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No, YOU’RE The [Anti-Woman Slur]: A Manosphere Debate [NOW WITH TRANSCRIPT]

Today, some comedy, in the form of an 8 minute excerpt from what was apparently an hour-and-a-half “debate” between John “The Other” Hembling, noted Men’s Human Rights Activist from A Voice For Human Men, and some dude from Manhood Academy, a Men’s Rights site that’s actually a teensy bit more obnoxious than AVFM, although in a much less interesting way.

It’s NSFW, unless you’re wearing headphones, due to salty language and near-constant anti-woman slurs.

In case you haven’t listened to enough of  JohnTheOther to instantly recognize his irritating voice, he is — uncharacteristically — the quieter of the two, er, debaters here, and a little bit on the defensive.

Thanks to the intrepid work of new commenter Thal, we now have a transcript!

MA: You were threatening to rage-quit like a—
JTO: So here’s my an—here we go, ready? Ready for the answer?
MA: You were threatening to rage quit like a timid little b*tch.
JTO: Stick something in your mouth so you can hear with your ears, not your tongue.
MA: YOOOOUUUU, were threatening, to rage quit like a timid little b*tch to control the conversation, you were saying, [baby-talk] “If you say this one more time, I’m rage quitting outta here!” And look at you.
JTO: Oh, god—how f*cking old are you.
MA: Like a timid little b*tch, like a little girl—
JTO: No no, Let’s just pause, come on—
MA: You can’t—you can’t even keep your own word.
JTO: How old are you? *How old are you?*
MA: –you can’t even keep your own word. You notice you said, if I called you a b*tch one more time, you’d leave?
JTO: Yeah, because I wasn’t going to let you, I wasn’t going to let you—
MA: And, now you, now you didn’t. So you make empty threats so, you admit you’re a liar?
JTO: No, I was—
MA: You admit you’re a liar, basically?
JTO: …Kid, is this entire thing—
MA: Kid?! Yes Dad? Yes Daddy?
JTO: –Just to wind me up?
MA: What do you have to tell me Daddy?
JTO: And then when I’m finally fed up with you I leave—
MA: What Daddy?
JTO: –and then you go “Oh, rage quit?”
MA: What Daddy?
JTO: Is that the whole point of this whole f*cking exercise?
MA: What Daddy? Say that again Daddy?
JTO: …Kid! *Kid!*
MA: Yes, Daddy?
JTO: That’s what I called you!
MA: Yes Daddy?
JTO: Would you prefer I call you *toddler?* Child?
MA: Grandpa! Are we getting older now? Grandpa, what are you doing? Grandpa, check your pacemaker, it sounds like you’re getting angry.
JTO: Oh my pacemaker’s fine, son.
MA: Yeah? Grandpa, it sounds like your pacemaker’s getting angry.
JTO: Listen, listen, listen toddler, you little child…
MA: Grandpa, check your Depends undergarments. Check your Depends undergarments. Are they okay?
JTO: Would you like to go back to actually—
MA: Are they dry?
JTO: –letting me answer your question?
MA: Grandpa! Grandpa, are your Depends undergarments dry or not?
JTO: (long-suffering sigh)
MA: Don’t cry like a little b*tch! You act like a little b*tch and then you get frustrated! You’re frustrating yourself!
JTO: (derisive laugh)
MA: Go back to your Zen calm!
JTO: You’re—you’re so—
MA: Remember how you were Zen calm? Remember how you were lecturing everyone on how calm you were?
JTO: The longer this goes on—
MA: Remember—(misty exalted voice) ohhhhh! I’m Zen calm!
JTO: The longer this goes on, the more transparent you become!
MA: Uh—what a coincidence! It’s almost like we’re talking to a mirror here! Oh my god!
JTO: So? Do you want me to try to answer the question again, or are you gonna yap again?
MA: Well you want me to state the question clearly so you can give a clear answer?
JTO: No, I know what the question is!
MA: *Oh,* now you know, before you were just ignoring it!
JTO: …Well, I was trying to answer, and you were yapping over top of me—
MA: No you weren’t! You were acting like a scared little b*tch, ignoring it!
JTO: (long suffering) Oh, god. You’re so tedious.
MA: Ohhhh, god. Oh my gawd, you’re so put out. Oh, my gawwwwd, broooo. I have to give a logical answer–?
JTO: Tedious. Tedious.
MA: I have to give a—
JTO: Teeeedious.
MA: Yeah. I’m talking to a *f*cking moron,* and you want to talk about *tedious?* You’re a f*cking idiot! I mean, I have students that are brighter than you!
JTO: …Well, uh, good for them, I’m not sure why they’d pay attention to you.
MA: Yeah, because I make sense!
JTO: So, the question that you asked—
MA: You know why they pay attention to me?
JTO: The question, that you asked—
MA: Because I’m *specific,* like an adult, and I make sense—
JTO: The question—
MA: And you’re a hypocritical, cowardly little b*tch, and I keep proving it to them! That’s why they pay attention to me! That’s why we hold these debates!
JTO: Look. This isn’t a debate!
MA: Public scrutiny!
JTO: (possibly a snort?) This isn’t a debate, sunshine!
MA: Oh it—it’s not, pumpkin?
JTO: No, no it’s not, sweetie-pie! This is [unintelligible]—
MA: Why not marshmallow? Tell me why marshmallow!
JTO: (almost flirtatiously) I’ll try. Are you gonna let me?
MA: Maybe buttercup, are you gonna keep cutting me off?! You—you notice again—you keep cutting me off–
JTO: I’ll tell you what—
MA: You keep cutting me off—
JTO: Hold up your hand—
MA: And *I’m* not crying!
JTO: When you’re ready for me to—
MA: I’m not crying like a little b*tch like you are
JTO: Go like this—
MA: (high voice) Ohhhh, you keep cutting me off!
JTO: Go like this when you’re ready for me to answer the question.
MA: Listen. Listen, you cowardly little b*tch. You notice how *you* keep crying about me cutting you off but I don’t cry when you cut me off? You notice that?
JTO: Well you, you *are* crying, I mean…
MA: Oh I am? I didn’t realize.
JTO: Get your camera up higher, so that you’re not hiding your eyes.
MA: What?! I’m sitting *forward!*
JTO: Well, lean back, or tilt your camera back, cause all I see is from—
MA: You don’t get to tell me what to do, you scared little b*tch!
JTO: This is what I see. This is what I see.
MA: Guess what? Guess what?
