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Tempest in a Bee Cup: TheWoolyBumblebee expelled from A Voice for Men for making angry men even angrier

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More drama at A Voice for Men! Kristina Hansen — the excitable FeMRA videoblogger better known as TheWoolybumblebee — has been tossed off the good ship AVFM by Master and Commander Paul Elam for what he calls her “constant public conflicts with elements of our community.”

You can hear her side of the case in the video below. She claims to be shocked — shocked! — to find that Elam expected his contributors to toe his ideological line. And even more shocked to find him making generalizations about women — something, Ms.Bumblebee claims, that makes him no better than the feminists he criticizes!

Yeah, the trouble with ex-AVFMers is that they were dunderheaded enough to have signed up as AVFMers in the first place. (When we last met her here on Man Boobz she was returning a pair of misandric pants to the store, outraged that a tiny portion of the profits would go to help girls facing oppression in the developing world.)

Before you watch the whole video, though — it’s 14 minutes long — you might want some of the backstory. It’s long and messy, too, but I’ll try to keep it  as brief as I can.

First, I should probably note the irony in Elam’s explanation for her dismissal, given that Elam himself is well-known for his own “constant public conflicts” with others in the Men’s Rights movement and the manosphere in general, having launched very public attacks on various others in the past — most notably on Pickup artists — and responding with intemperate anger towards pretty much everyone who even mildly disagrees with him about anything in public.

Heck, at one point he got so annoyed by people disagreeing with him on the Men’s Rights subreddit that he tried to set up his own Men’s Rights Activists subreddit where he could ban the people he disliked; it never took off and he abandoned it.

Elam’s pink-slipping of Ms. Bumblebee is doubly ironic, because one of the issues she’s been involved in “constant public conflicts” about has been MGTOW. (She’s not a fan.)

You might think that wouldn’t be a problem, as A Voice for Men has not exactly been on the best of terms with a big chunk of the MGTOW community for some time. The regulars on MGTOWforums, the biggest MGTOW hub, regularly refer to AVFM as “A Voice for Manginas” and worse; they’re especially offended that Elam lets women — sorry, “cunts” — post there. Elam has responded by denouncing the “MGTOW Forum Fuckwits.” The war of not-so-nice words seems never-ending; for some recent examples on MGTOWforums here and here — and in AVFM’s own forum here.

But Elam apparently still thinks he can somehow charm those MGTOWers who don’t already hate his guts, and he’s been making some efforts to get their attention lately — a fact that has not escaped his non-fans over on MGTOWforums, who have been decidedly unimpressed with his efforts so far.

So Elam was none too happy when Ms. Bumblebee started making videos attacking MGTOWers head on — videos which caused a little firestorm of controvery in the MGTOW world and got MGTOWers even madder at AVFM for putting up with such an evil “wench.”

Ms. Bumblebee has also been saying less than kind things about libertarianism for months on her blog, on YouTube, and on Twitter, where she bluntly declared it a “a cancer within the MRM.”

Turns out that was a bit of a faux pas. Though AVFM pretends to be “apolitical,” and has a few people associated with it who consider themselves liberal, most of the “big names” there  — not just Elam but John “the Other” Hembling, and Karen (GirlWritesWhat) Straughan — pretty obviously lean libertarian.

Indeed, in a not-very-friendly comment on Reddit about Ms. Bumblebee’s departure from AVFM, Straughan suggests that she’s essentially a “a child …  having a tantrum,” who doesn’t appreciate that the Men’s Rights movement is all about “free thinkers and John Galts.” (Yeah, she really did say that.)

She also accuses Ms. B of not reading enough E Belfort Bax — which is, I have to admit, the first time I’ve ever seen anyone accused of that particular crime in a political debate.

In case you’re not yourself a Baxhead, he was an opponent of women’s suffrage perhaps best known for his 1913 essay “The Fraud of Feminism,” a rather obscure piece of writing that’s having a sort of revival amongst a certain segment of the Men’s Rights movement. Indeed, A Voice for Men recently reprinted a portion of Bax’s essay with a glowing and altogether uncritical introduction by Elam himself.

It’s actually rather revealing. A Voice for Men is happy to republish the work of a long dead author who thought that women should be denied the right to vote. But a live woman who doesn’t agree with Elam about libertarianism or MGTOWers — over the side she goes!

