Mark Minter, a bitter, angry, divorced man in his late fifties, made a name for himself over the last year or so in the tiny world of the misogynist manosphere as that subculture’s most vociferous opponent of marriage.
In a series of little manifestos, deposited as comments on various manosphere blogs, Minter excoriated the institution he thought made a “slave” of men. “Get it through your head,” he wrote in one,
Men are from mars; women are FUCKING IDIOTS.
Never marry. … Duh. Game. Duh. Pump them, dump them, next them. Duh. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO WIN. Duh!!!!!
That was the old Mark Minter. Then, last week, word got out that Minty was getting married. To a single mother (oh no!) over the age of thirty (eek!) that he’s apparently never even met in person (well, actually that does sound a bit worrisome).
If this isn’t all some elaborate work of performance art, it may well be turn out to be the most entertaining drama I’ve seen since I started following the manosphere three years ago.
It was Minty’s future wife, a mysterious manosphere-friendly woman known only as Kate, who first broke the news, in a comment on Heartiste’s “game” blog, where she is something of a regular fixture. Heartiste posted about the strange engagement shortly afterwards, wondering if it had been his blog that had “brought these two lovebirds together into a promise of holy matrimony.”
Needless to say, some of Minty’s fans — now ex-fans — reacted as if he had just pooped in the punch bowl.
“Oh crap, the one man wh ostands agianst marraige……destroyed by the unmerciful claws of marraige,” wrote one commenter, evidently too overwhelmed by emotion to type properly. “Farewell Mark, you will be missed. The medusa kate has you now.”
“Speechless,” wrote another. “This is like having Jesus spit in your face while saying ‘FUCK YOU BROTHER!’”
Feeling a tad defensive, Minty rushed to defend himself, and his future wife. In a comment on Chateau Heartiste, he explained
I suppose I have to eat crow. So why the change of heart?
First, I would say I saw some photos that the rest of you have not.
He’s seen some photos? Am I right to think that the only possible interpretation of this is that the two haven’t actually met in person yet?
Second, she is Red Pill and has actually been in this community longer than I have. You cannot imagine what it is like to have conversations with a woman and say “Remember the CH essay on ….” and have a girl say “Yeah, He was right on with that one.”
And I think the odds of men finding someone that fits the first statement AND the second are pretty remote. I believe I nailed down one of the 2 or 3 that might exist in the world that have photos that can make a fellow sit up and pay attention, and then having the intellect and the preparation to keep that attention.
After some proud blabbing about Kate’s apparently quite traditional values, Minty brags about what an alpha dog he is for scoring her:
To me, this engagement is a validation of Game.
I practiced what I learned here. I am 58 year old man. None of you know what that truly entails until you get to that point in your life. Kate is an attractive 34 year old woman, with options galore if she chose to take them.
And in following what I learned here, following the suggestions, the psychology, the mandates, I have an attractive woman 24 years younger than me that is ready to commit to me.
Top that motherfuckers.
As for the medusa Kate, he defended her honor in another comment,
When this Facebook announcement thing happened and members of Kate’s family learned of it, my name got Googled and the writing I have done came to the attention of her family. And some of it was quite provocative and written by me to be intentionally provocative.
And her family came straight at her.
They set up something like an interdiction where she was confronted by not only her family, but also by a PhD in Psychology …
The family compelled her to attend this session with them and this counselor.
They could not believe that a rational woman would wish to marry a known sexist and misogynist.
So she went into that meeting alone, and she stood her ground, she defended our ideas of the Manosphere, she stood up for me, my right to write what I have written, and she won the day. …
She deserves your respect and she has earned it.
Not everyone in the manosphere is convinced that she — or Minty — deserve this respect any more.
In a post yesterday, PUA skeezball Roosh V denounced Minty as a “phony” and warned him that he would no longer be tolerated in Roosh’s corner of the manosphere:
He is like the conservative politician who espouses family values while diddling young boys on the side.
