Mark Minter, a bitter, angry, divorced man in his late fifties, made a name for himself over the last year or so in the tiny world of the misogynist manosphere as that subculture’s most vociferous opponent of marriage.
In a series of little manifestos, deposited as comments on various manosphere blogs, Minter excoriated the institution he thought made a “slave” of men. “Get it through your head,” he wrote in one,
Men are from mars; women are FUCKING IDIOTS.
Never marry. … Duh. Game. Duh. Pump them, dump them, next them. Duh. THAT IS THE ONLY WAY TO WIN. Duh!!!!!
That was the old Mark Minter. Then, last week, word got out that Minty was getting married. To a single mother (oh no!) over the age of thirty (eek!) that he’s apparently never even met in person (well, actually that does sound a bit worrisome).
If this isn’t all some elaborate work of performance art, it may well be turn out to be the most entertaining drama I’ve seen since I started following the manosphere three years ago.
It was Minty’s future wife, a mysterious manosphere-friendly woman known only as Kate, who first broke the news, in a comment on Heartiste’s “game” blog, where she is something of a regular fixture. Heartiste posted about the strange engagement shortly afterwards, wondering if it had been his blog that had “brought these two lovebirds together into a promise of holy matrimony.”
Needless to say, some of Minty’s fans — now ex-fans — reacted as if he had just pooped in the punch bowl.
“Oh crap, the one man wh ostands agianst marraige……destroyed by the unmerciful claws of marraige,” wrote one commenter, evidently too overwhelmed by emotion to type properly. “Farewell Mark, you will be missed. The medusa kate has you now.”
“Speechless,” wrote another. “This is like having Jesus spit in your face while saying ‘FUCK YOU BROTHER!’”
Feeling a tad defensive, Minty rushed to defend himself, and his future wife. In a comment on Chateau Heartiste, he explained
I suppose I have to eat crow. So why the change of heart?
First, I would say I saw some photos that the rest of you have not.
He’s seen some photos? Am I right to think that the only possible interpretation of this is that the two haven’t actually met in person yet?
Second, she is Red Pill and has actually been in this community longer than I have. You cannot imagine what it is like to have conversations with a woman and say “Remember the CH essay on ….” and have a girl say “Yeah, He was right on with that one.”
And I think the odds of men finding someone that fits the first statement AND the second are pretty remote. I believe I nailed down one of the 2 or 3 that might exist in the world that have photos that can make a fellow sit up and pay attention, and then having the intellect and the preparation to keep that attention.
After some proud blabbing about Kate’s apparently quite traditional values, Minty brags about what an alpha dog he is for scoring her:
To me, this engagement is a validation of Game.
I practiced what I learned here. I am 58 year old man. None of you know what that truly entails until you get to that point in your life. Kate is an attractive 34 year old woman, with options galore if she chose to take them.
And in following what I learned here, following the suggestions, the psychology, the mandates, I have an attractive woman 24 years younger than me that is ready to commit to me.
Top that motherfuckers.
As for the medusa Kate, he defended her honor in another comment,
When this Facebook announcement thing happened and members of Kate’s family learned of it, my name got Googled and the writing I have done came to the attention of her family. And some of it was quite provocative and written by me to be intentionally provocative.
And her family came straight at her.
They set up something like an interdiction where she was confronted by not only her family, but also by a PhD in Psychology …
The family compelled her to attend this session with them and this counselor.
They could not believe that a rational woman would wish to marry a known sexist and misogynist.
So she went into that meeting alone, and she stood her ground, she defended our ideas of the Manosphere, she stood up for me, my right to write what I have written, and she won the day. …
She deserves your respect and she has earned it.
Not everyone in the manosphere is convinced that she — or Minty — deserve this respect any more.
In a post yesterday, PUA skeezball Roosh V denounced Minty as a “phony” and warned him that he would no longer be tolerated in Roosh’s corner of the manosphere:
He is like the conservative politician who espouses family values while diddling young boys on the side.
What? What kind of a world do you live in where a man who announces his plans to get married is in some ways equivalent to a child rapist?
He is the PUA who sells products on how to get laid but can’t even approach a single woman, someone who creates a false character to gain either money or—in this case—praise, at the expense of everyone’s trust.
For that reason, he has lost all respect from me. If he were to knock on my door, starving, begging for food and drink, I would only place the sustenance on my front step. He would not be permitted to enter my home so that the foul odor of hypocrisy that now trails him does not infect my place of sleep.
I hope his name will forever be synonymous with a man who doesn’t live by his own code. He deserves to be permanently exiled from the manosphere community. No more praise or compliments should be directed his way.