Here’s her video. If you don’t want to watch the whole thing, you could just skip ahead to 5:20 to hear her express her astonishment that Elam would make sweeping generalizations about all women (say it ain’t so!), or to about 7:50 where she sets forth her basic complaint about AVFM and the way she says she was treated by Elam et al.

If you only have a couple of minutes, or limited patience for YouTube videos, at least listen to the excerpts of the testy phone conversation with Elam in which she officially learned she was no longer a part of AVFM; they start at about 10:40.

Ms. B has labeled this video Part 1. I don’t know how many more parts are coming. But I’ll certainly be watching.

For the masochists among you, Elam has put up the entire conversation he had with Ms. B — it’s half an hour long, and I listened to the whole damn thing.  I assume he thinks it makes him look better and her look worse, but, you know, it really, really doesn’t. Unless you’re really into patronizing mansplaining and apologias for angry misogyny amongst MRAs and MGTOWers. He concludes by throwing a little fit and hanging up. Or maybe she hangs up. I can’t tell.

Ms. B., when she can get a word in edgewise, makes a lot of very good points in the call, bluntly and directly calling him on his some of his bullshit; it’s only when she starts going on about the evils of feminism that I remember how warped her worldview really is.

Alongside the video, Elam also posted the email he sent Ms. B dismissing her from AVFM, which confirms that he was indeed pissed off by what he calls her “divisive conduct” towards MGTOWers and all those John Galts of the MRM.

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pecunium
11 years ago

hellkell: But they aren’t like that! The are Good Girls, and support teh menz!

Not like that WBB, or those hair feminists, who are all uppity and shit, with the idea they can have opinions which differ at all from The Sacred Elam!

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

RE: thebionicmommy

Waiting for bullshit troll explanation of how she doesn’t actually ID as a woman, ergo she’s above all that, and it’s all trans people’s fault.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

@hellkell

Considering GWW’s response, and suz’s “All you women suck shit and no one can marry my imaginary son”, I won’t put it past them to be taking note and celebrating.

Also, GWW said

She only sees the people who joined the movement at the moment she did, when it began to become sort of fashionable

I haven’t been able to stop laughing

spukikitty
11 years ago

I hope this whole mess wakes TheWoolyBumblebee from her stupor of self-hatred & Stepfordism. A FeMRA is the most pitiful concept, ever. I almost feel sorry for these women. Elam is an utter fascist.

cloudiah
11 years ago

Hey, apparently Facebook did take one of AVfM’s posts down. Clear proof of the reign of the feminazi overlords! Also clear proof: they’ve done the same thing for posts promoting breastfeeding!

Feminazi overlords are hard to figure out.

spukikitty
11 years ago

Sidenote: Elam et al. aren’t libertarians. At best, they follow a convenient “one sided libertarianism”, were the societal utopia resides in them personally being able to do whatever the hell they want but others should follow their strict rule.

“One day, I’ll become master of the world”, he thinks while writing an article about manginas.

Fascist Randroid</italic is a much better term.

spukikitty
11 years ago

Sidenote: Elam et al. aren’t libertarians. At best, they follow a convenient “one sided libertarianism”, were the societal utopia resides in them personally being able to do whatever the hell they want but others should follow their strict rule.

“One day, I’ll become master of the world”, he thinks while writing an article about manginas.

Fascist Randroid is a much better term.

(Had to write again because I got the italics wrong & I can’t reedit my post!)

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

@spukikitty

Italics on wordpress is “em”

Auggie
Auggie
11 years ago

@cloudiah: Which post?

freemage
freemage
11 years ago

I’ve just about come to the conclusion that there are no ‘true Libertarians’ the way most of them define the term. Even Ayn Rand herself accepted state aid for her medical treatments (and would’ve died without doing so). Of course, she did so under a different name. I’m just about to say that the Venn Diagram of “Self-Proclaimed Libertarians” is fully engulfed by the diagram of “All Hypocrites”….

spukikitty
11 years ago

@spukikitty

Italics on wordpress is “em”

Okay, I’ll give it a try…

I WROTE THIS IN ITALICS!

spukikitty
11 years ago

By Jove! It works!

Shadow, can you provide a handy-dandy list of edit doodads for WordPress so I can write them down?

