Daintydougal, he is like the definition of jealous*. He bullies, yet he doesn’t really understand why it’s bad. He bullies out of love for me, and he’s not a threat to anyone(besides the parakeet and some fingers). It’s actually really funny when he tries to look tough, since he just looks like a little growling ball of fluff. He’s very slow and waddles when he walks too. It’s sort of adorable when he puffs up to try to be bigger than my boyfriend. Like “NO. YOU CAN’T BE AFFECTIONATE WITH HER. THAT’S MY JOB.”
Then when my boyfriend leaves, he’s like “don’t worry best flock member, he’s gone now, now I can give you snuggles”.
*certain parrot species are known for being really jealous like this. I knew someone who had a rose breasted cockatoo with some other birds. Their cages were all in one room. If he didnt greet the cockatoo before all the other birds, the cockatoo would puff up and get mad at him until he apologized and greeted him. It wouldn’t bite him, it would just sit there like “ahem?” with a glare in its eyes.
My parrot also gives a death glare to me if I play with my parakeet.
LBT — I have an idea. You’ll still have to do some of it by hand, but I think acrobat will let you print even/odd only and has a “reverse order” button. Not quite sure the order you need, but would printing it in even and odd chunks make sorting it easier?
What order do you need? I can maybe figure it out, spent a week whipping excel into shape, acrobat is far more sensible!
Okay, this should prolly be in the cat thread but this one’s more active. I just had a look at the Engineer’s channel and saw this. I can’t hear it and it’s still hysterical …
She’s always been a Republican, I took it as her going Libertarian/ MRA. I seriously doubt it’s sarcasm, I’ve known this woman for about 30 years.
amandajane5
11 years ago
It would be hilarious if it were coming from someone I thought was being sarcastic, but much like what gets posted here regularly, this is actually for real.
@Kittehs please use hilarious or irrational depending on the context. Hysterical is a word that came about because men thought women’s uteruses moved around their bodies.
We were just out birding and there were some people out with a poor off leash dog. Every spot of shade the dog would immediately flop down and it was panting really hard, but the people just kept walking and the dog would eventually get up so it didn’t get left behind. They didn’t give it any water either. Poor thing.
In better things, I just nearly spat out my coffee when I realized that, barring requests, I’ve run all the data. Just need to finish charting your (scrawny going to sue for a chair cushion) smart asses!
Sorry, AJ, will do – I knew the background (had a whole book called The Wandering Uterurs once) but thought the word had lost that tone in talking about things being funny.
From the Wiki article: ” Sigmund Freud’s theory of the free-floating subconscious, the “mind within the mind”, was similar to the ancient belief in the “animal within the animal””
Wouldn’t you know that TOOL Freud would jump onto a variation of that idea?
I wonder how the Greeks got the notion of the wandering womb in the first place? It’s positively trippy, no pun intended.
Idfk, the whole thing about babies coming from menstual blood and semen I can almost get, since the former stops when pregnant and, even now, that’s often the first sign of pregnancy. So that makes a certain amount of sense. Wandering organs just doesn’t.
Unsurprisingly, the Victorian view I’ve seen on this is that pregnancy keeps it in place. So get pregnant as often as possible! (But not if you aren’t socially acceptable! Early eugenics and all!)
What I’d like to know is how Freud’s spine got so flexible he was able to shove his head up his arse and leave it there lifelong. What a complete shit that man was.
Viscaria
11 years ago
By the way, the image for this post inspired me to do an image search for hugging animals and it filled me with warm fuzzies. Highly recommended for anybody else suffering from anxiety atm.
Today I spent some quality sibling time with my little sisters. I wish I could have felt as happy as they did, but the whole day I’ve felt sick to my stomach. I know that if I move away suddenly from them I can’t do much to help them not feel that I’m abandoning them out of spite.
It’s really heartbreaking to imagine being separated from them so soon. I’d love them regardless of their personal qualities because they’re my younger siblings, but they’re just so adorable and sweet. They mean the world to me. And, as I’ve said before, they’re very attached to me despite the fact that I haven’t been spent a whole lot of time with them. There’s a lot I wish I could teach them, such as the wrongness of eye-for-an-eye sibling treatment and the fact that they don’t deserve to be called “shitheads,” “whores” and “animals” in Arabic (or any language, for that matter) by their mother. I also want them to know that being screamed at by their father is in no way something they deserve.