Contributing to Roosh’s disillusionment with Minty: his discovery of comments left here on Man Boobz by Minty’s ex-wife Suzanne Minter, which depict Minty as something less than the swashbuckling figure so many in the manosphere took him to be. With somethig less than fondness, she described him as
an absolutly insane person. … we have been divorced for ten years, dont you think it is time to get over it? …
[He] has 2 children, including a 19 yr old daugther. He has never paid a dollar of child support in his life, so all of the crap he spews is crap. He has not worked in 5 years because no one will hire him. Amazingly, he has been fired from EVERY job he ever had. He lives with his sister because without her support he would be homeless.
This is the man that people are calling “great” – he is a bitter ass.
In a comment on a site called FOKMCAST, which had posted something supportive of Minty, Suzanne elaborated further:
Mark Minter is a fraud. … Mark is the biggest victim I have ever known. You say his children didn’t appreciate him? What the hell did he do for them? They were 7 and 3 when we finally divorced. He never saw them because he moved out of state and then emptied out is 401k after getting fired for the 6th time , to go to South America to have relationships with women he met on the Internet. (As a result of that brilliant financial decision he owes the IRS about 35k in back taxes and penalties and fees)
You people act like Mark is the greatest thing ever. He is a fraud and a liar. 99% of what he has written on the web is fabricated. Don’t you people have real lives that involve human interaction or do you only have the social abilities to exist in cyber space? I really would have thought that one or 2 of you might have been smart enough to do some fact checking before you took Mark as your messiah.
His engagement is a sham. Don’t you find it odd that he is marrying someone he has only seen pictures of? Well, I take that back, he did marry a columbian woman he met on the Internet which she shortly after had annulled. …
Moral of the story: mark is a liar and a fraud and they way you people idolize him his a sad testament to the modern Internet. I am a 5’7 135 lb blonde who earned 200k last year. I raised my children on my own and was single for almost 10 years before marrying someone 8 yrs younger than me. I am clearly the slob, pig, bitch, moron, bloodsucker here.
Have a great Sunday.
After quoting Suzanne Minter’s comments here, Roosh sadly added “I don’t know what to believe right now, but our manosphere “innocence” has been violated.” In a followup comment, as he evidently began to take in the implications of all this, he wrote:
Our enemies will use this against us for a long time. Minter has done serious damage. I accept blame since I helped spread his writing. My troll radar seemed to have failed me this time.
Dude, speaking as one of your enemies, we figured out that Mark Minter was full of shit the minute we first ran across him. Why do you think I was writing about him with such obvious relish months ago, back when he was still your hero? When Suzanne Minter came by to tell us that he was (to borrow your own description of him) “literally … a basement dweller troll,” we didn’t even blink, and I didn’t even bother to write a post about it. We already take for granted that the gurus and would be gurus of the manosphere are a bunch of liars and frauds. The fact that the manosphere is full of gullible idiots is not news to us.
In the comments to Roosh’s post, some commenters wondered if he was some sort of “feminist psyop,” sent to disrupt the manosphere. “Until I see the photo of them in wedded matrimony,” wrote taterearl.
I’ll just take this as a pleasant fairy tale for us to bark about. For all we know they could be actually be double agents from Jezebel posing as people with the elaborate plot of trying to take down the place.
Well, it’s pretty clearly not that, but whatever it is, I suspect it will be providing us all with some lovely drama for some time to come. Will the now happy-couple make it to the altar before the old marriage-hating Minty rears his ugly head once more? Will Roosh and Heartiste start a feud? Who the hell knows, but it should be entertaining nonetheless.
Suzanne Minter summed up her reaction in an email to me,
This can not be real. Seriously, Mark is penniless and I don’t see his sister forking over the dollars to buy him a car (he has not owned a working vehicle in 3 yrs) so he can go meet his fiancée in person. I can’t see a woman with an IQ higher than 40 signing up for this, no matter how “red pill” or what ever the hell it is that she is. …
It does blow my mind though that a man who lives like a troll in his sister’s spare bedroom for 4 years, hasn’t had any real human interaction in years, can’t get a job dispute the fact that he is truly gifted in a math/computer science sense, has managed to create a name and following for himself in the cyber world.
I should add that while I have confirmed Suzanne’s identity (and that she’s really the one who’s made all these postings of hers I’ve quoted), I don’t know how much of what she says about Mark is true. I also don’t know if the engagement is real, or even if Kate is a real person. Of course, I don’t know if Roosh has slept with a single HB8. In the manosphere, it’s fair to say, roughly 80% of everything is bullshit. I’m guessing the truth value of Suzanne’s comments is higher than that.
