The feminist activists amongst you may have been a bit baffled by the peculiar activist strategy of the Men’s Rights movement. That is, doing absolutely nothing beyond yelling a lot online, flooding comments of newspaper articles with Men’s Rights rants, and sometimes harassing individual women.
But apparently this is all part of their super seekret master plan. A plan, moreover, which is going gangbusters, all appearances to the contrary. For, apparently unbeknownst to virtually everyone in the world, the Men’s Rights movement is poised for a gigantic mainstream breakthrough. Any moment now!
At least that’s how one enthusiastic Men’s Rights Redditor with the not-technically racist name nigglereddit explained it in a recent comment on the Men’s Rights subreddit that won dozens of upvotes:
The men’s movement is quietly moving into its second phase: wide acceptance and recognition. This is normal and healthy. You’ll notice that we don’t need to have marches in the streets, to hijack TV shows or have official leaders, books and doctrine – that’s because what we’re saying is so obviously and so self-evidently true that no reasonable person who encounters it needs to be confronted or debated. They simply look, see that we’re right and move on with a changed mind.
Ah, yes. The idea that women should have the right to vote wasn’t self-evident enough to be won without an activist movement complete with demonstrations and arrests and hunger strikes. The idea that black people should have the same civil rights as white people wasn’t self-evident enough to be won without sit-ins, arrests, demonstrations met with snarling dogs and water cannons, the murder of civil rights leaders and activists and children who happened to be black, etc etc.
But the idea that the most oppressed group of people in the world today consists of the same group of people that actually basically runs the world today is so self-evident that MRAs don’t have to do shit before they WIN!
Now that scares the SHIT out of many feminists – and yes, I’m comfortable classifying most feminists as being fundamentally against men having equal rights to women.
Well, no. The Men’s Rights movement mostly annoys and amuses feminists. It’s the harassment of women that so many MRAs encourage and engage in that alarms them. Also, [citation needed] for the rest of that shit.
The last thing the feminist movement wants is people quietly pointing out that, for example, the idea that 1 in 4 women will be raped is utterly ludicrous.
An idea like that is so obviously wrong that you don’t even really need to see any statistics or studies to know that it’s a lie. You can just ask your wives, sisters, colleagues and friends. And you know that you’re not going to discover that 1 in 4 of them have been raped. That statistics support this, of course, but it’s so obviously false that it takes us no effort at all to change peoples’ minds about it.
Well, dude, I’m thinking that the women in your life are probably not willing to share this sort of information with you, because I know a depressingly large number of women who have been raped and/or sexually assaulted. Setting aside anecdotal evidence, a recent survey puts the figure at one in five for women. And a large number of men as well as women have also faced forms of sexual coercion and assault other than rape.
And that’s the bottom line. That’s what this is all about. I don’t think men’s rights will succeed after a long hard fight. I think it will succeed after quietly pointing out the obvious. The feminist movement is a house of cards, built entirely of lies and fear. It’s so flimsy that it can be destroyed with nothing more than a whisper of truth.
Then start whispering, dudes! All I hear is a lot of yelling and stamping of feet.
I believe in men. I believe we are good, and strong, and kind, and gentle, and that we make the world a better place, not worse, when we are allowed to behave the way we want. And I believe in women too. I believe that women are good and strong and all those other things too.
Well, gosh, I believe that most people are good, too. But what on earth is that bit about being “allowed to behave the way we want” supposed to mean? You are aware that every society that’s ever existed has put some sorts of restrictions on human behavior? What exactly are men being prohibited from doing that women can do?
And I believe that we will not have to browbeat them, or shout at them, or hurt them, or threaten them in order to succeed, because I believe that they have the courage and the integrity to accept the simple facts we present, and to move out from the shadow that feminism casts over their whole lives as well as ours.
Woah. It’s a bit revealing that the only methods to bring about social change that nigglereddit can think of off the top of his head are:
1) Browbeating
2) Shouting
3) HURTING
4) THREATENING
Oh, Men’s Rightsers, no one is better at making you look terrible than yourselves.
Anyway, nigglereddit, I don’t know if you’ve ever heard of him, but there was a dude named Martin Luther King who was pretty good at that whole civil rights thing, and I’m pretty sure he never had to resort to any of those things. Well, sometimes he raised his voice, but that was when he was speaking to large crowds.
Also, you really might want to think about changing your “hilarious” name.
Note: In case you go to look at the thread this comment comes from, it’s a discussion of whether or not there is “a cadre of faux MRA’s, i.e. feminists trolling the new posts and down voting and concern trolling before posts hit the front page?” Ridiculousness abounds.
EDIT: Rewrote a paragraph because I hadn’t even noticed nigglereddit’s creepy comment about men “being allowed to behave the way we want.”
