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Tempest in a Bee Cup: TheWoolyBumblebee expelled from A Voice for Men for making angry men even angrier

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More drama at A Voice for Men! Kristina Hansen — the excitable FeMRA videoblogger better known as TheWoolybumblebee — has been tossed off the good ship AVFM by Master and Commander Paul Elam for what he calls her “constant public conflicts with elements of our community.”

You can hear her side of the case in the video below. She claims to be shocked — shocked! — to find that Elam expected his contributors to toe his ideological line. And even more shocked to find him making generalizations about women — something, Ms.Bumblebee claims, that makes him no better than the feminists he criticizes!

Yeah, the trouble with ex-AVFMers is that they were dunderheaded enough to have signed up as AVFMers in the first place. (When we last met her here on Man Boobz she was returning a pair of misandric pants to the store, outraged that a tiny portion of the profits would go to help girls facing oppression in the developing world.)

Before you watch the whole video, though — it’s 14 minutes long — you might want some of the backstory. It’s long and messy, too, but I’ll try to keep it  as brief as I can.

First, I should probably note the irony in Elam’s explanation for her dismissal, given that Elam himself is well-known for his own “constant public conflicts” with others in the Men’s Rights movement and the manosphere in general, having launched very public attacks on various others in the past — most notably on Pickup artists — and responding with intemperate anger towards pretty much everyone who even mildly disagrees with him about anything in public.

Heck, at one point he got so annoyed by people disagreeing with him on the Men’s Rights subreddit that he tried to set up his own Men’s Rights Activists subreddit where he could ban the people he disliked; it never took off and he abandoned it.

Elam’s pink-slipping of Ms. Bumblebee is doubly ironic, because one of the issues she’s been involved in “constant public conflicts” about has been MGTOW. (She’s not a fan.)

You might think that wouldn’t be a problem, as A Voice for Men has not exactly been on the best of terms with a big chunk of the MGTOW community for some time. The regulars on MGTOWforums, the biggest MGTOW hub, regularly refer to AVFM as “A Voice for Manginas” and worse; they’re especially offended that Elam lets women — sorry, “cunts” — post there. Elam has responded by denouncing the “MGTOW Forum Fuckwits.” The war of not-so-nice words seems never-ending; for some recent examples on MGTOWforums here and here — and in AVFM’s own forum here.

But Elam apparently still thinks he can somehow charm those MGTOWers who don’t already hate his guts, and he’s been making some efforts to get their attention lately — a fact that has not escaped his non-fans over on MGTOWforums, who have been decidedly unimpressed with his efforts so far.

So Elam was none too happy when Ms. Bumblebee started making videos attacking MGTOWers head on — videos which caused a little firestorm of controvery in the MGTOW world and got MGTOWers even madder at AVFM for putting up with such an evil “wench.”

Ms. Bumblebee has also been saying less than kind things about libertarianism for months on her blog, on YouTube, and on Twitter, where she bluntly declared it a “a cancer within the MRM.”

Turns out that was a bit of a faux pas. Though AVFM pretends to be “apolitical,” and has a few people associated with it who consider themselves liberal, most of the “big names” there  — not just Elam but John “the Other” Hembling, and Karen (GirlWritesWhat) Straughan — pretty obviously lean libertarian.

Indeed, in a not-very-friendly comment on Reddit about Ms. Bumblebee’s departure from AVFM, Straughan suggests that she’s essentially a “a child …  having a tantrum,” who doesn’t appreciate that the Men’s Rights movement is all about “free thinkers and John Galts.” (Yeah, she really did say that.)

She also accuses Ms. B of not reading enough E Belfort Bax — which is, I have to admit, the first time I’ve ever seen anyone accused of that particular crime in a political debate.

In case you’re not yourself a Baxhead, he was an opponent of women’s suffrage perhaps best known for his 1913 essay “The Fraud of Feminism,” a rather obscure piece of writing that’s having a sort of revival amongst a certain segment of the Men’s Rights movement. Indeed, A Voice for Men recently reprinted a portion of Bax’s essay with a glowing and altogether uncritical introduction by Elam himself.