JTO: That’s what you look like right now.
MA: You’re a scared little *b*tch,* and you don’t answer my challenges, so what the *fuck* does it matter what position I sit in?
JTO: Well I do, it’s just that you can’t hear the answer because you won’t stop talking.
MA: Oh I “can’t hear the answer?” Maybe it’s because you’re a cowardly little b*tch and you won’t *answer!*
JTO: (laughs incredulously) Well, the question that I remember is do I want long form answers while the other person sits and waits for the answer—
MA: No!
JTO: –Or do I want people to just jump in back and forth on each other?
MA: Yes.
JTO: So, the answer that I gave you many times—
MA: No, you didn’t gave me many times you lying, f*cking f*ggot, you’re a liar! You’re a llllliar.
JTO: I yelled it at you many times—
MA: You didn’t give me that answer at all. You’re a *liar.*
JTO: Oh—(cleansing breath) Well, do you remember me shouting the word yes a couple minutes ago?
MA: No! Hey. Hey.
JTO: Do you?
MA: You f*cking idiot. *We have the tape here.* We could play it back for you.
JTO: Do you remember me sh—just, yes or no. Do you remember me shouting the word yes at you a few minutes ago?
MA: I remember you shouting incoherently. I don’t know what you were shouting.
JTO: I was shouting the word yes.
MA: I remember you getting butthurt and storming off.
JTO: The reason I shouted the word yes—
MA: I remember you storming off like a scared little b*tch! I remember that too!
JTO: Ah, god, you’re so tedious…
MA: (mockingly) Ah, god, so tedious! Again, I’m dealing with a f*cking idiot, I’m doing you the courtesy of dealing with *you.* Come on!
JTO: Why are you still in this conversation?
MA: Good question! You’re too *dumb* to be debating me! Are you kidding me?
JTO: No no no—why are you here, what’s your goal here?
MA: My goal? To educate a moron like you, to educate the general public!
JTO: That’s too vague. Be specific, what’s your goal?
MA: Too vague?
JTO: Too vague. What’s your specific goal—
MA: You are the last person to be lecturing anybody on vague and specific.
JTO: That’s—you’re changing the topic now.
MA: No I’m not!
JTO: So once again—you are changing the—
MA: I’m answering each challenge as it comes up you moron! It’s called being specific, you should learn how to do it!
JTO: (belches) No, you’re being vague. So, again—
MA: No, you’re burping!
JTO: What’s your goal?
MA: Uh, so, uh, sorry, I’m offended by your burping! I can’t answer any challenges anymore, cause you’re *burping.*
JTO: Okay, I’ll stop burping and I’ll just call you “little b*tch.” Would that make you feel better? I mean, we’re calling each other little b*tch now, right?
MA: No no no, I’m calling you a little b*tch cause you’re acting like a little b*tch, and I’m explaining why. I’m explaining—there’s a reason that I’m giving you, so it’s really a valid observation that you’re a little b*tch, because you’re a hypocrite and I keep pointing that out. You keep ignoring it.
JTO: Okay. So I’ve answered you question, what else do you want to know?
MA: You—you’ve answered what question?
JTO: The question—
MA: After I had to drag it out of you!
JTO: But, no, you talked over top of me every single time I tried to answer…
MA: No, you’re a, again, you’re a lying little b*tch. Okay. Let’s clear it up this time so we can proceed forward according to how you want to proceed forward. Now, be clear for the record. Which way do you want to proceed forward?
JTO: …And the two options are we each talk over top of one another—
MA: Mm-hm.
JTO: Or we ask a question and let the other person answer.
MA: Right.
JTO: The second! We ask a question and let the other person answer.
MA: All right. I agree to that—as long as *you* agree to that!
JTO: (incredulous pause) I just suggested it. Why wouldn’t I agree to that?
MA: No you didn’t suggest it! You’re a lying f*cking moron!
JTO: (garble)
MA: What are you talking about? I was the one who first shut up for your long stupid answer full of r*tarded assumptions—
JTO: (garble)
MA: –and didn’t interrupt it, and then I gave my answer, and when I started giving my answer—
JTO: We’ve already covered this ground, so let’s move forward.
MA: And when I started giving my answer—no, I, I’m covering your lie. I’m exposing your lie. Then when I gave my answer, you interrupted me. And that’s when I started lecturing you, about your own hypocrisy.
JTO: Well…if you stack four or five questions into one long rant, I’m going to answer them as they—
MA: Separate—well then should I answer all your idiotic assumptions in one long rant?
JTO: No, you should answer one of my idiotic assumptions. Just one.
MA: Just one. All right, I like how we have new rules! I didn’t know we had these specif—uh, interesting new rules where I’m only allowed to answer one of your idiotic assumptions—
JTO: No, I said I want you to answer only one, it’s not a rule, it’s, I just told you what I want.
MA: Okay great! I want a Ferrari!
JTO: I want you to answer—
MA: I want you to give me a Ferrari, cause I *want* it.
JTO: …No, uhhhh, let’s try to stay on topic—is this too—
MA: No! Let’s try to use your idiotic logic to make a *point* here!
JTO: My assumption is that the rhetoric you’ve presented suggests to me that you are a pick-up site. Now—
MA: We’ve answered this.
JTO: Oh, yeah, but the answer is cause I’m either moronic or socially incompetent or stupid or a b*tch—
JTO: –or, any of the following.
MA: No no no. It’s—I gave a specific answer. It’s cause of your *lack of education.*
JTO: …My lack of education, do you happen to know what my level of education is?
MA: Yeah, it’s moron level!
JTO: (spit take, laughs incredulously)
MA: (imitates JTO’s laugh)
JTO: I wasn’t aware that that was a level of education!
MA: Yeah, I wasn’t, obviously I wasn’t either, but then I had to talk to you, how do you think I feel?
JTO: So—
MA: I thought you’d be an educated adult—
JTO: –if (garbled) education—
MA: –and able to construct a coherent point, and *follow your own rules!* That’s what I thought!

