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Heartiste: Men need to be able to hit their mates in order to “retain” them

A better way to retain your mate: Be a sharp-dressed man.
A better way to retain your mate: Be a sharp-dressed man.

You may know Heartiste as a reactionary, misogynistic, proudly racist dispenser of manipulative, sometimes abusive dating advice to would-be “alpha males.”

Did you also know that he was an open advocate of domestic violence against women?

Well, I didn’t, until a friend pointed out a strange little exchange on his Twitter account the other day.

Last Tuesday morning, apropos of nothing in particular, Heartiste made the following pronouncement:

When someone asked what sort of threats he meant, he elaborated:

The latter three items on the list (“Abandonment. Shame. Ostracism”) are standard techniques in Heartiste’s dating strategy, but the open advocacy of violence is, I think, new.

In addition to being repugnant, Heartiste’s argument here doesn’t even particularly make sense. Essentially, he seems to be saying that men need to be able to hit women to keep them in line so that they won’t have to … hit women to keep them in line.

Also, the phrase “mate retention strategy,” apparently popular with Evo Psych types, gives me the creeps. I’m pretty sure the best “mate retention strategy” is to be the sort of person your “mate” wants to be in a relationship with.

I did a quick search for the phrase, and found numerous references to two academic studies. One suggested that some women fake orgasms as a “mate retention strategy.” Another possibly more revealing one claimed that men of “low mate value” often insult their mates to lower their self-esteem so they won’t feel confident enough to leave. That seems more or less in line with what Heartiste’s general approach. And certainly, by any reasonable definition of the term, Heartiste and his followers are some pretty “low value” people, both as “mates” and as decent human beings generally.

I also found this reference to research by Evo Psych big daddy David Buss suggesting that violence — surprise! — isn’t actually a particularly effective “mate retention strategy.”

Also, beating up your mate is, you know, just generally a pretty shitty thing to do.

If Heartiste takes his tweets down, I’ve got screenshots.

EDITED TO ADD: Heartiste has really been going wild with the Twitter lately.

Here he claims to have invented the term “hivemind.”

After I pointed out that this belief was delusional, he suggested that I kill myself. Very alpha!

He’s also been on a bit of a racist rampage, posting lots of stuff like this:

See also here, here, here, here, and here.

Phrasing your racism in pseudoscientific terms doesn’t make it right, dude. It just makes you a pretentious racist.

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Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“You are a cruel, CRUEL motherfucker, you know that?”

I try ^.^

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

I call ’em like I see ’em when the assholes come here and shit up the rug again.

Briznecko
Briznecko
11 years ago

Again, that pesky problem with reading. Ratchet was already discussed and quoted upthread. Go be stupid somewhere else.

Fade
11 years ago

Why do feminists expect us to respect their opinions, but call us names for our opinions?

Wait, we’re calling you names? And that’s bad.

You’re assigning some people as literally not human. And that’s okay?

chibigodzilla
11 years ago

Why do feminists expect us to respect their opinions, but call us names for our opinions?

Which opinions would those be? That it’s appropriate to respond to verbal abuse with physical violence? That you should mete out vigilante justice? That “foul uncooth[,] [women]” are not human?

Greg Wright
Greg Wright
11 years ago

LBT, that walking away doesn’t work in the hood.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Right, Greg. You really think we buy your stories?

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Greg Wright

Why do feminists expect us to respect their opinions, but call us names for our opinions?

You realize this is a MOCKERY site, yes? This means we MOCK people. This isn’t FeministDiplomacy.com, we don’t go around reaching out to wannabe badasses. We MOCK shit. And when you come in with your absurd statements about assholes getting fucked, we will indeed mock you.

inurashii
inurashii
11 years ago

Why do feminists expect us to respect their opinions, but call us names for our opinions?

You’re not being called names, you are being correctly identified as an abuse apologist and an advocate of criminal vigilantism.

You’re saying that people who are rude to you deserve to die, and should. When you have asshole opinions, that makes you an asshole.

Why are you even here?

Greg Wright
Greg Wright
11 years ago

Yes, it’s okay to classify uncooth trash who live off of my tax dollars as unhuman demonic creatures.