What? What kind of a world do you live in where a man who announces his plans to get married is in some ways equivalent to a child rapist?
He is the PUA who sells products on how to get laid but can’t even approach a single woman, someone who creates a false character to gain either money or—in this case—praise, at the expense of everyone’s trust.
For that reason, he has lost all respect from me. If he were to knock on my door, starving, begging for food and drink, I would only place the sustenance on my front step. He would not be permitted to enter my home so that the foul odor of hypocrisy that now trails him does not infect my place of sleep.
I hope his name will forever be synonymous with a man who doesn’t live by his own code. He deserves to be permanently exiled from the manosphere community. No more praise or compliments should be directed his way.
Contributing to Roosh’s disillusionment with Minty: his discovery of comments left here on Man Boobz by Minty’s ex-wife Suzanne Minter, which depict Minty as something less than the swashbuckling figure so many in the manosphere took him to be. With somethig less than fondness, she described him as
an absolutly insane person. … we have been divorced for ten years, dont you think it is time to get over it? …
[He] has 2 children, including a 19 yr old daugther. He has never paid a dollar of child support in his life, so all of the crap he spews is crap. He has not worked in 5 years because no one will hire him. Amazingly, he has been fired from EVERY job he ever had. He lives with his sister because without her support he would be homeless.
This is the man that people are calling “great” – he is a bitter ass.
In a comment on a site called FOKMCAST, which had posted something supportive of Minty, Suzanne elaborated further:
Mark Minter is a fraud. … Mark is the biggest victim I have ever known. You say his children didn’t appreciate him? What the hell did he do for them? They were 7 and 3 when we finally divorced. He never saw them because he moved out of state and then emptied out is 401k after getting fired for the 6th time , to go to South America to have relationships with women he met on the Internet. (As a result of that brilliant financial decision he owes the IRS about 35k in back taxes and penalties and fees)
You people act like Mark is the greatest thing ever. He is a fraud and a liar. 99% of what he has written on the web is fabricated. Don’t you people have real lives that involve human interaction or do you only have the social abilities to exist in cyber space? I really would have thought that one or 2 of you might have been smart enough to do some fact checking before you took Mark as your messiah.
His engagement is a sham. Don’t you find it odd that he is marrying someone he has only seen pictures of? Well, I take that back, he did marry a columbian woman he met on the Internet which she shortly after had annulled. …
Moral of the story: mark is a liar and a fraud and they way you people idolize him his a sad testament to the modern Internet. I am a 5’7 135 lb blonde who earned 200k last year. I raised my children on my own and was single for almost 10 years before marrying someone 8 yrs younger than me. I am clearly the slob, pig, bitch, moron, bloodsucker here.
Have a great Sunday.
After quoting Suzanne Minter’s comments here, Roosh sadly added “I don’t know what to believe right now, but our manosphere “innocence” has been violated.” In a followup comment, as he evidently began to take in the implications of all this, he wrote:
Our enemies will use this against us for a long time. Minter has done serious damage. I accept blame since I helped spread his writing. My troll radar seemed to have failed me this time.
Dude, speaking as one of your enemies, we figured out that Mark Minter was full of shit the minute we first ran across him. Why do you think I was writing about him with such obvious relish months ago, back when he was still your hero? When Suzanne Minter came by to tell us that he was (to borrow your own description of him) “literally … a basement dweller troll,” we didn’t even blink, and I didn’t even bother to write a post about it. We already take for granted that the gurus and would be gurus of the manosphere are a bunch of liars and frauds. The fact that the manosphere is full of gullible idiots is not news to us.
In the comments to Roosh’s post, some commenters wondered if he was some sort of “feminist psyop,” sent to disrupt the manosphere. “Until I see the photo of them in wedded matrimony,” wrote taterearl.
I’ll just take this as a pleasant fairy tale for us to bark about. For all we know they could be actually be double agents from Jezebel posing as people with the elaborate plot of trying to take down the place.
