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Tempest in a Bee Cup: TheWoolyBumblebee expelled from A Voice for Men for making angry men even angrier

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More drama at A Voice for Men! Kristina Hansen — the excitable FeMRA videoblogger better known as TheWoolybumblebee — has been tossed off the good ship AVFM by Master and Commander Paul Elam for what he calls her “constant public conflicts with elements of our community.”

You can hear her side of the case in the video below. She claims to be shocked — shocked! — to find that Elam expected his contributors to toe his ideological line. And even more shocked to find him making generalizations about women — something, Ms.Bumblebee claims, that makes him no better than the feminists he criticizes!

Yeah, the trouble with ex-AVFMers is that they were dunderheaded enough to have signed up as AVFMers in the first place. (When we last met her here on Man Boobz she was returning a pair of misandric pants to the store, outraged that a tiny portion of the profits would go to help girls facing oppression in the developing world.)

Before you watch the whole video, though — it’s 14 minutes long — you might want some of the backstory. It’s long and messy, too, but I’ll try to keep it  as brief as I can.

First, I should probably note the irony in Elam’s explanation for her dismissal, given that Elam himself is well-known for his own “constant public conflicts” with others in the Men’s Rights movement and the manosphere in general, having launched very public attacks on various others in the past — most notably on Pickup artists — and responding with intemperate anger towards pretty much everyone who even mildly disagrees with him about anything in public.

Heck, at one point he got so annoyed by people disagreeing with him on the Men’s Rights subreddit that he tried to set up his own Men’s Rights Activists subreddit where he could ban the people he disliked; it never took off and he abandoned it.

Elam’s pink-slipping of Ms. Bumblebee is doubly ironic, because one of the issues she’s been involved in “constant public conflicts” about has been MGTOW. (She’s not a fan.)

You might think that wouldn’t be a problem, as A Voice for Men has not exactly been on the best of terms with a big chunk of the MGTOW community for some time. The regulars on MGTOWforums, the biggest MGTOW hub, regularly refer to AVFM as “A Voice for Manginas” and worse; they’re especially offended that Elam lets women — sorry, “cunts” — post there. Elam has responded by denouncing the “MGTOW Forum Fuckwits.” The war of not-so-nice words seems never-ending; for some recent examples on MGTOWforums here and here — and in AVFM’s own forum here.

But Elam apparently still thinks he can somehow charm those MGTOWers who don’t already hate his guts, and he’s been making some efforts to get their attention lately — a fact that has not escaped his non-fans over on MGTOWforums, who have been decidedly unimpressed with his efforts so far.

So Elam was none too happy when Ms. Bumblebee started making videos attacking MGTOWers head on — videos which caused a little firestorm of controvery in the MGTOW world and got MGTOWers even madder at AVFM for putting up with such an evil “wench.”

Ms. Bumblebee has also been saying less than kind things about libertarianism for months on her blog, on YouTube, and on Twitter, where she bluntly declared it a “a cancer within the MRM.”

Turns out that was a bit of a faux pas. Though AVFM pretends to be “apolitical,” and has a few people associated with it who consider themselves liberal, most of the “big names” there  — not just Elam but John “the Other” Hembling, and Karen (GirlWritesWhat) Straughan — pretty obviously lean libertarian.

Indeed, in a not-very-friendly comment on Reddit about Ms. Bumblebee’s departure from AVFM, Straughan suggests that she’s essentially a “a child …  having a tantrum,” who doesn’t appreciate that the Men’s Rights movement is all about “free thinkers and John Galts.” (Yeah, she really did say that.)

She also accuses Ms. B of not reading enough E Belfort Bax — which is, I have to admit, the first time I’ve ever seen anyone accused of that particular crime in a political debate.

In case you’re not yourself a Baxhead, he was an opponent of women’s suffrage perhaps best known for his 1913 essay “The Fraud of Feminism,” a rather obscure piece of writing that’s having a sort of revival amongst a certain segment of the Men’s Rights movement. Indeed, A Voice for Men recently reprinted a portion of Bax’s essay with a glowing and altogether uncritical introduction by Elam himself.

It’s actually rather revealing. A Voice for Men is happy to republish the work of a long dead author who thought that women should be denied the right to vote. But a live woman who doesn’t agree with Elam about libertarianism or MGTOWers — over the side she goes!

