More drama at A Voice for Men! Kristina Hansen — the excitable FeMRA videoblogger better known as TheWoolybumblebee — has been tossed off the good ship AVFM by Master and Commander Paul Elam for what he calls her “constant public conflicts with elements of our community.”
You can hear her side of the case in the video below. She claims to be shocked — shocked! — to find that Elam expected his contributors to toe his ideological line. And even more shocked to find him making generalizations about women — something, Ms.Bumblebee claims, that makes him no better than the feminists he criticizes!
Yeah, the trouble with ex-AVFMers is that they were dunderheaded enough to have signed up as AVFMers in the first place. (When we last met her here on Man Boobz she was returning a pair of misandric pants to the store, outraged that a tiny portion of the profits would go to help girls facing oppression in the developing world.)
Before you watch the whole video, though — it’s 14 minutes long — you might want some of the backstory. It’s long and messy, too, but I’ll try to keep it as brief as I can.
First, I should probably note the irony in Elam’s explanation for her dismissal, given that Elam himself is well-known for his own “constant public conflicts” with others in the Men’s Rights movement and the manosphere in general, having launched very public attacks on various others in the past — most notably on Pickup artists — and responding with intemperate anger towards pretty much everyone who even mildly disagrees with him about anything in public.
Heck, at one point he got so annoyed by people disagreeing with him on the Men’s Rights subreddit that he tried to set up his own Men’s Rights Activists subreddit where he could ban the people he disliked; it never took off and he abandoned it.
Elam’s pink-slipping of Ms. Bumblebee is doubly ironic, because one of the issues she’s been involved in “constant public conflicts” about has been MGTOW. (She’s not a fan.)
You might think that wouldn’t be a problem, as A Voice for Men has not exactly been on the best of terms with a big chunk of the MGTOW community for some time. The regulars on MGTOWforums, the biggest MGTOW hub, regularly refer to AVFM as “A Voice for Manginas” and worse; they’re especially offended that Elam lets women — sorry, “cunts” — post there. Elam has responded by denouncing the “MGTOW Forum Fuckwits.” The war of not-so-nice words seems never-ending; for some recent examples on MGTOWforums here and here — and in AVFM’s own forum here.
But Elam apparently still thinks he can somehow charm those MGTOWers who don’t already hate his guts, and he’s been making some efforts to get their attention lately — a fact that has not escaped his non-fans over on MGTOWforums, who have been decidedly unimpressed with his efforts so far.
So Elam was none too happy when Ms. Bumblebee started making videos attacking MGTOWers head on — videos which caused a little firestorm of controvery in the MGTOW world and got MGTOWers even madder at AVFM for putting up with such an evil “wench.”
Ms. Bumblebee has also been saying less than kind things about libertarianism for months on her blog, on YouTube, and on Twitter, where she bluntly declared it a “a cancer within the MRM.”
Turns out that was a bit of a faux pas. Though AVFM pretends to be “apolitical,” and has a few people associated with it who consider themselves liberal, most of the “big names” there — not just Elam but John “the Other” Hembling, and Karen (GirlWritesWhat) Straughan — pretty obviously lean libertarian.
Indeed, in a not-very-friendly comment on Reddit about Ms. Bumblebee’s departure from AVFM, Straughan suggests that she’s essentially a “a child … having a tantrum,” who doesn’t appreciate that the Men’s Rights movement is all about “free thinkers and John Galts.” (Yeah, she really did say that.)
She also accuses Ms. B of not reading enough E Belfort Bax — which is, I have to admit, the first time I’ve ever seen anyone accused of that particular crime in a political debate.
In case you’re not yourself a Baxhead, he was an opponent of women’s suffrage perhaps best known for his 1913 essay “The Fraud of Feminism,” a rather obscure piece of writing that’s having a sort of revival amongst a certain segment of the Men’s Rights movement. Indeed, A Voice for Men recently reprinted a portion of Bax’s essay with a glowing and altogether uncritical introduction by Elam himself.
It’s actually rather revealing. A Voice for Men is happy to republish the work of a long dead author who thought that women should be denied the right to vote. But a live woman who doesn’t agree with Elam about libertarianism or MGTOWers — over the side she goes!
Here’s her video. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, you could just skip ahead to 5:20 to hear her express her astonishment that Elam would make sweeping generalizations about all women (say it ain’t so!), or to about 7:50 where she sets forth her basic complaint about AVFM and the way she says she was treated by Elam et al.
If you only have a couple of minutes, or limited patience for YouTube videos, at least listen to the excerpts of the testy phone conversation with Elam in which she officially learned she was no longer a part of AVFM; they start at about 10:40.
Ms. B has labeled this video Part 1. I don’t know how many more parts are coming. But I’ll certainly be watching.
