Mark Minter, a bitter, angry, divorced man in his late fifties, made a name for himself over the last year or so in the tiny world of the misogynist manosphere as that subculture’s most vociferous opponent of marriage.
In a series of little manifestos, deposited as comments on various manosphere blogs, Minter excoriated the institution he thought made a “slave” of men. “Get it through your head,” he wrote in one,
Men are from mars; women are FUCKING IDIOTS.
Never marry. … Duh. Game. Duh. Pump them, dump them, next them. Duh. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO WIN. Duh!!!!!
That was the old Mark Minter. Then, last week, word got out that Minty was getting married. To a single mother (oh no!) over the age of thirty (eek!) that he’s apparently never even met in person (well, actually that does sound a bit worrisome).
If this isn’t all some elaborate work of performance art, it may well be turn out to be the most entertaining drama I’ve seen since I started following the manosphere three years ago.
It was Minty’s future wife, a mysterious manosphere-friendly woman known only as Kate, who first broke the news, in a comment on Heartiste’s “game” blog, where she is something of a regular fixture. Heartiste posted about the strange engagement shortly afterwards, wondering if it had been his blog that had “brought these two lovebirds together into a promise of holy matrimony.”
Needless to say, some of Minty’s fans — now ex-fans — reacted as if he had just pooped in the punch bowl.
“Oh crap, the one man wh ostands agianst marraige……destroyed by the unmerciful claws of marraige,” wrote one commenter, evidently too overwhelmed by emotion to type properly. “Farewell Mark, you will be missed. The medusa kate has you now.”
“Speechless,” wrote another. “This is like having Jesus spit in your face while saying ‘FUCK YOU BROTHER!’”
Feeling a tad defensive, Minty rushed to defend himself, and his future wife. In a comment on Chateau Heartiste, he explained
I suppose I have to eat crow. So why the change of heart?
First, I would say I saw some photos that the rest of you have not.
He’s seen some photos? Am I right to think that the only possible interpretation of this is that the two haven’t actually met in person yet?
Second, she is Red Pill and has actually been in this community longer than I have. You cannot imagine what it is like to have conversations with a woman and say “Remember the CH essay on ….” and have a girl say “Yeah, He was right on with that one.”
And I think the odds of men finding someone that fits the first statement AND the second are pretty remote. I believe I nailed down one of the 2 or 3 that might exist in the world that have photos that can make a fellow sit up and pay attention, and then having the intellect and the preparation to keep that attention.
After some proud blabbing about Kate’s apparently quite traditional values, Minty brags about what an alpha dog he is for scoring her:
To me, this engagement is a validation of Game.
I practiced what I learned here. I am 58 year old man. None of you know what that truly entails until you get to that point in your life. Kate is an attractive 34 year old woman, with options galore if she chose to take them.
And in following what I learned here, following the suggestions, the psychology, the mandates, I have an attractive woman 24 years younger than me that is ready to commit to me.
Top that motherfuckers.
As for the medusa Kate, he defended her honor in another comment,
When this Facebook announcement thing happened and members of Kate’s family learned of it, my name got Googled and the writing I have done came to the attention of her family. And some of it was quite provocative and written by me to be intentionally provocative.
And her family came straight at her.
They set up something like an interdiction where she was confronted by not only her family, but also by a PhD in Psychology …
The family compelled her to attend this session with them and this counselor.
They could not believe that a rational woman would wish to marry a known sexist and misogynist.
So she went into that meeting alone, and she stood her ground, she defended our ideas of the Manosphere, she stood up for me, my right to write what I have written, and she won the day. …
She deserves your respect and she has earned it.
Not everyone in the manosphere is convinced that she — or Minty — deserve this respect any more.
In a post yesterday, PUA skeezball Roosh V denounced Minty as a “phony” and warned him that he would no longer be tolerated in Roosh’s corner of the manosphere:
He is like the conservative politician who espouses family values while diddling young boys on the side.
What? What kind of a world do you live in where a man who announces his plans to get married is in some ways equivalent to a child rapist?
He is the PUA who sells products on how to get laid but can’t even approach a single woman, someone who creates a false character to gain either money or—in this case—praise, at the expense of everyone’s trust.