Also, is there a way to edit something after it’s posted?

THANX! =)

cloudiah
11 years ago

Auggie, I’ve already closed the page — it’s on the front page, it has an image of a keyboard with the word censored or censorship on it.

Cthulhu's Intern
11 years ago

So how long until Elam starts calling John the Otter a “mangina?” Or says that GWW is too feminist? How long until AVFM is just “A Voice for Elam?” I mean, not that it already isn’t, but how long until he just kicks out everyone because he finds one little thing they disagree on?
“You like Starbucks when I don’t? MISANDRY! Get off of my website!”

Cthulhu's Intern
11 years ago

Also, David! You forgot to mention about how they still continue to host an open call to firebomb couthouses in their “Activism” section.

mayimoktoo
mayimoktoo
11 years ago

It’s the battle of the hissy fits! Who will have the biggest conniption and win this round! Who cares!!?

Oh and hai. Finally delurking. Wanted a wittier first post to thank you all for the giggles I’ve joined in on as a ghost. And for Pierre, the brain bleach and the kitties. Then I figured this place isn’t terribly judgy when it comes to the usual commenter type. i.e. human being between the ages of 0 and 100 who is amused and often appalled by the weirdness of the manosphere.

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

@spukikitty

I’m not much of a netizen and know basically nothing about html, so I generally just google everytime I need something. This seems to cover all the basics, but I basically only use three or four tags myself, so I’m not the person to go to if you need anything more technical than that 😛

Shadow
Shadow
11 years ago

Also, there’s no edit on manboobz, mainly to keep trolls from editing their posts after they say some horrific shit

Marie
11 years ago

@spukikitty

The ones I know are:

i in < can also be italics italics

To strike out strike out use del in < and /del to end

bold I think is b.. bold if that works I did it right.

And blockquotes are blockquote in <

blockquote

So they’re all in < those… I hope that made sense.

cloudiah
11 years ago

There’s this extended comment from GWW on Paul’s video (which he’s threatening to take down):

I’m getting so sick of the (near-daily now) posts in r/mensrights about toning down the rhetoric, being less angry, watching language, please stop offending people, and especially that MRAs and feminists should be working together, as if feminism was just “equality” without all the theoretical garbage attached to it. I like Stardusk–I actually consider him a friend. I respect the shit out of Barbarossaaaa. I discuss female and male nature in general terms all the time.

I can have (cont)

respectful, rational discussions even with people who think women’s suffrage should be revoked, and consider the idea without kneejerking all over the place.

She says a lot of MGTOWs blame women for all their problems, but the most popular ones don’t. They blame a combination of male nature, female nature, and the environment.

For the last year, there’s been an increasing pressure in some MR circles to restrict expression of ideas and modes of expressing them. That’s suicide for the MRM.

Yeah, why would anyone have a kneejerk reaction to someone who wants to take away voting fight from a whole gender. Let’s have a respectful, rational discussion with them. Also, bring back the poll tax. I mean, it’s just an IDEA.

girlofthegaps
girlofthegaps
11 years ago

I always wonder if I shouldn’t get such a wonderful feeling of schadenfreude from reading the newest MRM debacle every morning, but it just gives me such a warm fuzzy feeling in my heart. Seriously, I just cannot process the amount of self-deception and cognitive dissonance that would lead any woman (or really any PERSON, tbh) to think that participating in the MRM would be a good idea. Or that anyone could think it ever was, is, or could become fashionable! :O

Tulgey Logger
Tulgey Logger
11 years ago

I’m not optimistic that this event will trigger serious reflection on Wooly BumbleBee’s part. Back when Jen McCreight went on hiatus because the amount of harassment she was getting for being a feminist was affecting her mental well-being, WBB took nothing but sheer vindictive delight in the announcement. She’s a bully, and the only thing that might make her grow a bit of compassion is experiencing the same scale of harassment McCreight did/is. She still probably wouldn’t, though.

Marie
11 years ago

@mayimoktoo

Welcome 😀

LBT
LBT
11 years ago

The more I hear about Ayn Rand, the more unpleasant I find her. An apologist for a sociopathic murderer, a hypocrite, and a monster pain in the ass. How the hell did she become so big?

cloudiah
11 years ago

Welcome, mayimoktoo. Here’s a welcome package for you:
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