Here’s her video. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, you could just skip ahead to 5:20 to hear her express her astonishment that Elam would make sweeping generalizations about all women (say it ain’t so!), or to about 7:50 where she sets forth her basic complaint about AVFM and the way she says she was treated by Elam et al.

If you only have a couple of minutes, or limited patience for YouTube videos, at least listen to the excerpts of the testy phone conversation with Elam in which she officially learned she was no longer a part of AVFM; they start at about 10:40.

Ms. B has labeled this video Part 1. I don’t know how many more parts are coming. But I’ll certainly be watching.

For the masochists among you, Elam has put up the entire conversation he had with Ms. B — it’s half an hour long, and I listened to the whole damn thing.  I assume he thinks it makes him look better and her look worse, but, you know, it really, really doesn’t. Unless you’re really into patronizing mansplaining and apologias for angry misogyny amongst MRAs and MGTOWers. He concludes by throwing a little fit and hanging up. Or maybe she hangs up. I can’t tell.

Ms. B., when she can get a word in edgewise, makes a lot of very good points in the call, bluntly and directly calling him on his some of his bullshit; it’s only when she starts going on about the evils of feminism that I remember how warped her worldview really is.

Alongside the video, Elam also posted the email he sent Ms. B dismissing her from AVFM, which confirms that he was indeed pissed off by what he calls her “divisive conduct” towards MGTOWers and all those John Galts of the MRM.

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Auggie
Auggie
11 years ago

It’s strange how a few years ago, radical super angry internet people used to terrify me, but now they’re hilarious.

freemage
freemage
11 years ago

LBT: By telling sociopaths that it was alright to be sociopathic, and that they had every right to benefit from a society without actually contributing to it.

girlofthegaps
girlofthegaps
11 years ago

I stole someone’s welcome package yesterday, but I’ve been mostly lurking and commenting every now and then for a while now. But hi! 😀

girlofthegaps
girlofthegaps
11 years ago

Iunno, Auggz, I still find them creepy as hell. They’re real people. They can VOTE. Some of them LIVE IN MY CITY. What if I accidentally talk to one!? I COULD BE TAINTED WITHOUT EVER KNOWING

Buntzums
Buntzums
11 years ago

Wolly said some horrid things. She also told everyone she is actively scamming here ex-boyfriends for child support. I don’t condone that. She also released a video, not only saying people (she didn’t specify gender, which makes this no better) lie about rape but invented the term “slug shaming.” She also made the people donating angry (big names) but it also has to do with people realizing that when they donate the money to AVFM it goes into Elam and GWT’s beer fund. Oh well. Guess WBB is the scapegoat.

mayimoktoo
mayimoktoo
11 years ago

My very own spinning seal! Thanks cloudiah. *dies happy*

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: freemage

Yeah, that bit has infuriated me, especially as I became one of those homeless mentally ill bums people are so frightened of. It’s like, Jesus, I’m living on what people just spend on FOOD! (And not rich people either, I mean like middle-class people.) Why am I the one who’s such a drain on society?

Auggie
Auggie
11 years ago

@LBT: Also thinks that calling a scene in the fountainhead “rape” was just a romantic way of showing his passionate love for her. And that women should not be president because they’re unsuperior(femininity is submission to a “hero” in her definition) and that any woman who did want to be president was so messed up in the head that she would make a bad president anyways.

(I used to be a Randroid… but after I saw her views on women and gays I really started to see how disgusting her views were).

pecunium
11 years ago

One can also do <i> to get ital

Marie
11 years ago

@Girlofthegaps

Welcome 😀

mayimoktoo
mayimoktoo
11 years ago

(Trying blockquotes. Wish me luck.)

Iunno, Auggz, I still find them creepy as hell. They’re real people. They can VOTE. Some of them LIVE IN MY CITY. What if I accidentally talk to one!? I COULD BE TAINTED WITHOUT EVER KNOWING

Yeah, I get that. I’ve also come across people who seem like they might get sucked into MRA logicland if they knew what it was. I had a manager who was always bitching about “being forced” to pay child support on two kids from a 10 year marriage that he left because he thought he could marry some 21 year-old penpal from the Philippines. Penpal vanished after he sent her money to relocate to the US. Which, of course, proves that all women are not trustworthy.

Dude had some serious issues with taking responsibility and anger management. Don’t think the MRA’s would have helped with that.