For the masochists among you, Elam has put up the entire conversation he had with Ms. B — it’s half an hour long, and I listened to the whole damn thing. I assume he thinks it makes him look better and her look worse, but, you know, it really, really doesn’t. Unless you’re really into patronizing mansplaining and apologias for angry misogyny amongst MRAs and MGTOWers. He concludes by throwing a little fit and hanging up. Or maybe she hangs up. I can’t tell.
Ms. B., when she can get a word in edgewise, makes a lot of very good points in the call, bluntly and directly calling him on his some of his bullshit; it’s only when she starts going on about the evils of feminism that I remember how warped her worldview really is.
Alongside the video, Elam also posted the email he sent Ms. B dismissing her from AVFM, which confirms that he was indeed pissed off by what he calls her “divisive conduct” towards MGTOWers and all those John Galts of the MRM.
Wow are these propeller even real?
I agree, bionicmommy. The breakup is schadenfreudelicious, the abuse isn’t.
While I hope she comes out of the experience gives her a much needed dose of introspection, that’s just me hoping that something positive comes out of the shit, not a justification for the shit to happen in the first place.
bionicmommy
About WBB getting abuse, I think that’s why Elam made sure he published her personal e-mail to all who listens. He knows very well the sort of shit his people pull. Pretty pathetic.
Surely Elam must recognize that kicking out someone from his group who is actually trying to do something that the group claims is its objective will not only make him look bad, but also hurt his movement?
One of my biggest complaints about the MRM is exactly that: they don’t do what they claim to do. They claim to be “activists” trying to support equal legal rights for everyone (which, hey, feminists do too, but wevs), but they never actually take any positive steps to do that. It’s always just a front for raging and moaning about some perceived slight from women, and a vehicle for misogynists to sit around patting themselves on the back.
But now here we have WBB, who despite her own piling on about the eeeevil women, actually does seem to be doing something about addressing the disparity in the way men and women are treated in DV situations. And Elam kicks her out because she won’t kowtow to him. So the one person actually doing what they scream is their entire raison d’etre gets blacklisted.
It’s like a chess club that bans people for playing chess.
@LBT
I feel the same way, LBT. Of course I don’t want to live dirt poor, but if doing what I love (serving others) means that I won’t be as well-off financially as most people, I’m fine with that.
Thinking about living in a fancy home, having tons of money, etc. sounds awful if it means that I’ll do nothing but roll around in wealth.
For those who are wondering (I was), here is the post that reportedly got removed from AVfM’s Facebook page: http://www.avoiceformen.com/portal/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/Facebook.pdf
@Aaliyah, LBT:
Yeah. Co-signed. I have a day job that’s pretty nice–good pay, good benefits–but it doesn’t give my life meaning. Volunteering as a firefighter–that’s important. I’ve saved lives. I’ve been there when people needed help. I can see myself quitting my job; I can’t see ever quitting the fire department while I can still help.
@grumpycatisagirl:
Oh, wow, yeah, that’s great; so a deeply fallacious and misleading poster that’s huge rape apologism (IT’S NOT RAPE UNLESS YOU REPORT IT TO THE COPS WHAT DO YOU MEAN ITS RAPE NO ITS NOT WAAAAAAA) is removed from FB?
GOOD.
Yes, GOOD (as my Grumpy heroine would say). Paul Elam also said that he has been banned from posting to FB for 12 hours. Also GOOD.
GOOD.
@ girl of the gaps,
Exactly, me too. I knew what you meant.
And remember how the MRA’s were trying to justify the abuse the red headed activist got because she said stuff they didn’t like? Here’s a good example where we don’t like what WBB said, and we still condemn any MRA’s threatening and harassing her.
Pathetic indeed. Elam gets a huge power trip by setting his buddies against women that he doesn’t like. He doesn’t even have to give the literal command, “Attack!”. All he has to do is say that a woman was bad, and oh by the way, here is her email address or information to do with as you please. It’s very transparent.
*Snort*. His “movement” (when it’s not about hating women) is all about kissing his ass. The two main sins of the according to him are: 1. saying that women are people 2. saying that he is wrong. Not sure which one he thinks is worse to be honest.
Maybe I’m a terrible person, but I am definitely schadenfrauding away at this. Her misandric pants video is what really sealed my total disgust towards her, because how dare we try to help girls in countries where they are actually denied education (see even when misogynists use the ol’ “why dont you feminists actually help women/girls in countries where they need it” they object) so yeah, I dont at all sympathize with the poor dear, she is clearly still an MRA based on her youtube.