Mr. Hembling presents his version of what happened during the debate here, but provides no link to a video.

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8 years ago

Oh! Halva, and other similar milky fudgy things like burfi. It’s a subtle smell but it takes me right back to toddlerhood.

8 years ago

god damn what a bunch of fucking clowns

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

No, clowns are definitely not a good sort of nostalgia. Elephants I’ll take though, if you haven’t ridden one, you should. Don’t advise being nearby when they decide it’s time to drop elephant sized turds though, makes cow shit smell good.

8 years ago

Knoxville Zoo has camel rides, but most of its elephants are rescues, I believe. There’s at least one that has a fidget from being pent too closely.

I once saw a camel snake its neck around a young girl because it thought she had feed in her hand (there was a dispenser of sweet feed nearby) and catch her against the fence. It let her go pretty promptly.

8 years ago

Nostalgia smells- the New Jersey shore (specifically Sea Isle City beach and Wildwood boardwalk), and the plastic scent of my little ponies

8 years ago

This is my favorite debate ever.

f*ggot, you’re a liar! You’re a llllliar.
JTO: I yelled it at you many times—
MA: You didn’t give me that answer at all. You’re a *liar.*
JTO: Oh—(cleansing breath) Well, do you remember me shouting the word yes a couple minutes ago?
MA: No! Hey. Hey.
JTO: Do you?
MA: You f*cking idiot. *We have the tape here.* We could play it back for you.
JTO: Do you remember me sh—just, yes or no. Do you remember me shouting the word yes at you a few minutes ago?
MA: I remember you shouting incoherently. I don’t know what you were shouting.
JTO: I was shouting the word yes.

8 years ago

the plastic scent of my little ponies

Oh, oh! Whatever patchouli scent it was in Stinkor, Evil Master of Odors! that didn’t actually smell that bad. My toys have been stored in a Rubbermaid tote for decades now, I bet they all whiff of it.

8 years ago

I used to live around a lot of hot springs and other thermal features, so my nostalgic smell is sulfur.