For that reason, he has lost all respect from me. If he were to knock on my door, starving, begging for food and drink, I would only place the sustenance on my front step. He would not be permitted to enter my home so that the foul odor of hypocrisy that now trails him does not infect my place of sleep.
I hope his name will forever be synonymous with a man who doesn’t live by his own code. He deserves to be permanently exiled from the manosphere community. No more praise or compliments should be directed his way.
Contributing to Roosh’s disillusionment with Minty: his discovery of comments left here on Man Boobz by Minty’s ex-wife Suzanne Minter, which depict Minty as something less than the swashbuckling figure so many in the manosphere took him to be. With somethig less than fondness, she described him as
an absolutly insane person. … we have been divorced for ten years, dont you think it is time to get over it? …
[He] has 2 children, including a 19 yr old daugther. He has never paid a dollar of child support in his life, so all of the crap he spews is crap. He has not worked in 5 years because no one will hire him. Amazingly, he has been fired from EVERY job he ever had. He lives with his sister because without her support he would be homeless.
This is the man that people are calling “great” – he is a bitter ass.
In a comment on a site called FOKMCAST, which had posted something supportive of Minty, Suzanne elaborated further:
Mark Minter is a fraud. … Mark is the biggest victim I have ever known. You say his children didn’t appreciate him? What the hell did he do for them? They were 7 and 3 when we finally divorced. He never saw them because he moved out of state and then emptied out is 401k after getting fired for the 6th time , to go to South America to have relationships with women he met on the Internet. (As a result of that brilliant financial decision he owes the IRS about 35k in back taxes and penalties and fees)
You people act like Mark is the greatest thing ever. He is a fraud and a liar. 99% of what he has written on the web is fabricated. Don’t you people have real lives that involve human interaction or do you only have the social abilities to exist in cyber space? I really would have thought that one or 2 of you might have been smart enough to do some fact checking before you took Mark as your messiah.
His engagement is a sham. Don’t you find it odd that he is marrying someone he has only seen pictures of? Well, I take that back, he did marry a columbian woman he met on the Internet which she shortly after had annulled. …
Moral of the story: mark is a liar and a fraud and they way you people idolize him his a sad testament to the modern Internet. I am a 5’7 135 lb blonde who earned 200k last year. I raised my children on my own and was single for almost 10 years before marrying someone 8 yrs younger than me. I am clearly the slob, pig, bitch, moron, bloodsucker here.
Have a great Sunday.
After quoting Suzanne Minter’s comments here, Roosh sadly added “I don’t know what to believe right now, but our manosphere “innocence” has been violated.” In a followup comment, as he evidently began to take in the implications of all this, he wrote:
Our enemies will use this against us for a long time. Minter has done serious damage. I accept blame since I helped spread his writing. My troll radar seemed to have failed me this time.
Dude, speaking as one of your enemies, we figured out that Mark Minter was full of shit the minute we first ran across him. Why do you think I was writing about him with such obvious relish months ago, back when he was still your hero? When Suzanne Minter came by to tell us that he was (to borrow your own description of him) “literally … a basement dweller troll,” we didn’t even blink, and I didn’t even bother to write a post about it. We already take for granted that the gurus and would be gurus of the manosphere are a bunch of liars and frauds. The fact that the manosphere is full of gullible idiots is not news to us.
In the comments to Roosh’s post, some commenters wondered if he was some sort of “feminist psyop,” sent to disrupt the manosphere. “Until I see the photo of them in wedded matrimony,” wrote taterearl.
I’ll just take this as a pleasant fairy tale for us to bark about. For all we know they could be actually be double agents from Jezebel posing as people with the elaborate plot of trying to take down the place.
Well, it’s pretty clearly not that, but whatever it is, I suspect it will be providing us all with some lovely drama for some time to come. Will the now happy-couple make it to the altar before the old marriage-hating Minty rears his ugly head once more? Will Roosh and Heartiste start a feud? Who the hell knows, but it should be entertaining nonetheless.
Suzanne Minter summed up her reaction in an email to me,
This can not be real. Seriously, Mark is penniless and I don’t see his sister forking over the dollars to buy him a car (he has not owned a working vehicle in 3 yrs) so he can go meet his fiancée in person. I can’t see a woman with an IQ higher than 40 signing up for this, no matter how “red pill” or what ever the hell it is that she is. …
It does blow my mind though that a man who lives like a troll in his sister’s spare bedroom for 4 years, hasn’t had any real human interaction in years, can’t get a job dispute the fact that he is truly gifted in a math/computer science sense, has managed to create a name and following for himself in the cyber world.