That being said I hope she is not facing death threats or other harrasment. Regardless of what type of asshole a person is, they do not deserve that and I would not be getting smug if that turns out to be the case…
FeMRAs…I just cant even. I mean you can stick up for men and even have your own critiques of feminism (most feminists even do) but to become a FeMRA? How can you not hate women and to that extent, yourself? Its as baffling to me as a man who would be a member at radfemhub o.O
RE: Aaliyah and howardbann1ster
Yeah. Like, I’m not the greatest artist ever, but I do get people coming up and thanking me for my comics, telling me they’ve made a positive difference in their lives, and it really helps me feel better, especially when I’m having one of those days where I’m convinced the greatest thing I could do for the world is kill myself.
(Really, that suicide voice sounds a LOT like the stereotypical idea of Randian philosophy.)
‘Scuse me, but is anyone really surprised that a “movement” whose ideas & attitudes are virtually identical to those of the Malleus Maleficarum would turn on WBB for daring suggest that some women *aren’t* depraved monsters? Personally, I’ve no sympathy for WBB, who is only experiencing the treatment she found acceptable when dealt out to other women.
I think it can be very convincing because, properly understood, selfishness IS morally right. The problem is the gLibertarian/Randian conflation of philosophical/rational egoism with zero sum behavior (or even negative sum behavior), and also the lack of a dialectical understanding of the egoism/altruism conflict (I would say they’re not an antagonistic binary, just like I don’t hold to the idea that individualism and collectivism are opposed or even pure binaries themselves).
They then complain everyone is strawmanning them because they never said that egoism has to come at the cost of others, but their actions demonstrate that they do hold to a view that they can only get theirs by pissing on everyone else.
So I have to ask: how long will it be before Elam posts WBB’s picture in his little sidebar of “Featured Offenders”, do you think?
@BlackBloc
I feel like I’d have trouble being a Rand-fan, because (besides the many other obvious issues) I just understand how it can be morally right. I mean, even with what I assume is you trying to explain it it all just flew over my head.
I’m rambling today + headache (thankfully stopped being a mirgrane ::parties) so…hopefully I’m making sense and not sounding like a huge jerk.
I hope WBB doesn’t get the abuse other women targeted by PaulE’s flying morons have.
What will probably happen now is that GWW, JB, Suz, and TB will write even more horrible anti-woman stuff to kiss PaulE’s ass, proving their worth and ideological purity to him.
I zero respect for FeMRAs. They’d throw me under the bus to get cookies from those assholes. Fuck them.
@Mrfancypants, that’s what I’m thinking too. Elam has attacked, doxxed, and incited his followers to harass many women who he doesn’t have any association with, who didn’t even know he existed until they started getting attacked. This is the first woman he has known, who was part of his inner circle, with whom he has developed a public conflict, and she is standing up to him directly. His vindictiveness is well-understood. I have even seen a number of comments by MRAs on the mensrights sub saying they wouldn’t dare criticize him if they weren’t under a pseudonym.
She doesn’t seem to have the slightest notion of the rage that’s about to erupt at her for not shutting up and disappearing as she’s been told. She is saying amazing things like, “I was only valuable to them while I was toeing the line, while I was marching goosestep with them” (www.youtube.com/watch?v=H04HxDMw5WI, at 8:22), and, “Grow the fuck up…you cannot control the message.” (same vid at 10:26). I’m starting to hear vague rumors that she is a thief and has stolen $5000, which is probably deliberate discrediting gossip. I think she’s going to have her head handed to her on a plate.
Ooh, I think I’ve figured out what they’re probably accusing her of — misappropriating donations meant for a project to honor Early Silverman. If you go to this AVFM link and search for “Hansen Soap” it looks like they used her PayPal or something:
http://www.avoiceformen.com/a-voice-for-men/avfm-radio/avfm-radio-special-edition-rip-earl-silverman/
I feel bad for her since she’s going to get so much shit and probably threats. Once you’re in the MRA movement, and you’re a woman, it’s like you’re going to get tons of shit for leaving no matter what**. Hell if I realized what a horrible movement I joined, how would you get out? You can’t really “sneak out” because you still have to apologize for all the shit you said/agreed with. Yet if you do apologize for it you’ll get doxxed.
However part of me doesn’t feel bad for her since she’s still extremely sexist.
**Though some women probably get more, like WBB.
It should say “I wouldn’t know how to get out” not “how would you get out?”
Oh, I know I’m late about this, but where the fuck do those stats on college rape come from??? I’m talking about that post removed from facebook.
Good catch, cloudiah, that’s got to be it. Avfm seems to have used her paypal account for some little soap business she has, and they mention they’re not a non-profit yet. Does she know that money should be reported to the IRS as income? I doubt it. She’s actually laundering it for avfm, a very dicey thing indeed. And of course that brings up the years of donations to avfm, which is not a non-profit, I assume. Is that money being reported by Elam or anyone to the IRS as income?