To keep up with the ongoing drama, I suggest starting here:
The original, ever-growing thread on the Roosh forums
The comments to Roosh’s “Mark Minter is a Phony” post.
The comments to Heartiste’s announcement post
For more on Minter see:
Roosh’s two earlier posts quoting him at length.
My posts on him, especially Mark Minter takes on Marriage, Mangina Manservants and America’s Matriarchal Infrastructure.
For Suzanne Minter’s take on the alleged engagement, see her comments to that post, starting here, as well as her comments on the FOKMCAST post, some very pointedly directed at the mysterious Kate.
For more on his future wife Kate, see this post of hers on the racist manosphere blog Eradica, where she urged white men to “alpha up” lest white women desert them for men of other races, thus destroying civilization. Yep, she’s a real prize.
They do. He is so small right now I can carry him with one hand. Anne the other rescue kitty is 15 lbs of behemoth.
The MAJOR problem I have with Mark Minter, Roosh, Roissy, and others, is the impression they make on young men, many of whom are still in high school or younger and have yet to form a meaningful relationship with a woman. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve seen comments from young men saying things along the line of “A girl at school called me an idiot today. Fuck BITCHES they are all whores,” etc. These boys are being taught to hate women before they have become complete human beings. They are taught women are inferior, subhuman, unworthy of friendship, and are to be used only for sex. I can hope that some of them will grow out of it, but for others their lives are being ruined.
This is why I have no pity for Mark Minter. He has made his own bed. Tough shit for him if it all blows up.
Oh man, this is hilarious. Even teh husband, who gets sick of hearing me babble about ‘this thing on Manboobz…’, is laughing.
Also, that picture of cake and the thread is making my cravings for sweet things even more intense. Thank goodness teh husband bought me a giant Toblerone bar thing.
Verily, verily, I say unto thee, the cock shall not crow, till thou hast denied that bitches ain’t shit three times.
Toblerones are misandry! And also delicious.
@Cloudiah & Karalora: Thanks, guys! 😀 “Got Misandry?”
@Princess BonBon Aww! He sounds SO cute! Mine are all rescue, too.
@Katz: I just found “The Biography of Christopher Pell” on the forum and am *crying* with laughter. This… this thing, this “document”… there are no words. XD
Thank you. And it’s all 100% true; you can tell because there are citations.
@Katz OMG! O.O
Do the citations really come from his commentary here?
3SweetCats – hi, and please accept your Welcome Package!
Haven’t caught up with the whole thread yet, but ah, I love the smell of schadenfreude in the morning.
… and I think I musta missed the bit where you already received it!
Oh well. 🙂
Also, new rescue kitty! Whoot! Pictures, pictures!
I read that Eradica post of Kate’s and wow…she sounds like a real peach. It’s terrifying to think that she’s a teacher.
I went over to Return of Kings to get the pure quill. Roosh’s fulminating screed was bad enough, but the comments – ohhh myyy. Sounds like they need a trip to Mars to calm down their rage boners.
It almost makes me miss the old Portal of Evil – the poo flinging cybermonkeys would have had made rude sport of this.
@AK – and even worse, a parent.
@auggz
Idk if this is what you were looking for, but I tort the cake and put raspberry jam (or any jam) in the middle.
@pillowinhell
Nooooo if I start cracking up now the rest of the family will look at me weird XD
@hometeampaper
Hi and welcome 😀 (if you’re new here. I assumed that from the hi, but I my brain is kinda frazzled today. So if you’re not new here, just take the hi :3)
@falconer
Hey, purple hair is awesome! Though Idk what’s going on with her expression.
Here is a link:
http://www.tiikoni.com/tis/view/?id=f14103f Will be up for a day.
Aw, lil’ Doorstop is adorable.
Princessbonbon, that kitten is so adorable. I can’t even. My face is melting from the cute!
Quite a cutie there :3
“Minty Meltdown” seems to have struck a chord. Clearly David is missing a trick not selling a range of Man Boobz snacks with the t-shirts.
How about a “Roosh Road Sundae” served with eye-catching streamers, sparklers and cocktail umbrellas in an effort to distract from a lingering bitter aftertaste?
On second thought, I just lost my appetite.
@tooimpureangel and @Hyena Girl
The Furinnati’s plan to distract the hoomins with terrible ice cream cravings is progressing nicely.
@Ally S
Thanks so much for the welcome package and the link! Mmm, schaudenfreude – delicious, delicious schadenfreude.
@hellkell
You were right – Ally S was kind enough to find me a link.
