@ltkessler I have subscribed. I love pop culture/geekery podcasts, and I don’t get much exposure to Christianity, so it’ll be interesting to get a different perspective. I look forward to your manboobz inspired one.
It’s mostly me rambling and my wife being horrified at Red Pill Wives. Also our review of Man of Steel..
dustydeste
11 years ago
Seconding leftwingfox on the sympathies, congrats, and cookies. Plus hugs, if wanted.
I’m not really in any kind of crisis or anything, but over here it’s just more of the long haul of joblessness and ennui that waiting for the government to process my permanent residence application seems to entail, plus a side helping of hoping that my husband’s job doesn’t go down the toilet even though it looks like it’s pretty likely to do so. His continuing to have income and not being on unemployment is one of the requirements of his sponsoring me into the country. But mostly I just wish it didn’t take a whole freakin’ year to process the paperwork; I’m really sick of having my life on hold.
Dalet, that is a very tough situation. Please consider us a resource as well as your friend in Japan; people here are really very kind and helpful to non-trolls, and might have some good advice. (Sadly, I have no good advice, only the aforementioned hugs.)
That’s very kind of you, Cloudiah, thank you. Honestly, I was having the most anxiety about being able to afford a cat, but…it was mostly just anxiety and my mother’s influence. Money is actually way down on my list of Real Issues in this situation, and that’s why I finally decided to go ahead for real. I guess I just don’t want to believe, even now, that my mom will come up with ANY lie possible to keep from doing this, or anything, but that’s just what she does and I need to start pushing past that.
Once I do, I know I’m going to be really proud of myself.
Iām actually delurking here, but you guys are A+ people AND you love cats, soā¦
It looks like Iāll be adopting a really sweet cat tomorrow. Like, 99% looks like. This has been a dream my whole life, and a realistic goal ever since I moved out of my abusive parentsā place and into my own apartment last year. Iām excited and terrified.
I want this, I need this, and while /I/ know I can do it, I /also/ know that my parents are going to drag me over coals for this. I literally cannot afford to cut them out of my life, but I have no other friends or family or irl contacts in my life right now, and I know that theyāll be pressuring me to return her or give her up. Iām most worried that my mom will threaten, or even go through with, cutting off my pain management therapy. I am UNABLE to afford it myself, and itās why I canāt cut my parents off anytime in the near future.
Realistic, they cannot FORCE me to give up the cat, in that they canāt and wonāt physically take her away (although theyād definitely consider it), but theyāll put more and more and more pressure on me, I know they will, and I have no other resources to draw on for support. My only close friend lives in Japan.
Do you guys think I can do it?
That sounds like a scary situation – I’m sorry you have to go through that. I’m glad that you’ve at least moved out. And your mom is fucking awful to be the kind of person who would threaten to cut off essential financial support just because you have a cat. =[ Hugs if you want them.
Is there any way you can keep your parents in the dark? I apologize if that’s a silly question – and it most likely is – but maybe you can try to make sure that they don’t know about the cat until you can somehow start affording the pain management therapy you spoke of.
Aaliyah, if that was silly, count me as silly too.
opium4themasses
11 years ago
I… cannot at all keep up with the comments on all the posts. Wish the forum had been the more popular choice, but c’est la vie.
Newsish: I start back to school at the start of August. I will end up having to curtail most internets. I will be going to school full time and working full time. I will be finishing my BS in a year though, so that will be a milestone. I’ll finally have the credentials to do the job I am already doing!
Condolences and sympathies for those with bad news.
It’s not a silly question at all, but, unfortunately, the answer is no. Although I have THANKFULLY managed to keep my mother from having a key to my apartment, she (and sometimes my dad) come by 2-3 times a week. As weird as this sounds, my mother is obsessed with my personal hygiene, and since I can’t wash my own hair, because of pain and disability, she refuses any treatment for me unless I let her into my apartment to do it herself and, honestly, do whatever the fuck she wants with my things. I’m Autistic, and when I lived at home, she would regularly rearrange my room to suit her tastes.
All of that is non-negotiable, if I want to continue pain management therapy, and I really have no reason to hope it’ll change soon.
Wow, I promise I didn’t mean to delurk and get so heavy all at once. Short answer: no, there is no way to hide the kitty from them.