Marie
11 years ago

@mayimoktoo

Small nitpick, but can you not call whining ‘bitching’? For the obvious reasons…

BlackBloc (@XBlackBlocX)

The more I hear about Ayn Rand, the more unpleasant I find her. An apologist for a sociopathic murderer, a hypocrite, and a monster pain in the ass. How the hell did she become so big?

Who do you think rule the world? Power is a magnet to sociopaths. There’s a lot more money to be made telling rulers what they want to hear than in speaking truth to power.

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

@Marie: Thanks for the tutorial. Trying it out now:

Deleting this sentence

making this one in italics

Dvärghundspossen
11 years ago

Yay, it worked!

mayimoktoo
mayimoktoo
11 years ago

Marie, sure. No problem. It’s one of those little habits that I really should have broken long ago. Sorry about that.

girlofthegaps
girlofthegaps
11 years ago

@Marie – Thanks, glad to be here!

leftwingfox
11 years ago

I did a quick search on FTB to remind myself of what she’s done in the past.

http://freethoughtblogs.com/?s=wooly+bumblebee

She really is an awful spiteful person, but Elam’s only pissed that her hose of high pressure horseshit has been turned on his buddies.

katz
11 years ago

By telling sociopaths that it was alright to be sociopathic, and that they had every right to benefit from a society without actually contributing to it.

They don’t even have to be sociopaths; all of us have selfish desires that are kept in check by our sense of right and wrong. So, presented at a formative moment, arguing that your selfish desires are morally right can be very convincing!

thebionicmommy
thebionicmommy
11 years ago

She says a lot of MGTOWs blame women for all their problems, but the most popular ones don’t. They blame a combination of male nature, female nature, and the environment.

I understand now. MGTOW don’t blame women, just female nature. That’s so charitable of them, to say that women are terrible by nature instead of by choice. So because they are saying female nature is bad instead of women, that means they’re not sexist.

Is it possible for an MRA to say something so misogynistic that GWW would take offense or object? I doubt it. She could always find a way to hand wave it away, while Typhonblue would turn it around and blame women.

I always wonder if I shouldn’t get such a wonderful feeling of schadenfreude from reading the newest MRM debacle every morning, but it just gives me such a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart.

I also find it amusing and entertaining to watch MRA infighting and bickering. It makes me want to pop some popcorn, sit back, and enjoy the show.

However, I don’t want WBB to deal with an avalanche of abuse from MRA’s. I know she’s no angel, and that she has said some awful shit before, but she still wouldn’t deserve the kind of treatment they give to women who get out of line and make them mad. I noticed she had comments disabled on her youtube video, and I bet she’s deleted some foul stuff already.

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

Yeah, I dunno. For me, the idea of a life of constant hedonism and wealth is… completely unsatisfying. I WANT to serve people. I realize I may do that in weird ways (educational comics? Speculative fiction? Really?) but I want to improve people’s lives, not be on top of them. Although lately has been pushing it, I’d really rather live a life of voluntary poverty. (Just, you know. Not $200/month poor.)

The Randian philosophy, big shock, holds little appeal for me.

Marie
11 years ago

@thebionicmommy

I know she’s no angel, and that she has said some awful shit before, but she still wouldn’t deserve the kind of treatment they give to women who get out of line and make them mad

Seconded. No one deserves the shit they do.

girlofthegaps
girlofthegaps
11 years ago

@thebionicmommy

Oh, I definitely agree; it’s not so much warm fuzzies at WBB being eviscerated as warm fuzzies at the MRM slowly yet surely tearing itself apart.

cloudiah
11 years ago

I see everyone has picked up their welcome packages. We’re pretty good about handing them out, but feel free to raise your hand if we miss you. (I have a terrible memory, so even when I don’t recognize ‘nyms I just assume you’ve been here before and I’ve just forgotten.)

And yes, OMG, even WBB doesn’t deserve to get the kind of abuse and death threats MRAs routinely hurl at women who disagree with them (and even at some women who agree with them).

Mayara Arend
11 years ago

On a completely off-topic comment, I just googled “Feminism in Finland” because I read something about maternity in Finland and wanted to read more and the first result was the Spearhead. Honestly, frustrates me to no end, since many people could end up taking that for true, or even 1% true… Or whatever. JUst frustrates me that they’re on google at all XD