Aah Portal of Evil! I haven’t heard that name for a loooong time. They would have loved this – it is a whole tier above a lot of the furry drama (as not all the dramatic furries are especially awful people..but dramatic MRAs invariably are…).
So, Kate’s a racist POS? What a happy marriage this will make!
As a manospherian (I hate it when people start comments that way, but…), here’s my mostly uninformed but non-trolling take on the whole thing.
Firstly, getting married when you only know someone long distance is statistically a bad idea. It can work, but probably won’t, no matter how many red pills you swallow. If this turns out to be real, then it’s obvious that Minter has impulse control problems which would jive with all of the stuff about his 401k, inability to hold a job, and travelling the world and marrying…well women he’s never met. Likely he would have hit rock bottom by now if it weren’t for his sister, and likely others, acting as an enabler. It would also jive with his “marriage is the worst” theory, which isn’t even helpful advice to men but rather just comes off as blanket ranting with no rational basis. And that’s coming from someone who would strongly advise most guys to really reconsider getting married.
I’m not against men using Game to become more attractive, but I’m also not convinced that marriage should be completely abandoned – if you see what I’m saying. Game is good, per se, and despite its pitfalls marriage can also be a good thing. Most men, after all, will have more sex while married then they ever will while single. But of course, sex isn’t an end in itself anyway and there can be other more important benefits as well if you’re smart about it.
While I disagree with David, and think Roosh and most other PUAs are probably having as much more more sex than married men, not every man is cut out to travel the world or even just have constant one night stands in their home town. I personally couldn’t do it, and most other guys couldn’t either. Not for lack of being able to learn, because game does work, but because it’s just not a part of their character. For instance, I’ve had a one night stand and I found it very unsatisfying. I couldn’t imagine doing that over and over again for years.
And don’t let MGTOWs fool you with the, “I’ll take sex when I can get it but I won’t commit” crap, since most of them are running on long dry spells because they refuse to bother to learn how to be more attractive to women since that would be viewed as submissive or something. *deep breath*
I don’t know what this says about Kate, but then again no one is really talking about her anyway. But I would think it would be a red flag that Minter has all but admitted that his desire to marry is based on seeing pictures of Kate in sexual poses. We’re all adults here, we know that’s what he’s talking about when he says “pictures”, so there’s no point in beating around the bush. Heh.
His impulse control problems, and reliance on an enabler to get by in life should also be red flags.
Here’s the thing though, all of this stuff going public is going to seriously tarnish the marriage-to-be. If they even get married after all of this, and I doubt they will because nothing makes you look more beta than getting trashed by everyone in the manosphere you were a part of, then it likely won’t last long. UNLESS Kate herself is an enabler and finds absolution in relationships where she is able to “mother” and “care for” and “protect” the man, in which case all of this will cause her to retreat into the relationship even more. That doesn’t sound like a red pill relationship, though, and I’d have to seriously question her true credentials at this point.
This also illustrates a lack of discernment in the manosphere in general. On Athol Kay’s blog, if a woman wrote in saying she was marrying a guy like this, Kay’s red pill advice would advise her against it or he’d at least try to tell her how to mitigate the problems. In the manosphere as a whole, however, the red pill is supposed to be a device that only helps men avoid the negative machinations of women. This is why people got fooled by Minter who otherwise is a terrible writer and doesn’t necessarily even have the best interests of men in mind.
As long as he’s against women, so to speak, he’s for men. That sort of reasoning just isn’t rational. Of course, Roosh completely misses this point when he says, “Our enemies will use this against us”. So what? The real problem was that you let a man who is probably bipolar or suffering from some other mental illness and has impulse control problems pull a fast one on you. Obviously the problem isn’t your “enemies”, the problem is you. What are you gonna change? To me, that’s the real question for the manosphere.
I’ve tried to highlight some places Roosh could start, but the point is by worrying about the enemies out there, he never has to deal with the internal problems. How convenient.
I could probably rant on this for a while, but since this isn’t my scene I’ll leave it here.
@Ally S
For a group claiming to despise all stereotypical feminine dramatics and flouncing, MRAs seem to spend an awful lot of time channeling Violet Elizabeth “I’ll thcream and thcream ’till I’m thick” Bott.
@ sarahlizhousespouse
Always such a moving moment to see two people united in hate. I’m sure that there won’t be a dry eye at the wedding.
auggziliary-
I’m coming out of lurkdom to answer your soggy cake question. Spread a thin layer of frosting on the cake layers to prevent the filling from touching it thus preventing the cake from absorbing moisture from the filling.
I worked in a grocery store bakery while in college