It’s actually rather revealing. A Voice for Men is happy to republish the work of a long dead author who thought that women should be denied the right to vote. But a live woman who doesn’t agree with Elam about libertarianism or MGTOWers — over the side she goes!

Here’s her video. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, you could just skip ahead to 5:20 to hear her express her astonishment that Elam would make sweeping generalizations about all women (say it ain’t so!), or to about 7:50 where she sets forth her basic complaint about AVFM and the way she says she was treated by Elam et al.

If you only have a couple of minutes, or limited patience for YouTube videos, at least listen to the excerpts of the testy phone conversation with Elam in which she officially learned she was no longer a part of AVFM; they start at about 10:40.

Ms. B has labeled this video Part 1. I don’t know how many more parts are coming. But I’ll certainly be watching.

For the masochists among you, Elam has put up the entire conversation he had with Ms. B — it’s half an hour long, and I listened to the whole damn thing.  I assume he thinks it makes him look better and her look worse, but, you know, it really, really doesn’t. Unless you’re really into patronizing mansplaining and apologias for angry misogyny amongst MRAs and MGTOWers. He concludes by throwing a little fit and hanging up. Or maybe she hangs up. I can’t tell.

Ms. B., when she can get a word in edgewise, makes a lot of very good points in the call, bluntly and directly calling him on his some of his bullshit; it’s only when she starts going on about the evils of feminism that I remember how warped her worldview really is.

Alongside the video, Elam also posted the email he sent Ms. B dismissing her from AVFM, which confirms that he was indeed pissed off by what he calls her “divisive conduct” towards MGTOWers and all those John Galts of the MRM.

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longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

@ Auggie, all I know is that somebody on the mensrights sub said those stats were highly inaccurate because they referred only to freshman year. There’s a thread on the topic at the subreddit, if you care to engage…

Auggie
Auggie
11 years ago

I kind of try to avoid subreddits in MRM that talk about rape statistics… I really don’t feel like pulling my hair out…

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

Yeah, I’m half-bald from hanging out there.

augochlorella
augochlorella
11 years ago

Auggie, my guess is that they come from the Jeanne Clery Act crime reports that United States colleges are legally required to put out every year. The problem with those reports, however, is that 1. they only tally reported crimes and 2. colleges often dampen or ignore reported rapes to maintain their image. For example, my college hasn’t listed a rape on their reports since 2006, even though I know people (in the plural) who have reported their rape.

MrFancyPants
MrFancyPants
11 years ago

I’m listening to the phone call between WBB and Elam now. From the very start, you can hear the rage in their voices.

thekidwiththereplaceablehead

Isn’t AVfM Canadian? At least, a lot of the big names are Canadian.

Their server appears to be in Provo, Utah, of all places.

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

Elam is based in Houston, Texas.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Um, it ain’t WBB, but we have yet another example of a woman daring to talk back to men and getting rape/death threats.

The right to tell rape jokes is in fact the #1 issue of the MHRA.

thekidwiththereplaceablehead

Re: rape stats. The “1 in 4 women will be raped by the time they finish college” implies lifetime stats. Like, 1 in 4 will have been raped at some point in their lives by the time they finish college. Citing stats for how many rapes are reported at colleges in a single year is not the same thing.

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

@cloudiah, that “mhra” thing…”men’s human rights movement”…nobody’s going for that avfm rehabilitative propaganda name…not even the rest of the MRAs. I’m trying to imagine it. Men’s human rights movement….hmmm. The men are trying to move humans forward? So they want to help women now too? My ass….

katz
11 years ago

Really, that suicide voice sounds a LOT like the stereotypical idea of Randian philosophy.

Boggle the Owl was recently talking about the selfish aspect of self-hatred. If you think that everything that goes wrong is your fault, you’re attributing a shit-ton of importance to yourself!

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

@the kid, what infuriating lies avfm propagates, and it’s all so deliberate, so cold, so calculated…

cloudiah
11 years ago

@longshangui, I know, I just particularly like to juxtapose it with their principled stand in favor of their right to threaten to rape any woman who disagrees with them. /sarcasm

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

Hahaha!