I used to live in the Mojave, town called Pioneer Point. It was near Searles Dry Lake: which Kerr-McGee mines for various chemicals (or did, the plant is pretty much dead). In the evening the wind would shift, and the smell of sulfur would come on the cooling breeze.

8 years ago

Roofing tar and pencil shavings drag me right back to the start of the school year.

Combine that with autumn leaves and temperatures at the freezing point, and I’m 12 again, riding my bike past school to rent a Nintendo game.

Smells like adventure. 🙂

8 years ago

RE: Argenti

LBT — maybe? A couple days later would be better, cuz beginning of the month welfare “check”

Right! Sorry, I forgot about that. (Ours comes at a different time.) I’d like to do it within the first week of October–the fourth, maybe?

Also, screw the train, we be taking the BUS. $20 to NYC, can’t be beat.

8 years ago

Also, Argenti, if you do need a bit of help, my writeathon’s fucking EXPLODED in the best way, so I can afford to kick you a little green.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

LBT — yeah, 4th should work, and the train’s $30~ from here while greyhound is like $50, don’t fucking ask me how that works. And thanks, but buying your own keyboard works by me 🙂

Now, should I poke him with a stick or do you want to? Given the non-response I would assume our host has not seen this.

And emails, permission to swap them, or do you already have his?

8 years ago

Argenti: that time frame looks good. You are, of course, welcome to stay here for a couple of days. I see no reason to not meet LBT.

8 years ago

Okay. I’ll have to double-check with my crash space, but I think it should work out okay.

As for hunting new keyboards, do I just search for the model or something? I’ve never actually gotten a laptop keyboard replaced before, so I’m a bit dumb.

8 years ago

Oh, and pecunium, if you need our address, it’s loonybrain at healthymultiplicitydotcom.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

LBT — email me the laptop model and I’ll find you a keyboard, when I looked before they were like $15 on amazon though. But involved confirming which models share the same parts.

Pecunium — I may be able to do two nights then, depending what sort of mood puff is in food wise. If I stuff him with brine shrimp before I leave he should go a day before eating again anyways, and my mother can entirely handle the 55g, they eat from containers. An entire day away from here! Let me know if you want me to bring anything besides myself, my computer fixing stuff, and LBT’s compass. My hiking bag can totally bring my own bedding for example…or the TB…it only transfers wirelessly, no direct access (I wanted it for the iPad which lacks that ability anyways) but you can probably get my entire Doctor Who collection off it if you just leave it running all day. Hm, I could transfer it to the mac and direct connect that to one of the resident machines if that’d work better? And then you can see what a tank it is, all my dings and dents.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Oh and you know I’ve met LBT before right? I don’t see any potential issue (LBT, you aren’t like, allergic to orchids or anything?), but I haven’t met your other roommate, so idk.

8 years ago

I know you’ve met before. I doubt there will be blooms, so orchids ought not be an issue.

8 years ago

Actually… orchids are obligate-aid pollinators, so they are very rarely the cause of allergies (esp. because the easy to keep sorts are almost completely scentless).

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Huh, oh, your’s bloomed like normal plants. Mine’s just starting to send up a shoot, I have no idea what that’s about!

Grow bulb obtained btw. Now if I can just figure out where the fuck my sundew is.

8 years ago

Falconer: Heh, more like this:

8 years ago

Woo! It’ll be cool to visit more Boobzers in the Big Apple. And nah, only thing we’re allergic to is raw broccoli. (Or all things.) Shouldn’t be an issue.

And mailed you the model number, Argenti. Say what you will about the Inspiron 1300, I’ve been using it since 2005, 2006, and it still runs beautifully. Which is more than I can say for THIS loan, which sometimes decides it doesn’t like the mouse buttons anymore, but also refuses to let me install anything new, like another mouse.

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

My mac’s about that old, other than a broken SuperDrive that I’ll replace eventually it runs great. On one fan. Because never decide that it’s a good time to do repairs while drunk cuz mixed state cuz “contraindications: bipolar” was ignored.

Actually, probably best not to do repairs at all while drunk, but depends how drunk. Legal limit is cuz reaction times, and one is already screwed if reaction times matter while fixing a computer.

LBT — no raw broccoli cuz allergic

Pecunium — mangos, ‘nuf said

Argenti — mayo is disgusting

You’re in good company.

8 years ago

Well fuck, I was totally hoping to share with you guys my broccoli and mango coleslaw recipe.

8 years ago

katz: Does it have uni?

Argenti Aertheri
8 years ago

Do you know how many things I had to special order in Pittsburgh because no I don’t want fucking coleslaw?!

8 years ago

Pecunium: Are you referring to sea urchin? That’s the only meaning of “uni” that seems like it makes any sense in this context.

8 years ago

Yes, that’s what I meant.

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