I’ve tried to hug and console them, but 1) when I want to hug and console them, it’s usually when their parents are treating them like shit (and they get enraged at me whenever I try to intervene and console my sisters) and 2) whenever I show such signs of affection, my step-mother points that out as if I’m being very strange. Self-consciousness and the fear of their parents rage keep me from being the sibling I want to be for them. I desperately want to be the sibling they can come to if they’re feeling sad or afraid because of the treatment from their parents, but because of the circumstances, there’s nothing I can do for them. At least nothing I can think of at this time.
Once I move out, I won’t even be present. They’ll likely be more alone than ever. This is really hard to cope with, especially when I see how they have no understanding of how things may go for them in the future. And I’m very worried about how they’ll turn out in their teenage years.
I’m going to continue spending more time with them, hoping that when I leave them they’ll at least have a more positive impression of me. I doubt it will do much, but I’ll still try. I’m literally having a breakdown right now just thinking about all of this. I apologize if I’m being scatterbrained, confusing, etc. right now.
I know that if I move away suddenly from them I can’t do much to help them not feel that I’m abandoning them out of spite.
Aaliyah, I can only repeat what was said on Feministe about this: you can’t control their feelings, you cannot shield them, and you know you have to get away.
Also, and please remember this: even in the best circumstances, even if you had the greatest family in the world, little kids will take it personally when you leave. It’s part of being a little kid, it is NOT something for you to feel guilty about.
I understand that I’m not to blame and that leaving behind kids is never a pleasant thing. It’s just that it’s very overwhelming to me and the circumstances I have make everything worse. Right now I’m just trying to process things so that they’re at least a little less painful in the long run; after all, the thing about guilt (at least for me) is that it can stick around even if I have no reason to feel that way.
I apologize for repeating myself in that comment. I just needed to vent, and what I needed to vent about was something I vented before, albeit it felt way worse because of spending more time with those two.
Ally,
I’m sorry about your parents being that way… That’s awful.
Sorry this sounds cheesy, but you could give the sisters stuffed animals as a present. Kids already like them because they make them feel safe and secure. If you gave one to each sister they’d have something for comfort and also something to remember you by. Plus it would probably help them understand that you don’t want to leave them, but it doesn’t look suspicious to your parents.
The thing about little kids is that they’re going to understand eventually. They will forgive you eventually.
I can’t think of what else you could really do to help them… Maybe talk about how they shouldn’t let their mother make them feel bad? Or if things ever get bad(like her hitting them) then they should get help(actually I’m not sure if that would help them, since police sometimes won’t do anything but jail the abuser for a month).
I think growing up with their mother calling them those names might take a toll on their mental health. They need to understand that they aren’t shitheads or whatever, which is why I suggested talking to them about it, that way they know not to start believing that they are shit heads.
Sorry if you’ve thought of this stuff already or I’m being not helpful… It’s hard to help you through the Internet in this situation. Even though this is tough, leaving is the best option, and your sisters’ pain won’t be forever.
Ally, I’m sorry too. I just want to throw one other thing out there, which is that by leaving you are also showing them that a person can actually leave an abusive or unhealthy situation. When they are old enough, that example could be very valuable for them. Let them know that you will always be there for them, and do whatever you can to stay in touch. If you think your parents would intercept any cards or letters, see if you can think of another trusted person who would deliver them.
No way to cut it, the situation is just awful. All the hugs, if they’re wanted.
Oh yeah, didnt you say you had a brother that would help if you forgot any papers? I’m sure you could still give cards and gifts through him, but obviously not anything that would give away what happened.
Your sisters will understand, and like what cloudiah said, you’re actually setting a good example by not tolerating abuse. Also don’t forget that what you’re doing is perfectly legal, since you’re legally an adult.
I don’t know anyone in Lac-Megantic but my house burned down when I was 8 and since then I’ve had regular nightmares about being stuck in an inferno. This is one of those days where I can understand why people pray, because damn I wish I could do it.
The train had 73 tanks each containing 100 tons of petrol. There’s only 1 confirmed death now, but this was downtown at 1h30 am, there were still a lot of people there and there have been no wounded coming in… and many people still missing. Tons of petrol flowed into the river too, and the chemical smoke is an ecological catastrophe as well.
We Hunted The Mammoth
Because of the double dose of racism and misogyny one gets for being a black woman in the US? That’s how I read it.