Hey, no apologies for needing to talk. One, we’re glad to see non-troll delurkers, and two, this is the open thread after all. š
Damn, drat and ohshit about you having to let your parents in. I was wondering about keys to the apartment and such, but if you need help and can’t get it elsewhere (and it’s plain you can’t, I’m not suggesting spending cash you haven’t got!) it’s not an option.
I am queen of multi-clause sentences, you may notice.
And I tends towards verbosity, as you can see, Kittehserf. Clearly, we’re a match made in Loquaciousness Heaven.
She keeps the pressure up for a set of keys, but, for whatever reason, it seems to be quite low on her list of priorities and a “No,” and brief argument tends to suffice. Go figure.
Little success story: I’ve done my first blog post in a while that features written writing* as well as a new picture. Can’t believe it’s taken three days to do it. I’m so out of the loop for keeping up with my veil-diaries, and it’s most annoying.
*”it’s in written writing” was one of the many strange phrases of my first boss, language mangler extraordinaire.
Thanks, Itkessler, I definitely feel you on that. My husband was a little luckier than me with the whole immigration process, having come in and gotten his permanent residence and then citizenship on a student visa before they started tightening up the regulations, but at least my application will almost certainly be approved, according to a friend of mine who is an immigration lawyer. Not that that keeps me from worrying incessantly though, heh.
Save them for if you have a need for wharblearglewut any time!
dustydeste
11 years ago
@Dalet – I hope the kitty is as awesome as everything you hope for and that everything goes as smoothly as possible. I’m not much of a pet person myself (Gasp! Heresy! I know) but I know a lot of people who really benefit from having a pet or two around š
Thank you so much, DustyDeste. She definitely SOUNDS like my soulmate, for real. I’m one of THOSE Autistic people who really connects with certain animals, cats and birds in particular. If I couldn’t get a cat, I would’ve gotten a cockatiel. The only job I could ever hold for any length of time was in the bird department of a pet store. Just being there was soothing! I’m surprised I got any work or let any birds go!
I suppose I have a bit of good news as well. One of my stories was picked up by a serial website – not a huge deal, but it’s a brand new audience and it means someone is interested in my work. It’s over here, if anyone’s interested.
We Hunted The Mammoth
@ltkessler I have subscribed. I love pop culture/geekery podcasts, and I don’t get much exposure to Christianity, so it’ll be interesting to get a different perspective. I look forward to your manboobz inspired one.
It’s mostly me rambling and my wife being horrified at Red Pill Wives. Also our review of Man of Steel..
Seconding leftwingfox on the sympathies, congrats, and cookies. Plus hugs, if wanted.
I’m not really in any kind of crisis or anything, but over here it’s just more of the long haul of joblessness and ennui that waiting for the government to process my permanent residence application seems to entail, plus a side helping of hoping that my husband’s job doesn’t go down the toilet even though it looks like it’s pretty likely to do so. His continuing to have income and not being on unemployment is one of the requirements of his sponsoring me into the country. But mostly I just wish it didn’t take a whole freakin’ year to process the paperwork; I’m really sick of having my life on hold.
I wish the forums were more active.
Hugs to everyone who needs one!
Dalet, that is a very tough situation. Please consider us a resource as well as your friend in Japan; people here are really very kind and helpful to non-trolls, and might have some good advice. (Sadly, I have no good advice, only the aforementioned hugs.)
My wife and I immigrated to Canada and even with employment and everything relatively lined up, it was an odious process. Godspeed to you.
That’s very kind of you, Cloudiah, thank you. Honestly, I was having the most anxiety about being able to afford a cat, but…it was mostly just anxiety and my mother’s influence. Money is actually way down on my list of Real Issues in this situation, and that’s why I finally decided to go ahead for real. I guess I just don’t want to believe, even now, that my mom will come up with ANY lie possible to keep from doing this, or anything, but that’s just what she does and I need to start pushing past that.
Once I do, I know I’m going to be really proud of myself.
@Dalet
That sounds like a scary situation – I’m sorry you have to go through that. I’m glad that you’ve at least moved out. And your mom is fucking awful to be the kind of person who would threaten to cut off essential financial support just because you have a cat. =[ Hugs if you want them.