MrFancyPants
MrFancyPants
11 years ago

This Elam/WBB telephone conversation is seriously annoying. He talks over her and down to her constantly, lecturing and pontificating, and his only point seems to be that tolerating misogyny is important! Because of teh menz! DON’T YOU SEE IT’S ABOUT TEH MENZ?!

theladyzombie
theladyzombie
11 years ago

WB is a horrible, vicious person, but she doesn’t deserve the abuse and threats that are surely headed her way.

But just to add some more color to her online activities, this is what she said about Melody Hensley, executive director of CFI in DC –

“Yours truly, who had never even given a shit about this little twat until today… had she not made it known that she was doing this mass blocking on twitter, people would have gone about their business of not giving a fuck about her at all… The simple fact is she has now stirred the pot and has painted a large bull’s-eye on her ass… She doesn’t know how twitter works, but that’s understandable seeing as how twitter is a bit more complicated than a cappuccino machine… as for Melodramatic Melody, well, she’s off to stick her flag on the top of Mount moaning victim. Don’t worry though, it’s more of a small hill than a mountain, because we all know that feminists don’t farewell when faced with real challenges when trying to get to the top…”

This was in response to Hensley asking supporters to flag Youtube videos that were nothing more than harassment of her and other prominent women in the skeptical community. Whether or not you agree with flagging videos, the abuse Hensley received and was receiving at that point was disgusting.

More here – http://www.michaelnugent.com/2013/01/03/thunderf00t's-inflammatory-video-of-misleading-personal-attacks-on-atheist-feminists-is-not-helpful/

Now the really interesting thing about Wooly Bumblebee is that she apparently co-authored a bullying workshop for a high school!

http://natehevens.wordpress.com/2012/10/04/anatomy-of-a-bully/

I mean, in what universe can a person who is/was part of a “movement” devoted to bullying almost half of the human population conduct an anti-bullying workshop?!

I really don’t understand FeMRAs.

longshangui
longshangui
11 years ago

Her position is untenable. Always was. Why she aligned herself with people who hate women (and she is one) is hard to understand. But she is young. Having experienced first-hand what happens when a woman on a site like this acts like a man, stating her opinions, attempting to lead, acting as though she is the equal of the men, watching the backlash, getting thrown under the bus, she is now free to look at the situation again. What she will find is that avfm is a hole full of pit vipers, and she’s well out of it. She can come here or to many other sites and reflect and move forward. No hard feelings, at least on my part. Feel free to look for venues more suited to your existential reality, mon amie.

Kittehserf
11 years ago

@Howard – it looks like a troll’s got in there, all right. Have you dropped David a line or shall I?

MrFancyPants
MrFancyPants
11 years ago

theladyzombie “I really don’t understand FeMRAs.”

I’m definitely scratching my head and trying to grok what the appeal is to them. I just finished listening to that telephone call (the whole damn thing, as David said), and the executive summary is that WB was complaining about being used as a rhetorical punching bag due to her gender, and Elam lecturing her that she basically just had to accept that and that her complaints were not acceptable. “Be happy taking your punches”, basically.

Why would any sane person want to be part of an organization in which one mission of the org is to provide a space for members to denigrate you?

I did laugh at Elam claiming that he was trying to “guide” these people towards “less angry” rhetoric. What a load of horseshit. He inflames and encourages it.

Argenti Aertheri
Argenti Aertheri
11 years ago

“Why would any sane person want to be part of an organization in which one mission of the org is to provide a space for members to denigrate you?”

First thought: oh not the ableism

Second thought: fuck, why would any of us crazy people want to be part of an org who’s only mission is to denigrate us? FeMRAs make about as much sense as if I went and joined some organization/forum that existed solely to “prove” how dangerous bipolar people are. (And such thing probably exists, seeing how common the bipolar = dangerous thing gets thrown around)

Final thought: maybe use sensible instead of sane? Plenty of mentally healthy people aren’t sensible, and plenty of us crazy people are 🙂

MrFancyPants
MrFancyPants
11 years ago

ha! point taken, Argenti Aertheri 🙂

hellkell
hellkell
11 years ago

The martydom and low-self esteem is certainly coming off TB’s comment. She could always find a better caliber of assholes to hang out with.

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