I should add that while I have confirmed Suzanne’s identity (and that she’s really the one who’s made all these postings of hers I’ve quoted), I don’t know how much of what she says about Mark is true. I also don’t know if the engagement is real, or even if Kate is a real person. Of course, I don’t know if Roosh has slept with a single HB8. In the manosphere, it’s fair to say, roughly 80% of everything is bullshit. I’m guessing the truth value of Suzanne’s comments is higher than that.
To keep up with the ongoing drama, I suggest starting here:
The original, ever-growing thread on the Roosh forums
The comments to Roosh’s “Mark Minter is a Phony” post.
The comments to Heartiste’s announcement post
For more on Minter see:
Roosh’s two earlier posts quoting him at length.
My posts on him, especially Mark Minter takes on Marriage, Mangina Manservants and America’s Matriarchal Infrastructure.
For Suzanne Minter’s take on the alleged engagement, see her comments to that post, starting here, as well as her comments on the FOKMCAST post, some very pointedly directed at the mysterious Kate.
For more on his future wife Kate, see this post of hers on the racist manosphere blog Eradica, where she urged white men to “alpha up” lest white women desert them for men of other races, thus destroying civilization. Yep, she’s a real prize.
@CassandraSays – good point. Only thing is, it’s probably easier to shake off the chips your parents place on your shoulder about other genders/races/sexualities/whatever than it is to un-internalise those messages about yourself.
In any case, I shudder to think there’s anyone teaching ‘the red pill’ to their children of either gender. I read a load of comments at a big manosphere site the other day saying a 12th century essay about the avarice and fickleness of womankind should be ‘required reading’ for little boys…
@A horse of course! – Oh, was that why? Makes sense then. I’d thought it was a decision because they liked the look better than Regency fashions, not that they’d really change (or even KNOW) the social setup. Hadn’t thought about the availability.
Wasn’t it Greer Garson in that pic?
@thread – On the topic of children in an MRA household, my skin’s crawling at the thought of Kate’s two kids getting a stepfather like Minty, even though they’ve already been raised by someone toxic. Ugh.
@Marie
I never watched Fullmetal Alchemist when I went through my anime phase (and it’s been several years since I watched Azumanga Daioh), it’s just that the conversation here brought it to mind for some reason.
Basically Sakaki is a tall, shy and aloof-looking girl, who everyone automatically assumes must be stern, when in reality she has a serious weakness for anything cute. It’s kind of a running joke that she loves cats and never gives up hope of trying to pet them, but, sensing a target, kitties lure her in with mews and big eyes, only to chomp down on her hand at the last minute.
Also, I’m supposed to be playing through Skyrim with my dad, so I totally get where you’re coming from about the parental time commitment thing. I have coursework, so I guess Skyrim will have to save itself for a change?
@A horse of course!
You play Skyrim with your dad? That automatically makes him cool.
@A horse of course! – for head-asplodin’ levels of cute, here’s a pic of Miss Caitlin when she was a kitten. (She crossed over in 2009 and now practices her Furrinati power of nuclear-level cute on Mr K.)
@A horse of course! and Marie
*raises hand wildly* Oh, oh, pick me! I know Azumanga Daioh!
And no, sorry, Marie, it is almost nothing like Fullmetal Alchemist. It’s about an incredibly silly group of girls going through high school. I don’t think it even passes the reverse Bechdel test. MISANDRY!
@A horse of course!
D’awww. Cept the getting bit part of course.
@Amnesia
Yeah, I wasn’t trying to assume they were similiar, just pointing out my lack of anime-knowledge. XD Though if it’s so misandric I may have to watch it
cept I don’t have time. >:DMost of the anime I’ve seen that passes the reverse Bechdel test is anime like Golden Boy and Ranma 1/2. Which is saying a lot, considering how male-centric they are. =P
Speaking of Golden Boy: that’s probably the most dudebro-ish, MRA-ish anime in existence. At least it’s amusing, unlike most MRAs.