Is there any way you can keep your parents in the dark? I apologize if that’s a silly question – and it most likely is – but maybe you can try to make sure that they don’t know about the cat until you can somehow start affording the pain management therapy you spoke of.
Dalet, hi, and please accept one Official Welcome Package!
I wish I had more than hugs to offer. Do your parents visit (seems like the wrong word for abusive people) you? Will they see your kitty?
Aaliyah, if that was silly, count me as silly too.
I… cannot at all keep up with the comments on all the posts. Wish the forum had been the more popular choice, but c’est la vie.
Newsish: I start back to school at the start of August. I will end up having to curtail most internets. I will be going to school full time and working full time. I will be finishing my BS in a year though, so that will be a milestone. I’ll finally have the credentials to do the job I am already doing!
Condolences and sympathies for those with bad news.
A welcome package! Oh my God, thank you!
Ally & Kittehserf,
It’s not a silly question at all, but, unfortunately, the answer is no. Although I have THANKFULLY managed to keep my mother from having a key to my apartment, she (and sometimes my dad) come by 2-3 times a week. As weird as this sounds, my mother is obsessed with my personal hygiene, and since I can’t wash my own hair, because of pain and disability, she refuses any treatment for me unless I let her into my apartment to do it herself and, honestly, do whatever the fuck she wants with my things. I’m Autistic, and when I lived at home, she would regularly rearrange my room to suit her tastes.
All of that is non-negotiable, if I want to continue pain management therapy, and I really have no reason to hope it’ll change soon.
Wow, I promise I didn’t mean to delurk and get so heavy all at once. Short answer: no, there is no way to hide the kitty from them.
Dalet, you’re welcome!
Hey, no apologies for needing to talk. One, we’re glad to see non-troll delurkers, and two, this is the open thread after all. š
Damn, drat and ohshit about you having to let your parents in. I was wondering about keys to the apartment and such, but if you need help and can’t get it elsewhere (and it’s plain you can’t, I’m not suggesting spending cash you haven’t got!) it’s not an option.
I am queen of multi-clause sentences, you may notice.
And I tends towards verbosity, as you can see, Kittehserf. Clearly, we’re a match made in Loquaciousness Heaven.
She keeps the pressure up for a set of keys, but, for whatever reason, it seems to be quite low on her list of priorities and a “No,” and brief argument tends to suffice. Go figure.
Little success story: I’ve done my first blog post in a while that features written writing* as well as a new picture. Can’t believe it’s taken three days to do it. I’m so out of the loop for keeping up with my veil-diaries, and it’s most annoying.
*”it’s in written writing” was one of the many strange phrases of my first boss, language mangler extraordinaire.
Loquaciousness Heaven, I like it! š
You can call me Kittehs, save the key strokes.
Thanks, Itkessler, I definitely feel you on that. My husband was a little luckier than me with the whole immigration process, having come in and gotten his permanent residence and then citizenship on a student visa before they started tightening up the regulations, but at least my application will almost certainly be approved, according to a friend of mine who is an immigration lawyer. Not that that keeps me from worrying incessantly though, heh.
But– my extra keystrokes!
Save them for if you have a need for wharblearglewut any time!
@Dalet – I hope the kitty is as awesome as everything you hope for and that everything goes as smoothly as possible. I’m not much of a pet person myself (Gasp! Heresy! I know) but I know a lot of people who really benefit from having a pet or two around š
Thank you so much, DustyDeste. She definitely SOUNDS like my soulmate, for real. I’m one of THOSE Autistic people who really connects with certain animals, cats and birds in particular. If I couldn’t get a cat, I would’ve gotten a cockatiel. The only job I could ever hold for any length of time was in the bird department of a pet store. Just being there was soothing! I’m surprised I got any work or let any birds go!
I suppose I have a bit of good news as well. One of my stories was picked up by a serial website – not a huge deal, but it’s a brand new audience and it means someone is interested in my work. It’s over here, if anyone’s interested.
So I have that going for me now.
BLASPHEMY!
http://youtu.be/vt0Y39eMvpI
Whoops, wrong scene! š
http://youtu.be/MIaORknS1Dk
Oh no! I didn’t mean to get anyone in trouble! What have I wrought?!