Zombie Marie
Zombie Marie
11 years ago

@Discordia

yay for more artist manboobzers 😀 I’m going to go check out your page when I finally catch up with this thread.

@Greg

I don’t support violence just like cops who have shot suspects to death don’t support killing.

…I don’t think this sentence says what you want it to say. Because shooting suspects to death is a fucking problem! Especially since they’re only suspects.

How did you people feel when Navy Seals killed OBL?

Who’s OBL? Because I’d have to look zir up ,since I don’t know the initials :/

That’s not how I get down. I only advocate for bullies getting beat or killed.

You’ve demonstrated here that’s not true, through your words, you piece of shit.

MRA is suppose to be about male pride, educating men on the legal system, and training men on the trade craft of dealing with female bullies. It’s not suppose to be about killing or hurting innocent people.

In theory. So, so far from it, in practice.

@LBT

You say this like I somehow expect to be ASHAMED of it. (By the way, guys, tomorrow is me and hubby’s sixth anniversary! WOOOOOO!)

Yay! Congrats to you and your hubby! 😀

@Greg

I don’t walk away from shit until the person is handled. That’s how I deal with ratchets and thugs.Walking away can get you killed.

Actually, it sounds like you are so much more likely to do the killing. Please go somewhere very far away from people so they don’t have to be around you anymore.

Why do feminists expect us to respect their opinions, but call us names for our opinions?

Because you are advocating for violence against other people, which is unacceptable.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Would you prefer to be called a cowardice disingenuous scumbag who gets other people to fight his battles and then makes threats he knows are empty online? Yeah you talk big about shooting that spearhead asshole, but in reality you get other people to jump your enemies. Assuming that isn’t also all talk.

chibigodzilla
11 years ago

@LBT

Also, my dearest, darling Manboobzers! In honor of our pipsqueak trolls, I have decided that whenever one espouses a repulsive viewpoint, I shall write or draw about the reverse. So, in honor of Greg, I shall have to write about people in a tough neighborhood dealing with conflict in non-violent, healthy ways.

I like this plan.

inurashii
inurashii
11 years ago

I think that Greg might actually be George Zimmerman.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Greg Wright

LBT, that walking away doesn’t work in the hood.

Somehow, I have difficulty taking you seriously. Why are you here?

Greg Wright
Greg Wright
11 years ago

Only bullies mock people.

Physical violence beats hurtful words.

Weeee I win!

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

OBL = Osama bin Laden. I assume.

inurashii
inurashii
11 years ago

Yes, it’s okay to classify uncooth trash who live off of my tax dollars as unhuman demonic creatures.

And it’s ok to classify violent, opinionated misogynists as dangerous, abusive assholes.

Fade
11 years ago

Yes, it’s okay to classify uncooth trash who live off of my tax dollars as unhuman demonic creatures.

A) I don’t think many of the people you’re insulting are as abuse apologist as you are, so where do you get “uncooth”?

B) I really doubt your tax dollars count for that much, man

C) you’re wrong

D) you didn’t answer why it’s okay for you to call people unhuman but someone calling you an asshole is over the line? WTF

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Yes, it’s okay to classify uncooth trash who live off of my tax dollars as unhuman demonic creatures.

You know, Greg, if you’re going to call someone something, you should have to know how to spell it. It’s “uncouth,” dear.

What did you win?

Fade
11 years ago

Shorter Greg

“Only bullies mock people! It’s so much morally superior to just skip to the beating people up part of the conversation!”

Briznecko
Briznecko
11 years ago

Argenti: You’re right, Greg is just a racist coward. Not to mention really fucking stupid.

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

Only bullies mock people.

Physical violence beats hurtful words.

Weeee I win!

I’m sure Argenti will tally your logic fails and give you a final score.

Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

Wait, which troll pulled out “uncouth” last week? earlier this week? At some point my head was full of data?

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: Greg Wright

Yes, it’s okay to classify uncooth trash who live off of my tax dollars as unhuman demonic creatures.

Damn! Well, he got me, guys. I’m totally a demon.

Don’t worry. When Greg sends a hit man for me, for the good of society, I will leave you all a huge stack of happy porn and nonviolence. BURY ME IN MY FLANNEL!

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