eager to get to know people and socialize. In fact, I’ve just made two more trans* friends and a cis ally friend on campus. And today I met a recent trans* friend of mine in downtown, and I didn’t feel nervous at all.
Things are finally heading in the direction I want them to. I don’t completely understand why this sudden shift is happening, but I welcome it for sure.
What you did was pretty awesome Ally. You should feel proud of it. So many people just look away and don’t do anything, pretend they didn’t see or notice.
auggziliary, I know the feeling. That complete apathy about anything and not even knowing if you can care to cope with things, let alone want to. 🙁 hugs if you want them.
I tend to be more likely to do self-destructive things to feel something… to get out of that numb feeling, which is not something I recommend and is something I’ve been doing all weekend. I don’t know why I can’t stop doing it, even though I know it’s super unhealthy.
Also, I’m sorry I’m hijacking the thread with my own shit, especially since I’ve already said this stuff… please ignore me.
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago
Hijacking the open thread is impossible! Hugs to you, and anyone else who wants some.
Pecunium’s answer to my jerkbrain last night applies to y’all as well — yes, and it’s wrong. (Yes as in acknowledging you said and feel that, it’ strong as in fuck off jerkbrain)
Also, I got back from his place this afternoon and already miss it. They’re all like warm and loving and cute couple squee and he can fucking cook and I’m back with ignoring my asshole father, the lingering level of walking on eggshells, and cookies and granola (admittedly, they’re delicious, but I’m not sure anything I can still get compared to his cooking [sorry, but my grandmother will always win that one, I’m sure you understand {and that truffle honey shit is still gross}]) /babbling
This is a bit better for the colour (it’s in Wool Baa, where I bought the yarn).
Here’s how the coat looks laid out flat. Wasn’t it kind of Mads to provide a sense of scale? She’s so thoughtful like that. The colour’s a bit crap, but it always is with the electric lights at home.
There are quite a few Furs of Appreciation on it, I noticed yesterday. (As someone said elsewhere, it’s nice when our furry overlords acknowledge our hard work.) Probably a few are Fribs’, ‘cos she was quite sure she could sit on my lap while I sewed the seams.
emilygoddess
11 years ago
I can’t say this to any of our IRL friends because it’s premature, but my partner of almost 8 years basically told me the other night that he’s planning to propose. I’ve asked him to marry me a couple of times in the past, but he’s never been ready (which I totally respected, even if it did hurt my feelings a bit). He won’t give me a time frame, because “that would ruin the surprise”. All he’ll say is that since he knows I’ll say yes, he feels like he can make a to-do. Not a big to-do (we both hate being the center of attention), but “a to-do”.
We Hunted The Mammoth
Ally, that must have been scary. I am sure those women felt better knowing at least one person was on their side.
Ally, that was very brave of you!
Way to go, Ally! You did the right thing.
auggziliary, That’s scary. It sounds like they caught it pretty early, before it spread. My best wishes for her complete recovery and continuing good health.
By the way, does anyone here have any experience in intervening in street harassment incidents? I would really appreciate some advice based on experience.
And seconding cloudiah. Hope things go well for your mother, auggz!
Ally, no experience except when I’ve been in groups, which is a different dynamic.
These are Hollaback’s tips.
This looked pretty good too.
Thanks for the links cloudiah! =] I found them very helpful.
Also, I’m not entirely sure why, but ever since that day I intervened in that street harassment incident, I’ve gained a boost of confidence. I don’t know if it’s because I’m getting some strange sense of self-importance (which I really hope isn’t the case) , but now I feel more hopeful about my future and more eager to get to know people and socialize. In fact, I’ve just made two more trans* friends and a cis ally friend on campus. And today I met a recent trans* friend of mine in downtown, and I didn’t feel nervous at all.
Things are finally heading in the direction I want them to. I don’t completely understand why this sudden shift is happening, but I welcome it for sure.
What you did was pretty awesome Ally. You should feel proud of it. So many people just look away and don’t do anything, pretend they didn’t see or notice.
Ally, you did something good, and you should feel good. I’m really glad things are going well!
Missing my big adoption event cuz I’m sick 🙁
That’s awful, katz. I’m sorry.
Hope you’re feeling better, katz. How did the adoption event go?
auggziliary, I know the feeling. That complete apathy about anything and not even knowing if you can care to cope with things, let alone want to. 🙁 hugs if you want them.
I tend to be more likely to do self-destructive things to feel something… to get out of that numb feeling, which is not something I recommend and is something I’ve been doing all weekend. I don’t know why I can’t stop doing it, even though I know it’s super unhealthy.
Also, I’m sorry I’m hijacking the thread with my own shit, especially since I’ve already said this stuff… please ignore me.
Hijacking the open thread is impossible! Hugs to you, and anyone else who wants some.
Pecunium’s answer to my jerkbrain last night applies to y’all as well — yes, and it’s wrong. (Yes as in acknowledging you said and feel that, it’ strong as in fuck off jerkbrain)
Also, I got back from his place this afternoon and already miss it. They’re all like warm and loving and cute couple squee and he can fucking cook and I’m back with ignoring my asshole father, the lingering level of walking on eggshells, and cookies and granola (admittedly, they’re delicious, but I’m not sure anything I can still get compared to his cooking [sorry, but my grandmother will always win that one, I’m sure you understand {and that truffle honey shit is still gross}]) /babbling
i meant hijacking as in auggz was saying something important and then i’m in making it all about me…
I’m fairly sure that relating a similar experience is a standard sort of social interaction. But I kinda suck a social interaction…
In any case, you’re still welcome to those hugs, and your jerkbrain is still welcome to fuck off. (Ditto for auggz!)
Four days short of a month and the Mick Aston Memorial Coat is finished at last!
This is a bit better for the colour (it’s in Wool Baa, where I bought the yarn).
Here’s how the coat looks laid out flat. Wasn’t it kind of Mads to provide a sense of scale? She’s so thoughtful like that. The colour’s a bit crap, but it always is with the electric lights at home.
To be put in the pile of warm fuzzies:
Happiness is:
http://media-cache-ec0.pinimg.com/736x/29/c4/10/29c410e2eb8640dad70d4a66c47255f4.jpg
Medicinal:
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/56/bd/78/56bd78c36ca49a6ab993de82e1813c96.jpg
Comfort and support:
http://media-cache-ak0.pinimg.com/736x/97/24/c5/9724c518da000363ade297b86419cb24.jpg
@Kittehs
It is a very pretty coat. I especially like the decorative fur Mads was so graciously provided. 🙂
Thank you, neuroticbeagle!
There are quite a few Furs of Appreciation on it, I noticed yesterday. (As someone said elsewhere, it’s nice when our furry overlords acknowledge our hard work.) Probably a few are Fribs’, ‘cos she was quite sure she could sit on my lap while I sewed the seams.
I can’t say this to any of our IRL friends because it’s premature, but my partner of almost 8 years basically told me the other night that he’s planning to propose. I’ve asked him to marry me a couple of times in the past, but he’s never been ready (which I totally respected, even if it did hurt my feelings a bit). He won’t give me a time frame, because “that would ruin the surprise”. All he’ll say is that since he knows I’ll say yes, he feels like he can make a to-do. Not a big to-do (we both hate being the center of attention), but “a to-do”.
GUYS I THINK I’M PRE-ENGAGED.
Congratulations! o/
Awesome!