Daintydougal, he is like the definition of jealous*. He bullies, yet he doesn’t really understand why it’s bad. He bullies out of love for me, and he’s not a threat to anyone(besides the parakeet and some fingers). It’s actually really funny when he tries to look tough, since he just looks like a little growling ball of fluff. He’s very slow and waddles when he walks too. It’s sort of adorable when he puffs up to try to be bigger than my boyfriend. Like “NO. YOU CAN’T BE AFFECTIONATE WITH HER. THAT’S MY JOB.”
Then when my boyfriend leaves, he’s like “don’t worry best flock member, he’s gone now, now I can give you snuggles”.
*certain parrot species are known for being really jealous like this. I knew someone who had a rose breasted cockatoo with some other birds. Their cages were all in one room. If he didnt greet the cockatoo before all the other birds, the cockatoo would puff up and get mad at him until he apologized and greeted him. It wouldn’t bite him, it would just sit there like “ahem?” with a glare in its eyes.
My parrot also gives a death glare to me if I play with my parakeet.
LBT — I have an idea. You’ll still have to do some of it by hand, but I think acrobat will let you print even/odd only and has a “reverse order” button. Not quite sure the order you need, but would printing it in even and odd chunks make sorting it easier?
What order do you need? I can maybe figure it out, spent a week whipping excel into shape, acrobat is far more sensible!
Acrobat sensible? O_o
Okay, this should prolly be in the cat thread but this one’s more active. I just had a look at the Engineer’s channel and saw this. I can’t hear it and it’s still hysterical …
http://youtu.be/whDN-4lbork
She’s always been a Republican, I took it as her going Libertarian/ MRA. I seriously doubt it’s sarcasm, I’ve known this woman for about 30 years.
It would be hilarious if it were coming from someone I thought was being sarcastic, but much like what gets posted here regularly, this is actually for real.
@Kittehs please use hilarious or irrational depending on the context. Hysterical is a word that came about because men thought women’s uteruses moved around their bodies.
Amandajane5, moved around? Like their uteruses would orbit them?
We were just out birding and there were some people out with a poor off leash dog. Every spot of shade the dog would immediately flop down and it was panting really hard, but the people just kept walking and the dog would eventually get up so it didn’t get left behind. They didn’t give it any water either. Poor thing.
Yep, wandering wombs.
Poor puppy!
In better things, I just nearly spat out my coffee when I realized that, barring requests, I’ve run all the data. Just need to finish charting your (scrawny going to sue for a chair cushion) smart asses!
Sorry, AJ, will do – I knew the background (had a whole book called The Wandering Uterurs once) but thought the word had lost that tone in talking about things being funny.
katz, poor dog!
We wanted to give it our water, but it walked away from us and it was almost back to the trailhead by then.
Greeks really sucked at biology. Not really, since they were ancient so it’s understandable. Nevermind, they did better than most people would.
From the Wiki article: ” Sigmund Freud’s theory of the free-floating subconscious, the “mind within the mind”, was similar to the ancient belief in the “animal within the animal””
Wouldn’t you know that TOOL Freud would jump onto a variation of that idea?
I wonder how the Greeks got the notion of the wandering womb in the first place? It’s positively trippy, no pun intended.
Idfk, the whole thing about babies coming from menstual blood and semen I can almost get, since the former stops when pregnant and, even now, that’s often the first sign of pregnancy. So that makes a certain amount of sense. Wandering organs just doesn’t.
Unsurprisingly, the Victorian view I’ve seen on this is that pregnancy keeps it in place. So get pregnant as often as possible! (But not if you aren’t socially acceptable! Early eugenics and all!)
What I’d like to know is how Freud’s spine got so flexible he was able to shove his head up his arse and leave it there lifelong. What a complete shit that man was.
By the way, the image for this post inspired me to do an image search for hugging animals and it filled me with warm fuzzies. Highly recommended for anybody else suffering from anxiety atm.
Today I spent some quality sibling time with my little sisters. I wish I could have felt as happy as they did, but the whole day I’ve felt sick to my stomach. I know that if I move away suddenly from them I can’t do much to help them not feel that I’m abandoning them out of spite.
It’s really heartbreaking to imagine being separated from them so soon. I’d love them regardless of their personal qualities because they’re my younger siblings, but they’re just so adorable and sweet. They mean the world to me. And, as I’ve said before, they’re very attached to me despite the fact that I haven’t been spent a whole lot of time with them. There’s a lot I wish I could teach them, such as the wrongness of eye-for-an-eye sibling treatment and the fact that they don’t deserve to be called “shitheads,” “whores” and “animals” in Arabic (or any language, for that matter) by their mother. I also want them to know that being screamed at by their father is in no way something they deserve.