Well, it’s pretty clearly not that, but whatever it is, I suspect it will be providing us all with some lovely drama for some time to come. Will the now happy-couple make it to the altar before the old marriage-hating Minty rears his ugly head once more? Will Roosh and Heartiste start a feud? Who the hell knows, but it should be entertaining nonetheless.
Suzanne Minter summed up her reaction in an email to me,
This can not be real. Seriously, Mark is penniless and I don’t see his sister forking over the dollars to buy him a car (he has not owned a working vehicle in 3 yrs) so he can go meet his fiancée in person. I can’t see a woman with an IQ higher than 40 signing up for this, no matter how “red pill” or what ever the hell it is that she is. …
It does blow my mind though that a man who lives like a troll in his sister’s spare bedroom for 4 years, hasn’t had any real human interaction in years, can’t get a job dispute the fact that he is truly gifted in a math/computer science sense, has managed to create a name and following for himself in the cyber world.
I should add that while I have confirmed Suzanne’s identity (and that she’s really the one who’s made all these postings of hers I’ve quoted), I don’t know how much of what she says about Mark is true. I also don’t know if the engagement is real, or even if Kate is a real person. Of course, I don’t know if Roosh has slept with a single HB8. In the manosphere, it’s fair to say, roughly 80% of everything is bullshit. I’m guessing the truth value of Suzanne’s comments is higher than that.
To keep up with the ongoing drama, I suggest starting here:
The original, ever-growing thread on the Roosh forums
The comments to Roosh’s “Mark Minter is a Phony” post.
The comments to Heartiste’s announcement post
For more on Minter see:
Roosh’s two earlier posts quoting him at length.
My posts on him, especially Mark Minter takes on Marriage, Mangina Manservants and America’s Matriarchal Infrastructure.
For Suzanne Minter’s take on the alleged engagement, see her comments to that post, starting here, as well as her comments on the FOKMCAST post, some very pointedly directed at the mysterious Kate.
For more on his future wife Kate, see this post of hers on the racist manosphere blog Eradica, where she urged white men to “alpha up” lest white women desert them for men of other races, thus destroying civilization. Yep, she’s a real prize.
@sarahlizhousespouse
I personally think it’s a combination of two things:
1) wanting to return to the “good old days” when women knew “their place”;
2) and a desire to be seen as important, which, given how traditional notions of masculinity place a big emphasis on fighting, results in them wanting to go back to a time when fighting was more commonplace.
Like most people that idolize the past, they ignore the historical realities of medieval societies and instead hold a highly romanticized version of them.
Not to mention a time when they could be actual nobility with literal serfs under their control.
I can’t compete with the utter adorableness that is Doorstop, but what do you guys think of my new avatar? It is inspired by a kitty spotting an unguarded bowl of mint choc chip ice-cream.
Love it, A horse of course! 🙂
I remember cracking the shits about that little turd Roosh calling his blog Return of Kings a few months back (for obvious reasons) and someone explained that he’s of Iranian descent and it was about the Persian monarchy, or something.
Though “Roosh” and “king” should only be in the same sentence if it includes “polar opposites”.
I always laugh at people who glamorize the past and think we have so bad today. Sure, go back to a time when there was no antibiotics, no basic dental care, no hot running water, no plumbing, and worst of all, no sugar or chocolate! Ha ha ha. Not to mention 1 in 3 women dying in childbirth and only 1 in 3 people making it to age 20. Sounds fun.
Plus if you were at the top of the hierarchy, you could look forward to a medical regime “intrusive” doesn’t begin to describe, and which could be more likely to kill you than the illness it was supposedly treating. ::Yes I’m looking at you, Charles Bouvard::
@katz
Quite right. They don’t realize that the vast majority of them would be the serfs.