Well if we’re dropping random links!
http://doctorwho.tumblr.com/post/52593495979/cumber-bitches-thehomestuckwasalie
Warning, Silence alert, so you’ll probably just forget…what was I saying?
My feelings exactly.
I’m a little more sensitive to those sorts of phrases now. I grew up with a pretty… warped view of racism. Everyone agreed racism was bad in the abstract, but the specifics were almost never challenged. Invisible privilege city.
It wasn’t until i realized in my 20’s that I’d been using the word “gypped” without realizing it was a slur. That’s I started to really examine those assumptions. After all, my intent didn’t matter: someone else might have made the explosive connection, but I was the one swinging a torch around blindly and complaining about short fuses.
Then why does everyone here spend so much time worrying about us?
Then why does everyone here spend so much time laughing at us?
Fixed that for you.
“You can just ask your wives, sisters, colleagues and friends if they’ve ever been raped.”
You know, right after you’ve finished commenting on the weather.
Idiot.
Great metaphor, leftwingfox.
Frankly, the only thing that surprises me about 1 in 4 is how low it is, given how prevalent and accepted sexual abuse of children is.
@Gravan
@ fed-fed
Begging the question much? That’s definitely been your specialty so far. If I am to believe what you’ve been saying, you think cockroaches are superior to human beings. I must say I disagree with your belief, I hope you think it though.
Besides, I was wondering, why do love eating little puppies?
Unrelated, but sometimes we just need twitching ferrets.
Maude, did you see cloudiah’s latest blog post? You’re in it!
I just saw it! Your marmot *definitely* depicted the pinnacle of MaRA oppression though. It reminds us how marmots have been historically oppressed.
What about the Furrinati? What are they doing to help end marmot oppression?
The Furr1na7i, please, neuroticbeagle. No need to attract their attention. I shudder to think what they would do if they got their little paws on us.
Jumping in without doing any reading.
Argenti, did you see Kate Beaton did a Doctor Who comic thing. She’s never seen Dr Who.
I have seen that, and think kicking daleks down stairs really was a far too easy way to deal with them (note: I have not seen old who, so for all I know their lack of stair skills wasn’t all that limiting)
Black-Hat, why do we spend so much time worrying about you?
Well, mostly because of obvious shit like denying women are raped, because ANECDOTE.
Do you know that the plural for anecdote is not data?
You are clueless.
You are hateful.
We are here to mock you.
(ps; didn’t I have an outstanding question for you somewhere? Did you ever address that?)
…you know, I’ve heard this before. The scoff. The “I don’t care what studies say, I’ve seen reality, my life trumps what that says.”
Willful ignorance. Refusing to accept that even if you were right–which is far from a done deal, because we have a LOT of tools to ignore what’s right in front of our faces, we’re very good at lying to ourselves, TRUST ME ON THIS–even if this was your life, and it was perfect, ONE PERFECT LIFE DOESN’T DICTATE HOW EIGHT BILLION OTHER PEOPLE ARE LIVING RIGHT NOW.
Seriously, it is possible to be a statistical outlier. To be taller than average, shorter than average, etc.
Rejecting out of hand the only tools we have to see if other people’s experiences are like ours? Hmmmmm.
Willful ignorance.
Men are good—> So they should ‘be allowed to behave the way that they want’.
Women are good–> So nothing.
Sadly, it’s more like:
Men are innately good –> So they should ‘be allowed to behave the way that they want.’
Women are innately bad (hypergamous, manipulative, illogical) –> So they should be forced to behave the way that men want them to.
(Assumptions: all men think and behave like the men/boys on r/mr, gender is binary, etc. etc. etc.)
Black Fedora: We ‘worry’ (read: mock) because, while you’re not effective as a ‘movement’ (ie, an activist cause that is attempting to achieve some sort of social change), you ARE effective at causing innocent individuals undue suffering, often by attacking those who have already been traumatized, abused or simply disadvantaged. We ‘worry’ (mock) because even though you’re largely ineffective as activists, you are surprisingly effective at times at being horrible, disgusting pieces of shit.
Lots of crap being spewed on the top (Hot) thread on r/mr right now (“Should have known better…”), including this gem:
Sorry, I’m on tablet and could either copy the quote or link to it, not both…
Folks, if you like this blog, you’ll love this guy’s messages to the MRM:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aCniWzjVIv4
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bYaRWpGAi9w
It;s fantastic! And his dismantling of MRA arguments is spot on.
Bravo, Steve.
Why can’t I embed youtube clips?!
(/・・)ノ ^THIS!^ \(゚ー゚\)
The BlackHead:
Superman One: Oh look… is it a stockbroker?
Superman Two: Is it a quantity Surveyor?
Superman Three: Is it a church warden?
All Supermen: NO! It’s Bicycle Repair Man!
–Monty Python’s Flying Circus, Season 1, Episode 2