I’ve tried to hug and console them, but 1) when I want to hug and console them, it’s usually when their parents are treating them like shit (and they get enraged at me whenever I try to intervene and console my sisters) and 2) whenever I show such signs of affection, my step-mother points that out as if I’m being very strange. Self-consciousness and the fear of their parents rage keep me from being the sibling I want to be for them. I desperately want to be the sibling they can come to if they’re feeling sad or afraid because of the treatment from their parents, but because of the circumstances, there’s nothing I can do for them. At least nothing I can think of at this time.
Once I move out, I won’t even be present. They’ll likely be more alone than ever. This is really hard to cope with, especially when I see how they have no understanding of how things may go for them in the future. And I’m very worried about how they’ll turn out in their teenage years.
I’m going to continue spending more time with them, hoping that when I leave them they’ll at least have a more positive impression of me. I doubt it will do much, but I’ll still try. I’m literally having a breakdown right now just thinking about all of this. I apologize if I’m being scatterbrained, confusing, etc. right now.
Aaliyah, I can only repeat what was said on Feministe about this: you can’t control their feelings, you cannot shield them, and you know you have to get away.
Also, and please remember this: even in the best circumstances, even if you had the greatest family in the world, little kids will take it personally when you leave. It’s part of being a little kid, it is NOT something for you to feel guilty about.
I understand that I’m not to blame and that leaving behind kids is never a pleasant thing. It’s just that it’s very overwhelming to me and the circumstances I have make everything worse. Right now I’m just trying to process things so that they’re at least a little less painful in the long run; after all, the thing about guilt (at least for me) is that it can stick around even if I have no reason to feel that way.
I apologize for repeating myself in that comment. I just needed to vent, and what I needed to vent about was something I vented before, albeit it felt way worse because of spending more time with those two.
Ally,
I’m sorry about your parents being that way… That’s awful.
Sorry this sounds cheesy, but you could give the sisters stuffed animals as a present. Kids already like them because they make them feel safe and secure. If you gave one to each sister they’d have something for comfort and also something to remember you by. Plus it would probably help them understand that you don’t want to leave them, but it doesn’t look suspicious to your parents.
The thing about little kids is that they’re going to understand eventually. They will forgive you eventually.
I can’t think of what else you could really do to help them… Maybe talk about how they shouldn’t let their mother make them feel bad? Or if things ever get bad(like her hitting them) then they should get help(actually I’m not sure if that would help them, since police sometimes won’t do anything but jail the abuser for a month).
I think growing up with their mother calling them those names might take a toll on their mental health. They need to understand that they aren’t shitheads or whatever, which is why I suggested talking to them about it, that way they know not to start believing that they are shit heads.
Sorry if you’ve thought of this stuff already or I’m being not helpful… It’s hard to help you through the Internet in this situation. Even though this is tough, leaving is the best option, and your sisters’ pain won’t be forever.
Ally, I’m sorry too. I just want to throw one other thing out there, which is that by leaving you are also showing them that a person can actually leave an abusive or unhealthy situation. When they are old enough, that example could be very valuable for them. Let them know that you will always be there for them, and do whatever you can to stay in touch. If you think your parents would intercept any cards or letters, see if you can think of another trusted person who would deliver them.
No way to cut it, the situation is just awful. All the hugs, if they’re wanted.
Oh yeah, didnt you say you had a brother that would help if you forgot any papers? I’m sure you could still give cards and gifts through him, but obviously not anything that would give away what happened.
Your sisters will understand, and like what cloudiah said, you’re actually setting a good example by not tolerating abuse. Also don’t forget that what you’re doing is perfectly legal, since you’re legally an adult.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-23213284
I don’t know anyone in Lac-Megantic but my house burned down when I was 8 and since then I’ve had regular nightmares about being stuck in an inferno. This is one of those days where I can understand why people pray, because damn I wish I could do it.
The train had 73 tanks each containing 100 tons of petrol. There’s only 1 confirmed death now, but this was downtown at 1h30 am, there were still a lot of people there and there have been no wounded coming in… and many people still missing. Tons of petrol flowed into the river too, and the chemical smoke is an ecological catastrophe as well.
All in all, a terrible day for Quebec.