@Myoo
Interesting points. That they imagine themselves as knights and kings rather than serfs – contrary to all statistical probability – is also rather telling. I think that many of them feel impotent and frustrated in their current lives, something which they blame on a feminism. They believe that if it weren’t for feminism, not only would they have personally succeeded, but that every man would be a king, even if the borders of his kingdom stopped short at the front door and his subjects with his wife and children.
Most MRAs are so incompetent that I wouldn’t put it past them to start out as nobility and end up as serfs. Which shouldn’t be possible, but they’re special that way.
Minter’s posts to Manboobz a few months ago, like this one
Misogynist is a clever little Femcentric term that women created to hurl at men or society whenever men or society don’t fall to their knees for the little dears. Sort of like Racist, something that the thinking man, the educated men would never wished to be levied at him.
But I’m woman hater. And it came from a long, long time of seeing, watching, and being with women, and knowing the creepy, greedy, scummy, black hearted little bitches that they are. You can’t hurl that “you just get didn’t get any” thing women that like to toss at men’s bloggers, because I did and I know them to their fucking core, literally and figuratively. My number dwarfs the number of the average man.
A woman hater knows women, to their core, to their little black hearted center, and hates them as they are for who and what they are. I could less if the little dears get all the institutional things they want. Heck I want them to have it and create their little world that they are over there with them, and men are over here.
are now two million times funnier knowing that at the exact same time he was writing this, he was trying to convince one of those icky, icky creatures to marry him.
LOL Cassandra, can’t you just see the real royalty of times past looking at them and saying “Right, we’re passing an international law to shove those guys down to serf level. They’re just an embarrassment.”
@ Alice
Have you seen Patton Oswalt’s standup about “home births” like the “pioneers”?
@kittehserf
Thanks! I like you name a lot.
Which member of the Furrinati is your avatar?
I love how he’s saying that even though Minter’s decision is entirely unsupported by his opposition to marriage. Making the exception look like the norm in an effort to rectify the image of CH.
from one of suzanne minter’s comments:
“Also note, that for years, mark would remember his son’s birthday via card and token gift, but ignore his daughter.”
that’s incredibly sad, but exactly how i envision the behaviour of a typical manospherian. favour the sons, ignore the daughters.
@kittehserf – Yeah, that was actually kind of an amusing blockquote mashup. If you made a list of Things Roissy Would Never Say, that would fall near the top. Right under “Great, I’m so glad you want to go on a second date!” and “You’re right, wearing a pilot hat in a bar is kind of douchey.”
I am sad that you (and Mr. K. by proxy) rejected me, however. Maybe you’ll feel differently when your comment ages at twice the rate of mine.
Thanks, A horse of course!
My avatar’s Madeleine, aka Maddie, Mads, Punkin, Puddin and lately Lady Catherine de Purr. This is the full picture, with Freya/Fribbie/Fribs sitting on my mum’s lap.
Hmm, I think my husband and I could use another husband, maybe, what with our mutual lack of employment and my $12,000 in student debt. But no more wives; the bonbons are all for me, you hear? 😛
@Alice
Make that 1 in 3 women dying in child birth with no access to analgesia, no aftercare for conditions requiring surgery or poorly-understood conditions like PPD, no reliable contraception and little to no power over when and how sex happened.
And crumbles away to dust! 😀
@kittehserf
That expression and that cocked paw – Lady Catherine de Purr indeed!
As someone who loves both Pride and Prejudice as well as kitties, did you ever see the YouTube adaption The Lizzie Bennet Diaries? They made Kitty into a kitteh.
“that’s incredibly sad, but exactly how i envision the behaviour of a typical manospherian. favour the sons, ignore the daughters.”
For what it’s worth I am guessing that being ignored by the asshat that is your manospherian father would be a plus.
Roissy is a fucking moron.
Why do you say Minty is “probably” bipolar?
*cries* I don’t want to have more in common with him than I have to!
Oh, jesus christ, not this. Sometimes an asshole is just an asshole.