@kittehserf – a million, billion squees! That is a truly fearsome level of cute. I think you might be responsible for me trying to feed my computer screen a tuna flake. 😉
Crossed over?
Also, I just checked IMDB and you were right – it wasn’t Garbo! Garbo = Lizzie Bennet was a core truth of my childhood, as every time I used to watch it with my grandfather, he would always point her out to me as Garbo. I guess I’ll never know now whether he was mistaken or was just pulling my leg like always.
@Marie
Don’t worry (spoiler alert!); in the end she rescues a stray who lets her pet him, so feel free to d’aaaw to your heart’s content. 😉
Azumanga Daioh is a ton of fun to watch, most definitely. I don’t remember Golden Boy at all except that every episode felt the same (which always involved some snobbish woman he had to prove wrong – though I may be misremembering it).
The most recent anime I watched was Elfen Lied – which I would’ve enjoyed more had they been able to adapt the entire manga than end it abruptly after thirteen episodes. I enjoyed it quite a bit though all the under-age nudity (I understand it’s a cultural thing but…still…) and the whole Kissing Cousins aspect (which, again, might be a cultural thing) made it uncomfortable to watch at times.
Bwahahaha, Katiekins is in ur computer controlling ur mind!
Crossed over = died in some people’s parlance. 🙂 She’s now queen of the kitties (well, she thinks so) running the household in Spirit and getting bacon for breakfast, a treat she never had here.
She features in this blog post from last Christmas, if you’re interested. Comes with a picture of us!
@Allie S
Thanks – my dad is probably far cooler than he has any right to be! 😉
I’ve watched a little Ranma ½, but despite wanting to get into it, I just couldn’t. The stuff that originally piqued my interest (gender exploration, especially from the viewpoint of another culture) was increasingly shoved aside to make room for an endless series of super-duper secret ultimate fighting techniques continually one-upping each other.
For the most part, you’re right. You forgot the part where the snobbish woman ends up being attracted to the protagonist no matter how much she initially hates him. Even the woman who prefers masturbating on her motorcycle to having sex with men ends up wanting to fuck the protagonist after he beats her in a race. (I can’t believe I just typed that out.)
The world of anime is a strange one indeed.
Well if we’re talking about that sort of thing …
http://youtu.be/5lk5klzVWvA
@kittehserf
I’m so sorry to hear that. I hope everything was peaceful in the end.
I shall make an online offering to appease the kitteh spirit occupying my computer:
http://www.joeydevilla.com/2010/07/10/bacon-space-kitty/
I enjoyed your blog post. Any blog that manages to include Vivaldi, history and knitting goes straight into my favourites!
The manga has way more gender exploration – there’s a transgender girl in one issue, for instance (not to be confused with Tsubasa, who’s a cross-dresser). And there’s actually an ending, too. Perhaps you’ll like the manga more, although it’s still not everyone’s cup of tea. I mean, it still has an endless amount of super-duper secret ultimate fighting techniques, as you say.
I love that Bacon Kitty! If zie was a grey tabby I’d think zie really was Katie. Scary thought.
Glad you like the blog! I don’t write it very often these days. I’m more likely to just put pictures up, but hey, one can never have too many photos.
Oh, and found this, which just has to go into an article based on a PUA hissyfit.
http://youtu.be/zXZDJP2xbBw
PS Katie’s passing wasn’t easy, but it was quick – less than three weeks from diagnosis to passing.
Kitteh, did I ever tell you that I just can’t get enough of the name “Maddie?” I don’t know why, but it’s just so fitting for a cat.
@Ally S
I might give the manga another try, but it’s always so expensive buying manga online. My local bookshop sells Fruits Basket (we’ve come a long way, baby), but I doubt they’d stock Ranma 1/2.
I’ve heard good things about Huro Musuko, which is actually focused on trans and gender identity issues rather than who can unleash a new power level through the mystical aura of an ancient Chinese cooking pot, but don’t know if I have it in me at the moment to commit to watching an entire series (sounds terrible, I know).
Aww, thanks, Ally! 😀
You could always read a couple chapters on one of the scans sites first to see it it’s your sort of thing.
Huro Musuko is good – I think the main characters are a bit too emotionally mature for their age, but I really like the focus on trans* issues. And the characters are adorable, too. ^_^